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Malik Yoba opens up about attraction to transwomen while still identifying as heterosexual

he made the post in response to the recent news of the young guy who killed himself shortly after he was publicly mocked for dating a transwoman

if you can't see the post here's what he wrote:

[quote] TTENTION BLACK AND ALL MEN!!! THIS IS NOT OK!!!!! This video is another heartbreaking example of the homophobia, transphobia hatred and hypocrisy WE as black folks, BLACK MEN in particular have to NAME , FACE and CALL OUT and do the work to heal!!! THIS IS EXACTLY WHY I WILL BE AT @transmarchondc 🏳️‍🌈hosting a workshop called LOVE + TRAUMA: The Trans Experience on Sept 27 2019 ( details TBD ) His name was Maurice “Reese” Willoughby, a 20 yr old baby who killed himself from an apparent drug overdose after his girlfriend left him due to abuse. Clearly as evidenced in this video this young man was confident in his choice to love who he loved but the uninformed young men around him haven’t been taught BY US that love is love and acceptance of Trans love is ok and bullying has nothing to do with masculinity or HETEROSEXUAL behavior. Ultimately his mental and emotional health was not intact enough and the fragility of his life as he saw it was too much to bear. Often times this type of shame and ridicule can lead to the murders of women of the trans experience . NOT OK!! Clearly he didn’t get the support of his peers who think that toxicity = masculinity and humanity. That being a “real man” means we must disrespect and demean those that FIND themselves attracted to women of the trans experience. The fact that he was trans attracted presumably meant that he had no safe space to go to find the support he needed to learn to navigate love of a woman of the trans experience in a world that constantly tells you you’re wrong. TRANS PEOPLE DESERVE LOVE AND RESPECT AS DO THOSE OF US THAT LOVE THEM!! I love ALL women AND count MYSELF among those that find themselves trans attracted and I too have felt the self imposed shame that comes with that truth but it’s time to speak up. It is NOT about GENITALIA OR SEX but about attraction to the soul and humanity of an individual and often the beauty that is in the courage and conviction to live ones truth! As a self identified cis heterosexual man I too am learning what it means to be trans attracted. Many of us famous and otherwise that have struggled with accepting our attraction so we do NOTHING. This MUST change 🙏🏾

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by Anonymousreply 141October 21, 2019 10:50 PM
by Anonymousreply 1September 1, 2019 4:45 PM
by Anonymousreply 2September 1, 2019 7:17 PM

Boom

by Anonymousreply 3September 1, 2019 8:52 PM

"It is NOT about GENITALIA OR SEX but about attraction to the soul and humanity" LOL Oh, god the delusion of it all!

by Anonymousreply 4September 1, 2019 9:15 PM

This guy, whoever he is, isn't straight. I wonder how his wife feels about his attraction to feminised men?...

by Anonymousreply 5September 1, 2019 9:15 PM

" TRANS PEOPLE DESERVE"

Why? And on what basis?

by Anonymousreply 6September 1, 2019 9:18 PM

Guys who like dicks are gay.

by Anonymousreply 7September 1, 2019 9:20 PM

Naw. He likes females

by Anonymousreply 8September 1, 2019 10:30 PM

He on the down low

by Anonymousreply 9September 1, 2019 10:34 PM

Fuck black men juust hate calling themselves, well, even admitting they are gay seems a bridge too far, I find it really fucking bizarre

by Anonymousreply 10September 1, 2019 10:39 PM

you guys don't know who he is? he's an actor. His biggest role was starring on New York Undercover, Cool Runnings and more recently has been on Empire

by Anonymousreply 11September 1, 2019 10:41 PM

I don't see how him fucking the using the mentally ill means we all should abandon class and taste and also fuck the mentally ill

by Anonymousreply 12September 1, 2019 10:46 PM

Malik Yoba talk Gibberish!

by Anonymousreply 13September 1, 2019 10:53 PM

I definitely believe he is gay. There was a rumor that he and Michael DeLorenzo were lovers on New York Undercover.

by Anonymousreply 14September 1, 2019 10:56 PM

Well let me put on a cheap wig and lipstick and slide in his dm’s

by Anonymousreply 15September 1, 2019 10:59 PM

"It is NOT about GENITALIA OR SEX but about attraction to the soul and humanity of an individual"

If this is the way some people feel about THEMSELVES, fine. They are free to believe whatever they want about themselves. But for the VAST majority of human beings, yes, it is very much "about genitalia and sex," and to tell us it's not is denying our sexual orientations and violating our sexual boundaries.

I do not fuck people's souls. And I can't recall ever observing ANYONE saying, "Wow, will ya look at the humanity on that one!" It's called "sex" for a reason.

by Anonymousreply 16September 1, 2019 11:09 PM

He was phine-looking back in the day, but I haven't heard that name for years. I'm fine with his statement. I'm a gay man, who isn't interested in trans (no hate, just no interest), so I think it's great that he's at least being honest about the fact that he can be interested in trans women, which he shares with lots of 'straight' men.

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by Anonymousreply 17September 1, 2019 11:25 PM

That sure is a lot of words I'm not going to read.

by Anonymousreply 18September 1, 2019 11:28 PM

He’s always had bisexual rumors

by Anonymousreply 19September 1, 2019 11:29 PM

if you're straight then what is the appeal of a woman with a dick or a pussy you can't use? He's either gay or "bisexual" but for some reason has no problem announcing his attraction to trannys but not dudes.

by Anonymousreply 20September 1, 2019 11:35 PM

Guess everyone is going to keep ignoring that the guy killed himself after the trans woman broke up with him. The trans woman was even afraid of him. The trans movement is sick and twisted, with the way they use deaths, even though they have nothing to do with "transphobia".

Just like the trans woman killed by their boyfriend. The trans movement rather blame women and "transphobia" for deaths to push their toxic agenda.

by Anonymousreply 21September 1, 2019 11:46 PM

I thought he was REALLY hot on "New York Undercover."

by Anonymousreply 22September 1, 2019 11:50 PM

I applaud his honesty and his advocacy. He's done himself no favors because his core following will go nuts. Someone has to address the reality of trans-attraction.

by Anonymousreply 23September 1, 2019 11:53 PM

R23 The reality he is gay and fucking men, you mean?

by Anonymousreply 24September 1, 2019 11:55 PM

R23 It’s called same sex attraction.

by Anonymousreply 25September 1, 2019 11:55 PM

DL screams that gay men can’t be attracted to anything with boobs. Then when straight men say that they’re attracted to something with boobs they scream they’re gay ... make up you’re fucking minds.

by Anonymousreply 26September 1, 2019 11:56 PM

R26 Few of them have breasts. None of them have vaginas, he is a homosexualist

by Anonymousreply 27September 1, 2019 11:58 PM

r26 IDK what do you call a "straight" man who enjoys sucking on cock?

by Anonymousreply 28September 1, 2019 11:59 PM

I know R26. Not to mention all of the "gay" men on here who say they have slept with 1 or more women but like the dick themselves...

by Anonymousreply 29September 2, 2019 12:00 AM

[quote] [R26] IDK what do you call a "straight" man who enjoys sucking on cock?

Some gay men don't enjoy sucking cock. A sex act does not define a person's sexual identity.

by Anonymousreply 30September 2, 2019 12:02 AM

R30 That's what we've been saying for years...

by Anonymousreply 31September 2, 2019 12:03 AM

He so phine.

by Anonymousreply 32September 2, 2019 12:04 AM

Good for him

by Anonymousreply 33September 2, 2019 12:04 AM

UGH. STOP roping Black culture into whites filthy perv wars. Blacks have NOTHING to answer for. Racism and "homophobia" are the products of whites ALONE.

by Anonymousreply 34September 2, 2019 12:04 AM

R34 You seem triggered and nonsensical

by Anonymousreply 35September 2, 2019 12:06 AM

Umm what lol?

by Anonymousreply 36September 2, 2019 12:07 AM

[quote]"It is NOT about GENITALIA OR SEX but about attraction to the soul and humanity of an individual"

The bisexual's Creed.

by Anonymousreply 37September 2, 2019 1:12 AM

I like that creed

by Anonymousreply 38September 2, 2019 1:38 AM

Then you're a bisexual. Which is fine, but understand that homosexuals are different in how we experience sexual attraction, and don't attempt to package your sexuality as 'more open minded' or 'progressive' to us. It won't work (you cannot shame us out of our gayness) and historically trying to un-gay gays ends poorly.

by Anonymousreply 39September 2, 2019 1:44 AM

Bunch of closet cases trying to redefine HOMOSEXUALITY into something they feel comfortable with.

by Anonymousreply 40September 2, 2019 1:49 AM

"It is NOT about GENITALIA OR SEX but about attraction to the soul and humanity of an individual!

No fats!”

by Anonymousreply 41September 2, 2019 1:54 AM

R39, don’t be paranoid. I wasn’t talking about you. I was talking about me, dude.

by Anonymousreply 42September 2, 2019 2:02 AM

" But for the VAST majority of human beings, yes, it is very much "about genitalia and sex," and to tell us it's not is denying our sexual orientations and violating our sexual boundaries."

Because I have a thought different than yours I'm denying your sexual orientation? Well, I had no idea my one thought was so magical and powerful.

Meanwhile, I'm guessing if my favorite ice cream is pistachio I AM DENYING EVERYONE WHO DOESN'T LIKE PISTACHIO ICE CREAM!!! OH WHEN WILL THE CIVIL RIGHTS ABUSES END FOR THE NON-PISTACHIO ICE CREAM LOVERS???

You know what, you weak little cowardly turd, grow a pair of whatever it is you have to grow and realize just because someone doesn't think the way you do, it doesn't mean you are being victimized.

It's always the bullies who cry when somebody stands up to them. And the biggest crybabies are the people whose unearned privileges are being challenged.

by Anonymousreply 43September 2, 2019 2:27 AM

So many words to avoid saying you're gay. If I'm only attracted to 4'5 uncircumsized redheads I'm still gay. And if he's only attracted to boobs, wigs and panties over fat dick he's gay too.

by Anonymousreply 44September 2, 2019 2:34 AM

Good for him

by Anonymousreply 45September 2, 2019 2:46 AM

R44, he’s not gay. He also likes nontrans women

by Anonymousreply 46September 2, 2019 3:01 AM

R44, he’s not gay. He also likes nontrans women

by Anonymousreply 47September 2, 2019 3:01 AM

R46 Proof thanks

by Anonymousreply 48September 2, 2019 3:02 AM

Yoba was married to Trisha Mann, an actress, and model. The couple later divorced but have two children from this marriage. Yoba later tied the knot with actress and producer Cat Wilson on 21st December 2003.

by Anonymousreply 49September 2, 2019 3:06 AM

R49 Sex tape thanks

by Anonymousreply 50September 2, 2019 3:09 AM

R49 His current girlfriend BJ looks like a man.

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by Anonymousreply 51September 2, 2019 4:14 AM

Ok so he's married, why in the fuck is he out here talking about his fetishes of sleeping with he she's?

by Anonymousreply 52September 2, 2019 4:18 AM

Jesus some of you cunts can’t stand to hear someone preach tolerance of trans. Fuck off r52

by Anonymousreply 53September 2, 2019 5:01 AM

R51 Wow she REALLY looks like a man. That's either offensive to her or offensive to men.

by Anonymousreply 54September 2, 2019 5:01 AM

Cue the ugly divorce!

And the soon-to-be-ex-wife being attacked as "transphobic", because she doesn't like the idea of being cheated on.

by Anonymousreply 55September 2, 2019 5:09 AM

R53 Tolerance is cool. Lying and talking shit because he cannot bare to call himself what he is, fuck this asshole chicken shit self loathing cunt

by Anonymousreply 56September 2, 2019 5:43 AM

He kept saying “women of the trans experience,” which sounds like it’s been run through Google Translate.

by Anonymousreply 57September 2, 2019 5:46 AM

Malik Yoba isn't gay, because he's attracted to women, both cis and trans. Also, while some trans women do retain their male genitalia, many others undergo genital reassignment surgery. Either way, if they consider themselves to be women, they are women. He's attracted, no matter what, so long as they're women.

Bi? He may be. Queer? Most certainly.

Also, whether he is married or not, he still may feel attraction to people not his spouse, and also feel the desire to express those attractions publicly. His candor is refreshing, especially given how closeted Hollywood still is. And he's still pretty hot. He also was on the early seasons of Empire, and got his start in the film Cool Runnings before his stint on New York Undercover, where he became a major hearththrob to some (like me).

by Anonymousreply 58September 2, 2019 6:40 AM

What R39 said and I have no idea what you’re so worked up about, R43. This guy is bisexual which is of course fine, and he should own this, rather than trying to redefine the concepts of straight or gay.

R58, “queer” no longer means anything at all; so I agree he may be queer. But “Either way, if they consider themselves to be women, they are women.” No. That’s not how sexuality works, and it’s certainly not how being a woman works. It wouldn’t be so bad if Yoba couldn’t handle his own sexuality, if the mindset didn’t ultimately impact others.

“Trans women are women” and “liking trans women doesn’t make you not straight” etc, cause endless bending of words, changes to the law and even demands that society reject reality, to try to accommodate concepts that just don’t stack up. They then begin to impact women who have absolutely nothing to do with the fact a male is unable to acknowledge he is attracted to another male, but these days have to accept trans women as their “sisters” (and if lesbian, as sexual partners) and into their spaces or start being called bigots. This would again, be less of an issue if we were talking about a small number of male-attracted MtFs and the concept hadn’t indeed become “anyone who says they are a woman is now a woman,” which means the category now includes many “lesbian” MtFs whose reasons for “transitioning” sound highly suspect to women but whom women are unable to challenge without being called names.

So many issues and so much time wasted because we have to pretend a male person isn’t male or that a male person who is attracted to some male people isn’t somehow gay or bisexual.

by Anonymousreply 59September 2, 2019 6:55 AM

R58 Oh die in a grease fire you fantasy talking spouting asshole failure

by Anonymousreply 60September 2, 2019 7:11 AM

"Either way, if they consider themselves to be women, they are women. "

If I identify as a hot 22-year-old fitness model, do you want to fuck me?

by Anonymousreply 61September 2, 2019 8:11 AM

He is still heterosexual but has a trans kink - gynandromorphophilc perhaps (GAMP)

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by Anonymousreply 62September 2, 2019 8:24 AM

To add from the research paper above

'Background: Gynandromorphophilia (GAMP) is sexual interest in gynandromorphs (GAMs; colloquially, shemales). GAMs possess a combination of male and female physical characteristics. Thus, GAMP presents a challenge to conventional understandings of sexual orientation as sexual attraction to the male v. female form. Speculation about GAMP men has included the ideas that they are homosexual, heterosexual, or especially, bisexual. Method: We compared genital and subjective sexual arousal patterns of GAMP men with those of heterosexual and homosexual men. We also compared these groups on their self-ratings of sexual orientation and sexual interests. Results: GAMP men had arousal patterns similar to those of heterosexual men and different from those of homosexual men. However, compared to heterosexual men, GAMP men were relatively more aroused by GAM erotic stimuli than by female erotic stimuli. GAMP men also scored higher than both heterosexual and homosexual men on a measure of autogynephilia. Conclusions: Results provide clear evidence that GAMP men are not homosexual. They also indicate that GAMP men are especially likely to eroticize the idea of being a woman.'

by Anonymousreply 63September 2, 2019 8:27 AM

So we need to become Masters and Johnson for this discussion? He was reacting to a young man taking his life over bullying. We already had a thread on this. I thought that guy was messed up for doing something so extreme, but I still think it's a shame that he'd do that. So Malik was simply speaking up for the young man and showing solidarity with him. That was a generous act, and one that will expose him to.....what we're doing here now.

by Anonymousreply 64September 2, 2019 9:29 AM

R64 words have meanings and sexuality is real. I do credit Yoba for saying he’s interested in trans women as that sort of attraction still is taboo, but your average straight guy is not remotely interested in pre-op trans women (and that’s ok) whereas Yoba is, and isn’t straight as a result. Also totally ok and good for him.

It isn’t going to help anyone in our community to insist that what’s happening here is heterosexuality. Can’t he just say he likes trans women? Nope, he has to add that there’s definitely nothing homosexual about it. That isn’t true.

by Anonymousreply 65September 2, 2019 10:15 AM

He kept saying “women of the trans experience,” which sounds like Gibberish, R57.

by Anonymousreply 66September 2, 2019 12:51 PM

R66 That’s because it is gibberish, they’re men.

by Anonymousreply 67September 2, 2019 12:58 PM

Women of the transh experiensh.

by Anonymousreply 68September 2, 2019 2:13 PM

Why is a subset of gay men so threatened by bi, fluid, and pansexual men talking about their experience and identity? If gay men want people to be tolerant of their identity, they should be tolerant of other groups. People are noticing how intolerant some gay men are.

by Anonymousreply 69September 2, 2019 2:34 PM

How did he become gay or bi? Does male same-sex attraction extend to trans-women? I don't understand. Gay men are not sexually interested in trans-women or trans-men.

by Anonymousreply 70September 2, 2019 2:35 PM

R67/R70, you’re the same poster aren’t you? No-one is threatened, just noting the facts. You can keep doing, “but trans women are women, so why would a gay guy be interested in them???” disingenuous wide-eyedness as much as you like, but it isn’t helping the LGBT community gain any more acceptance anywhere, and I don’t even think in the long run it helps individual trans people’s lives.

by Anonymousreply 71September 2, 2019 2:50 PM

"Because I have a thought different than yours I'm denying your sexual orientation? Well, I had no idea my one thought was so magical and powerful."

Nobody cares about your weirdo one thought that you had R43, Or what you believe in. And for pity sake do try comprehension reading as Dr Truth also said:

"If this is the way some people feel about THEMSELVES, fine. They are free to believe whatever they want about themselves."

by Anonymousreply 72September 2, 2019 4:00 PM

[quote]Does male same-sex attraction extend to trans-women?

Are trans women male?

by Anonymousreply 73September 2, 2019 4:12 PM

Also R43 "It's always the bullies who cry when somebody stands up to them. And the biggest crybabies are the people whose unearned privileges are being challenged."

What "unearned privileges" would that be exactly? Defending same sex attraction?

You can piss right off with your homophobic garbage! Go think up some new thoughts, better than the shitty one you have right now.

by Anonymousreply 74September 2, 2019 4:15 PM

R74 Transgenderism is an inherently homophobic ideology The good thing is they’re starting to be more upfront about it. The more people see it for what it really is the better.

by Anonymousreply 75September 2, 2019 4:42 PM

These fuckers are so scared of the truth, that is why it is so much fun to punch endless holes in the worthless shite they endlessly spout

by Anonymousreply 76September 2, 2019 7:26 PM

It’s their life

by Anonymousreply 77September 2, 2019 7:48 PM

Indeed, but the narrative that the kid killed himself because of 'transphobia' is simply false, so the tired-ass lectures about "identity" can stop, please and thank you.

by Anonymousreply 78September 2, 2019 9:01 PM

R78 Exactly, the tranny dumped him because he scared her with his mentalnesss, and he killed himself because of the dumping, not because of yucky anti-tranny messages

by Anonymousreply 79September 2, 2019 9:03 PM

r51=Miss Swan

by Anonymousreply 80September 3, 2019 1:12 AM

Yoba is doing this to get ahead of bad news. He has long been rumored to be gay (he was involved with a male co-star on one of his shows), and there are stories that he had sex with underaged (as in 13 years old) trans prostitutes.

by Anonymousreply 81September 3, 2019 8:13 AM

He has been a Trans rights activist for years

by Anonymousreply 82September 3, 2019 3:38 PM

According to Newsweek, however, the earlier reports of suicide were inaccurate and Willoughby died from a drug overdose. “Our deepest condolences to Faith and also to Reese’s family. This is a time to mourn for a lost life and support Faith during this difficult time in her life. She is a survivor of abuse and as stated on her Instagram page, a woman who lost her lover. Black women are always mourning and caring for the world while trying to keep ourselves alive. Our love and support to Faith,” a statement via the Marsha P. Johnson Institute read.

In fact, the news surrounding Willoughby incited a complicated conversation surrounding cis-gendered men and their attraction to members of the trans community. On one hand, cis men revealing their lust for trans women may appear revolutionary on the surface (as it was deemed taboo prior), but what about expanding that and turning it into true advocacy for trans humanity and rights? What about the fetishizing of the trans community (typically referred to as “chasers”)? Particularly, when and how do we address the abuse and killings committed by those same cis men warring with their attraction?

by Anonymousreply 83September 3, 2019 5:26 PM

Years ago there were rumors at the DL that Yoba was into t-girls

by Anonymousreply 84September 3, 2019 5:27 PM

And here ya go...

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by Anonymousreply 85September 3, 2019 7:38 PM

Oh noes

by Anonymousreply 86September 3, 2019 9:10 PM

Maybe Ryan Murphy can find a role for him on Pose.

by Anonymousreply 87September 3, 2019 11:34 PM

Bump

by Anonymousreply 88September 3, 2019 11:36 PM

How fucking typical that the latest TRA "woke" moron is, surprise surprise, an actual sexual deviant pedo. You can literally set your fucking watch to how often this happens. What is it about this brand of PC nonsense that seems to attract such degenerates? HMM?!

by Anonymousreply 89September 4, 2019 2:00 AM

The article linked above notes even a trans woman pointing out that saying “trans attracted” as Yoba did, denotes attraction to a body part. That body part would be the penis, wouldn’t it. Because this isn’t heterosexual behavior. I hope that helps R70 resolve their pretend confusion.

I am apprehensive about linking TRA stuff with seriously questionable behavior as that is what used to happen to gay people, but beginning to think very strongly that the trans mindset is very different to the gay one and we don’t really have much in common.

by Anonymousreply 90September 4, 2019 7:49 AM

^ We do dress better. They look like they have been pulled out of the bush backwards

by Anonymousreply 91September 4, 2019 7:59 AM

Y’all are ridiculous

by Anonymousreply 92September 4, 2019 11:56 AM

Thanks Malik.

by Anonymousreply 93September 4, 2019 1:00 PM

"That body part would be the penis, wouldn’t it. Because this isn’t heterosexual behavior."

Except truly gay men aren't interesting in trans women. We want men who look like men.

by Anonymousreply 94September 4, 2019 2:38 PM

That’s also fair, R94.

If people want to come up with a new term for this sexuality (other than “chaser”) then that makes sense, but it’s not straight guys being straight after all.

by Anonymousreply 95September 4, 2019 6:02 PM

He’s a subset of straight dudes that is attracted to femininity whether it’s exhibited in a person biologically female or a person who is biologically male.

by Anonymousreply 96September 4, 2019 6:44 PM

Why wouldn’t a straight dude be attracted to a passable transgender MTF? If a transgender MTF looks like an attractive woman and consistently presents as a woman, straight dudes naturally will be Attracted to them. The only reason a straight man will put on the brakes is social stigma, not wanting to interact with someone with male genitalia, wanting to have biological children with a partner, or the intense identity conflict that may come with being involved with a trans woman.

by Anonymousreply 97September 4, 2019 6:49 PM

R96/R97 a cock and balls are a dealbreaker for actual straight dudes, just like the absence of them are for actual gay dudes.

I do agree it’s possible for a straight man to be attracted to a trans woman with male genitalia if he doesn’t know they’re trans. For a guy to actually say he’s “trans-attracted” suggests, as the trans woman in the article quoted above acknowledges, that the male genitalia are part of what interests the guy in question. That’s not straight, by the way, whoever “feminine” their owner acts.

A typical straight guy will choose a non-gender conforming actual female over a feminine MtF with male parts pretty much every time.

by Anonymousreply 98September 4, 2019 8:02 PM

"If a transgender MTF looks like an attractive woman and consistently presents as a woman, straight dudes naturally will be Attracted to them."

Do you know how many straight guys BEG their girlfriends not to wear makeup? I'm not saying there are NO straight guys attracted to that hypersexualized, over-feminized look, but they're in the minority, for sure. Straight men love Maryannes, not Gingers. Ask one yourself.

by Anonymousreply 99September 4, 2019 10:37 PM

A lot of black men like transwomen.

by Anonymousreply 100September 4, 2019 11:16 PM

R100 A lot of black men like cross dressing men

by Anonymousreply 101September 4, 2019 11:17 PM

Hence what I said in another thread... Why there's so much pressure for black gay boys to transition, thinking (incorrectly) it's a better option for them.

by Anonymousreply 102September 4, 2019 11:18 PM

^ Is the answer, because their culture hates them?

by Anonymousreply 103September 4, 2019 11:25 PM

Show me statistics and authority that confirm your assertion African Americans transition more than others

by Anonymousreply 104September 4, 2019 11:30 PM

Didn't say anything about the relation with any other group. Try again.

by Anonymousreply 105September 4, 2019 11:32 PM

If I understand r102, it's due to the masculine culture driving these young gay black men to turn themselves into women or at least appear as a woman. Im sure this is a factor, but I also think there is a deeply, deeply suppressed subculture of black men who are sexually attracted to trans and men who dress like women, and some gays want to be on the receiving end of that complicated sexual relationship.

And I don't have stats to prove it, Im just speaking from being lgbt person of color myself who also has trans family members

by Anonymousreply 106September 4, 2019 11:39 PM

R105, your assertion insinuates more AAs are transitioning than other groups. If you are not asserting this, your claim is pointless or not noteworthy.

by Anonymousreply 107September 4, 2019 11:44 PM

[quote]your assertion insinuates more AAs are transitioning than other groups

Incorrect. But, [bold]you[/bold] were the one who declared this in the Ryan Russell thread:

[quote]Studies have confirmed (and common sense tells you) that gay men who are effeminate have it much worse than masculine gay men. All gay men suffer from a general, pervasive bias against same-sex erotic activity, but effeminate gay men especially do.

Then, when I brought up the case of Muhlaysia Booker, the MTF who got the shit kicked out of them in front of a taunting and filming crowd, and then was murdered not long after, you stated

[quote]I hear parents stilll saying they will beat any hint of effeminancy out of their sons

So wouldn't it stand to reason that a black boy, growing up in that environment, would come to the conclusion that living life a woman would make things easier for him? It's [italic]that[/italic] much of a stretch? Really?

Just go post in the Instagram threads or something, BRO.

by Anonymousreply 108September 4, 2019 11:49 PM

I don’t know, but I’ve seen no empirical evidence or research that reaches the conclusion you did. I think it’s far fetched to think people transition for social approval or to escape persecution. Transgender people are significantly more likely to be discriminated against and subject to violence than bisexual and gay Americans. Most experts see a desire to escape internal conflict over gender identity as the motivating factor for transitioning .

by Anonymousreply 109September 4, 2019 11:57 PM

You're welcome to think what you want, and I'll do the same.

by Anonymousreply 110September 5, 2019 12:00 AM

[quote]I think it’s far fetched to think people transition for social approval or to escape persecution.

r109, as a person of color who was socialized with and grew up around black and gay culture, I can tell you it is not far fetched at all. I dont need any peer reviewed studies to confirm this, I have seen it with my own eyes!

by Anonymousreply 111September 5, 2019 12:13 AM

W&W R111

by Anonymousreply 112September 5, 2019 12:18 AM

I’m Black and know my culture intimately. I think your theory is bogus.

by Anonymousreply 113September 5, 2019 11:59 AM

[quote]Why wouldn’t a straight dude be attracted to a passable transgender MTF?

We subconsciously code another person’s sex upon meeting. It’s instinctual, even babies can differentiate between males and females. It’s not just appearance but other cues like mannerisms, gait, etc. At some basic, evoluntionary level most of these guys know it’s another man.

by Anonymousreply 114September 5, 2019 12:09 PM

Gay men are "humans afraid of a vulva." This is gas-lighting and conversion therapy.

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by Anonymousreply 115September 5, 2019 12:47 PM

Who do you think patronizes the wildly popular Southeast Asian ladyboys? Almost all patrons and admirers identify as straight.

by Anonymousreply 116September 5, 2019 2:22 PM

I like dudes and would definitely date Laith Ashley. He’s hot

by Anonymousreply 117September 5, 2019 2:23 PM

[quote]I think your theory is bogus.

Too bad, because it's a correct theory and will continue to play out as long as black parents continue to "beat the effeminacy out of their sons".

by Anonymousreply 118September 5, 2019 2:29 PM

[quote]Guys who like dicks are gay.

Gays are not attracted to Trannies. So he is not gay.

by Anonymousreply 119September 5, 2019 2:38 PM

[quote]I like dudes and would definitely date Laith Ashley. He’s hot

Would you eat out his front hole?

by Anonymousreply 120September 5, 2019 5:52 PM

Yes I would

by Anonymousreply 121September 5, 2019 8:26 PM

And penetrate it

by Anonymousreply 122September 5, 2019 8:27 PM

[quote]Most experts see a desire to escape internal conflict over gender identity as the motivating factor for transitioning .

Black gay men also have a slew of social factors that play into this. Black men already have challenges just making a living, even more so as an out and feminine LGBT black gay male. There are fewer opportunities to make a traditional living. Everyone is not going to make it by selling bundles, doing hair and doing make-up.

You know the culture intimately, so I'm sure you know many black gays fall into scamming, drugs, and other nefarious activities. Even queens like Jussie Smollett can't get out of the life. The desire for more leads a lot of these youths to prostitution, and becoming trans is opens another avenue to make money in prostitution and porn. These trans women out here are not putting themselves through the change for nothing. Men like what they like, and they pay good money for it. There are many black men out there like Malik Yoba, but they live in secrecy.

by Anonymousreply 123September 5, 2019 9:49 PM

What are bundles, dude?

by Anonymousreply 124September 5, 2019 10:56 PM

r124, ask r113, he knows the culture "intimately"!

by Anonymousreply 125September 5, 2019 10:59 PM

R113 = R124.

Must not know it as "intimately" as he claims, BRUH!

by Anonymousreply 126September 5, 2019 11:02 PM

I’m black, but that doesn’t mean I know every little subculture in my race. I know the Predominant middle class and middle upper class Black culture, particularly in the South.

by Anonymousreply 127September 5, 2019 11:37 PM

Clearly you're living in a bubble. You should get out more.

by Anonymousreply 128September 5, 2019 11:44 PM

Naw, son. I’m good.

by Anonymousreply 129September 5, 2019 11:48 PM

See you at church this Sunday?

by Anonymousreply 130September 5, 2019 11:49 PM

Oh noes, the cancellation has begun:

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by Anonymousreply 131September 7, 2019 10:39 PM

I actually don't have a problem with what he said. Whether he's gay or not, most men (especially black men) would never cop to being attracted to trans people. Eddie Murphy, D'Angelo, and half the rappers on the charts will continue to stay silent though.

by Anonymousreply 132September 7, 2019 10:48 PM

[quote]D'Angelo

Whaaatt..I never knew he was into trans

by Anonymousreply 133September 7, 2019 10:52 PM

Naw

by Anonymousreply 134September 7, 2019 10:56 PM

[quote]In an odd Instagram rap, the 51-year-old said, “How quickly people love to spread news with no proof of child abuse. You confused I see you. You choose to try to make me lose but I can’t… You can’t win when you live in sin.”

[quote]After the rap, he stated, “A lot of nonsense is floating around town the last few days. I’m like, ‘What am I going to say about all this?’ [bold]I’m not going to defend myself. Im’a dig deep. Im’a lean into my creativity. [/bold]m’a lean into the purpose and the purpose is the service. It’s all it’s about. Love.”

Sounds like he did it. And what a surprise, the latest trans moralizer is a pedo. Who could ever have guessed?

by Anonymousreply 135September 7, 2019 11:14 PM

Actor Malik Yoba stormed off the set during an on-camera interview with The Root Friday after being asked about allegations that he solicited sex from a minor who engaged in survival sex work in the late 1990s and early 2000s. The walkout was also seemingly triggered by questions about his motives for publishing an Instagram post that declared his love and attraction for trans women, which has since been deleted.

During the conversation at The Root’s studios, The Root asked Yoba to respond to a Facebook post by Mariah Lopez Ebony, in which she accuses the actor of soliciting sex from her at ages 13 and 16. Yoba said, “I don’t know the woman,” and “I have no idea who she is.” In a phone interview with The Root on Saturday, Lopez, now 34, stood by her claims, saying her first sex act with Yoba took place at age 13, and the second act occurred at age 16.

Lopez was born April 27, 1985, so the first sexual act would have likely taken place in 1998 and the second act in 2001. Lopez is a long-time trans rights activist and executive director of STARR, the Strategic Trans Alliance for Radical Reform, founded by trans pioneers Sylvia Rivera and Marsha P. Johnson. Lopez alleges Yoba, now 52, would drive around New York’s Greenwich Village area looking for trans women to pay for sex.

Here is an excerpt from Lopez’s Facebook post:

I started seeing him personally, with my own two eyes, cruising around the meatpacking district and Village, large black Jeep, looking for Trans fem sex workers, he preferred black trans girls; pretty, slim girls, but would pick up a latinx if she was put together and/or looked mixed.

That was close to 20 years ago, and I can still remember it like yesterday. i also remember the day a friend of mine said, real cool, like she was known to do “.......walk down that block..Just go! He wants You.....”. You always remember celebrity clients. It’s like time slows down. You remember every detail, Blood pounding. He was cute, and polite, don’t get me wrong. But I’m sure he knew what he was doing, was Wrong.....

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by Anonymousreply 136September 26, 2019 12:54 AM

Such a fine, upstanding citizen....

by Anonymousreply 137September 26, 2019 12:55 AM

Buml

by Anonymousreply 138September 26, 2019 12:45 PM

Bump

by Anonymousreply 139October 11, 2019 3:23 AM

R139 something new happened?

by Anonymousreply 140October 11, 2019 3:32 AM

Music

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by Anonymousreply 141October 21, 2019 10:50 PM
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