Are you 'demisexual'?

I'm not sure I fit but the idea of hooking up with a stranger(even a really hot one)just sounds stressful and also just not a good idea.

r1 are you gay, Lesbian, or other?

I just need to express how much I loathe Dan Savage.

I'm Gay R2.

Agree R3. Such a bitter, hissing queen with that nonsensical sarcastic comment. Why should he care or feel the need to comment about how someone else identifies?

Dan's right.

We know both Dan and his sad attention whore of a husband are raging assholes but recently it seems more people are finally starting to catch on to that fact.

Dan's correct about this. They aren't assholes for having an open sex life.

As much as I loathe Savage for his semi-infamous, hypocritical "coffee dates with transwomen are mandatory for all lesbians" answer, he's right about this. Not EVERYTHING needs a label and not EVERYONE needs to be part of LGBTQ+. What's next? A label for people who like watching TV while having sex? A label for people who do it in cars? How about people who just can't fuck when Fido or Fluffy is in the room? Seriously, where does it end?

"People who needed to feel a strong emotional bond before wanting to fuck someone" are not "oppressed" by any stretch of the imagination. No one has ever been denied housing or employment because they-- gasp!-- were in love with their sexual partner. I don't even see a need to acknowledge this *alleged* orientation, much less waste precious resources on it-- resources that SHOULD be spent on people who are, you know, actually marginalized. Like gay men and lesbians.

R9 he originally used the word "tranny" on his Savage Lovecast podcast long ago and said some other things, and got roasted alive by the trans gestapo at the time, as they were rising in power. Ever since then he has been VERY CAREFUL not to really speak about them on his show - he always brings in an "expert".

Real talk, what’s the term for someone who’s highly sexed but is too picky about who they sleep with? Asking for a friend. x

What about those of us who would fuck anything that had a fully stocked bar? Hmmm? “No! I won’t steal your Franciscan. Is that Irish Mist behind the tea leaf?”

"divasexual" and "drunksexual"

Yes. Ish.

I’ve had casual sex, but I’ve turned down 10s because we didn’t click.

I’ve never had sex with someone I haven’t had at least one non-sexual conversation.

That's rich coming from a guy who feels the need to name, explain and "identify" every phase his fucked up marriage.

It may not need a sexual identity label, but I think I kind of understand that "preference for having a strong emotional bond with sexual partners but will fuck people even if there's not" isn't *quite* the same thing as "ordinarily has no sexual attraction to anyone at all except on rare occasions and only then if there is a strong emotional bond." As I understand it, it sounds like a type of asexuality. I just don't get how it's useful to them or anyone else to have a special name for "asexual with occasional exceptions."

Dan's point about having to Google before you understand it makes sense.

Also it's bullshit in many cases. Anecdotally, I have been hit on by guys who want in my pants who have "demisexual" or "gray asexual" in their profiles, multiple times. It's another way of feeling different and special, like nonbinaries and "genderqueer".

They need the label to feel special.