Why am I supposed to want to be around straight people?

because the alternative is being around gay men all the time

R1 What about the other letters?

Straight people are hard to avoid.

You're being a snowflake, OP.

Because they make most of the population? If you decide to interact only with gay people you're hoing to be very, very lonely.

People in general suck.

R5, my friends over the years have been almost exclusively gay men. I have not been lonely.

[quote]Straight people are hard to avoid.

So are potholes.

Homophobia is so normalized, the hets don't even know when they're being homophobic. Short of wishing death on gay people, nothing they say can be anti-gay. Sometimes even "asking questions" on the morality of anti-gay murders they think is OK if you look, for example, at certain debates they have on some corners of the internet, notably Black Twitter.

They are fine at the office unless I bring a homemade dish to a potluck. If you think they are "over" their fear of AIDS, guess again.

Back when gays couldn't donate blood every guy in the office made a special point to donate blood ESPECIALLY the closet cases I knew well were t-room queens. And then they would smirk and proudly where their little "I donated" badges as badges of honor and status.

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You're pretty lucky then, OP. I don't think this could be possible where I live. But yeah, if you've got enough friends already and somehow they're all gay, no reason to force yourself to interact with straight people.

“Officer, stop talking to me unless you’re gay. I don’t believe you. The pants; did you have them fitted?”

Yeah straight people are awful and NOT family.

You don't have to be around straight people OP. Though if you limit who you're around based on their sexual orientation you'll miss out on being with some really great people.

Perhaps op should pretend everyone is latently gay and just needs a gay hug from a fully flowering gay.

[quote]They are fine at the office unless I bring a homemade dish to a potluck. If you think they are "over" their fear of AIDS, guess again.

Straight people are not backward like this anymore in most places. If they're like this where you live, you should move.

I suspect OP wants to surround himself with gay people because he's surrounded by backward, bigoted straight people. If that's the case, he should move too. The straight people I know are funny and smart and sympathetic and enrich my life.

Because you need the eggs.

I read an exchange that I think typifies a "regular bloke" type straight person:

[Quote] Regular Bloke: "G, you going all out for Pride next week?"

[Quote] Gay: "No, I'm not doing it this year."

[Quote] RB: "Oh, good on ya."

[Quote] Woman: "Why is that good?"

[Quote] RB: "Well, uh, you know, uh, it's nice that some, uh, gays aren't all about telling the world they're gay non-stop, uh..."

[Quote] -weird silence-

[Quote] W: "RB, all you talk about is being a parent..."

[Quote] RB: "Yeah, well, uh, some things are, uh, more important than others..."

[Quote] G: "You're saying your 31-minute story the other day about getting your kid a new football kit is more important than social equality?"

[Quote] RB: "Uh..."

[Quote] G&W: -glare-

[Quote] RB: "...Uh..."

The exchange was reported in a light fashion, office banter etc. but I think it evokes that "quick to undermine"/self-importance so common in majority types.

Actually half of my friends right now are straight. They are fine and supportive. (Super liberal and well-educated women and their husbands for the most part). When I was in my 20s and 30s, most of my friends were gay men. I think it's a function of age.

I’m 40, R21, so not a function of age in my case.

I grew up feeling repressed and isolated. I was over 20 before I met another out gay person. I swore back then that I would never feel that isolation again, the feeling of being cut off from other people like me. It’s a promise to myself that I’ve kept and I’m proud of that. It might be the only promise I’ve made to myself that I’ve been able to keep.

If I “miss out” on knowing some great straight people, so be it. The great gay people in my life more than make up for it.

[quote] Worst of all are the ones who work for years at making you think they’re cool with gay people, then they do or say something that shows their true colors.

No, Missy. The worst is being around people who physically beat or harm you.

Save the SJW drama for your mama.

[quote] If you think they are "over" their fear of AIDS, guess again.

Maybe that's still the case in Pigfart, Kentucky. I can't speak for where you live.

But here where I live, in an actual city, that's not the case.

R21, no, it's not a function of age... but of consciousness

Unfortunately, it's always going to be an issue. Many straight people are fine - many are not, but they look like they are.

I just don't trust them in general unless i have proof that they won't be against me or being gay. Sucks to live life this way - but there are too many life experiences that have taught me to be this way. Including my own family.