Should I wish my fuck buddy a Happy Father's Day?

No.

You may say this face to face only.

If you’re not seeing him today, leave him alone.

I would.

If he talks about his kids with you all the time than it's more than just sex and you should text him. Jesus! Why are you so afraid of human interaction?

[quote] If he talks about his kids with you all the time than it's more than just sex and you should text him. Jesus! Why are you so afraid of human interaction?

You never know how a person is going to react.

He could appreciate it, or he could be weirded out by it.

I like him a lot, and I was just thinking about him today, so I wanted to text him.

R5 You know he isn't married or seeing someone. He tells you about the most important part of his life (his kids) He stays over. You guys see each other regularly. I just don't get it. I think it's weirder that you guys don't talk.

That would be kind and thoughtful.

That would be weird. Brothers don't wish eachother a happy father's day.

Is he going to be with his kids today?

If yes, don’t call. He’s with his family.

[quote] If yes, don’t call. He’s with his family.

I would never call. Only text.

We're good, but we're not THAT good.

Do you normally talk to him about things other than the time and place of your next fuck, OP?

If so, then it's fine--he's a friend.

If your conversations are limited to sex, then no.

R11 he already said the guy talks about his kids to him all the time. that's reason enough to text

If hes older than you, text him: “Happy Fathers Day, Daddy🍆🍩”

If you want to give him the gift of your body, then, yes, text him.

I never had a fuckbuddy. Do you guys always go to these lengths to stay so disconnected?

What do you not understand about the term, R15?

R16 the whole buddy part

If you aren't the son of this guy OR you aren't married into being a legal guardian it would be weird to say it.

R13, no! Do not do that - the term "daddy" is too fraught with meaning in sexual relationships. If OP is younger but FB doesn't think of himself as the "daddy" in the relationship, he will be offended. If OP is older, it will sound condescending. At best, FB will wonder if OP is moving the relationship in a different direction. Don't call men "daddy" (unless you've already got a dad-son thing going), even jokingly, when you're not face-to-face to modify the term with your tone of voice and expression. Even then, be careful.

Re OP's question: If he frequently talks about his kids, and especially you have conversations about them - that is, not just him talking, but the two of you exchanging comments about his family - then I think it would be fine to text him about the holiday. I agree with R18 that the specific expression "Happy Father's Day" would sound weird, but why not say something like "I hope you're having a great FD. Talk to you soon"?

What the fuck is wrong with saying something pleasant and vague like: I hope you are having a relaxing Father's Day! For all the guy knows, you sent it as a generic group text to people with kids. If he's going to get his knickers in a twist over something so mild, you don't want him in your orbit, OP.

That said, if it was Valentine's Day, DON'T DO IT.

"I like him a lot, and I was just thinking about him today,"

You may only be a fuck buddy to him, but you are so obviously hoping for something more. Sad, because it's probably not going to happen for you.

[quote]What the fuck is wrong with saying something pleasant and vague like: I hope you are having a relaxing Father's Day!

I'm thinking about who gives and receives cards.

Does a dude who has a night out with his "boys" when they wan't to get away from their wives receive Father's Day cards from his bros? No. That means if you're his fuck buddy, i.e. PEER / friend / whatever that isn't a direct relation, it would be weird. Only wives and sons do this.

“Happy Father’s Day! Now put those little shits to bed, I’m over here on all fours!!!”

It would be weird for me to wish my sister a happy mother's day. That's for her kids to do because she's their MOTHER, or whoever she's with as a couple.

Someone you fuck? Weird.

Who the fuck sends cards these days? How did it devolve into fucking greeting cards? We are talking about a simple text.

Save it for your real father, OP.

what? you guys don't wish other guys Happy Father's Day? I texted that to my brother and two of my straight coworkers today

Weird.

Keep your pie hole SHUT.

It's your other hole he's interested in anyway.

Well, I said fuck it and texted him.

Short and sweet: "Happy father's day to you." + a smiley face.

That was a bout 30 minutes ago. No reply. lol

[quote] Save it for your real father, OP.

Oh lord, R26. Thank you for reminding me.

I didn't even text my own father!!! WTF was I thinking?

I wish women other than my mom Happy Mother’s Day and the same for men on Father’s Day. Doesn’t seem strange to me at all. In fact, I was out for a walk this afternoon and I was greeted with Happy Father’s Day by three separate strangers. I don’t have kids, but I appreciate the spirit.

r30 OP Good for you!

Hah! that's classic, your other head was clearly doing all of thinking.

R12-- I meant do they have text or phone conversations outside of the time they are together, e.g., are they actually friends or is the friendship limited to the time they're together to fuck.

What about wishing his children a happy birthday?

R30 good for you!

[quote]WTF was I thinking?

"Cock". <-- This.

Send him a fun father's day card and, instead of signing it, put some lipstick on your butthole and print that on the card.

Sure, why not, I have two sons. One is in his 30s and one is 4. I think it’s cool when I get wish Happy Father’s Day.

[quote]One is in his 30s and one is 4.

That's quite the age difference.

What you sent was fine, OP. Don't worry about it.

And if he doesn't text you back today, OP don't freak out about it, he might have his phone off while he's hanging out with his kids.

I agree with R40. Even though I wouldn't have used the "Happy FD" phrase itself, it's not that big a deal. If he's going to freak out over that, he is either (a) so easily freaked out that he will drive you nuts over time or (b) looking for a reason to pick a fight or worse.

No. You're just a fuckbuddy.

You're just a booty call.

R39 - it is. First one was unplanned and the second time was as a sperm donor for my friend. Both guys are awesome.

Very uncool OP

No you should not.

Let us know if he responds!

No! You're just his cumdump. Don't make your relationship out to be anything more than that.

He responded, R47.

It was just a simple "thumbs up" to my Happy Father's Day message.

That's not unusual, though, because he does that for everything. Even if he says he's coming over to fuck me, and I respond with a simple "ok," he still gives me that silly "thumbs up" message.

So he basically acknowledged my text in his usual way. Yay! :o)

R49 aww... that's nice! :)

R5 Sure. Do it. He talks about his kids so that part of his life isn’t off limits

Yay OP, I knew it would be fine. Aren't you glad you did it now?

Who knows? This could lead to a deeper connection.

It's the little things...

You couldn't be any trashier if you were a Trump supporter, OP.

OP was just clocked as a 'needy bottom' by his sperm donor and is about to enter a soul crushing sex drought.

You're such a hopeless romantic, R54.

Enjoy those two bottles of wine tonight. With your cat.

Speaking of hopeless, I trust you didn't spend long thinking that up, R55. That cliche is creaky and older than even you I imagine.

OP is in love!

The fact that he stays over and discusses his children signifies that he views OP as more than just a cumdump fuckbuddy. I could see this relationship going further, but both sides seem afraid to take the plunge.

If you don’t know how he’d react, it sounds like you really don’t know him that well. I vote no.

if you're not his son, No.

Even if he's your 'daddy,' no.

R53 I AM a Trump supporter.

OP