Hey Eldergays, at what age did you just say, "Fuck it, I'm gonna be me. Fuck the haters?"

ummm Never

In my mid-40s.

My dad wears jorts. And he tucks in his t-shirt, wears a belt.

He won't stop. I tried.

Age 28

Around 16-17

I'm 66 and I'm sort of easing into that phase right now ... it's really difficult, but it's very liberating!

Jorts (had to google that) are just sign that you're white trash.

The equivalent would be shorts made out of the same material as sweatpants (fleece?)

Not caring to follow trends or the latest fashion is one thing, but I see people in stores who clearly just don't give a shit any longer. Their hair looks like it hasn't been washed in weeks their clothes are wrinkled and dirty. I am 67 and have always attempt to look my best if out in public, but I don't care about what is the in look at the current moment. Old people wearing the latest fashion that is designed for people in their 20's just look silly.

18. I was a queer peg who was never gonna fit in pre fab holes.

some time in my forties, yes, zero fucks given

21 or 22. I'm 65.

16. It took more energy to construct a conformist image, I always feel someone can see right through that phoniness of pretending to be among the 90% when one is part of the 10%, plus it's unfair to me and to the minority to pass as someone I'm not. If I feel isolated and removed from being individualistic without violating the social contract, someone else does too, and we need to identify and find each other.

This is larger than setting out what one wears, it's the "I watch the shows everyone else watches, although I'd rather be doing something else," "I listen to commercial radio so I have conversation topics available for coworkers who seem to enjoy commercial radio," adaptation to ephemeral mass trends and current styles and trends.

Never

The Four-F Rule to not giving a shit:

1) you don't Feed me,

2) you can't Fire me,

3) I don't want to Fuck you, and

4) fresh out of Fucks to give

Mid-40s, yes. For me it was twofold: great to stop worrying what the other young people thought, and also great no longer kowtowing to older or perceived authority figures.

When you’re older, you can get out of things, and your quirks get excused. It’s great. One of a handful of compensations for aging. I can’t wait till I’m really old and can say terrible things, and people will just tolerate it.

As soon as I retire I will really not give a fuck.

I don’t now but sometimes have to pretend to.

That shit will stop when I don’t have to go in to work everyday.

Early 40s for everything except weight. I care about not being fat. I started caring after 45 when I lost the extra weight and remembered how I looked and felt when I was thin. This led to buying nicer clothes that fit properly. The rest - no fucks to give.

Around 30.

[quote] I see people in stores who clearly just don't give a shit any longer. Their hair looks like it hasn't been washed in weeks their clothes are wrinkled and dirty.

Where do you live chief, and what sort of stores are you shopping in?

Goodwill?

Oh yes, suddenly weight is my pretty much my number one care. It has to be, because the days of no longer thinking about it disappear along with youth.

33. I told my wife (now ex)

I am there age 47.

I've lied so much about being gay that, now that I'm generally out, I don't have the guts to tell people at work.

I don't socialize with them anyway, but they would just look at me and wonder why the hell I lied.

It's not like you wake up one morning and decide "I'm gonna be me from now on." It comes in stages.

"All my life I've been that way, it happened long ago"

22.

I was too skinny throughout high school and college, and then i was overweight after college. I just wouldn;t get fucked very much. Then when I hit 29 I became massively ill (endocarditis), and lost weight and was at a great medium weight. I got fucked CONSTANTLY for about three-four years. At first I really bought into it and started going to the gym a lot, but then i realized that I was the same person as I had always been, and I was just being fucked because I was at the right weight and at the right time of my life. I stopped being so slutty, and I stayed roughly in shape but stopped going so much to the gym. Since then, I still pick up men but not so often, and just don't care that much about it--I felt like I was getting approval just for the shape of my body and not who I really was as a person.

I am amazed that looks matter so much to people for decades and decades. I look at men in their fifties and older who are still obsessed with how they look and wonder just how shallow they have to be to value that above everything else. Going to the gym enough so that it makes a huge difference takes a lot of time, and I feel as I get older I am more interested in using my time in different ways. it helps my libido is not nearly so active as it was when I was thirty, though. I only need to cum about twice a week now--when i was 30, I had to cum 2-3 times a day, so sex was constantly on my mind.

I know this site types elderly, but damn... how old do you have to be to consider listening to commercial radio as a means to being one of the ‘cool kids’??

25 yrs old

Just yesterday after I watched Madonna's new video. If she can do it, so can I.

I never said it as I always fit in ...and as to the eldergays...........wording, go fuck yourself

R29: Madonna looks old and pathetic singng pop-tunes in young gear now. Same for Mariah and Janet. After a certain age - retire or act.

In my 20's, I worried what people thought about me.

In my 40's, I didn't care what people thought about me.

In my 60's, I realized people aren't thinking about me at all.

101

Jorts are classic, not at all trashy. I mean, what other fabric would they be? Twill? That’s very limiting, fashion-wise.

True R 32!!!

I’d say btw 29 and 33. I’m 35 now.

I have never cared what anyone thinks. I went to Quaker school where you are expected to be who you are and make your own decisions. I was surprised to discover in my 20s that everyone else was following each other.

R37 = Dick Nixion’s ghost

Or Nixon, even