Words You Find Irritating

MILLENIALS

"millennials," misspelled

Thus

Old Navy.

Madonna

Casted

Woke

Prurient.

“Nuked” when meaning “microwaved.” There’s just no need.

Abercrombie & Fitch.

Madame

Granular.

X

Frau, Spawn, Op, Flames, etcetera... etcetera... etcetera.

Unquote..it’s end quote or close quote..u can’t unquote anything

'Hot' , as defined by the old trolls at Data Lounge.

Impact, when used as a verb. Unless you mean wisdom teeth.

I don't even [italic]want[/italic] to know what the millenniots mean when they abuse "granular."

Dita

I call it "DL Hot," r16. Because what it is not is hot.

granular, organic, "in the mix", "baked in" Are they cooking or what?

Hand-crafted

bellicose

Artisanal

Curated

Housemade.

famous

Booty

Kidney-shaped.

FRAU-not the word but the people who are fraus.

My MOM and DAD instead of My MOTHER and FATHER.

sepsis

I hate "booty," too.

Reimagined.

Gaga

sudsy

space, as in "in the education space" or the "business space"

broth

snippet

Elevator pitch

seismic

James Charles

awesome. Enough already!

Gifted when they mean given.

Verse, used as a verb.

Brilliant. Unless through some truly unusual circumstance, something or someone is actually brilliant.

problematic

The Brits referring to all desserts as "pudding". Unforgiveable.

“No problem”

As in: Thank you

No problem

Literally, like "like" is so literally annoying.

Unpack, as in analyze a topic.

R49. You beat me. Hate unpack.

Prin-CESS. Pronounced the British way.

Bowel movement. Or BM.

Lizzo

The PrinCESS made a bowel movement in hospital.

[quote] R49. You beat me. Hate unpack.

I've just noticed "unpack" being used in this sense maybe in the past 4 years, eg talk radio, panel discussions on TV. Makes me nuts.

"Za" for pizza.

Irritating

r35 YES!!! That is my biggest peeve.

Also "queer spaces" "white spaces" "learning spaces" etc.

Linguistic laziness.

R49 / R55. Terri Gross of NPR uses it a lot. Makes me insane.

Moist

"Veggie". Fucking "veggie".

Trump

Shook

Deep dive

Bae.

Shookus

[quote] "Veggie". Fucking "veggie".

The Brit equivalent, veg, is as bad.

"Iconic".

Plinth

Socialize

Peen

People who pronounce "nuclear" noo-kew-ler instead of noo-klee-er.

Unctuous

No, r67, "veg" is not as bad as "veggie." It is a mere shortening of the word, not an attempt to make it cute.

Verificatia

Boho, Curate, Artisinal.

Super

"Going forward," meaning "in the future." "Drill down," meaning "investigate." Doing "due diligence," meaning simply "doing one's job."

Awesomesauce

Kerfuffle

Oh no, not kerfuffle!

I like kerfuffle.

"Old lady" for girlfriend / wife.

"Old man" for boyfriend / husband.

Surreal, when added to “like, surreal..”

extra

Hubby

Yum or Yummy, especially when referring to a human being.

Totes for totally. Adorb for adorable. Totes adorb is a hanging offense.

The

Journey. Like how everyone in entertainment talks about their life's "journey". Just fuck off.

Redonkulous

Event, when used in relation to weather, as in "Storm Event" to mean Storm or "Snow Event" to mean it's snowing.

[quote] Totes for totally. Adorb for adorable. Totes adorb is a hanging offense.

Squee!

Plonkers

I've never heard anyone say "squee" except on Datalounge.

R83 that's mine as well. I can't stand that word.

Creamy

Priapic.

"Pray, sit down."

Adjacent, as in white adjacent

Bomb Cyclone

"Community".

Isn't "curated" one of those hated DL words?

[quote]We're bringing back some of our stores' soundtrack from the '90s to create this playlist of favorites from the decade, curated by longtime Gap employee Mike Bise.

Is "adjacent" a thing anywhere but here?

Severe, when applied to any weather forecast. What happened to just plain rainy, hot, cold, etc. How did we ever manage to get through life before this?

I actually heard this once as an opener to a speech (I hope you are sitting down):

Communication. Unity. Community.

“Uncoupling” and all that other Gwyneth Paltrow bullshit.

I don't like "whilst," either, OP.

I am fond of "unctuous," however. And "priapic." I have no idea what "plonkers" means, as I have never seen or heard it before.

Sociopath.

Way too many people use that here and they truly don’t know what an actual sociopath is.

“Zero Tolerance”. It’s utterly stupid and it’s pure gibberish.

sissy

R107, the word “narcissism” applies in the same case.

Conversate

Ground Zero

The New Normal

Comfort Zone

"Judge-y"

"Huzzah!"

Kinda watery polenta but the totes adorbs server made up for it! And, they do veggies well - yummers!

"Organic" as in "we need to think about this organically."

"Protein" in lieu of "ingredient name or type".

" Comes with your choice of "protein"! "

"Alpha", especially when spoken by someone who is the "submissive other half in a relationship."

Doggo, Sammie. Suffixes don't work like that in English. I third whilst.

Mac and Cheese instead of Macaroni and Cheese

Tea used to mean gossip.

Goals when used as in this sentence: “They are goals”. I had never heard it used that way until I saw a thread here about someone’s uncle and his boyfriend being goals. I found it hard to imagine someone being a goal. I can see admiring or emulating someone, but being a goal makes me think of soccer or hockey. I picture the subjects of the sentence being kicked through goalposts by Messi. Someone finally properly explained the usage in the thread, and it clicked that the OP’s meaning was that they are people to emulate.

Holistic

MOIST

[quote]Tea used to mean gossip.

It still does. Wish it would go away.

It’s moistily delicious!

Someone has already mentioned MOIST

Moist Crevice

goyim

No word is as annoying, however, as the control queen in r128, hoping we will care if more than one person finds a word irritating.

MOIST, motherfucker.

gonads

"That said"

Can't stand that phrase.

Exquisite.

Herpes

Anywho

Brexit

deplorables

“Who all” as in “Who all is going to the barn dance?”

Snowflakes

I'm taking my MEDS.

Chunky

git gud

Words ending with -wise

"Triggered", just because I see it used everywhere now.

"Grow" when it's used in such a way as "to grow a business".

Lavish - something about the way the words sounds that annoys me.

[quote]Yum or Yummy, especially when referring to a human being.

Nothing wrong with "yummy mummy".

R145, thank you for the grow example. You can't grow a business. You grow crops, you grow something that is organic. You develop or increase your business.

This thread is making my mussy moist, and that's the tea.

DILF

[quote]R145, thank you for the grow example. You can't grow a business. You grow crops, you grow something that is organic. You develop or increase your business.

I would prefer "to make a business grow" to "to grow a business". Or "My business grew through dumb luck."

yasssss queen

"As such," which more times than not is used incorrectly.

Business can grow, like in size

as is

[quote] I'm taking my MEDS.

I don’t like “meds” either. Even if it takes longer to say or write, I use “medications”.

garage, the British pronounciation

Pussy whipped

R154 It is what it is!

In terms of...

MeToo

Meds sounds like something you'd receive on a psychiatric ward or in prison

[quote]Business can grow, like in size

Yes but I hear business people on talk radio saying things like: "Here are my plans to grow my business." To me it just sounds wrong.

Maybe it's a generational thing.

[quote] Words ending with -wise

Confound it all, Samwise Gamgee! Have you been eavesdropping?

"Wife beater" instead of "tank top".

Very classy

[quote] git gud

I’d never heard that one. I’ll have to look it up.

Brand, as in "working on my brand"

Influencer

King of turds

POOP. I prefer that other slang word DOOTIE.

Instaho

binary

Poo.

R172 non binary too!

Dooky

Informational Nom nom nom Sheesh Yummy, tummy and other baby talk

Amazing

Chilly

Kiddo

Queer

People saying "expresso" or "expecially"

Kudos

Boom

R177 thank you. Can't stand "kiddos".

Banal

Redacted

Exxxxxactly

Fierce

Veggies

Yeah, yeah, yeah

clap-back

"Speak to" or "Speak on" a topic. I feel like mostly urban types use these phrases when trying to sound smart.

Or "talk to me about X"

- Jonesing - as in I’m jonesing for a slice of pizza - Any phrase that uses “so” for emphasis - as in I so love Morrissey’s music - My bad - Goop/all things Gweneth

Right? Right? Riggghhhht??

Reductive

Euphuistic.

Reimagine

Ya'll

Y'all

Universe, but only when referring to stupid things like the "Marvel Universe".

non-binary

Irregardless. Although the word has become accepted in certain dictionaries the double negative still bugs the shit out of me. And I always assume someone is low IQ who uses it.

A DL phrase that I do like: "prostitution whore".

ESCORT- They're called prostitutes.

It's a RHONJ phrase, r198, something Teresa once called Danielle.

Shaneequa.

Madonna

specificity

Really, r203?

R6 I agree. "Casted" instead of "cast" is annoying. When did that start?

[quote]"Casted" instead of "cast" is annoying. When did that start?

I don't know when it started. I just live in fear of the day when they'll start saying "casteded." There's never enough for some people. Just never enough.

[quote] I agree. "Casted" instead of "cast" is annoying. When did that start?

I noticed largely within the last five or six years, first on the old imdb.com boards followed by references here on DL and other places.

[quote]It's a RHONJ phrase, R198, something Teresa once called Danielle.

Thanks for the info. I don't watch the Real Housewives series.

It's important to specify exactly what type of whore you're talking about, ie. that you don't mean whore in a figurative sense.

Kiddos

Sando

Bodies, as in "black bodies." I'm black but that usage makes me grimace. Trust me, it's fine to just say black people.

yada yada yada.......

Nod...

Kindness

basin

"comfy" (and people who use it instead of "comfortable")

eye candy

naughty (What, are you three?)

sinful (when applied to food)

tidy

tummy

“read someone [italic]to[/italic] filth” instead of “read someone [italic]for[/italic] filth”

R217-What about commercials for some treat marketed to women and the female voiceover says it's SINFULLY DELICIOUS-eww.

Yes. It happens with some ice cream-based confection, r221. That it exists is what's sinful.

"best" as an email sign off

Best,

Dora Dumbfuck

Woke

Privilege

Moist

Booty. Was it a word before "Shake Your Booty" in 1976?

Whence

Kardashian

"Nubbins" in overly descriptive food reviews

Trump

“Cando” for candle. As in “I brought my cando haul from Yankee Candle.”

Haul as in ”I brought my haul from Yankee Candle.”

[quote]There's never enough for some people. Just never enough.

Tell me about it!

Yes, r225, it was around long before that. Otherwise we wouldn’t have known what to shake when that song came on.

Another vote for irregardless here. It grates on my ears.

[quote] Bodies, as in "black bodies."

Huh? Absent an example of this usage, I assume that these persons of African descent are all deceased (in a morgue)? Now you have me really curious!

"Gaze," the way it's used in the 21st century.

No worries. ( Liar.)

I got it. ( When it means, Shut up.)

[quote] "Gaze," the way it's used in the 21st century.

How is it used? That’s a new one to me.

R237, from time to time, I read about "the male gaze." Today, here on DL, I read about "the gay male gaze" or maybe it was "the gay white male gaze." I didn't know what the fuck he was talking about, so I stopped reading before my head exploded.

I dislike the word "folks" as it is used politicians and "divisive" when pronounced "divissive". The word was always pronounced with a long "I" in the second syllable (in the U.S.), then everyone started using a short "i" in 2008.

I dislike euphemisms for washed up professionals who title themselves CEO & Founding Gobal Director for their single person consultancy, or worse “strategic growth hacker” and phrases like these. I feel bad for them but don’t want a call about how much I need their help. I get a lot of these on LinkedIn. It’s sad. I know I could be next.

Erm

Luscious. So disgusting. Makes the writer sound like a pervert.

Namby Pamby

"Site" as in "sites of leaning" or "sites of memory" etc

Bigly - it’s infantile.

Bling - It’s trashy.

Icon - It’s overused.

Closure -Psychobabble. The sad feelings of a heinous tragedy cannot finalized and closed. One learns to live with it, but sadness will endure. A heinous tragedy is the death of a child, a murder of a loved one, an early death from disease, etc.

Junk - As used to describe a penis. It’s utterly crude and ignorant and sophomoric.

[quote] "Site" as in "sites of leaning"

Pisa.

Lol, thanks for catching my typo r246

today's most annoying palabraficaciones:

"trans coming out stories"

"podcasts"

"right down the shitter"

"turtle headaches"

"preferred" as in "preferred pronouns"

Actually, r249, I don't mind "preferred" at all when it isn't attached to "pronouns."

Pan-fried.

Fabulous

People don't say-I'd like a side order of coleslaw. Today it's-I'D LIKE A SIDE OF SLAW-eww.

I don't do that, r253. And I certainly don't speak in all caps. There's one restaurant I go to regularly where I have a choice of sides. I always order "mashed potatoes, with gravy, and a dish of cole slaw."

Delicious when not about food sounds so pretentious. Over -use of obsessed in regard usually to beauty products. “That lipstick is delicious —I’m obsessed” ugh. Also “to die for” and “veggie” . Hearing someone talk about yummy veggies makes me sick.

Moo.

Stretched out "words" with repeated consonants rather than repeated vowels. For example: Amazzzzzingggg vs. Amaaaaazing. Rigggghhhht vs. Riiiiiight.

"Clearance!"

"Price Kills!"

"The SALE Section!"

[quote]Also “to die for”

I agree. I think Martin Crane of [italic]Frasier[/italic] had a great comeback for this. Niles was saying some restaurant’s food was to die for.

Martin: Niles, your country and your family are to die for. Food is for eating!

Using “totes” instead of very

I thought "totes" was used instead of "totally."

R255-The British say you need to eat a lot of fruit and VEG. The don't even say veggies. It's VEG.

At the end of the day---at the end of the day really, really irritates me. I think I even heard Pete B. say it when interviewed by Rachel. At the end of the day, even he is not perfect. (Am a huge fan though).

serendipity

Creamy

Young people who say "Hey" instead of "Hi".

Agreed R266. Its too casual.

"Hey" sounds vaguely rude to me.

And another thing about those damn young people. Where I live, young cashiers in stores and restaurants say "Have a good one." at the end of the transaction instead of "Thanks" or "Bye" or "Have A Nice Day".

Have a good what? Bowel movement?

Best practice

Round table

Conference call

Bae, boo, tribe, blessed

Literally, when they mean figuratively, or almost, or just like.

R226, “whence” is OK w/ me, but “from whence” is ignorant.

"Signage", as in "we're reimagining our signage." Also "reimagining."

Republican. Conservative. Uneducated. Religious. Southern. Provincial. Etc.

[quote]say "Have a good one."

I give them the George Carlin line for that: “I already have a good one. I’m looking for a longer one.”

[quote]At the end of the day

I think this beats the stilted JFK version of this which was, “in the final analysis....”

'Inbox' as a verb.

Even the characters on Six Feet Under ca. 2002 would say HEY instead of Hi. It's laziness too. It's less work the mouth to say HEY instead of hi.

Straight guys think it's more manly to say "Hey" than "Hi".

'I can't even'

I find that so fucking annoying.

Thought leader. Absolutely no one will be leading my thoughts!

Richness

"Cheers" but only when used by Americans

Really, r282? Why?

Narrative

Change the narrative

R283 An occasional "cheers" is fine but when it's an American's daily go-to, I find it irritating. Just a quirk of mine.

The OPTICS

I like "hey."

^^^ Young people want to distinguish themselves from older generations. I still find it irritating because I grew up with "Hi" and "Hello".

I don’t like when brits overuse “brilliant” Also many of them seem to think they’re very cute and that Americans are going to fawn over their accents which is annoying.

I'm probably older than you, r288.

Then you're a traitor to your generation.

Being called "chief" or "boss" by younger men. WHET "sir?"

“Best in class”

[quote] I still find it irritating because I grew up with "Hi" and "Hello".

Hullo.

In a similar thing, r292, when did people become so familiar? My name is, let’s say, Brian Smith.

I’ve had a lot of work done at my house recently, and had to go to a couple of different doctors recently.

Not once did anyone call me “Mr. Smith.” Everyone, and I mean everyone, immediately said, “Brian.” What if I went to see Dr. Charles Jones and said, “how we doin’ Chuck?”

Realistically, chances are I’d tell them to call me by my first name, but it’s rude to assume.

"Lovely" when used by Americans. It's OK if used by British people.

CRUSHING ON

Bromance. Frenemy.

"Adulting"

Medellin

"vacay" instead of vacation

"bored of" instead of bored with, although it's probably a regional variation

Eldritch. I saw someone use it on Twitter. Only douchebags use words like eldritch.

Easy-peasey

anus

Jam, as in "Paint and Sip [drinking wine] is my jam!"

Boot Edge Edge

I love saying "_____ is my jam!"

Adult beverage

soft drinks

Iteration. So pretentious. Also agree with poster who said irregardless. It's the same as people who say "I could care less". It means exactly the opposite of what they think they are saying.

[quote]Young people who say "Hey" instead of "Hi".—Eldergay

They did this too when I was young.

What up, homie.

This thread is my jam!

User-friendly

People watching

Hip-hop

Sample (music)

Hot (as in hot guy - SO over-used)

Fucktard (put this to the top of the list)

I have a colleague who is one annoying bitch. She loves using "equidistant" and the terms "in his/her stead" just to sound "read".

"Unpack" used in any other context than to remove contents from a box, bag or other type of container.

Or luggage, r316.

My bad

[quote] Being called "chief" or "boss" by younger men. WHET "sir?"

I like boss, means he doesn't see me as some stuffy old goat.

I prefer "soft drinks" to "soda" or "pop".

"Slay"

The British term sarnie is as twee as the American sammie to me.

The use of “unload” when referring to taking a shit.

Thanks, r323, from me and everyone else who never, ever, heard that one before. If I can't forget it, it's on you.

Meghan and Markle.

The use of “download” when referring to shitting. Seriously.

I said this much earlier in this thread-POOP. Why is that slang word more acceptable and less offensive than DOOTIE!

I hate the word poop - or poo.

Twee. Thanks r322

Then what do you say if you can't say "shit", R328?

I call them biggies.

Now you can too.

I went full asshole on a local sandwich store clerk who referred to the sandwich I'd just ordered as a "sammy."

"Wait…I didn't order that," I said.

"You ordered a roast beef on Sourdough with mayo, lettuce and horseradish," she said.

"I did," I replied, "but you just called it something else, and I have no idea what you're talking about."

"A sammy?"

"Yes. But I ordered a sandwich."

She then explained that a "sammy" WAS a sandwich, to which I replied there would be much less confusion if they stopped using nursery school terms and called it what it was.

And I will do that every time someone uses that stupid, stupid word.

Your sammy sounds nice, but you sound awful.

Snatch. Rupaul loves it.

Intersectional

R332, you’re going to be ingesting a lot of spit.

[quote]Your sammy sounds nice, but you sound awful.

I am. But only when triggered.

[quote][R332], you’re going to be ingesting a lot of spit.

From where I was standing, I had a perfectly clear view of the person who was making my sandwich. The chance of anything foreign finding its way into it was zero.

Lol R331. Sorry. "Biggies" isn't well known around here.

[quote]Sorry. "Biggies" isn't well known around here.

Don't follow the crowd.

Dump cake and dump dinners.

Redacted

Cucky

I didn’t read the whole thread since there’s a lot to unpack here. But I do hate the word frau.

Speaking my truth

Rad from anyone over the age of 19

Super

Kiddo/doggo

Bud/buddy

Living my best life. WTF??

"Living my best life" is only said by those who aren't...denial.

Eldergays, tell me about...

Honestly, r349, I like that. As an “eldergay” I enjoy it when legit questions are asked and even when being teased about things long long ago.

I like "eldergay," too. I worked hard to get here.

YES R344!! Take "your truth" and shove it where the sun doesn't shine!!

"Gal." I fuckin' HATE that word. I keep waiting for the people who say it to die of old age—which they do—but then even much younger people start saying it, people in their 20s. WHY?

I don’t like when articles rather than referring to a singer by their name call them by reference to one of their songs. Justin Bieber becomes “the ‘Baby’ singer”. Just call him Bieber or Justin.

Meal.

This trinity right here:

Russher

Gyna

No kuhLOOOgyn

I earned "eldergay." Hey, I'm alive, against all odds.

[quote]"Gal." I fuckin' HATE that word.

Who says that these days?

I prefer "gurl" it's more modern.

R356 - say what?

Ciggy

To "nut," as in, "I'm going to go down to the ABS because I've really got to nut." Stupid, STUPID word.

Fags - British slang for cigarettes

Pivot

Baby Daddy, Baby Mama, Preggers

Woke

When someone is counting down for something and they say how many 'sleeps' until the thing. Example:

'Two more sleeps until Avengers!'

That annoys me.

cis

[quote] 'Two more sleeps until Avengers!'

Is this some sort of short-hand for day after tomorrow? If so, it wins the prize as the most immature expression going, blowing the term veggies right out of the water.

I hate the smashing of names into one word, whether it be several letters from first and last name of one person, or taking an involved couple and smashing their first or last names together to be one word. On a soap central board one time, an obsessive Days of Our Lives fan said we will refer to this couple as... As if they intently had to manipulate everybody on the board to follow their bidding. Stupid idiots. I find it lazy and presumptive, and most of all uneducated, juvenile and tacky.

Fro Yo. It's fucking frozen yogurt. Call it as such.

It's called a portmanteau, r369.

Fro yo is for dou bas, r370.

R368 it could be any number. "Five more sleeps until vacation." "Twenty more sleeps until Jayden starts kindergarten!" Three hundred and sixty four more sleeps until yada yada yada..."

My stepsister says it and I find it so juvenile.

Adults talking like little kids: it's just starting.

In a restaurant a waitress comes up to three woman seated in a booth and says-Hi GUYS how are you doing tonight? Woman referred to as GUYS! Loathe it.

Influencer

Drownded

R375, yes, I can see where it could be annoying, but this practice results from the lack of an acceptable informal word for "women". The waitress can't say "Hi, gals", much less "hi, girls." "Hi, ladies" is equivalent to "hi, gentlemen" and might be acceptable to some, but it would offend others. "Hi, women" is as ridiculous as "hi, men" would be.

What happens when one needs to address a group of women collectively? This is where the Southern "y'all" would come in handy, but it sounds fake coming from someone who isn't a Southerner. There's really no good alternative.

(In the specific setting you describe, I don't think the waiter or waitress needs to address the group collectively at all. A simple "good evening" or "hello" would do - but sometimes a collective noun is needed, and there isn't one.)

Do this

Zaddy

Baby Sussex

[quote]’Two more sleeps until Avengers!'

I have never heard anything like this, but I agree that would grate on my nerves immensely if I did.

baby bump

pansexual

r383 Add "babymoon" to that.

Surreal. I'm watching Project Runway and it's been used twice in two minutes. Super annoying.

Retail therapy. Just say shopping.

'Amongst'

Adorable or the Satan of words: Adorbs

Gobsmacked (when used by non-Brits).

The repulsive habit of some gay men to use female pronouns to describe other gay men. Her, She, Queen etc..

Whilst we're here:

When British people type "whinge," is that the same pronunciation as the American "whine"? (Or, especially relevant to the British: "wine"?)

r392: Whinge is British for whine. Whilst is British for while, by the way. Americans don't say whilst. Whinge is not pronounced the same as whine AFAIK.

Slacks

Whinge is hinge with a initial "wh" sound, like wheel.

I find totes adorbs to be cute, in a campy way. Don't get all bent out of shape over veggies either.

[quote]Don't get all bent out of shape over veggies either.

Not going to waste an FF on r395, but...

"Brand". Your brand, her brand, his brand, the brand.

Twittersphere

Brits deliberately say "whilst" to annoy Americans.

Deplorable

The word(s) "Transparent"/"Transparency" in the workplace, especially when the format is a jacked-up Performance Review.

[quote]Brits deliberately say "whilst" to annoy Americans.

Do they do that with con-TRAH-ver-see, too?

And you-RYE-nul, r402.

Oh My Sides

[quote]Do they do that with con-TRAH-ver-see, too?

Yes. Brits are a very ornery lot. That's why they insist on driving on the left side of the road when the rest of the civilised world drives on the right.

Shade - as it throng shade.

Is everyone a black drag queen now?

Bugger Me.

No one outside the UK has adopted this stupid phrase.

What is "throng shade," a stronger version?

Gina

'use correct grammar' tell that to mark twain ass wad

'passed away' or worse, just 'passed'. Just say dead or died, it's not a dirty word.

Also straight women referring to their female friends as their 'girlfriends' - much more of an American than British thing, but annoying whenever I hear it.

Adults using the word 'tummy'.

I don't think so, R411. "Died" is a dirty word.

why do you say that R412? there may be a little bit of a silly taboo around it because people love being euphemistic about things like death but it isn't 'dirty'.

"Died" > "passed."

R413, that's the euphemism I've been brought up with, though I have to say I really don't like "passed". It's always been "passed away".

We use euphemisms all the time. If your dog or cat is too old and suffering and can't be helped, you don't say that you want the veterinarian to "kill" him, even though that's exactly what he is doing. You say "put to sleep" or "euthanised".

People are squeamish about death.

Using 'queer' for gay, lesbian, and bisexual people

I completely agree, R416. "Queer" makes me cringe too. Reclaiming words sounds like magical thinking to me.

**irritating phrase**: using POC when you're talking about a specific minority ethnic group

hookers

blow

I agree R415, people are squeamish about death and use euphemisms about different things. I suppose it's a matter of taste - you were brought up not to say 'dead' but I wasn't brought up with that taboo so to me it is just irritating, and the thread is about personal objections.

I think also for me it is about more than that though - the way that people tiptoe around death is annoying to me as I think it is a subject that should be discussed. When you have experienced a sudden and unexpected/particularly upsetting death, as many of us have, people tend to take pains not to refer to it as though it were indeed a dirty subject, which can make you feel even more dislocated from the world around you. I think Western societies would probably be healthier emotionally if we did talk about death a bit more, and using those sort of euphemisms just underlines the problem we have with it.

But like I say, at the end of the day it is a matter of taste.

R420, talking to someone who was close to the deceased is a very tricky thing. They get offended by things people say to them at the funeral (or wherever) even though they know that wasn't the intent of the person who said it. They're very touchy.

I agree again R421, I'm not blaming them and I would do the same. I'm thinking of the contrast between countries like Britain and mainstream America with countries where you see people responding more naturally to death wailling over the coffin and crying and holding each other in public. Not that I'd necessarily be comfortable with that either, but it speaks to my point about 'passing'/'passed away'. I was speaking to someone else in my family who hates it also and she said what I think, that it's like people are trying to make death 'nice' by using euphemisms around it but death is never nice.

Which isn't to say that I don't understand why people use it, I really do, just that I don't like the word itself and what it represents.

“Cis”

Non-Binary

Gender Queer

Queer

Cisnormativity

The use of “they, them and their” in lieu of “he” or “she” or “his” or “her”.

sherpa

[quote]The use of “they, them and their” in lieu of “he” or “she” or “his” or “her”.

Pfft. If you're talking about a person in a hypothetical way, you can't say "he" constantly, as we did in the past, because it's sexist. I'd rather say "they" and "their" than "he or she" and "his or her" all the time.

Speech is so 20th Century.

CIS male

CIS female

CIS gender

R424 here. Yes, you are correct, but I meant this when “They, Them, and Their” are used as a singular pronoun in lieu of “he or “she”. One of those transloons insisted on this because this doesn’t specify gender. “They, Them and Their” are plural. The transloon also thought “Zee, Zey, Zem” was acceptable. Isn’t it delightful?

R422, I used to think that, too, but now I realize that in most cultures people are taught to be respectful of the dead. Saying that someone has "passed' is viewed as polite; saying that someone is "dead" is insultingly cold. WASPs ("God's frozen people") do not think that way at all: to them, when you're dead, you're dead. You're thrown in the ground, your property is divided, and that's that. But that hard-headed approach isn't favored in most places.

Yes, but I don't think that saying 'dead' is disrespectful, that is the difference. You're talking in terms of paying respects to a living relative, I can't remember a time when I've had to say either 'dead' or 'passed away' specifically - although I have had friends lose people. I may say 'passed away' if i had to say one AND I thought that the person I would speaking to would find that easier.

But we also have reason to speak of death and dying in other contexts. For example I might refer to 'when my dad died' or 'before my dad died' and for me there would not be an ounce of disrespect in that, either to me or to him. To me it would feel mealy mouthed and affected to say 'passed away', but I know that that is not the same for everyone.

Like I said earlier, it is a matter of taste, and as you intimated, it is a matter of (crucially) what you were brought up with. You were brought up to believe that saying 'dead'/'dying' is disrespectful, I certainly was not.

This thread is about our personal feelings about words, those are mine. Not to cause an argument but I don't like the implication that 'passed away' is inherently more respectful than 'died' - that is subjective and, to an extent, context specific. Those are your feelings not mine.

There may be a cultural difference perhaps too? I don't know if you are America? a lot of people on this board are. I know that 'passed away' is used in Britain also but in my experience the US is a more euphemistic culture in other ways too so that may contribute your assumption that being forthright about death is inherently disrespectful, which I do find odd, as the implication is that I am disrespectful, which I am certainly not.

***poop***

I agree R431, it makes me cringe a little when adults say it - it sounds so childish to me.

The word "feces" makes me cringe, R432. I'd rather say "poop".

I wouldn't say 'faeces', I'd say 'poo' (which for some reason sounds less childish to me than poop), or if i was talking to a doctor I might say 'bowel movement' or maybe even 'stools' - again it's subjective isn't it?

Kombucha.

R435 - That's another name for poop, right?

Might as well be.

R430, I did not intend to suggest anything about you personally. I'm an American, and was brought up the WASP way, to speak in a direct manner about death. People in many other cultures feel that the dead are still a part of their lives, and so they try to be more formal when talking about them. That was the only point I was trying to make, that what to us seems to be euphemistic language is serving a cultural purpose, one that is foreign to us.

That's fair enough R438, thank you for explaining. I wasn't talking about people in other cultures using words like 'passed away' but people in my own with same background as me (ie. white British), or, I suppose, WASPy Americans. In this context I don't think it's a way of maintaining links with the dead but a way to collectively distance ourselves from the dead and from dying.

I think other cultures open-ess about death is a lot better - to me 'passed away' sits at odds with this, although I can see that for some referring to people as having passed on or just 'passed' can be a way of maintaining links, as though they still exist but in another room so to speak, so that does make sense.

I think it's all about who uses it when and why. In my experience it is a distancing mechanism but in another culture it could be the opposite.

R439, how do you feel about “no longer with us”?

Strangely okay R440, probably because I've heard it less/the context it is used in is a little different/it feels less euphemistic. It doesn't particularly bother me.

[quote]I wouldn't say 'faeces', I'd say 'poo' (which for some reason sounds less childish to me than poop), or if i was talking to a doctor I might say 'bowel movement' or maybe even 'stools' - again it's subjective isn't it?

Wrong. Saying "poo" is much more gross than saying "poop". And you're supposed to say "stool", not "stools".

[quote]how do you feel about “no longer with us”?

I prefer "croaked".

The singular of feces is fex.

No, it's "fecus".

POOP sounds childish why not just say DOOTIE.

No not wrong R442, just different. You think that 'poo' is more gross, but actually 'poop' is an Americanism originally, that has caught on in Britain, so it more alien to me partly for that reason. And because it feels more childish to me, but presumably not to you.

Please don't say 'wrong', that comes off as really arrogant. The theme of the thread is what words don't we like - it's entirely subjective, and in this case partly cultural.

I have seen stool or stools used, so I don't know why you are adamant that you are 'supposed to say' one or the other, unless you're looking for things to correct?

CumBank

I was using a tongue-in-cheek tone in my response, R447. I was trying to be funny.

R448 Cum deposit.

[quote]POOP sounds childish why not just say DOOTIE.

The word "poo" is an abomination because it doesn't have a final consonant. "Poop" makes it sound more polite.

All this talk about shite is making me laugh really hard.

Speaking of dogs "going to the bathroom." They are defecating or shitting, but they don't do it in a bathroom.

Top or bottom

He’s 80 years young.

Fur babies

Doppler radar

June gloom

Facebook

Twitter

Tweets

Feets

R457 - yes! Do straight or gay men ever use the term 'fur babies'? Or just crazy single women?

Bullying

Terrorists

Tinder

Grindr

Computer geek

Carbon footprint

Mommy Blogger

Right? Right? Riggghhhhhtt????

Grandbaby

Grandbaby. (Even worse: granddog)

God- in front of any relative other than son or daughter. (I heard someone referred to as a 'godcousin' the other day.)

Step- in front of any relative other than mother/father/sister/brother. There's no such thing as a 'stepuncle.'

the word: ban

its fascistic, elitist, dorky,,,ban me u fuk and I will kiss my ass.

R471, I agree but go further. I hate it when people call their grandchildren "grandkids". "I visited my grandkids down at the trailer park."

I can barely tolerate "my kids" for "my children" - plural - but "my kid" for "my child/son/daughter" is crude unless it's used in a humorous way. And yet, when used with the definite article, as in "we took the kids to Disney World", it's OK in informal speech. Weird, I know.

Referring to someone else's children as "her kids" sounds pejorative ... which may be the intent.

Winnie the Pooh.

snicker. snicker

Younger people say "furry chest" or "furry body" when referring to a man, instead of "hairy chest" or "hairy body". Very annoying.

Kevin Sessums. Who the fuck is Kevin Sessums?

"Otherism"

r477, you are the first person to say or type "otherism" in my presence. I think I know what it means, and I don't like it any more than you do.

[quote]He’s 80 years young.

Yes, oh YES!! God, I hate that term. It tries so hard to be cloyingly precious and fails so miserably. I think of someone alleged to be "80 years young" and visualize some Alzheimerian relic wearing a colorful sweater and loudly shitting his pants.

obfuscating, jus say barr lied.

the ny lady word: bethanny

wathing her now on bravo and need to puke

'butthurt'

Intersectional

"maths"

andy cohen

Fappening

'ivanka'

'jared'

theyr like curse nasty ick words.

Irregardless and unthaw, BECAUSE THEY AREN'T WORDS.

playdate

Shit-ton.

[quote]Irregardless and unthaw, BECAUSE THEY AREN'T WORDS.

Unfortunately, irregardless has been misused so often it’s now considered a word. It grates on my nerves probably more than any other word.

And, r484, that word I had to get used to after I found out the reasoning behind it.

r491, now that I know why the Brits say "maths," I find myself at least thinking "maths," too.

woke

Discrete, when the closet case should use “discreet.”

Creamy

Panties

Girly

Inappropriate use of "literally"

Terrific and marvelous.

Female-penis

The word “shit”. I abhor that vile word.

Poop is another one. It’s in very poor taste to discuss bowel movements in normal discourse.

Man-cunt

What's wrong with "panties"? What do you call them?

Lady drawers.

“Pussy” is a trashy word. It should be termed as female genitalia.

or gash.

Horrific

Honorific

[quote]What's wrong with "panties"? What do you call them?

Only females and trannies wear "panties."

Stanksleeve, or is it supposed to be two words, stank sleeve?

Troll

Boris

[quote]What's wrong with "panties"? What do you call them?

I prefer the British term"knickers" or the gender neutral underwear. Panties (and pantyhose) just sound vulgar.

HEY instead of the proper Hello.

r511 How about "Yo, dude!"

Anyways--not a word!! The word is "anyway." As soon as someone says it, I think, "Uneducated redneck," and walk away.

[quote]I prefer the British term"knickers" or the gender neutral underwear. Panties (and pantyhose) just sound vulgar.

It has always been "panties" when I was growing up in Canada. "Knickers" sounds like something from the 19th century. The Brits are wrong as usual. I was hoping that Britain being swamped with American pop culture would make the Brits speak proper English, but I guess not. They're a very obstinate lot.

"Politesse"

I have only heard this word once, and that was when someone cut in front of someone else in a liquor store.

"I don't care that he needs to go, he just needs to exhibit some politesse".

Oh, Huzzah, weirdo frauleine. *eyeroll*. You're in a liquor store. DEAL WITH IT.

Manners?

Courtesy?

Respect?

No, we have to say politesse. LOL

Weapons-grade retard level retardation.

Mr. Politesse could have been French maybe (sounds doubtful).

[quote]Only females and trannies wear "panties."

You obviously grew up in the wrong part of the world.

R519, you are a man and you call your underwear your "panties"?

Madonna

[quote]R519, you are a man and you call your underwear your "panties"?

Oops. Dopey me. Not reading very carefully. Yes, where I grew up, women and girls referred to their underwear as "panties", never men.

[quote]you are a man and you call your underwear your "panties"?

No--I call them "scanties."

We just calls em unnerbritches.

I call them subtrou.

Collision

[quote]Mr. Politesse could have been French maybe (sounds doubtful).

It was a woman and she was definitely not French.

R526, any reason?

Yeah it sounds stupid when I say it

Me too.

Me too

"Retard" and "retarded" -- so offensive.

"Toxic" with reference to anything other than chemicals.

Anyone using the phrase "toxic masculinity" without irony should be banished to a desert isle with no internet for life.

Narrative

Veggie. Preggo.

Police officers write reports using lots of extra words::

"The car was red in color." NO! "The car was red" will suffice.

"The crash was at the intersection of 4th and Maple." NO! "The crash was at 4th and Maple."

"The victim was 28 years of age." NO! "The victim was 28," OR, if you must, "The victim was age 28."

"He drove the car in a reversing direction into the alley." NO! "He drove the car in reverse into the alley," OR (even better) "He reversed (or backed) the car into the alley."

As a career police officer, with years as a training officer and sergeant, I've been trying to get my division to speak and write more clearly, but it's like pissing into the wind. And also, they just don't care.

"

Reinvent

Veggie

Sarah Saunders

adam

sandler

"curated" in reference to anything outside of a museum (a "curated wine list" is a WINE LIST or a "curated music selection" IS A JUKEBOX or a "curated fashion selection" IS A CATALOG or any of the other pretensions...)

THANK YOU, R539! True curators work in museums, libraries, and archives.

Like iconic, curated has become such a pretentious word.

[italic]She "curated" her wardrobe.[/italic] [italic]We'll show you how we "curated" this bedroom furniture.[/italic]

Two pretentious replacements for the word "used":

1. [italic]I'm wearing "vintage" Chanel.[/italic] (No, it's used designer clothing.) 2. [italic]This is a "certified pre-owned" BMW.[/italic] (No, it's a used car.)

Algorithm

Hillary

duff

Snowflake

Libtard

Feminazi

Obummer

baseball

janet bleach hag jackson

geick

Queer culture.

[quote]And also, they just don't care.

As with just about everything related to human behavior, they don't care because they have no incentive to care (or no disincentive not to care.) People rarely change unless it benefits them in some way, or if failure to change causes them some sort of pain (not necessarily physical, of course.) Reward them or punish them -- it's the only way to make things work.

Quintessential

Full stomach

Thrice. I mean, who the hell says "thrice"?

Caddy

Something about the sound of the word bugs me.

Queen, Goddess, Everything

Beside a picture a a lumpy chick on vacation all dolled up - Instagram comment 1: "Queen"

Beside a vacaying soccer mom in Orlando laying on the beach in a one piece with a towel covering from under the boobs down - Facebook comment 3: "Goddess"

Quirky group photo at happy hour with coworkers all making funny faces - Twitter comment 2: "This pic is EVERYTHING"

Young people use these words in a rather annoying way

You lost me at "vacaying"!

Bae / Boo

R554 fairly certain the word was being used with the utmost mocking at the frauen who use it.

MILLENIALS

[quote]Gifted when they mean given.

Also "gifted" in place of "gave," as in "I gifted them my old car."

I find "cray-cray" irritating. Stop the cutesy crap and just say "crazy." However I do find "bonkers" amusing.

[quote]MILLENIALS

Oh, dear!

My truth

I concur with nearly everything mentioned in this thread, but this is fucking ridiculous (although very DL):

[quote] Even the characters on Six Feet Under ca. 2002 would say HEY instead of Hi. It's laziness too. It's less work the mouth to say HEY instead of hi.

R562-The characters on ROSEANNE (1988-1997) would say HEY all the time instead of HI.

Bespoke

Zen. Also Hillary Clinton.

So what, r563? My point was not that people don't say "hey," but that it's absurd to claim it's because they're too lazy to say "hi."

Anyhoo.

What's wrong with "madame", R11? What do you call them - old broads?

Imma.

"Tea" to mean gossip.

All those asinine social media phrases for when someone responds to an insult or criticism: "Claps back," "shuts down," etc.

Jonas

bros

Or do you mean "madame" as in the manager of a brothel, R11?

Hate "gone" for "going to".

Erstwhile

Soft Serve

LOL

WTF

Doctors calling themselves gods, like on GA, when one refers to another as a "cardio god."

Hey, I love "erstwhile." It's up there with "whither."

Artsy

Peeps

Woke

Yummy

Bizarre

Next Level. Unless you're playing a video game, just STFU with this nonsense.

Backlash, especially when used to deflect Islamic attacks against infidels.

Trump.

Fur baby.

Q***r

G*nd*r

Str**ght

Technician.

When the fuck did everyone become a “technician”? There are no plumbers anymore, they’re “plumbing technicians.” No one does manicures anymore, they’re “nail technicians,” and so on.

Enough with this bullshit.

fart and gig

Hunty.

GURLFRIEND

Nothing more repulsive than adults talking about "veggies."

Whilst and Amongst

Whilst you may feel the word is irritating, amongst us Brits it's appropriate.

FF for r592, if I had more to give.

R593, so because you don’t like his use of a particular word, you flag him to the mods as a “Flame or Freak” (which is what F&F means, ya know)?

You’re an ass. And I’ll take your last F&F with pride!

I did not FF R593. Not wasting one on you either, r594, you codependent ninny.

[quote]you codependent ninny.

This. Now this I like. This made me chuckle.

Thank you.

"lush" and "velvety". Especially When describing body hair and sex acts, respectively.

Codependent. (Word I hate.)

Using the word love as a hyperbolic adjective.

Link to Words You Find Irritating, part 2: