Hi guys. OP here. Thank you all for the interest! Here’s how my “date” went:
At the end of the working day, I cornered him in the kitchen and, as casually as I could, asked if he’d like to grab a beer after work. He accepted quite enthusiastically.
I took him to a bar I feel relatively comfortable in and know the staff. At first, we just talked about work and the other coworkers, nothing remarkable. He did share that he was feeling rather lonely away from home. After a few beers, the conversation took a turn to more personal stuff, like our families, etc.
And that’s when I decided to apply the advice given here on DL and ask him about a girlfriend and then a boyfriend. I ask if he has a girl back home. No. Summoning all my mental strength, I manage to squeeze out a feeble: “And, uh, a boyfriend then, uh, eh, hehe?”
Oh, the look he shot me! I’m absolutely sure that, right then and there, he saw through my entire charade, my intentions, feelings, and that whole beer invitation thing. And let me tell you, getting the side-eye from those Japanese eyes, combined with a sarcastic and knowing smile, does rattle the nervous system a little.
To his credit, he kept his cool and just replied: “No, I’ve been single for quite a while now”.
And then it was like a weight had come off our shoulders for some reason. We started talking more openly about everything (not going as far as confessing, but if he had asked, I would’ve). We stayed for hours and really opened up to each other. I felt a sense of real intimacy for the first time. I know it sounds mushy but that’s how it was. I felt accepted, though in what way, I don’t know yet.
He drove me home. We did a weird half-hug and a cheeky forehead bump – he laughed. I will have to disappoint the poster above but there was no sex. Nevertheless, the evening meant a lot to me. These are the results:
1. I am now completely in love;
2. I have caught a terrible cold and will have to stay at home for a few days.
So that’s it. Nothing much? Maybe. We’ll see if he remains friendly or chooses to distance himself. Any analyses and advice from the DL? Thanks again for the interest.