How good is your gaydar?

Bumped - anyone?

I get thrown off by wishful thinking.

Yeah, I have tried recalibrating for that, I still cant get it right.

Shawn Mendes pings my gaydar, but that dont mean jack shit

I chose "wrong more than right." I was so off on someone last year, it still curdles my brain to think of him. "Effete" and "precious" are words that describe him, and he threw the word "queer" around so freely, I assumed he was one, or at least a gay man. He isn't someone I was having sex with, but he didn't mention having a girlfriend until I'd known him about six months. I was under the impression he wanted me to think he was gay. Or at least "queer."

As long as I’m not in Europe pretty good.

Mine is as sharp as a tack. The moment I first saw my partner, I knew. I KNEW. He was flirting (comically) with three women who worked at the prescription counter, and I had come in to get a prescription filled. The three women were all giggly and totally charmed. i could hear his voice before I saw him. There is absolutely nothing about his appearance or his voice that is overtly gay. When I saw him I was almost knocked flat on my ass by the sense of attraction I felt for him. It was like a premonition, it was so strong.

R6 you lucky!

R4 yeah that has happened to me more than once. R5 - I dont have to go to Europe to have crap gaydar - although I'm sure it could well make mine even worse than it already is - 100% false positives anyone?

I've predicted 12 of the last 7 recessions!

R8, that does sound like your predictive powers re the economy are about as good as my gaydar..... maybe consider changing career :-)

My straightdar is better than my gaydar.

R10 - so you can tell who is straight? Fuck I cant even do that!

My gaydar is really good. I'd say 9/10 times it's right, well... at least 8/10 times. But there are those few times I'm wrong. In both directions, like a guy who I thought was gay is actually straight, or a guy I thought was straight is actually gay. How are you supposed to know a guy is gay if he has zero gay vibes? Like, no gay mannerisms, no gay voice, he dresses horribly (like a straight man), is into sports etc. Those gays are really difficult to figure out. Don't even get me started on the effeminate straight men you think for sure are gay, yet they're not.

Totally nonexistant here. My cousin, who is a straight hairdresser (really) or some of my female friends will usually alert me to someone who is cruising me. The only ones I ever pick up on are the completely over the top messes that are very aggressive.

I don't care how they self identify as long as they suck without teeth.

I have to encounter a man in person. The media is too full of masks. Only looking a man in the eye communicates the information.

But then, whether either one of us even mentions it is another matter.

I passed Brad Davis walking in the opposite direction on a street in New York back in 1986, and we knew. Didn’t do anything about it. Didn’t even stop. But we knew. Instant exchange.

Most people aren't gay. Assume everyone is straight and you'll be fine.

R12, gaydar has little to do with vibes, mannerisms, voice and how he dresses; that's just using your eyes and ears, and even straight people can do that. Gaydar is about recognizing the little tells, their lingering glance, and in particular, what they're glancing at in a way to avoid the overt signals you're thinking make up gaydar.

And besides, not being into sports is "so 60s-era gay that it's extinct," says my football-loving and built like a running back husband.

R15 Are you able to tell if actors are gay? Or YouTubers or other influencers? Just curious.