R6 Also, if you wrote to Kevin Killian, he would critique any sort of writing you would send him, if you wanted him to do this. I never did this, or asked him to do this. I grew up with relatives who are writers/academics and I heard enough about post-modern literary theory growing up. I had also already studied with a writer who is actually successful and frequently published. It is also incredibly time consuming for the person doing the critiquing to take time to read and critique someone else's writing. Kevin had lots of people who would contact him on facebook or on his website, and ask him to read their essays, poetry, plays, short stories, or novels or they would want him to get them published or in contact with a publisher, etc. Kevin once told me that he valued our friendship because he could be himself, and that I was not asking him to read any of my writing, critique it, etc. or have him introduce me to people in publishing, published and more successful writers, etc.
I do not like the term queer either and hate it, since as a teen some older married closeted guy who I grew up next door to called me that name and the f-word and beat me up. Now he is divorced and still a total mess with alcohol and drugs. I also have met and worked for academics who are completely heterosexual and they use the term to describe themselves because of what they teach in classes or write about, when they do not teach anything at all about people who are not heterosexual and are not like us non-heterosexual people at all. I am not impressed by fame, status, or wealth. I had much older relatives and in-laws married to close relatives, who, were when they were alive, part of the American or European upper class, or semi-famous. I do not mean that they were in the top 1% or that they were A/B/C list celebrities, etc. I also do not understand or like how so many people-even more so with the advent of social media, instagram, youtube, etc. chase fame or celebrity. An old former friend of mine from highschool who was convinced he would become the next great American film maker is a narcisscist who discovered that the film world is based not on originality or talent but who you know, and money, got out of film and still chases "fame" on youtube and instagram.
Kevin loved men as well, but one of them died from HIV/AIDS, and the others I did not ask about; but I know that many of them tended to also be addicts, narcissistic or fame chasers, or very self destructive people like he was in his youth. As a bisexual man I have friends who are gay men and women but they have never had any sexual attraction at all to the opposite sex obviously, and even the ones who when they were younger as teens or young adults and did not know how to meet other gay people-this was in the mid-late 1970s or early 1980s- who had slept with the opposite sex said how their sexual experiences with the opposite sex just showed them how they are gay men or women, and that they are not sexually attracted to the opposite sex at all and would never marry, or partner with a person of the opposite sex.
Kevin and his wife Dodie are obviously bisexual as they are sexually and romantically attracted to both sexes; but as they are/were academics, and now that everyone who is bisexual, gay/lesbian, or trans is now "queer", as well as difficulty being published or keeping writings in print there's also some marketing going on. I mean, just look at how Huffington Post used to have separate articles/opinions for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and trans opinions/articles as we are all different and have different issues, and how now it is all "queer".
No he died from cancer. Thankfully he did not suffer long after being diagnosed and getting treatment, as he was in a lot of pain.
I know I am going on and on, in great detail, probably perhaps too much; but you did ask, and I answered your questions.