Have you had any genuinely good Grindr encounters/hookups?

Tons

Yeah, quite a few, but my best were in Miami.

Not in the last few years, but before that - there were a lot of good ones.

Specifically Grindr? No. Scruff yes.

My best hookups came from Craigslist.

Now, everyone wants to ask 100 questions and see 20 pics to decide if you're enough like the porn they jerk off to. Then eventually they disappear. It wasn't like that in the past really.

CL was pretty good in its heyday. Even that got full of super trashy people, but I met a few really good long term hot FBs off there. Not grindr though, oddly enough.

It's hit or miss. If it doesn't give immediately, you fall deep in a rabbits hole.

Grindr and other apps like that killed online sexing.

I can't do online dating or hook-ups. I just can't. It's a problem, but I can't.

I think my best ever was this hunk who was going to tie the knot in a matter of days with his longtime girlfriend/fiancee. He wanted to have fun for the last time in this life, and boy did he ! Great body ! Hot face ! Big dick. He destroyed my ass. I bled for days. I had his phone number, so I begged him to come back. He just never answered my texts.

R10. Please

I said please don't worry.

You bled for days? How fun!!

Well... He was drop dead gorgeous and an alpha, so I was kinda proud he was THAT turned on

Classy.

Nothing was as good as them AOL chats rooms.

At least with AOL chat rooms it’s not the same boring people around you at all times.

I’m tired of looking at my neighbors and ignoring them when we pass each other .

On grindr I thought I had found a good fuck buddy to cumdump to, but mr. bigdick ignores me texts since I dared ask about his STD's statuts, which I think is fair since he's married, seeing other side pieces , and I don't use any kind of protection. Turns out we use the same gym. He gave me the cold shoulder the other say in the lockers room. Wasn't exactly pleased to see me. He ls so fucking hot though.

I met two different boyfriends on Grindr, but no good hookups.

R18 You dodged a bullet. If he isn't willing to just tell you his status he probably hasn't even checked. I feel bad for his wife for multiple reasons.

You can't trust anyone on Grindr.

I had the best obsessive sex hook up with a guy on AOL. We had a repeat then that vibe was over. We kept in touch, and later I worked at his small company for two years at great pay! He's still one of my favorite people. We don't really talk much about how we met, lol.

[quote] My best hookups came from Craigslist.

Me too.

Yes. Lots of it and with minimal hassle. Both at home and on the road.

Check into a hotel, open the app, there's a hot enough guy two floors below who'll blow me before I go to sleep. No need to put a coat on, can just go over in my sweats.

Lots of closeted guys who just wanted quick and safe sex.

In a relationship now, but it had started going downhill about two years ago--lots of catfishing, lots of guys sending you ten nudes before you said "hello" back, lower quality guys, all that.

I get the sense from talking to friends that everyone is waiting for something to replace it.

CL was okay, but every assignation took forever to arrange. Ditto Adam4Adam and ManHunt.

[quote] but every assignation took forever to arrange.

Mary!

"Big words scare me"

Hit or miss. My best sex was with this guy I hooked up in Tampa in early morning. I fucked him twice and he kept asking for more. I had to catch up a flight and had No time for a third round. He was disappointed but I promised to hook up with him the next time I am in town. He has an amazing ass and a great kisser.

Yeah mine was in Miami r27 but late at night. This sexy ass Latino with a huge ass.

This is prompting me to download Grindr for the first time in probably five years and explore.

Grindr sucks. Mostly trans chasers and uncut men. I what there was a filter so I can unfilter all the gross foreskin.

And no one can host!! Sometimes I don't want creeps at my place!

My best hook ups were also with Craigslist, lots of horny guys would answer my ads. It was easy to get a hot piece of ass at 1 AM and they would come to me.

I use it when I am traveling for business... Works great. Let's say I am staying at some large urban business hotel for the night. Pretty easy to find someone right there in the hotel for a quickie.

Scruff sucks. Most people on there are 50+ Eldergays.

Why you think DL loves Scruff, R33?

I've had exactly one 50+ dude on Scruff, and it was by far my most satisfying hookup.

R35 you're lucky. By me I think I see 3 profiles under 48.

Met my husband in the aol chat rooms.

The entire app-based hook-up culture is so foreign to me.

Thank goodness I don’t have to date in these times

CL was best for closeted married gays. Lots of hot sex from all the pent-up horniness

I find a lot of twinks on Scruff looking for a daddy.

I can’t get over how everyone wants to be a puppy these days. I understand fetishes are normal but JFC, so many guys want to be dogs?

Yes. And Imagine my surprise my nephew was only 50 feet away!

R41 Uncle Bottom, please don't tell us that.

I met two guys online (one of Scruff, the other I chatted with on both Scruff and Grindr) who I would consider the best two sexual partners of my life (and I’m somewhere over 300 partners). One was so not my physical type since he was blond and hairy but our connection was amazing and he was the best top I’ve ever experienced.

I just noticed that in the Scruff ads, there's one for Tiffany Caban, who's running for Queens DA. For the record, I was voting for her even before I saw that, but we're in a brave new world, aren't we?

As others have said: Hit and miss. Some countries / cities work better than others. I swear there are more bottoms in Spain, for example… Good for me. That said, there are too many weirdos out there.

I wish there was something of a hybrid between Tinder and Grindr… I like how you can't talk to others unless they like you in return (Tinder), but what I miss are gay-specific filters like top/bottom…

Give us a foreskin filter damn it!

[quote]Sometimes I don't want creeps at my place!

Only sometimes, dear?

I had mentioned that above too, R32

Probably what it is best for, because someone in a hotel who is also looking is actually looking and not just messing around on the apps.

I don't have much luck, because I like to engage in a text conversation before deciding whether or not to hook up, which most of those guys can't stand.

R49 I agree. I live in Miami and it's a nightmare. Guys only want to know two things - (1) into? and (2) now?. I want to have a conversation and get to know someone. I wish there was some alternative to meeting people than apps or bars - I don't do well with either.

[quote]I can’t get over how everyone wants to be a puppy these days. I understand fetishes are normal but JFC, so many guys want to be dogs?

Do you think these are the same guys who smell their dogs' paws?

What about Hinge R50?

Never used it but it is how Mayor Pete met Chasten

Sure, Jan.

Miami is where I get most lucky, and I swear every man is on Grindr there. There’s always new guys there within the same area within hours. Love it.

I slept with over 25 guys within 6 days there.

R54 you are a WHORE

Continuing the whore shaming. R54 is a whore!

You can read about some of my escapades from the thread I made last year

It was a a beautiful week of beach, drinking, weed, coke and fucking.

Yep. At least one a week.

I paid for it and I block the users whom I find are only into chat, trans, are 5's looking for 10's, etc. I like the one-offs the most, but there are a few guys who are partnered or married that I repeat with.

R57 your mother must be sooooo proud!

R59 why open this thread, granny. GTF outta here.

No dinner for you, you disease ridden whore!

When the apps first came out, I lived in Boston. Interactions always started with some mild general conversation and then veered into sextalk.

After about a year, I moved to NYC. I was surprised when each interaction started with “what you into”?

I do wish every gay dating app didn’t de-volve I into a sex-only app. I actually had some pretty good conversations in the early days where it wasn’t always about sex. In fact, I would converse regularly with gays in other parts of the country.

R62 I'm the anti-you. Although Grindr started out billing itself as a "gay chat" app, we all knew it was really a hook-up app. Why else allow display of location, top/bottom, etc.? Unfortunately, some guys misunderstand that a "gay chat" app like Grindr is not for gay "chat;" it is for sex. I want to ask direct questions before I say, "hello," but I always start chit chat first. But within three minutes, I want to know if he's looking to meet now, or not. If not, see ya!

Eric Silverberg, the creator / CEO of Scruff tried to make a friend/chat app. It was called West Fourth. It was supposed to be the friend version of Grindr. It failed. He couldn't get people to sign up, no matter how hard he tried. Then, he made Scruff because the core code was mostly there & he figured he could create a bear alternative to Grindr & maybe it would be more successful. It was 100x more successful, almost instantly. Nobody seems to want to chat or make friends.

I wonder what happens with the people who go to meet-up groups or how many even bother going. Maybe those are better since they are centered around a common interest.

I mean, who wants to go to bars or the baths?

But aren't Hinge and OK Cupid and even Tinder more for guys who are looking for relationships? Or have those devolved into hookup apps too?

The problem is quick sex will ultimately leave everyone feeling bitter and empty and no one will recognize exactly why they feel that way.

Yes, I’ve had some fun, passionate sex from guys on all the apps. It’s not the app; it’s that everyone is one every app.

[quotes ]One was so not my physical type since he was blond and hairy

You just send these my way from now on, OK?

Yes. I remember a really attractive older man asked me to meet him at a swanky hotel. I got to the room and he had just showered and was even more attractive than his picture. He looked a good deal like Bruce Willis. He told me he'd just broken up with his longtime partner and was trying to get back in the dating world. I remember us 69-ing and he fucked me really well. There was something so sweet about him and I think about him often and hope he found love. He seemed like the type who really deserved it.

I also met a guy who ended up being a bit of an asshole, but we saw each other at least once a week for about 9/10 months before he broke it off via text. I was so stunned I couldn't even respond. It was the best sex of my life, though, and I was madly in love with him. He was the first man I ever loved, so I both treasure and mourn the experience. When it was good, it was VERY good. It's one of those things where you can't say it was 100% positive, but it turned me into the person I am today and I wouldn't be the same without having that experience.

One in 10 years. It sucks. Either inane texting chit chat (which is completely different and so much worse than in person small talk) or abs and dick shots. Never know if they are annoying twinks with butch pictures or senior citizens with dated pics. Apps suck. Bars still work best for me. Fortunately live in a city where there are still lots of gay bars.