Sucks being single when all you want is to come home

Pets are a great substitute. Often better than a human could ever be.

I hope you find what you're looking for and obviously need, OP.

Get out there and find it. Stop posting here and join some groups and just relax.

I, for one, need an insulin injection...

Op, the problem is you also want a guy that is gorgeous and brilliant. Your standards are WAY too high.

God, this place is full of sad sacks.

The fantasy is usually much, much better than the reality, OP.

Stay single and stay happy.

And yes, get a pet. My guy gives me big sloppy kisses when I come home, I pet him vigorously. After a couple of minutes, we're both satisfied and retreat to our neutral corners.

I don't think all lonely people are in that situation because they want brilliant Mensa-smart runway model partners. That's just stupid, r4. Unless you know for a fact that's the OP's main issue.

And who wants an uber smart or uber pretty partner anyway? The pretty people can be high maintenance, narcissistic and are always hit on by others. Fun! And the smartypants set are often condescending and self obsessed. Good luck arguing with that. More fun!

I think OP wants a sweet, caring normal person with good hygiene and decent credit. NOT IMPOSSIBLE TO FIND.

Get out there before the parade passes by, OP, and have fun. Don't hunt for a partner as much as do things you enjoy and keep your eyes open for someone who fits the bill. Online date, let your friends hook you up, stroll through dog parks, say hello to people....you are not a lost cause. Don't waste healthy days crying in your soup. One day you'll be actually physically ill and then you'll wish you had taken advantage of the good days.

And also - being solo is a good thing. This is YOU time. Find your own groove now because once you have a partner they'll inevitably require you to compromise it. It's the nature of co-existing.

Chin up :)

R7 you are a really cool person.

OP is already setting demands on his imaginary partner in their fantasy relationship.

Partner must be at home when OP arrives and drop everything to listen and pay full attention to him at that moment. More requests and demands to follow.

Be careful what you wish for OP...relationships are hard. I love my husband but sometimes I want to come home to a quiet, leave me the fuck alone environment.

[quote] And the smartypants set are often condescending and self obsessed. Good luck arguing with that. More fun!

Who are you to judge me?

R8, I appreciate you writing that.

I'm in OPs position and definitely feeling that "never gonna find someone" dread. I get it. But I know it's fear talking.

If and when someone good appears, you want to be ready for that relationship. If all you do is beat yourself up while you're single,you'll inevitably be in rough shape when love comes a knocking.

Love yourself first. Sounds corny but it's so important. And you carry that into a relationship, making it healthier.

You and I will find people.

I like your post R7. Thanks for taking the time to write it.

You're welcome :)