Hacking passivity/decision anxiety/self-neglect

Stop comparing yourself to others and start lifting weights. Get a dog.

^^i like those ideas. I used to lift tomato soup cans and hang off the door frame in my condo when I was poor. OP may not be allowed dogs where he lives but can always walk a neighbours,

Is this like non-sexual incelspeak? Stop reading weird crap on the internet for your first step...

Go to Japan! Open yourself, dog! Find out what's happening, get some real shit to worry about.

What's a NPC, OP?

^Non-playable Character, R5. It’s a Gen Y/Z slang term to refer to someone who is boring or a non-entity.

[quote]Stop comparing yourself to others and start lifting weights.

I never compared myself to others as much as I did when I lifted weights among them.

Mainly you get swag and confidence the more you drink.....Alcoholic self medication drops your inhibitions and makes you more interesting. It can even make you think your more attractive than you are. I always have a 'martini' lunch. Makes the afternoon fly by too!

Find a way to volunteer in some area that you really like - maybe something with animals, minor painting of shelters, etc. because you will feel very productive and good about yourself, which will increase your endorphins, etc. - the beginning of a good cycle. In addition, if you volunteer you'll likely be working alongside other people with the same interests/passion and that might help you surround yourself with uplifting people.

But if the whole alcohol -self medicating thing doesn't workout, def get in the gym, get off social media and realize everybody has same shit issues you do. You have to get some small successes under your belt to make you feel good and more deserving of what you need. I volunteer at my PBS station and love it. I have to seriously MAKE time for it. But I get back way more than I give in my sense of accomplishment, well being and life enrichment.

[quote]So spill it. What are the steps you take to move out of seething and starving and superinferiority, and into a life where you can get what you need and want without letting others drag you away or pull you down?

Be your most authentic self. Here are four questions you should ask yourself every day to foster authenticity

1. What am I afraid would happen if I shared my experience right now with this person?

2. How will feel if I don’t share what I’m thinking and feeling?

3. If I weren’t afraid, what would I most want to say to this person right now?

4. How can I share this with even more vulnerability?

R11 lol... Those steps just create more anxiety. Now you'll just sit there and dwell on what the answers to those questions are...

[8] Yeah, don't do this. This is how alcoholics and addicts are made.

[quote][R11] lol... Those steps just create more anxiety. Now you'll just sit there and dwell on what the answers to those questions are...

Really?

I'm shocked, I tell you, shocked.

You have to learn to listen your intuition.

You aren’t worth it

R15 like Jewel?

Go vegan. Tell people about your vegan lifestyle. Let people know you don’t like knowing the animals are sad.

OP, people like you are just born like that. Not everyone can have "it".

r17

Who the fuck is Jewel?

This is Jewel

What worked for me was working so much I didn't have time to sit and dwell on my own "worthlessness"- I wasn't worthless but at the time I felt that way. Plus, it gave me more money so once I had moved up the ladder a bit I used that to upgrade my life. Then, I stopped working so much.

I'm guessing that a lot of this is adolescent angst, which will go away as you age.

Figure out how to laugh at yourself and stop being hard on yourself, you're more than likely completely fine.