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When Did Offering ‘No Recip’ Blow Jobs Become The Most Popular Sex Act?

Just wondering. Browsing Doublelist in multiple cities across the country the most common kind of sex act is looking to suck dick with no reciprocation. Same with Grindr. And same could be said for Craigslist when it existed.

Are there just more hungry cocksuckers these days or has one way cock sucking always the preferred sex act amongst gay men?

by Anonymousreply 103February 28, 2020 7:41 PM

I know a “straight” construction worker and I love sucking his dick with no reciprocation. It’s more sexy that way they’re using you as their whore

by Anonymousreply 1May 13, 2019 6:32 AM

Why does this require explanation? Either you get it or you don't.

by Anonymousreply 2May 13, 2019 6:36 AM

Mercifully it is not true that no-reciprocation blowjobs are now the preferred sex act among gay men.

by Anonymousreply 3May 13, 2019 6:36 AM

I have given exactly one "no recip blowjob" in a career of thousands. Obviously, I had no idea it was "no recip" until I was done and the scoundrel refused to "recip." He was out the door before he could get his clothes on. Ain't pullin' shit like that on me. Take your cock and your socks and GTFO.

by Anonymousreply 4May 13, 2019 6:39 AM

Lots horny str8 men out there are not getting their needs met. I love it and don’t see the problem. I hardly doubt that it’s the most popular just an easy way for men to connect. Bookstore stores are great for this type of setup

by Anonymousreply 5May 13, 2019 6:41 AM

Whatever. Being a cumdump bottom on PreP is where it's at.

by Anonymousreply 6May 13, 2019 6:44 AM

Ha ha, R6!

by Anonymousreply 7May 13, 2019 7:02 AM

Guys that just wanna ‘suck’ it are usually poz

by Anonymousreply 8May 13, 2019 7:09 AM

Yeah I hate getting head but love giving it. I prefer no recip

by Anonymousreply 9May 13, 2019 7:10 AM

Nevah.

by Anonymousreply 10May 13, 2019 7:26 AM

BUMP

by Anonymousreply 11May 13, 2019 5:03 PM

"It’s more sexy that way they’re using you as their whore"

For all the hatred towards trans people here, statements like these make me think most DLers want to be women

by Anonymousreply 12August 2, 2019 3:29 PM

Wait, r12... just ONE post prompts you to make a generalizations about "most DLers"?

Explain to me how that logic works.

by Anonymousreply 13August 2, 2019 3:33 PM

r13, people like you will use one incident to make generalizations about ALL trans people.

by Anonymousreply 14August 2, 2019 3:34 PM

"People like me"? You know NOTHING about me.

by Anonymousreply 15August 2, 2019 3:45 PM

R8, Or impotent.

by Anonymousreply 16August 2, 2019 3:46 PM

Gay guys love nongay Macho Alpha males , and giving blowjobs is not viewed as consistent with that fantasy male identity

by Anonymousreply 17August 2, 2019 3:49 PM

Some asshole came onto this thread with an axe to grind

by Anonymousreply 18August 2, 2019 3:54 PM

I used to do this often - not so much lately. I prefer to just give head. I'm not into getting fucked and I think it is easier to do a match if you are just offering head. My cock is about 5 inches and not that glamorous so I just find it easier to find a guy and I get off that way (not cuming but I also get my needs met).

I have a couple regulars and all is good.

by Anonymousreply 19August 2, 2019 3:55 PM

I’m one of those no-recip cocksuckers you see posting online, claiming to be 6 years younger than I really am. And it’s exhausting. So many cocksuckers fighting over a handful of married closet cases. And if you can’t host, you can forget it.

by Anonymousreply 20August 2, 2019 3:55 PM

The quest is for real hot Alphas who are active only

by Anonymousreply 21August 2, 2019 3:56 PM

What makes a man a “hot alpha”?

by Anonymousreply 22August 2, 2019 3:56 PM

[quote]What makes a man a “hot alpha”?

A penis larger than 5” and an attitude

by Anonymousreply 23August 2, 2019 3:58 PM

Alpha= masculine, always dominant, never passive

by Anonymousreply 24August 2, 2019 4:00 PM

r5, straight men aren't seeking out men for sex on the internet

For all the shrieking about "trannies" cutting their dicks off.....you guys don't see to like using yours.

by Anonymousreply 25August 2, 2019 4:02 PM

There is high demand for Macho dudes who don’t identify as gay

by Anonymousreply 26August 2, 2019 4:05 PM

It's bad when trans women seek out straight men.....but okay when self-loathing gay men do the same.

by Anonymousreply 27August 2, 2019 4:07 PM

R27 I do this. Why am I self-loathing? That quite an extreme statement and offensive.

I enjoy it and there is no harm. I have a health self esteem but enjoy sucking cock.

by Anonymousreply 28August 2, 2019 4:10 PM

Oh, just shut up already. You complain about gays generalizing about trans, they you do post after post generalizing about gays.

You are a stupid, whiny hypocrite.

by Anonymousreply 29August 2, 2019 4:11 PM

r28, If you aren't self-loathing......why do you seek out "straight" men?

r29 is probably getting ready to find one article about a trans person who did something bad, and will use that to attack all trans people.

by Anonymousreply 30August 2, 2019 4:12 PM

YOU are the trans person who is doing something bad, r30.

You are being a fucking hypocrite. You are generalizing about gays, with one of your stupid generalizations being that we all generalize about trans.

Trans people have the fight to live their lives without being harassed. So do gays. So shut the fuck up already.

by Anonymousreply 31August 2, 2019 4:16 PM

Why do trans always have to attack gays?

by Anonymousreply 32August 2, 2019 4:19 PM

r31, I'm not trans. Just a liberal who is sick of the Republicans taking over this board. So shut the fuck up already.

by Anonymousreply 33August 2, 2019 4:19 PM

Bullshit. You are a liar as well.

Since when is attacking gays “liberal”?

by Anonymousreply 34August 2, 2019 4:20 PM

I blocked the nutcase hypocritical tranny.

by Anonymousreply 35August 2, 2019 4:22 PM

r34, I'm not attacking all gays, just the freeper ones who post here and attack trans people. You sound really stupid. Go back to the Trump rally from whence you came. r35 is blocked now. The fact that you use "tranny" as an insult proves my point.

by Anonymousreply 36August 2, 2019 4:23 PM

Only my first bf knew how to give a decent blowjob. Now I just fuck my husband, no blowjobs.

by Anonymousreply 37August 2, 2019 4:26 PM

R27, neither is my business. Get what you like dude

by Anonymousreply 38August 2, 2019 4:27 PM

R27, neither is my business. Get what you like dude

by Anonymousreply 39August 2, 2019 4:27 PM

The ones attacking gays are the guys seeking out straight men (or men they falsely believe are straight) for sex and ignoring gay identified guys

by Anonymousreply 40August 2, 2019 4:30 PM

If gay men are hitting on and pressing up against straight men in the real world, that’s a problem. But on social media and dating apps, men who identity as men who are seeking men are not victims or being harassed. They are willing entering into intimate interactions with other men.

by Anonymousreply 41August 2, 2019 4:35 PM

[quote]r34, I'm not attacking all gays, just the freeper ones who post here and attack trans people.

And yet you wrote:

[quote] statements like these make me think most DLers want to be women

So, not “all gays”, just “most DLers”

[quote]The fact that you use "tranny" as an insult proves my point.

I have never used “tranny” on here, you fuck head. Only “trans”.

by Anonymousreply 42August 2, 2019 4:38 PM

These replies are why we can't have nice things.

by Anonymousreply 43August 2, 2019 4:38 PM

This wasn’t even a little bit about trans people until shrieking frau entered the thread

by Anonymousreply 44August 2, 2019 4:39 PM

r42, other posters here have used "tranny" as an insult so fuck off. And attacking the freeper brigade at the DL is not the same as attacking all gays. Try again.

r41, so why are you seeking out the ones who insist they aren't gay instead of the ones who identify as gay?

by Anonymousreply 45August 2, 2019 4:40 PM

You are a hypocrite. Therefore, nothing you say has merit

by Anonymousreply 46August 2, 2019 4:43 PM

[quote] Guys that just wanna ‘suck’ it are usually poz

What a truly idiotic thing to say.

There was a time I was very into this, and lived in a small college town where straight guys way outnumbered any gay dudes. I sought out this kind of thing and met a few hot guys that way.

Not everyone lives in the bubble of a gay stereotype, toots.

by Anonymousreply 47August 2, 2019 4:44 PM

There's no use arguing with a crazy person. Block the nutcase and move on.

by Anonymousreply 48August 2, 2019 4:44 PM

We’re not arguing with it.

We’re pointing and laughing.

by Anonymousreply 49August 2, 2019 4:47 PM

r46 is a hypocrite who claims others are attacking gays but seeks out men who claim to be straight because gays aren't good enough for him. Nothing you say has merit.

by Anonymousreply 50August 2, 2019 4:47 PM

It’s only argument is a variation on “I know you are but what am I?”

Thanks for identifying yourself.

by Anonymousreply 51August 2, 2019 5:15 PM

r51, thanks for identifying yourself as a hypocrite and a Republican. And also a self-loathing gay. Will you be looking for "straight" (chuckle) men to blow tonight?

by Anonymousreply 52August 2, 2019 5:21 PM

Just fugly tinymeats trying to increase their chances of getting some dick, OP. And if they're on Doublelist/Craigslist-type free sites, you can add 'poor' to the description.

by Anonymousreply 53August 2, 2019 5:21 PM

Again, all you have to offer in the way of argument or wit is a variation on “I know you are but what am I?”

by Anonymousreply 54August 2, 2019 5:23 PM

r54, all you have is to call me a hypocrite. Or a "frau" or a "tranny" - how can someone be both those things?

by Anonymousreply 55August 2, 2019 5:26 PM

Again, you lie. I have never called you a tranny

You are a frau and a hypocrite, so there is that

by Anonymousreply 56August 2, 2019 5:28 PM

A frau? That's hysterical. They tend to be right-wing, you are more of a "frau" than I am.

by Anonymousreply 57August 2, 2019 5:52 PM

Take it elsewhere dudes

by Anonymousreply 58August 2, 2019 5:53 PM

Okay, I’m done. You’ve proven me right with that last “IKYABWAI?” Anything I say will just be met with “IKYABWAI?”

by Anonymousreply 59August 2, 2019 6:03 PM

Both fucking trolls are now blocked.

Let’s get this thread back on track...

I love no recip head. I’m not straight, 💯 % gay, actually like totally versatile play (oral and anal) best. But my sexual repertoire is hardly set in stone (how boring!), so I like different things at different times.

The no-recip blow-and-go is perfect sometimes when you just want to get off but don’t want to put any effort into it at all. It’s nice sometimes to sit back, relax, and be worshipped by someone who’s as into their role as I am into mine.

by Anonymousreply 60August 2, 2019 6:04 PM

[quote]Both fucking trolls are now blocked.

Did it make you feel manly to announce that?

by Anonymousreply 61August 2, 2019 6:06 PM

This started when men was still in caves. Not with Grindr or Craig's List

by Anonymousreply 62August 2, 2019 6:09 PM

[quote]Since when is attacking gays “liberal”?

Since T.

by Anonymousreply 63August 2, 2019 6:14 PM

When life got busy and I no longer had the time

by Anonymousreply 64August 2, 2019 6:21 PM

I am sharing this knowing full well that I am going to get roasted on here and called crazy and damaged. But I prefer no recip. In fact, I am no longer attracted to a guy who wants to suck dick or get fucked. You can lie to me and tell me that you are a total top and I'm fine. But the minute I get even an inkling that you may want to get something in your butt or suck cock, I'm out of there. I've watched hot pornstars who were tops, and then find out they bottom and I lose all interest. I even throw out their old scenes.

It's my own personal thing and my own unique baggage, but that's just the way it is for me. Always has been.

by Anonymousreply 65August 2, 2019 6:22 PM

At least you own it, r65. You be you.

by Anonymousreply 66August 2, 2019 6:23 PM

I only suck str8 dick

by Anonymousreply 67August 2, 2019 6:28 PM

R65, a lot of gay men are the same. Hence, the proliferation of “no reciprocation” and “seeking 💯 % total Alpha tops” personals.

by Anonymousreply 68August 2, 2019 6:32 PM

I find it hard to imagine sucking off a Datalounger.

by Anonymousreply 69August 2, 2019 6:35 PM

True

by Anonymousreply 70August 2, 2019 6:37 PM

r67, I hate to break it to you, but those guys looking for men to suck their cocks aren't straight

by Anonymousreply 71August 2, 2019 6:53 PM

Doublelist poster-to-post ratio seems to average about 1 to 10. The obsessives looking for no-recip sex just change their age and/or reword their post over and over.

by Anonymousreply 72August 2, 2019 7:33 PM

R71 doesn't have much experience with drugs. Cocksucking happens ...

by Anonymousreply 73August 2, 2019 7:42 PM

r73 doesn't have much experience with gay guys who pretend to be "straight but curious" on the internet

by Anonymousreply 74August 2, 2019 7:43 PM

Wasn't that basically how old time glory holes worked?

by Anonymousreply 75August 2, 2019 8:04 PM

There's a lot of men into sub play who really enjoy doing this. When it's their fetish, it's seriously what they enjoy. And, yes cuntzilla fraus who won't fuck off back to LSA - your husbands do in fact suck dick on the side. I guess a big piece of cock is way more fun than your stinky pussy.

So, you married a gay man.

by Anonymousreply 76August 2, 2019 9:39 PM

[quote]I’m one of those no-recip cocksuckers you see posting online, claiming to be 6 years younger than I really am. And it’s exhausting. So many cocksuckers fighting over a handful of married closet cases. And if you can’t host, you can forget it.

This is why I don't get it. It sounds like so much work and so little reward. Well NO reward cause its no recip, besides knowing you have dick in your mouth.

I'd much rather dig in a real gay's bootyhole!

by Anonymousreply 77August 2, 2019 10:03 PM

I want them to be manly and ultramacho

by Anonymousreply 78August 2, 2019 10:08 PM

No recip blowjobs are a response to many modern social-sexual demands. First off, if you haven't noticed, masculinity is under attack, despite people valuing and finding it appealing in many ways. Thus the focus on masculine and manly types. Subversiveness is common among sex fetishes and this quest for the masc is another manifestation.

The people who are looking for these encounters seem nearly autistic frequently: They are obsessed with their goal and pursue it obsessively. They only want sex. They are probably obsessed with certain aspects of the act, like how many guys they get or what size their dick is. They don't like conversation or other social interaction; they want to get to the sexual act. Some of this asociability might pertain to millennials as well.

Don't discount the effects of SSRIs, meth and beating off to porn. These lead to diminished sexual performance although there might still be sexual interest. What do you do if you want to engage in sexual activity but don't have a hard-on? No-recip blowjobs. If you do get aroused, maybe you'll beat yourself off.

A lot of guys don't want anal for a variety of reasons, not limited to false belief it is more prone to disease transmission, feces, lengthy preparation, and an attitude that butt sex is more gay than blowjobs.

by Anonymousreply 79August 2, 2019 10:16 PM

R20, those of us who like good blowjobs and aren't narcissists look for older cocksuckers. If you're lowering your age trying to attract younger dick, that's your loss.

by Anonymousreply 80August 2, 2019 10:19 PM

[quote] First off, if you haven't noticed, masculinity is under attack,

Mary!

by Anonymousreply 81August 2, 2019 10:23 PM

Thank you R74, I thought I had entered an alternate reality.

What planet do you all live on?

You travel to a new city, the fastest and easiest way to pull hot guys is "Bi jock, girlfriend back home, looking for other masc jock for discreet head"

Same way claiming you only want "no recip" means you've covered your Worst Case Scenario where some guy you're not that into gives you a blowjob while you watch porn, and can still hit on quality guys who you'd actually do more with.

I've been in a relationship for about a year now, but I can't imagine things have changed that much.

by Anonymousreply 82August 2, 2019 10:25 PM

"First off, if you haven't noticed, masculinity is under attack, despite people valuing and finding it appealing in many ways."

Masculinity is only "under attack" according to MRA trolls like you

by Anonymousreply 83August 3, 2019 3:38 PM

Swallowing a straight man's load is the ultimate feeling.

by Anonymousreply 84August 3, 2019 3:54 PM

The straight guy fetishists are so tiresome. Those guys aren't straight, anyway.

by Anonymousreply 85August 3, 2019 3:57 PM

R85 is jealous he can't secure straight cock to gulp.

by Anonymousreply 86August 3, 2019 11:45 PM

I have a big cock and am in real demand by the no-recip crowd. They tell each other about my cock and keep contacting me.

I realized however that just offering my cock to be sucked isn’t a great way to potentially meet a partner, which has always been my hope. I no longer look for guys to just suck me. I even took the size of my cock off my profile. I’m dating instead of having hookups.

But, the guys who suck are relentless! They keep trying to contact me and begging me to go over

by Anonymousreply 87August 4, 2019 12:19 AM

"Guys that just wanna ‘suck’ it are usually poz"

The idiots (R8) have arrived.

by Anonymousreply 88August 4, 2019 3:49 AM

Why are so many guys on Grindr asking for Adderall lately? I received three requests in the past 24 hours.

by Anonymousreply 89August 4, 2019 5:30 AM

[Quote] "Guys that just wanna ‘suck’ it are usually poz"

I met a guy who only enjoyed BJs. He said so many of his friend died of AIDS but he completely avoided it by just sucking and even swallowing

by Anonymousreply 90August 4, 2019 3:22 PM

r86, hate to break it to you, but none of those cocks you are sucking are straight. And why do you fetishize straight men, most of whom are overweight? Is it self-loathing?

by Anonymousreply 91August 4, 2019 3:30 PM

R91 Hate to break it to, but your “Archie and Veronica” level of knowledge of male sexuality is a joke. Go away you stupid frau.

by Anonymousreply 92August 5, 2019 1:49 AM

R89's comment is interesting. I'm also getting hit up for drugs all the time lately, even though my profile says I'm not into drugs. It has something to do with me being a top and them being bag-whore bottoms. What puzzles me is that this is a new thing. It never happened even 6 months ago.

And R89, they're asking for Adderall because they will get their accounts banned if they ask for meth, which is what they really want.

by Anonymousreply 93August 5, 2019 2:47 PM

Good point R90. That’s a great insight. We were forced for 15+ years to only have oral sex to minimize HIV risk - which for me was from coming out late teens to post-30. So my whole sexual experience was based on oral sex - and receptive oral sex was as gay as the sex got. I do think this is a major cause. Having spent my formative sexual years focused on oral sex, it continues to be my preference.

by Anonymousreply 94August 5, 2019 4:22 PM

On Doublelist now, no matter what city, 90% of posts are total bottoms or cocksuckers looking for “straight guys”.

Perhaps submissive bottoms are over represented on Doublelist, but I doubt it, because on Craigslist it was the same thing.

Yet many gay men get mad when people ask them to consider if their gender identity may be that of the opposite sex. I believe many, if not most of these men (and by proxy many gay men, since most are bottoms), would be happier as trans. But won’t go through with a sex change because of cost, stigma, family, their livelihoods, etc.

by Anonymousreply 95February 28, 2020 6:09 PM

Hot R1. I’ve wanted this arrangement for so long, but I’ve just never found the right guy.

by Anonymousreply 96February 28, 2020 6:13 PM

I don't use the net or apps and get my cock sucked all the time.

Many men are into sucking dick, and I said it before, most of the men who suck me off I meet at hotel bars while traveling. They are also married.

I stretch, complain about the flight and the preface is often a massage that ends in my dick getting sucked. The hottest was this uber hairy dude who shot off then he tasted my cum and he never touched himself.

by Anonymousreply 97February 28, 2020 6:20 PM

Most of us don't find ourselves in hotel bars while traveling very often, R97.

by Anonymousreply 98February 28, 2020 6:26 PM

So hot, r97!!!

by Anonymousreply 99February 28, 2020 6:30 PM

My thoughts on this subject as a very experienced no-recip top who has of necessity given the topic a lot of thought:

1. Many of the guys offering blowjobs really want to get fucked, but won't say so online, because it's less popular, considered more risky, more sluttish, gay, HIV, etc. But be sure that if you actually do hook up with these randos, most of the time they will want butt sex. You will see the occasional top post that he is only looking for oral, no anal. He says this because he must, to keep the secret bottoms away. Even so, when I post I'm looking for head, I still get guys wanting me to fuck them. I sometimes remind guys that I'm looking for head and not ass, and they disappear. I disagree some with the OP - most of the guys I encounter want to get fucked.

2. There's an element of addiction to this. Guys want more and more cock. The hunt itself is somewhat self-reinforcing, as people send you messages, pics, etc. Don't discount the number of antisocial crays that are online now as well, entertaining themselves by pretending to look for cock to suck.

3. You can't offer many blowjobs if you want reciprocation. You won't be horny after you cum and won't want to blow anybody. No recip keeps your stamina up - potentially you can blow more guys.

4. The guys who want no recip blowjobs are a type sought after by bottoms - they are typically more masculine, more horny (testosterone, basically), sometimes married or closeted which appeals to some. These so-called trade tops (now called 'total tops') are also pretty rare in the hookup biz. Bottoms tell me all the time they rarely meet a total top.

5. Guys have sex performance issues because they're obese and on SSRIs. They can't get it up so it's easier to offer no-recip head and avoid embarrassment.

What really annoys me are all the gloryholes. In people's homes or in hotel rooms. Often poorly made with rough edges, odd heights and angles. No thanks.

by Anonymousreply 100February 28, 2020 6:43 PM

I loved giving non-reciprocal BJs until I encountered one too many loads of foul tasting spunk and/or musty balls.

by Anonymousreply 101February 28, 2020 7:16 PM

A lot of those looking to suck cock without reprocication might be closet cases or 'bi-curious'. A former 'straight' friend of mine used to bang on about how he'd love to try sucking cock, but just couldn't deal with the fact there's a man attached to it. He admitted to being fascinated by penises, but insisted he didn't find the male body as a whole and male faces attractive.

by Anonymousreply 102February 28, 2020 7:40 PM

Funny R101 I actually relish the smell of sweaty balls and Iove when I go down on a guy who has them. It adds one more sensory experience to the act of sucking.

by Anonymousreply 103February 28, 2020 7:41 PM
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