Queer Eye’s Antoni Porowski rejects “Gay” label

More gay erasure

WHO?

However, he said that working on the programme has helped him to “get a place where I’m a lot more comfortable in my skin” and that while he prefers to not label his sexuality, “fluid” or “queer” are close.

Porowski said he is still amused by being considered a sex symbol since rising to global fame last year in the programme and that he worries his appearance gives people the wrong impression.

He said: “I did not think that I was going to be objectified as a 34-year-old male, that usually happens for guys in their 20s.”

Oh please with the false modesty.

[quote]He said: “I did not think that I was going to be objectified as a 34-year-old male, that usually happens for guys in their 20s.”

Oh, right - there are no 34-year-old sex symbols. No wonder he's surprised.

& he objectifies himself, quite frankly, posting endless selfies on instagram.

He’s hot. Seems relatively masculine

[quote]adding that he preferred to live with a label, although “fluid” or “queer” felt like the best fit for him.

He prefers "queer"? Does he even know what it means?

Today, “gay” has more stigma than “queer.”

^^ GOD! You're kidding!

Nothing to see here, folks: just another one of those "bisexual" stars who will end up marrying a woman while taking various things in his mouth (and elsewhere) on the side.

R10 knows where it's at - and says it like it is.

R11, I'm so tired of this BS. He's just a pussy who's afraid of the labels "bisexual" and "gay" because he's afraid of being called that by others. I don't care if someone is not totally open in their private life--what I do care about is these attention whores making public declarations that make all gay people seem like thirsty airheads.

R4, R5 on the money!! Can we please! He posts the most objectifying ho pics on his IG and is a huge flamer in other ways!! Is he ashamed to identify as gay???

I get saying "I'm Queer" because it includes fluidity and is not specific. "I feel that I'm not gay because I have loved women." Girl, stop. Say less...

So basically he was an actor who fell into restaurant work when it didn't pan out for him. He became friends with Ted Allen and BAM, he's on the reboot of the show as the Food expert, despite having no culinary school experience and little restaurant experience.

He's a failed actor who will sleep with anything to get ahead. I'm sick of this shit - and I'm tired of the "oh no...i'm not gay...i'm really special.. I don't fit in a box like everyone else. I exist on the margins of society and existence because, y'know, I'm truly very special and unique."

Nobody is really special.

we went through all this with Jai...who had a gurlfriend.

I wonder why he didn't crack it as an actor.

Lol I love how he actually is the most useless on QE - even more than Karamo ...

He's a big sissy fag!

Ugh.

He owns the Village Den at Greenwich Avenue and 12th Street. For fifty years a neighborhood coffee shop, which he turned into an upscale eatery. Walnut pancakes "only" $13. Go screw yourself, Marie Antoni.

I am sure the women he'd been with would not care and would understand?

R21 - yeah, I'm sure the women he supposedly loved so much (he's been with guys the past 10 years) are super understanding and would love another chance now that he's been with men. NOT.

I'm sure those women aren't respecting the time they had with him now they know he's with men as well.

Bonus recipe in his new cookbook: internalized homophobia served with a fresh cucumber salad.

"Nothing to see here, folks: just another one of those "bisexual" stars who will end up marrying a woman while taking various things in his mouth (and elsewhere) on the side."

Bwah!!! More like he's 100% gay

R22- What I am trying to say is the women should be at a different stage in their own lives (with other partners presumably) and be understanding and accept it and not care if he chooses to identify as gay. It doesn't erase what they had. But of course, I can't speak for them.

I dated a guy in college who is gay now, it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

Why is he so crooked in OP's picture? Does he have a crooked house?

Nice looking but dim.

Who’s had him? Size meat? C or UC?

I fucking HATE the word QUEER!!

It’s hurtful, harmful, and no, I don’t want to own it. Stick it up your arse!

If he's been fucking men only for the last decade, any woman who would be 'hurt' by him coming out as gay now is either utterly pathetic or an unhinged stalker. And him making pandering statements to either group doesn't do them any favors.

But, ok, Antoni. Whatever dumbass.

Uggghhhhh.

What is this idiot talking about regarding dishonoring women? BFD, he dated women at one point in his life. He was just as gay then as he is now. He just wasn’t out. It happens to a lot of guys. They’re still gay. He’s still gay. You’re gay. Gay, gay, gay. Not queer. Not fluid—at least not any longer. Gay. Just fucking admit it.

These guys are incredibly annoying. All of them

DL pic of the week

When everyone can be "queer", is anyone?

Hawt!

[quote]“I did not think that I was going to be objectified as a 34-year-old male, that usually happens for guys in their 20s.”

Well, now he's found out he seems to be running with it.

How about "pussy-chasing faggot," Antoni? Does that work for you?

Y’all get so emotional about gay identity and labels. Why?

Let me get this straight he doesn't want to call himself gay because it's "dishonour" to the women he's been with but he was no problem with dishonouring the men that he's been with in the last ten years?

So being gay is considered shameful now, but being a meth head leech is perfectly fine?

Not gay shame, just a failed branding scheme.

You wrong for that ⬆️

What does fluid mean? How is it different than being bisexual?

It means you can piss on him.

Because you "I'm not GAAAYYYYY" label-obsessed dumbasses are completely full of bullshit, and deserve to be fully checked for it. So glad that DL has zero patience for this retardation.

Response was for R39.

But why do you care what other people call themselves R45?

Certain DLers certainly seem obsessed with sorting the bisexuals from the homosexuals and putting a label on evereyone

No, please continue with this fuckery, and we'll continue to be amused by all this and call it out.

I bet you think Sam Smith is truly non-binary just because he has moobs.

All of this because you and people like you hate the GAY label and think it carries too much baggage.

Because Antoni is full of fucking shit, just as Sam Smith is full of shit and Asia Kate Dillon and all these special snowflakes who can't face the fact that they are simple, ordinary, garden variety gay or straight. If they aren't "special" or at the forefront of whatever trend is happening, then how on earth will they get likes or stand out amongst the rest of all the garden variety people who rely on talent or a skill or, god forbid, a personality?

Meanwhile, they're sending the message that gay isn't good enough. And we are STILL nowhere near being able to shoulder that perception when we can still be fired, evicted or put to death for being gay.

Wow this still gets DL oldeheads upset

Just try calling them "queer" R50

Hey R50 dude, do you still consider yourself 'mostly straight'? Did you nail a lot of pussy over the weekend with your bros, and then watched football?

They have the same histrionic reaction to bi and “mostly straight” identity

Let this hissing begin!!!!

Bi and mostly straight is just SO INFINITELY BETTER than being a wimpy effete delicate GAAAAYYYYY, am I right, trick?

R49 is an idiot. Recycling right wing talking points about "special snowflakes"

Hey if the caftan fits R55....

He’s insufferable

I’m not surprised, all of the Queer Eye guys are insufferable examples of the gays that are aiding in the destruction of our community. Just look at Jonathan with all his trans shit and Karamo with trying to push religion on the gays.

There’s a reason they’re all on that show, Queer Eye never shows real gay guys, because it’s not a show made for real gay guys. It’s made for straight women.

He’s actually gay. He’s just saying this shit because he’s supposed to be the “hot one” of the bunch and saying he also fucks women makes him more marketable to the fraus and fishes that watch this show

No, R56, you're the idiot for typing another useless and wrong cliché. This is the opposite of Trumpian, you dumbass.

Copy-pasted for all to read again.

Because Antoni is full of fucking shit, just as Sam Smith is full of shit and Asia Kate Dillon and all these special snowflakes who can't face the fact that they are simple, ordinary, garden variety gay or straight. If they aren't "special" or at the forefront of whatever trend is happening, then how on earth will they get likes or stand out amongst the rest of all the garden variety people who rely on talent or a skill or, god forbid, a personality?

Meanwhile, they're sending the message that gay isn't good enough. And we are STILL nowhere near being able to shoulder that perception when we can still be fired, evicted or put to death for being gay.

R53: Maybe because mostly straight shows real stupidity.

You are straight or you are not straight, but mostly straight is just ridiculous and shows high levels of shame, just like all the stupid label some use to say they are not into labels (it seems gay and bisexual are the only labels). Sexually fluid is ridiculous and the same with queer (queer cinema or queer literature but queer as sexual orientation seems to mean something different for everyone)

Proud Pansexual 👊🏽

^ Oh now we're "PANSEXUAL" today?

Hehe

Yeah, I would get with Laith Ashley. So I’m pan

Thank you, R62. I have no idea what was right wing about my post.

Laith Ashley? The same "guy" who complained about the treatment by some gay guys (probably some WIMPS who are OBSESSED with dick, what an outdated mindset!) and refuse to acknowledge his identity as a big swaggering brodude of a man?

Laith is fine

Until you pull down its shorts

It's no longer "woke" to be gay and care about dick!

Antoni and Nico Tortellini would agree!

R71, doesn’t matter to me, man.

R69, I saw her on some trans-diversity drag queen promotion runway thing. Although she looks like one of the rare convincing ones, when she started to walk down the runway it was pretty damn obvious she's not a man.... And she can fuck all the way off with her homophobia.

Okay, if he doesn't want to have the "gay" label applied to him I'm certainly happy to oblige. Henceforth I'll refer to him as "that cock sucker from Queer Eye who doesn't like being called gay".

[quote]He’s actually gay. He’s just saying this shit because he’s supposed to be the “hot one” of the bunch and saying he also fucks women makes him more marketable to the fraus and fishes that watch this show

OMG - is the show made by Bravo?

I'm with R39, R47, R50, and R53. I have enough trouble figuring myself out at times, not sexually, but don't really have the time to try to figure others out. I feel how otheers choose to label themselves is their business. Who am I? I'm not in their heads.

I've had a few bi friends over the past decades, and if they begin dating the other sex, I don't suddenly question whether or not they're STILL bi. (nor have I ever asked) I have too many other things which make me angry in life... this one has never even occurred to me really.

Yeah, why do old gay men feel so passionately about how others identify? Freedom

Why you 'young' gay men feel so passionately about being vague, spineless, undecided, cowardly and weak? Free? Dumb.

🙄🙄🙄🙄

I fucking LOVE how anyone who disagrees with anyone else around here accuses them of being "OLD"!

It’s not snowflakes and it’s not homophobia, it’s marketing.

Kweens like Antoni, Sam Smith and Their Highness Tortellini want millions of girls to think they have a shot with them. They’re entertainers trying to make a buck.

Couldn't he just say, "I'm gay now. I've dated women in the past, but that was in the past" ? That's what I say, anyway, about myself.

Sounds like you and Antoni would have a lot to talk about, R83.

This QE crew is exhausting.

Methinks Antoni is on the fast track to becoming a [bold]DL Fave.[/bold] Watch this space!

I'm R83. I'm gay, in a permanent relationship. But I came to it fairly late in life, I was 28. Before that, I dated women, and I was actually engaged. I loved them, but it turns out, I was gay. I liked sex with the mens, more. Am I bi-? Um... nope. Fully gay, and perfectly happy about it. I assume the women I loved are happy about me finding myself, too.

[quote]and I was actually engaged. I loved them

You shouldn't talk this way on here.

[quote] I fucking LOVE how anyone who disagrees with anyone else around here accuses them of being "OLD"!

Come on, given the DL demographic, they have like an 80% chance or higher of being right.

[quote]they have like an 80% chance or higher of being right.

Thank God!

You didn't get into a queer marriage with your fiancée, R83/R87? They're all the rage these days, mostly because of me!

Ha, no, I don't need women anymore (for sex, anyway).

Interesting

Ah, that's too bad, R83/R87/R92. You're missing out on having a family and a life of normalcy.

R82 Is right. This, like the they-them shit, is a marketing tactic. You’re crazy if you think that celebrities would be upfront about their real sex lives, especially ones that have made a living off of being LGBT+ like Antoni and Nico and Sam Smith. It’s all about selling yourself. Behind closed doors they can be gay, straight, whatever. It doesn’t matter. What does matter is how they sell themselves to the public, and especially how they sell themselves to their target demographic. Since pretty much only women watch Queer Eye, Antoni is making himself look “available” to both genders. Haven’t you noticed how hard he’s been trying recently to make himself into a sex symbol?

He’s selling himself in a desperate attempt to make sure his career doesn’t end when Queer Eye does. We all know it will, though, save for a few guest judge appearances on Rupaul’s Drag Race.

R79 I don't find them weak or cowardly, in point of fact, I think they're quite brave as they're a minority with very little support on either the gay or straight faction. They're not "undecided" either... They have decided they have interest in men AND women. Regarding age, one doesn't have to young to like both.

I must be young for my age... I'm fifty-one years-old, and I don't get the consternation, the disbelief, or the attitude "you're either with US, or we're against you"... Everyone has his own truths and way of relating to the world; I should think there's room for all of us. I don't need everyone to be gay.

I hate the word “queer.” It’s insulting, and it makes a person sound like some sort of freak.

Im not different, deformed, odd, weird or other. That’s queer to me.

I’m gay, not queer.

[quote] Yeah, why do old gay men feel so passionately about how others identify?

Because we're from an era when people had common sense, didn't try to be anything they weren't, and didn't actively seek to look like crazed fools.

R97 That's YOU. If he wants to be queer, however does that threaten you? Queer people, bi people don't make ME any less gay. If anything it may make me more gay by comparison. R83, People who make remarks that begin as your comment reads make me laugh a bit... Why can't you just let him speak for himself? I think respect very much involves letting others speak for themselves. You don't have to like it, or understand them, or like them, but you ought to let them have their own voice.

What’s with gays practicing all this tuna love lately?

I passed out at a house party once and awoke to find one of these heifers attempting to smother me with her smelly stinktrap. I nearly gagged!

I'm not offended by Antoni identifying as queer. But I am annoyed that he thought the term "gay" was demeaning to his relationships with women. So, "gay" is inferior, eh? That's offensive. I'd be happier with him if he just said "bi," loves them equally. I might not believe him, but I wouldn't be offended.

P.S. Really, really dislike the new Queer Eye, and I will not watch it again.

Yes, the new Queer Eye STINKs

R101, you and others are simply reading too much into his comments. I think I understand him to mean he wouldn't want those ladies feeling what they had wasn't real, or that he faked it. He doesn't want them to feel diminished in any way out of respect to their feelings of self worth. He wants them to feel "equal to", rather than "less than"...

I'm personally not a particular fan of his for other reasons (he reminds me of John Mayer, for one) but I don't think he has said anything remotely offensive or disrespectful toward gay people.

This creepy guy has those creepy John Mayer eyes with grey eye-shadow.

Bobby is the only one of the new QE who isn't a damn mess.

R106 That he does, I'm afraid. His hair often looks a bit greasy too like Mayer's.

Still not watching.

He still hasn’t gotten over the time he got into Gwyneth’s meat.

R105 is correct and sane

Antoni, dear, this is your mother. Stop being such a faggot.

... and please go wash your hair. I see you're not using the under eye serum I gave you either!

Silly Antoni has the same grey under-eyes as Vivien—

R99. He can identify however he’d like. And I can criticize or comment however I would like. I happen to hate the word “queer,” and I don’t use that word. And I would prefer others not use it either, but that’s another conversation for another time.

But regarding him feeling that the word “gay” dishonors his previous female partners or him now feeling he’s fluid even though he hasn’t had sex with a female in many years and doesn’t appear to be in pursuit of a female, I disagree with him. He’s not fluid. He’s gay. I just don’t know why he doesn’t want to say it.

Bottom line is, basically I find him to be full of shit. Fluid, my ass.

This is also sort of weirdly perpetuating the idea that there is something inherently misogynistic about male homosexuality. What a mess.

Ha! He enjoys every minute of it, but his ego demands that he appeals to both men and women! (Ahem, he states he does not want to dishonor women he's been in love with! Really? I've been 'out' for some 40+yearsand my experience has been women are instinctive when fleshing out the male's sexuality! They may at first overlook the 'signs' because they are too in love to notice them, but eventually they do, but in some cases, they stay married because they love him gay or not!

not this again...

R115 I don't want le battle royale, but the bloody title of this damned show is QUEER eye, after all. You can hate the term for yourself, but it is in use, and no longer strictly pejorative. Who really knows about him for sure, maybe he often thinks of women whilst he wanks... I still think everyone is overreacting to it all.

Gay men: Stop dating women.

You’re not fluid. You’re not bisexual. You’re gay.

For all of those 'not into labels' - what else do you not want to use words for? That's all they are - words - which is what we use to understand and communicate.

You're not some new breed of human beings who are so radically different from what has come before.

It's tiresome and people of a certain age see right through it.

I think I've come to believe people "of a certain age" are not very tolerant of bisexuals, queers, transexuals, or anyone who isn't gay... or gay ENOUGH it would seem. If they choose a label, it must be GAY.

It's the bis, queers and ESPECIALLY trannies who aren't very tolerant when challenged or questioned.

R122 is correct 👏🏽

Nope. He's as wrong as your bisexual... excuse me, "pansexual" ass.

Sounds like he's a client of Pat and Kathy, Image Consultants.

Wow, I never noticed the John Mayer resemblance before it was mentioned above. It's true! You know what else is true? That his recipes are god-awful. How the hell did he become the supposed food expert?

R122 - yep, because we see through the bullshit that is 'queer identity (but actually in heterosexual relationships)', transexuals who don't actually transition or transform anything, and bisexuals who claim to be bi because they had a dalliance once or twice but eventually settle down in a heterosexual relationship.

We don't want you - we're not you - and stop trying to make your life more interesting by coming to gay events. You want to have transexual bar - knock yourself out. Bi-bar - go for it.

But stop invading our spaces, putting gays down and expect us to welcome you with open arms.

[quote] This is also sort of weirdly perpetuating the idea that there is something inherently misogynistic about male homosexuality. What a mess.

It's very threatening for some women to find that their only source of power/leverage doesn't work on some men. The ones with things like brains, talent, and competence who can interact with men as equals based on those strengths don't have any reason to be threatened by men who aren't attracted to them.

I love you Yvonne!

So here's a question - just last year, there's an article about him with his boyfriend of 7 years. In it, he said that they are basically married.

Apparently the show did a number on their 'marriage' and they split later in 2018. Now, do you think it's fair to his 7 year relationship/almost marriage to say that it was not a gay relationship? Was he with a woman in an adult relationship for this long?

To me, he's pissing over his 7 year 'marriage' more than honoring any women from his teens and early 20's. What an asshat.

He is just so fucking tiresome. And talking such total shite

[quote]They're not "undecided" either... They have decided they have interest in men AND women. Regarding age, one doesn't have to young to like both.

r96 Yes, they're interested in both men AND women equally! But wait, why are 84% in heterosexual relationships? How can it be?!!!

R133 You rarely meet a bisexual over 30 in a same sex relationship

Fish are MAD that gay men refuse to fiddle with their smelly old hatchet wounds. I’ve had numerous ones try to “turn me into a real man.” They’ve tried guilting me, shaming me, assaulting me with their droopy labia and fat, wobbly titties, and when none of that worked, they’ve resorted to homophobic name-calling and trying to get their boyfriends to beat me up.

Today, I avoid them whenever possible.

R133, I already explained my situation! I couldn't handle the obstacles of a gay relationship! Why limit myself to the gay world of drug addiction, diva worship, nameless sex, antiques and rump roast recipes? Look at how much press I've gotten since my queer marriage to a woman! Do you think I'd get all this attention had I still been with Kyle?

MARY!!

Antoni, what honor are you trying to preserve for these women of your past? I'm sure they were able to catch on when every time you were supposed to go down on them you suddenly got a headache.

[quote] his recipes are god-awful. How the hell did he become the supposed food expert?

I was watching a clip of him on British TV cooking. It looked foul. One of the presenters said she'd "save it for later" after she took a bite.

And all sorts of freaky ingredients no one will be able to find in England.

But his recipe book has been a NY Times bestseller, so there's that.

[quote] How the hell did he become the supposed food expert?

He cooks and he's good looking.

R140 (laughing) and he calls himself queer, so a perfect fit for this show, which again, so happens to be called "Queer Eye".

Self hating fag.

I tried to drown him but he popped back up.

Bump

I also don't care how he labels himself. Just don't dishonor your gay relationships by saying you're dishonoring your past relationships with the opposite sex.

He actually makes a good point.

& it doesn't hurt for the occasional "gay celeb" to say "I'm not 100% gay..I have loved women".

[quote]& it doesn't hurt for the occasional "gay celeb" to say "I'm not 100% gay..I have loved women".

Their mothers.

R146= Miley Cyrus

Fuck you, fraufish R146. I will NEVER go near your smelly conch.

[quote]Fuck you, fraufish [R146]. I will NEVER go near your smelly conch.

Even if you had one, you hardly sound like a catch. Hard pass.

How large is Antoni’s dong?

Antoni’s dong is sufficiently large to please all those 'honoured' women he keeps talking about.

He's Queer Eye for Pay?