Help DL, my bf just won't stop slamming doors!

Remove the doors from their hinges. That way he won't be able to slam them.

Break up with him and move on. You don't need the aggravation.

he's passively aggressively breaking up with you. When he starts banging the kitchen sink strainer on the edge of the garbage can it means he's already cheating.

R3 haaaaahahahaha

OP maybe if you presented hole more often, he wouldn't have so much pent up aggression. You need to give up the goods. You're not getting any younger OP

OP Are you making yourself 'available' to him?

Maybe he just hates you?

Remove doors and place some fun colored beads in their place. You’ll just love the waterfall like sound they make every time you part them.

I hate the sound too

OP, you haven't turned into your mother.

You've turned into MY mother!

Break up with your boyfriend, I am bored:)

My husbear slams the door of my car. He knows it's an issue: some years ago he did the same thing to his ex-bf's car and shattered the car window.

R12 would that be The Blatino Husbear, of DL infamy? Or just a regular husbear?

R12 only desperate-for-attention hideous queens say ‘husbear’ dear.

.....kill him

It's a rather strapping 6'2" WASP husbear.

I am a door slammer. I swear no matter how lightly I close the door it slams. No amount of wd40 helps. Just accept it

My mother forbade her kids to do 2 things that infuriated her: saying "shut up", and slamming doors. She freaked out if she heard either of those, so we all learned early in our lives not to do them. It doesn't really bother me to hear them, but I'm still subconsciously careful not to do them myself.

My boyfriend used to do that and it was horrid. You just have to keep on him. or break up.

Same situation OP, I found puting small strips of felt inside the frame stops this. You can buy them pre cut with adhesive on the back for putting on furniture legs on hardwood floor, but I just made some myself from a piece of felt cut in inch strips about as wide as the inner frame where the door meets it and used blue tac to secure it.

The door should only contact the frame at one or two points, this is where it's banging. Close the door and look between the door and the frame to find where there is no gap and the door is touching the frame, then blue tac the felt there. Also put some masking tape over the metal bit of the latch that sticks out, the wedge shaped thing I don't know what it's called, the bit that strikes the metal part in the frame, a bit of masking tape helps dull the noise it makes as it hits.

Slamming doors is rude and should not be tolerated.

Says the Duchess of Pork R21

for a second a read slamming whores. wishful thinking I guess.

My building has heavy ass doors for every apartment and the new super lets the door slam, he doesn’t even attempt to hold it at a certain width so it’s not so loud. The sound of the slam is earth shattering and I live three doors down. His name is Eladio wtf kind of name is that? He is still in the three month probation period I’m thinking of black magic ways to banish him from my immediate surroundings.

R24 Be careful, "Eladio" is probably connected to Medellín or, if older, to your local godfather.

Boobytrap the doorz.

Just take the bus OP, it's more 'you' after all.

First of all, my sympathy for anyone R17 lives with.

R20 a reply that's actually helpful? On [italic]my[/italic] DL?

R27 your comment makes zero sense. Lost?

OP, R20 is similar to my thoughts. My kitchen and also my bathroom cabinet doors all have tiny rubber “bumpers”, little bubbles of rubber that have an adhesive side. You stick them on the top and bottom of the doors so as to soften the sound on closing.

I was just in Home Depot yesterday and they have a whole section of “coasters” for various purposes. Before you apply any such felt, or rubber bumper, or whatever; make sure it isn’t too thick that it keeps the the door from being able to close securely. Obviously, if it’s to thick, it would block the door from closing. This will reduce the noise, but not completely silence it.

(This problem seems weird to me. As if it is a passive-aggressive first act of a dramatic play that ends up with someone floating downside in the swimming pool.). Best wishes.

Your bf is my neighbor, OP.

Door slamming is a sign of ill-breeding. Your bf is probably uncouth in countless other ways, too.

This is why you leave him and live the rest of your days with a lot of cats.

My partner does the same. New rule: doors don't get closed in the house, except the bathroom doors. We used doorstops on one bathroom door and felt pads on the other, and that solved the situation.

R31 is joking but it really is a childhood thing. My partner's parents were nutty as fruitcakes and he never learned to not slam doors. Or not pick his toenails until they bleed or pick up after himself or anything. He jokes that he was raised by wolves but got really angry when I said wolves would have instilled at least a few manners in him.

A friend of mine once dropped her coat on the floor and as we talked about the things that “bug” people, she remarked that she “perceives” things differently. She said her coat could lay there in the center of the room for a week and she wouldn’t even notice it; whereas someone else might immediately notice the coat and hang it up.

She was a pig, really, but not necessarily passive aggressive. I couldn’t live with someone who was like that. It would be too frustrating.

Smash his finger(s) in a kitchen drawer when the opportunity arises, bat your lashes and say tharry.

Remove the boyfriend from his hinges. That way he won't be able to slam your fucking precious doors.

Start slamming doors and see how he reacts/responds.

Good god. Get a door slam silence and stop being such a pussy.

OP, door slamming is annoying and inconsiderate. If you’ve asked him to stop and he’s still doing it, that means he is willingly doing it. It’s a passive-aggressive way of saying fuck you, I don’t respect you. How you deal with it is your call. I mean, no fully functioning adult is incapable of closing a door in a normal fashion.

aren't you really just upset he isn't slamming you?

An ex would slam doors and cabinet doors all the time and make big noise while shutting drawers, all without realizing how noisy and disturbing that would make. When I drew her attention she was really surprised and tried for a while to do it quietly but relapsed. Some people don't have the common awareness of the accepted level of noisiness.

On the other hand, my brother-in-law told me once that my sister, in the beginning of their marriage, used to slam doors whenever they had a fight untill one day he stared at her and swore he won't tolerate that anymore. According to him she never did it since.

It signifies a behavioral ie, mental deficiency in my book.

"OP, door slamming is annoying and inconsiderate."

Complaining about slamming doors is petty and controlling, and as annoying as fuck.

I agree that the best thing for a relationship is to just put a silencer on the door. That way, everybody's happy! The person who is bothered by the noise doesn't have to become a nag, and the slammer doesn't end up resenting their partner for nagging. A little bit of weatherstripping ought to get the job done.

R36 speaking of being unhinged, you sound psycho.

I once had a strained relationship with a roommate. One weekend his door was closed the entire time, which was unusual, though I was in-and-out and had no idea what he was doing when I was out. I was being quiet at home, though, as I thought he might be sleeping.

Turns out, he was out of town the entire time. I asked him to let me know next time when he was planning to be away, simply because it is freeing to know when I had the apartment to myself, particularly so that I need not be quiet, in case he was sleeping. I know, I’m not his mother, but it’s nice to know. And need it really be top secret?

The next weekend, I got up on Saturday morning and his door was closed. I went into the living room and turned on Ethyl Merman really loud. Well, it turns out, he was home in bed that day. When he came downstairs, I said, “oh, I thought you were out of town.”

I know, I was a cunt, but it drove home the point and put an end to that.

My 1st husband was a door slammer,but I quickly put an end to that. However,I could never break him of taking a boiling hot shower then immediately want to jump into bed and cuddle while radiating heat like a damn furnace. I would actually get sweaty ! I begged him to shower long before he got into bed but he was just set on that and I learned to adjust.

A trick that everyone abhors

In little girls is slamming doors.

A wealthy banker's little daughter

Who lived in Palace Green, Bayswater

(By name Rebecca Offendort),

Was given to this furious sport.

She would deliberately go

And slam the door like billy-o!

To make her uncle Jacob start.

She was not really bad at heart,

But only rather rude and wild;

She was an aggravating child...

It happened that a marble bust.

Of Abraham was standing just

Above the door this little lamb

Had carefully prepared to slam,

And down it came! It knocked her flat!

It laid her out! She looked like that.

Her funeral sermon (which was long

And followed by a sacred song)

Mentioned her virtues, it is true,

But dwelt upon her vices too,

And showed the dreadful end of one

Who goes and slams the door for fun.

The children who were brought to hear

The awful tale from far and near

Were much impressed, and inly swore

They never more would slam the door,

— As often they had done before.

The worst is when people slam car doors shut. Any modern, well-made vehicle requires just a small amount of force to close completely.

[quote]may be related to PTSD from childhood

I can empathize; my dad was always slamming doors, breaking glasses, punching walls (or us).

Americans are so Seinfield-ey and neurotic, I'm guessing because in english you can come up with terms like door slammer. I will admit that I also detest door slammers and stair stompers, my brother LOVED to do both of this when everybody was sleeping, the inconsiderate cunt. I'm the exact opposite, I prefer being awake during the night time since I was a child and I taught myself to walk down wooden staircases without making a noise and the same goes for closing doors.

Sorry to hear that, R49.