Would you break up with someone who doesn't like your dog?

You are NOT getting rid of the dog.

Your boyfriend will leave you the second someone with a bigger dick comes along

Your dog will never leave you.

Choose.

Unless you and your dog are fucking; the choice is quite obvious. Its a a lot easier to get a new pet than it is to find love.

How likely are you to find another, equally attractive top at your age?

Probably. Honestly, that he and I weren't compatible about my pet would lead me to realize that we were incompatible in other ways, I'm sure. Unless you've already married or bought a home with him, OP (which takes you from 'seeing him/dating' to 'serious relationship' status), then try to see what you can do, to get BF to come around about Fido.

Throw the whole man away.

Is your BF actually jealous of your dog? What's the core issue?

You can always find another boyfriend. But where will you find another dog like yours?

Bitch before hoes.

Is your dog out of control - behavior wise? Take your dog to a trainer. If your BF is jealous of the attention you give your dog, then tone it down a bit when the bf is around.

If you're one of those that takes your dog with you everywhere, then you should stop doing that anyway - no sane person would want to put up with that.

[quote] You can always find another boyfriend. But where will you find another dog like yours?

It is much more difficult to find a a human being with whom you are compatible, than a pet. A new home for the dog will make it equally as happy as it is now.

Completely depends on WHY he hates your dog.

However, if he ever gave you an ultimatum, then you have your answer - dump the guy's sorry ass.

It is extremely difficult and utterly exhausting to be in a relationship with people who lack fundamental interpersonal skills. An ultimatum over a dog, a dog I'm assuming you had before you met him, is a sign that he lacks those basic skills, as well as the ability to compromise. If he can't compromise on something as trivial as a pet, what chance is there going to be on bigger relationship issues.

The issue is not about choosing a dog over a person. It's what his behavior about and toward the dog should tell you about him. When people tell you who they are, listen to them.

Then again, you may be batshit, so who can say.

A dog will provide you with unconditional love. A human will provide you with a lotta shit you don't need.

Its a bad sign. Boyfriend sounds like misery ahead

How old is the dog? You're going to lose the dog in a number of years anyway with or without the bf.

Dump the BF. Pets are family.

A bf who wants you to get rid of your dog is a cold hearted asshole and you don’t want to be with him

OP, what problem does your bf have with the dog? You haven't given us enough to go on.

OK, lest sort this out. If he loves you and generally hates dogs, he should suck it up and make peace with the dog because it makes you happen AND the dog was there before he was.

Conversely, if that dog is in the bed with you instead of on the floor or in his own space then you need to grow the fuck up and realize your dog is not your boyfriend. Your dog is a pet. Your boyfriend is your boyfriend. The two are not the same.

Should you get rid of the dog for the other guy? Absolutely not. But one of you or both of you need to compromise somewhere.

What kind of shallow bitch gets rid of his dog for another bitch?

[quote] A bf who wants you to get rid of your dog is a cold hearted asshole and you don’t want to be with him

You animal people are so ridiculous. Owning a pet does not make you warmhearted, nor does it make you a good person. The desire to not own or be exposed to the pets of others does not make you an asshole. Plenty of wonderful people just do not like pets for any number of reasons and there are plenty of assholes who own pets. Many of those assholes cannot manage relationships with people. Which is probably the case for most of the people responding here.

OP if you love this man and the relationship is serious. Find the dog a new home. Or you can take the advice of lonely dataloungers who prefer pets because they cannot manage relationships with people. A pet cannot give you what another human being can.

Does your dog like your boyfriend? Unless the dog causes a problem like allergies or is badly behaved then most people would know not to tell their partner just how much they hate your dog. R12 is right the fact that he makes is so obvious shows that he lacks interpersonal skills and that's just exhausting to deal with.

R21 Most people would just feel sorry for you since you obviously lack the empathy needed to have ever formed a close bond with a pet. You've deluded yourself into thinking you're the normal one for not liking pets or animals when that's actually extremely unusual. You're lacking and it probably shows to everyone around you after all most people consider hating pets or animals a red flag.

OP has been outed on the internet.

What kind of an asshole doesn’t like a dog?

Choosing to keep an animal imprisoned and dependent on you for its life is not an act of affection. You spay and neuter them. You control their bathroom use. It's slavery. And you think because the captive mutilated trained pet shows you affection, that is really just Stockholm syndrome, justifies your actions is the height disrespect and selfishness.

Wait, OP. You aren't the dog fucker from this thread, are you? If you are...its not the dog, it's you that your BF has the issue with.

And rightly so, OMG

R26...I like your thoughts on this. I always thought pet ownership is overrated. Many pet owners mentally unstable and are actually quite selfish. Learn to be a man (or woman) on your own two feet. Quit being so dependent on animals. Dump the dog.

[R21] hello donnie trump

R26 has a good point, however, dogs and to a lesser degree cats have been domesticated AKA bred to be man's best friend. They have literally been genetically selected to respond to our facial expression, key into our emotions and love and protect us. This is not the same with a cow, chicken, bird or any other animals even though you can bond with those as well. Those animals can go back into the wild and be fine. A domesticated dog or cat has a 50/50 or less of survival if thrown back into the wild. Their natural instincts have been largely bred out of them, what we see is only a shadow of that behavior.

To me it would be like dating someone who didn't like your child.

r26, it's not always like that. Every dog I've ever had was probably not going to make it without me.

The first dog was because my aunt didn't spay her dog. She was going to take the puppies to the pound. My mom took one, and that dog lived to be 13.

My second dog was a crazy story. I bought a house. I came home from work, and the prior owner just dumped her dog in the back yard.

The third dog was a similar story to first only it was a coworker. I took one. He lived to be 16.

The dog I have now is because someone I sort of knew was going to jail for 30 days, and he would come get him "when he got back on his feet." This dog I really liked, so I said, "sure," knowing dang well what would happen. This has been my favorite dog. I'll miss him when he dies. He's 15 now.

The point is, I didn't do anything to make these dogs come into being. They were already here, and if I hadn't stepped in, they probably wouldn't have had a better home than with me. It may not be the life they were meant to have, but other than dog #2, they all lived a natural life.

Are you one of those people who assumes everyone else wants your dog on the bed, at the dinner table, yapping incessantly, because those things don't bother you personally?

[quote] [R21] Most people would just feel sorry for you since you obviously lack the empathy needed to have ever formed a close bond with a pet. You've deluded yourself into thinking you're the normal one for not liking pets or animals when that's actually extremely unusual. You're lacking and it probably shows to everyone around you after all most people consider hating pets or animals a red flag.

I don't like animals. Although as I stated before many people do for various reasons. I however, like many, don't want to own and live with one. There is nothing "unusual" about that. I prefer relationships with human beings. Pretending that pets are humans does not make you more empathetic; it makes you insane.

[quote] [R26], it's not always like that. Every dog I've ever had was probably not going to make it without me.

And . . .

What does this bit of speculation have to do with anything?

I hate to tell you this OP but if he really liked you he would make an effort to get along with your dog.

Agree with R35. He's probably been miserable in the relationship for months, knows you adore the dog and has grasped onto that, as a way to break up with you, by making you do the breaking up for him. He believes you'll choose the dog over him, actually is counting on it.

Just move on, OP. It's fine. You and the BF weren't meant to be.

When you adopted the dog, OP... you made a commitment. Now it's time to honor that commitment.

[quote] When you adopted the dog, OP... you made a commitment. Now it's time to honor that commitment.

Its a pet, not a child. It will be equally as happy in a new home.

R38 not in yours though you are shit.

r38 = Willard Romney

r34 I think the point the poster was making was s/he did not go out and get a dog to have a trendy breed, or plug an emotional hole a human would fill; it was pure chance.

r35 that depends on why he dislikes the dog. Even dog lovers can have breed traits or general behaviours that are dealbreakers. That's especially true if it's about the dog--but it really isn't, i.e. the dog jumps and barks because OP lets him.

Of course I'd break up with a guy who didn't like my dog. Fuck that. He's a sociopath.

r38, you are missing the point. The dog is just an excuse. The BF is going to dump the OP anyway. I've seen this happen.

OP isn't responding at all. I'm guessing that the dog is a "problem breed"

OP, you give no reason at all for why your bf "hates" your dog.

If your boyfriend truly hates the dog because he's a thin-skinned and selfish, then obviously you're better off dumping him and finding somebody else.

But saying that he hates the dog with zero mention of his what his complaints are... I think we'd all like to hear what your arguments have been about. We're here for the [bold]Bitchfest[/bold], after all.

You'll probably both be happier with other people, but be honest with yourself about which one of you is expecting an awful lot.

r44 if you mean a bully breed, I think you're on the wrong site.

It's more likely, if it really happened, that it's one of those handbag yap 'n snaps that become style appendages, nasty and coddled little bastards.

Yes, what breed is your dog, OP? And what does it do that annoys your bf so much? If it's a pitbull that snarls, slobbers, and stares at your bf's throat one could understand.

[quote]Does your dog like your boyfriend? Unless the dog causes a problem like allergies

He’s not allergic but his daughter is.

Unless your dog is Cujo, the fact that your bf hates the dog is cause for handing him his hat.

he would have never made to 'boyfriend' IF HE DID NOT LIKE DOGS.

and YES Better late that never you are a horrible dad to put your child thru all those bad vibes from that jerk. that poor dog.

a dog != a human child

R21 is some cold mofo.

This may be an EST - since we have no additional info from OP. Like R21 / R34 I don’t like animals either - so I’d never consider seriously dating a guy who had a dog in the first place - there’s a fundamental compatibility issue . I doubt OP & BF got this far if BF is another “no pets” kind of guy - so there must be something about the dog that OP doesn’t want to admit.

R26 so true! Off to the glue factory for the lot of them!

I could never get rid of Mr. Wiskers. OP, you poor pet.

I've been around insufferable dogs. I've been around insufferable boyfriends. This is a hard call.

Yes, I would break up with the guy and it would be easy for me.

Some of you are conflating a pet with a romantic relationship. Apples and oranges. A dog provides you with a parent/child relationship, with none of the drama of real children.

If you raised that dog since puppyhood, it looks to you as the parent/leader. This "child" won't ever abandon you. If you abandon it, it will suffer from the separation. You think only humans form bonds and feel emotional pain? Scientific studies say otherwise.

Yes, a dog also won't ever grow up and be independent like a human child. But it probably won't outlive you either. A dog accepts you as you are, warts and all. No judgment and constant loyalty. It would risk its life to protect you. How many boyfriends would do that: love you unconditionally, stay faithful, and sacrifice his well-being to save yours? Not many, I'm sure.

I would choose my pet over a boyfriend, just as I would choose my human child over a spouse, if it came to that.

Those of you who would casually discard an older animal like an inconvenient accessory – don't ever get a pet. You don't deserve one.

Keep the boyfriend and give me your dog.

Well said, R57. Personally, I'd be afraid the dog-hating boyfriend might hit or kick the dog when you aren't looking.

If you get rid of your dogs I hope you get all sorts of STDs.

Thank you, R59.

I understand your concern. Sounds like the boyfriend hates animals in general. He doesn't have any real connection to the dog, so why can't he just tolerate it? Why does it enter into personal hatred? The OP doesn't mention any bad behavior on the dog's part.

[quote]Sounds like the boyfriend hates animals in general.

No, it doesn't. It doesn't sound anything like that. You're making up details from your own head.

Not everyone who hates a dog hates all dogs, or hates animals in general, that's silly emotional thinking. It could be that OP spoils an obnoxious dog that has behavior and territory problems; it's not unheard of.

I'll take OP's bf.

I would NEVER associate, much less sleep, with anyone who didn't like animals. People who don't like animals can not be trusted. There something fundamentally wrong with them, upstairs. They should be shunned at all opportunities.

More emotional thinking. You're a woman, yes?

OP, tie up your BF and your dog and lock them in your car trunk. Drive around recklessly at high speed over rough, rocky roads for an hour. When you get back and let them out, which one is glad to see you?

R21 is the only one making sense here. You weird ass animal people. Ewww.

I broke up with someone because I didn’t like his dogs.

I couldn’t take it anymore. Two of the stupidest dogs on the planet, Afghans. Constantly having to be yelled at, chased, admonished. Nasty fur EVERYWHERE. stinky. Just gross all-around. The guy was fine. We had similar interests, fun in the sack, cute, a bit older which I liked back then.

But the dogs...NASTY! Bye-bye.

R67 Glad to see someone understands the other side of the story.

[quote] The desire to not own or be exposed to the pets of others does not make you an asshole.

Yes it does, asshole. You pet haters are genetically inferior.

[quote]You're making up details from your own head. [quote]It could be that OP spoils an obnoxious dog that has behavior and territory problems; it's not unheard of.

The OP said nothing of the sort, so what you're also doing is speculating on the situation without the benefit of any details.

Are you capable of smelling the hypocrisy of your own statement, R62?

Humans aren't creatures of pure logic. These comments associating emotion with being unmanly (as if only women should display tears and distress) is such bullshit and indicative of the rigid gender roles some sad queens buy into.

And anyone who musters enough emotion to hate an animal – not dislike, but HATE – to the point it threatens a relationship is hardly a keeper. Is that really the hill he wants to die on?

R70 [quote]The OP said nothing of the sort

Agreed. That's why I said it [italic]could[/italic] be the case. I didn't say it was. I didn't draw a conclusion by saying "it sounds like .........."

You seem angry and emotional about this.

There are bad dogs out there. It is possible, though unconfirmed, that OP has one.

There's a big different between hating a dog and being frightened of a dog. One is irrational, the other is justified (if the dog is vicious).

I’d definitely break up with him but it would have nothing to do with the dog, but more to do with what the situation says about the guy.

[quote]It is much more difficult to find a a human being with whom you are compatible, than a pet.

In my opinion, the human’s ability to associate with the pet is part of that compatibility you describe.

[quote]It is much more difficult to find a a human being with whom you are compatible, than a pet.

This would never be an issue with me because his disdain for my pet would automatically render him incompatible.

OP should not dump a decent guy unless there are valid reasons for his lover to split due to dog. Who knows, the dog may be eating shoes, books, basically everything. A trait I hate from a certain Golden Retriever. More facts are needed. Does he bark all night, Whine incessantly?

If a guy is inseparable from his dog it’s a deal breaker for me. I’m not going to compete with a dog. Not interested.

[quote]indicative of the rigid gender roles some sad queens buy into.

I'm in total agreement with R57.

There is a fundamental and irreconcilable difference between people who love animals and people who don't. If it's just a short term fling, go for it. But don't try to build a life or a family with an animal-hater: there is something wrong in the empathy department.

[quote]You seem angry and emotional about this.

Pffft! Hardly, R71. That's a reach. Is this how you debate on a topic, by implying the person who disagrees with you is somehow out of control? You can't prove your point effectively, so you make it a personal attack. Really?

Maybe, IT COULD BE that you can't handle an opinion that doesn't align with yours.

"Sounds like" is not much different than "it could be". Both aren't statements of fact. Both are assumptions being made based on what's available. Try harder.

[quote]his disdain for my pet would automatically render him incompatible.

I know you. You're that stupid bitch at the restaurant, movies, mall, doctor's office, elevator, or grocery store who allows her child to run rampant, then attacks all who lodge complaints or criticisms against it.

[quote]Is this how you debate on a topic

There's no debate, lady. You're wrong.

(R78) Some people can show affection to animals but have trouble with other humans. I am middle of the road. I enjoy not have the chores associated with pets, but do like a few cats and dogs. I have great empathy with humans. I just don't want the hassle of a dog or cat.

R81: Except I'm a gay guy, not a woman, you clueless twat.

How terribly funny: here you are whining about me making up details in my own head while you are guilty of the same, to an asinine degree.

Don't think I didn't notice your sad attempt to be patronizing, since you assumed I was female. Wow, some gay men really exceed straight men when it comes to misogyny

I don’t think it’s an issue of empathy. More like a lack of maturity on the part of the animal lover.

Oh, baby, on some level...you're a woman, or you wouldn't have been so quick to jump to the emotional conclusion that the guy doesn't like animals.

You just don't like it because I smelled your bullshit early on, and you won't let it go.

Keep reaching, fool.

Let's see...you're basically calling every commenter who criticized the boyfriend...women? *clutches pearls* *looks for a fainting couch*

There are plenty of dog defenders here and not all are women, so labeling our reactions as an "emotional conclusion", a woman thing, is more of your absurdity.

Like a butthurt troll you replied to me first with your dumbass complaint about how awful I was to make assumptions, then contradicted your whole point by making unfounded assumptions yourself. Next, you tried defending your hypocrisy by writing some weak ass excuse using semantics.

Your head is so deep in your ass it's no wonder you can't smell the stench of your own hypocrisy. Your high school douchebag drama is tiresome.

Does your dog smell OP? Many dogs smell atrocious, and their owners don't seem to notice - the whole house can reek of the smelly dog. It's awful.

[quote]I don't like animals. I prefer relationships with human beings.

It's not an either-or situation and it's weird that you always frame it as though it is. I suspect you're just trolling, but you've been posting the same boring things about pet people being insane for so fucking long that I think you may be serious.

And no, anthropomorphism is not a sign of insanity, you dingbat.

R88 Yea I suspect they are being dead serious. I really love these comments from the animal haters in this thread because they're taking it so personally that you know they've had a lifetime of been thought of as weirdos or being dumped before for not liking animals.

Only one of them needs to die OP.

OP what about breaking up with someone YOUR DOG doesn't like?

Sheriff Buford T. Justice sez: "Barbecue his ass!"

You decide which, the BF or the dog.

A straight, female friend of mine is married to a man who had a young dog she couldn't stand when they first got together. She tolerated the dog, and the boyfriend agreed to keep it confined to just part of the house. They were able to compromise on it and get married. The dog has since died of old age, and I notice they didn't get another one.

I'd say it depends on how much the boyfriend will tolerate your dog, OP. If he's willing to compromise, I don't see why you can't all tolerate each other. If he's mean to or threatens the dog, I'd kick him to the curb.

Yes, I would break up with him. My dogs come first.

God, I hope you’re not Brandon and this is about Richard not liking Charlie, because that will break a lot of hearts on this forum!

[quote]It is much more difficult to find a a human being with whom you are compatible, than a pet.

Where in this story is a compatible human mentioned?

R57 they probably don't deserve a boyfriend either.

Here's a different perspective. You should break up. Not because of the dog, but because if you are so emotionally immature that you seek relationship advice from strangers on the internet instead of discussing and resolving the issue with your boyfriend, you are too emotionally immature to be in a relationship.

Well, smell Dear Abby!

OP here. Thanks and here are more details:

My dog is a rescue half chihuahua half Jack Russell and can be very aggressive at times and nervous around strangers

She barks at my bf all the time but will stop after a few minutes

My bf claims he's just not into dogs, cats, etc ....he has never had a pet ever. He's not outright mean to my dog he's more indifferent

I am not one of those people who take my dog everywhere I think I am reasonable....yet when I have to walk her or feed her etc he gets impatient and obviously thinks he should come first.

He barely tries to pet her or hold her. I think she can tell he doesn't like her

I can not imagine giving my dog up and surrendering her....not an option. If he can't accommodate I'd dump him

Your BF knows that your Pooch has got his number! Poochie knew that trick inside and out from the moment he showed up! Pets are sensitive like that. The real issue you need to examine is why your dog doesn't like your BF. I'm sure that it's a mutual dislike. Don't leave the dog alone with the BF. You know what to do when the BF hits you with a power-play demanding you choose. Give him the boot!

You claim to be the OP and then at the end of your "more details". You come to a recommendation you give yourself? Are you schizoid along with emotionally immature. You should definitely be alone with your pet slave surrogate. You are definitely not ready for adult human relationship.

What does the dog do when the BF fucks you and you are moaning in ecstasy?

He licks his balls. Choose your own antecedents. It's your fantasy.

I agree with R10

[quote]yet when I have to walk her or feed her etc he gets impatient and obviously thinks he should come first.

He can't handle you spending a couple minutes putting food in a bowl? Come on, that's not normal and you know it.

[quote]Are you schizoid along with emotionally immature.

The Schizoid Troll is boring.

R107 Are you talking to us or yourself again? Or are you talking to your dog because no one else will listen to your pointless self-indulgent nonsense.

Yes, I would.

[quote] OP here. Thanks and here are more details: My dog is a rescue half chihuahua half Jack Russell and can be very aggressive at times and nervous around strangers She barks at my bf all the time but will stop after a few minutes

Even someone who likes pets; might not enjoy a barking chihuahua/Jack Russell mix.

[quote] My bf claims he's just not into dogs, cats, etc ....he has never had a pet ever. He's not outright mean to my dog he's more indifferent

He stated his boundaries. Apparently you thought your barking dog would change his mind.

[quote] He barely tries to pet her or hold her. I think she can tell he doesn't like her

Why would he; he already told you that he doesn't like pets.

[quote] I can not imagine giving my dog up and surrendering her....not an option. If he can't accommodate I'd dump him

Dump him. Then tell any other potential date/boyfriend they must love your annoying dog. See how that works out. Your dog is running your life.

This is what's going to happen, OP. You're going to get rid of the dog and the BF is going to dump you anyway, sooner or later, for one silly reason or another.

Keep the dog.

Did he ask you to get rid of the dog?

R21 everything EXCEPT unconditional love...

I think the BF & the OP are equally to blame for the situation - they both have known what the other guy prefers and thought the other guy would somehow “change.” They both need to amicably admit that it’s not going to work and move on like grownups with minimal to no drama.

OP, as a fellow no-pets guy myself I’m pretty sure even if you owned Lassie your BF world not be into her, would resent the dig and you world resent him.

If you were to go no-dog for the rest of your life to be with him you’d most likely resent it. Maybe there’s another big sacrifice he could make in return to accommodate something else you really want but he’s meh about - but pets are too emotionally loaded an issue - see many of the replies above.

As an out “no-pets” guy I have indeed received a lot of shit from animal people for simply stating my preference for how I live my life, while never disparaging their choice to live one. It’s rather telling.

^^To live with one. The no edit thing around here is annoying.

Dog. Dump bf.

I'll take your dog.

loser. 👎

[quote] [R21] everything EXCEPT unconditional love...

Are you offering anyone "unconditional love?"

I would not have to think about it twice. The guy is toast. NEVER allow anyone who doesn't like your dog into your life. He is not a good person. No good/decent person dislikes an animal for any reason. Afraid of an animal is something else but dislike, evil is shooting out all over that person. The same goes for cats, birds and any other pet someone might have. Gotta admit I am not a fan of insects and snakes and rodents but if it were a clean house pet I'd try to learn to love it.

Years ago I had a friend who had a cat and asked her prospective girlfriend if that would be a problem. GF says it wouldn't. When things got more serious, GF says it is a problem. My friend is understandably pissed and, IIRC, dumps the GF.

[quote] I would not have to think about it twice. The guy is toast. NEVER allow anyone who doesn't like your dog into your life. He is not a good person. No good/decent person dislikes an animal for any reason. Afraid of an animal is something else but dislike, evil is shooting out all over that person. The same goes for cats, birds and any other pet someone might have. Gotta admit I am not a fan of insects and snakes and rodents but if it were a clean house pet I'd try to learn to love it

No ma'am.

Some people don't like pets and for any number of reasons, from allergies to phobias to bad childhood experiences.

Most people who don't like pets are not bad and everyone who loves pets is not good.

You animal are nuts! Judging someone's entire existence based upon their pet preference is idiotic to say the least.

And yet, r122, I am somehow quite certain you are someone I do not wish to know any better.

I wouldn't want some smelly, needy little shit barking at me constantly in my life either, OP. Everything about a dog is a annoying when it's not your own. Your boyfriend so far it tolerant, you need to make adjustments pronto. The most important one being do NOT let your dog bark at him, period. It's obnoxious and aggressive.

OP, this thread ought to show you...you and your BF aren't compatible. It isn't even that you have a dog, or the type of dog, its that you are one type of person and he is another.

And that's ok! Everyone is entitled to their own preferences but, in relationships, preferences should be similar for maximum harmony.

Break up now and move on. The sooner you do, the better it will be for everyone.

[QUOTE]The most important one being do NOT let your dog bark at him, period. It's obnoxious and aggressive.

Probably not as obnoxious and aggressive as r124, though.

Even the pet-loving people bark and are aggressive to those they deem "not good people".

Here’s the thing, if the bf didn’t like dogs/doesn’t like this dog, why did he start dating the OP? If you don’t have a pet and/or aren’t an animal lover, why enter into a relationship with an animal lover/pet owner.

I love my cat more than anyone else in the world. He is like a child to me and is the best, most loyal and friendliest cat on the planet. If you don’t like cats or don’t like my cat, fine, but don’t start dating me either. It’s only going to be a problem down the road.

Unless you are completely dense or naive, don’t start dating a person with a child or a pet if you aren’t ready to include that child or pet into your life too.

Yes. I would.

[quote] Here’s the thing, if the bf didn’t like dogs/doesn’t like this dog, why did he start dating the OP? If you don’t have a pet and/or aren’t an animal lover, why enter into a relationship with an animal lover/pet owner. I love my cat more than anyone else in the world. He is like a child to me and is the best, most loyal and friendliest cat on the planet. If you don’t like cats or don’t like my cat, fine, but don’t start dating me either. It’s only going to be a problem down the road. Unless you are completely dense or naive, don’t start dating a person with a child or a pet if you aren’t ready to include that child or pet into your life too.

Pets are pets. They are not human. They are not children.

Two people make the decision to date for any number of reasons.

You obviously are not a pet owner, R130. I don’t care if you view pets as children or not. I’m telling that’s how I view my cat and many pet owners believe the same.

All I’m saying is, if you have the view that they are not children, don’t date someone who does view them as children. It will only cause severe conflict in the future.

My cat IS my child. (Yes, I am telling you NOW so I don’t have to tell you THEN.)

[quote]A dog provides you with a parent/child relationship

It provides you with a pet / owner relationship.

Dogs and cats communicate overwhelmingly nonverbally by reading energy. Your dog does not like your BF's energy. That doesn't mean the relationship cannot improve, but you must assess how much your BF is willing to compromise and get to know and love your dog as well as you.

If he doesn't want to or is emotionally unable to, part ways amicably and find a dog loving BF.

[quote]Dogs and cats communicate overwhelmingly nonverbally by reading energy.

Here we go.

Get rid of the boyfriend....he seems controlling. Besides, people who do not like dogs are psychotic.

Yes the dog comes first

Don't take advice from a bunch bitter elders whose pets are the only thing in life that has not disappointed them. Assuming you are still youngish experience the roller coaster of human relationships while you can. Save becoming the crazy pet person for when you tire of humanity and want to give up on happiness.

[quote] You obviously are not a pet owner, [R130]. I don’t care if you view pets as children or not. I’m telling that’s how I view my cat and many pet owners believe the same. All I’m saying is, if you have the view that they are not children, don’t date someone who does view them as children. It will only cause severe conflict in the future. My cat IS my child. (Yes, I am telling you NOW so I don’t have to tell you THEN.)

Call it whatever you choose. Its not a child. Its a pet. They are not the same.

As I stated before 2 people decide to date or start a relationship based upon many different factors.

Your pet may run your life but that's not true of all pet owners.

[quote] My dog is a rescue half chihuahua half Jack Russell and can be very aggressive at times and nervous around strangers

OP, that is something you should have been dealing with long before now. It needs remedial training and whether you ditch your boyfriend or not your dog's behavior is unacceptable. That behavior is going to end up with a bite and maybe your dog being ordered euthanized.

Didn't you mention your boyfriend has a child? Well then he has a good reason to be wary of your dog. His child comes before any dog. And if you were to get serious with anyone who has a child then you should also be putting that child before your dog.

Get that dog to a proper trainer now.

[quote]OP here. Thanks and here are more details:

[quote]My dog is a rescue half chihuahua half Jack Russell

You can stop right there.

[quote]and can be very aggressive at times and nervous around strangers

[quote]She barks at my bf all the time

Ah, so now comes the rest of the story. Say no more.

Hey, r86 (in your case, the "R" stands for "retard") - who's the amateur now?

The situation with the dog is exactly what I said it could be, but [italic]you,[/italic] you big fuckin' woman, had to take the emotional route and decide that it [italic]has[/italic] to be that the boyfriend doesn't like dogs.

I have Wednesday free; you may come lick my dirty asshole at that time.

From another thread:

[quote]They're typical entitled "mommies" (dogs or kids, doesn't matter.) Everyone, of COURSE shares in their joy and resignation over the antics of the little ones. Entitled fucks.

This describes at least half of you people in this thread.

That guy in the video knows the dog licks his ass. He knows the dog licks other dogs asses. Yet he gets off on the dog licking the inside of his mouth. Does he also enjoy fucking the dog?

[quote]I wouldn't want some smelly, needy little shit barking at me constantly in my life either, OP

So does he dump the bf or the dog?

OP, I called it at r46.

"Pets are pets. They are not human."

Nobel committee, we have a candidate for your award.

"If you don't want an animal in your home you must be a sociopath" uh, okay.

It sounds as though OP refuses to accept the truth that he has a problem dog. It shouldn't be allowed to bark at the boyfriend, and saying that it can be very aggressive suggests that OP is content with that.

It may be that the boy friend doesn't dislike dogs: he dislikes OP's dog, and so would a lot of people. It isn't acceptable to let your dog bark at (in fact, perhaps, menace) your boy friend. There are ways to curb that even without resorting to professional training.

It's not OP who should break up with the boyfriend. The boyfriend should break up with OP.

All three in that triangle sound like shits.

What if you dumped your dog for your bf. And then you guys break up later. Would you be able to live with yourself. Your bfs love should be as unconditional as your dogs. Never throw love away.

[quote]Dogs and cats communicate overwhelmingly nonverbally by reading energy. Your dog does not like your BF's energy.

Is there simply no way to force people to think rationally?

[quote]pronto

Ugh

Yeah what kind of freak hates someone’s pet so much?

Awww, Little Internet Tough Guy R140 thinks he achieved a victory. Do you want a cookie, boy? Better yet, you deserve a dog biscuit.

Must be the highlight of your fuckwit existence to discover that OP agreed with your speculation. Such an astounding achievement – alert the media!

You can't even defend, much less acknowledge, your ludicrous hypocrisy (complaining in previous posts about people speculating while you're making speculations AT THE SAME TIME. Why so silent on this point, hmmm?

[quote]My bf claims he's just not into dogs, cats, etc In other words, OP's boyfriend doesn't like dogs. I WAS RIGHT, OF COURSE. "Not into" ≠ like

[quote]I can not imagine giving my dog up and surrendering her....not an option. If he can't accommodate I'd dump him. Translation for your simpleton mind: If OP has to choose, THE BOYFRIEND GETS KICKED TO THE CURB. The dog is aggressive because she knows the boyfriend can't be trusted. The chihuahua gets to watch boyfriend's sorry ass leaving OP's front door for the last time. LQTM.

My solution is the one OP will follow. R140, pray tell, how you are winning?

A starving stray dog wouldn't lick your prolapsed, boil-infested asshole, not even if I gave him your mom's tongue. And you are an amateur because you copied my insults and phrasing, since you couldn't come up with your own ideas. Apparently, you're a mental midget. Maybe you're better off pulling shit out your ass, 'cause it couldn't get any worse.

You are an asshat and a full-time misogynist. If you aren't some sad queen who pays junkies to nibble on your psoriatic taint, then you are some incel nonentity who blames women for every problem in his life.

Commenters who sympathized with the dog are women to you, as if it's some terrible insult to be called a woman. You believe that the emotion of empathy is somehow a failing and something only women should have? Are you sociopathic as well as misogynistic? That would explain a lot.

So, if that's the case, you must worship at the altar of the douchebro steroid gods. Their statues are the ones with the micropricks and the shriveled nuts. They look like you, except they have muscles.

I can see you doing your uncoordinated and spasmic celebratory dance over what amounts to NOTHING.

[quote]Do you want a cookie, boy? Better yet, you deserve a dog biscuit.

Either way, as long as I can ram it dry up your ass.

And yeah, you little bitch, I was right all along -about the dog, and about you.

Choke on it.

[quote]It sounds as though OP refuses to accept the truth that he has a problem dog

Don't tell dog fanatic r152, she'll lose her shit on you.

Our husband's dog did not like our dog so divorce was just a matter of time....

R153 Except you are not right, troll. OP dumps boyfriend and favors his aggressive little chihuahua/terrier mix.

I WIN, YAY!

It must burn your little brain cells that the dog-hater gets his ass kicked out on the street. That's where he and YOU belong.

You are a sociopath, it's so easy to see. You are also a troll. The highlight of your pathetic existence right now are the little crumbs I throw your way. You've been waiting these many hours for me to reappear. Well here I am troll, ready to hand your sorry ass back to you, yet again.

Poor widdle baby needs attenshun, 'cause mommy & daddy regret you were even conceived.

Oh, how PATHETIC at 154. Now you're trying to enlist other commenters to aid you in your failure.

Enjoy my crumbs, little bitch.

It hardly matters. Bad dogs are still bad dogs.

Also,

this v v v v v

[quote]OP dumps boyfriend and favors his aggressive little chihuahua/terrier mix.

^ ^ ^ ^ Didn't happen, loony girl. You just cobbled that together from scraps floating around in your head.

Get a big burlap sack, a rope, and a cinder block. Go to a bridge or cliff over a deep body of water. Put the non-four legged part of the problem in the sack, drugged if you have to, and push the sack over. Be sure the cinder block falls at the at the same time.

I'll tell you what a dog is: a commitment. You can’t just up and go. You have to consider the dog. Also: they consume at lot of money. Flea meds . Tick prevention. Grooming. Vacuuming. Cleaning. The dog consumes a light cord. (True) a specialist at Cornell and six thousand dollars later, not two months later the stupid thing gets hit by a car and back to Cornell to have a rod inserted in its leg. The damn thing lived to sixteen. My brother's dog.

R21 is obviously a serial killer so I don't know anyone is wasting time on that pet hating trash bag. OP, your dog gives you unconditional love and is your child. And your bf hates your child. There is no choice. Bf has to learn to love the dog or you gotta cut that dude loose!

The pet obsessives are very invested in the whole if you don't love pets you are a psych narrative. As if projecting mental illness on others makes them look more sane. There are lots of mentally healthy pet owners. Unfortunately there aren't many in this thread.

[quote] "Pets are pets. They are not human." Nobel committee, we have a candidate for your award. —For idiocy

Says the idiot who can't figure out how to quote a previous post properly.

This thread has degenerated. Hope you two rabid bitches (pun intended) are having fun, because you’re boring everyone else. I’m outta here. Enjoy!

I would never date someone who had a dog.

Well, if i were the new or potential boyfriend, when I found out that OP owned a Chihuaha/Jack Russell mix of a mutt, I'd say 'buh-bye' immediately.

Christ, what a girly dog for a man to have.

PLUS, the crossbreed is an immediate recipe for disaster - Jack Russell's are awful pets unless you have an estate-sized house where they can run around until they pass out from fatigue and a Chihuaha? Nothing but a shivering and yappy rat-sized mess.

Now, it the potential bf had a Lab or a Gold Retriever or a Boxer, well that's a different story.

I had two friends who had a half chihuahua-half some kind of terrier, maybe Jack Russell. The dog was barky, if not particularly aggressive, but she fell in love with me. I picked her up from her barking and rocked her in my arms like a little human baby, and she never gave me another problem.

Tell douchebag, if he is still around, to make friends with the dog.

Good luck, OP. I know I wouldn't put up with an aggressive, yappy little dog.

How do you not know the answer to this?

Some people can be neurotic with their dogs. I know someone whose dog is snapping and growling quite a bit of the time. While this person is at work, the dog is being babysat by this person's mother (who is retired). Dog is overweight and only eats human food, etc.

I have pets because pets are fun!

When you brink a 6 week old puppy home, raise him to adulthood, and seem him through to death 10 - 15 years later, then that dog is so much MORE than just a dog. That's family.

You should never take a 6 weeks old puppy away from its mother. Eight weeks is the absolute earliest and 9 or 10 weeks would be much better.

Dogs that stay with the litter longer are taught invaluable behavioral traits by the mother as well as have bad behavior quelled. They're less bitey, more able to get along with other dogs, for example.

Anyone that doesn’t like pets are sub-humans. There, I said it.

OP, I would beat them unconscious with a doggie bone, as usual.

We know many of you animal types think that way R174 - and we know you’re crazy.

It's a mutated wolf with behavioral and territorial problems, and OP is letting it dictate how life is going to be.

It is not a human child. It is a mutated wolf. It is not a human child.

Crazy dog people won't be told.

R26 is a fucking psycho.

MEOW...R174

Wow. You are way too invested in this R158. Get some professional help.

DUMP the Guy, OP. Problem solved. That BF dude is the problem.

Despite the sex now, BF sounds too demanding to be husband material. OTOH, most dogs aren’t long lived.

Decide which of them will give you greater comfort in the miserable few years before he too departs.

Dump the other.

Little dog live a long time. What happens if the next bf can't stand the dog either?

Your boyfriend is going to poison your dog one day OP. Just saying.

leave him. he's an asshole and no good.

Yeah. It must be the boyfriend's fault. Obviously the dog can never be the problem.

Dog pics, OP. Out now.

It comes down to this: what do you really want in a boyfriend? Does your current boyfriend meet your needs and standards? Do you have chemistry? Does he make you laugh? Is he thoughtful? Do you have great conversations? Do you have some shared interests? Do you like his family? Does he like yours?

It's been my experience that dogs' behavior can be changed for the better.

However, a partner? Not so much. Sometimes you have to cut your losses.

Wishing you all the best!

I have two longhaired pedigree cats which live indoors. They are well behaved, but there are definitely some aspects of living with them that are less than desirable, eg cat fur on clothes and furniture and the presence of litter trays. I have learned how to cat-proof my house though in the past there was considerable damage to furniture. There is also very high financial cost for vet bills. But if someone wasn't willing to tolerate these things and didn't think the cats compensated for them, we really couldn't be together. My cats are essential to my happiness and I couldn't be without them.

But I think even a dog lover wouldn't like living with a badly behaved dog, let alone someone who didn't love dogs. So the OP should consider that.

This thread has proven that people who are crazy about dogs are literally "crazy" and should be locked in a white room.

r189 what breed?

I had a Siamese, and they are a handful. Like a lot of dog breeds, people get them for their looks and later regret it.

They are Persians, R191. The quietest and most docile breed, though also the least intelligent. No Persian cat will ever learn to use a toilet. The constant loud vocalisation and hyperactivity of Siamese cats would beyond my tolerance level, though their intelligence would be attractive.

Yeah, cats are a great idea for the OP, what could go wrong.

fuckin right i would. if you do not like dogs you need to find yourself another motherfucker!

Bye BF

Well, OP, what did you decide to do?