Went to the cemetery this morning to visit my father's grave

Call the police

Is the cemetery taken care of by any organization? I'd call them. I'd be livid if I saw that.

I'd video that shit and put it on social media including his licence plate. Asshole.

That's the most infuriating thing I've read in a good while.

It appears your father was a veteran.

I actually tried to see his plate but he had those tinted covers so that you can only see the plate if you're looking at it directly. I honestly didn't try to get close enough to look. Maybe if their weren't kids present, but for some reason I don't like confronting people when they have kids with them. I will be calling the city on Monday to let them know so maybe one of the workers can keep an eye out and call the cops. If he did this today I'm sure he's done it before.

That's horrible. I once saw a guy jogging in the cemetery and I wasn't to thrilled with that. I can't imagine this scenario playing out. Call the people that run and care for the cemetery.

The funny thing is there are signs all over the place saying no dogs permitted, yet every time I go there people are there with their dogs. The last time I complained to the city the manger said maybe they were visiting loved ones. That's no excuse to treat a cemetery like your backyard.

The guy in the SUV clearly hasn't seen Poltergeist.

Many pooch owners tend to be entitled , anti social scum of the earth.

What kind of dogs?

[quote]Maybe if their weren't kids present,

Oh, dear!

Maybe you should eat shit! Or not complain.

OP, did your dad have a payee?

It's not really a city police issue because it's private property subject to private rules of use. Go to or call the cemetery office.

R13...

I've seen that too, OP. I've also seen people having picnics, rollerblading, and going for a jog with their fucking dogs on a leash. I did call the cemetery office and complain and you better believe there were cops there from then on. No matter what time I went, there was always a cop car there.

I think either the cemetery pays them or asks them to hang out there instead of a coffee shop. Either way, that was 5 years ago and they still hang out there.

Nate in "Six Feet Under" jogged in cemeteries.

your dad isn't there anymore, stop going

Maybe he was visiting a dead person and mourning in his way.

It's not like the residents are bothered by the noise

My mother used to take us children to the cemetery where her mother was buried and have a picnic. Every year we went there to catch pollywogs in a pond there. It was a gorgeous place with stunning plantings.

Didn't realize this was weird till I grew up.

In my teens there was boy in our circle who had recurrent leukemia, this was the mid eighties so he basically knew his time was running out. He got very drunk one night and tearfully mentioned to a girl I knew that he was a virgin and cried about how he'd probably never have sex (he wasn't ugly, just not particularly attractive). Now this girl was sweet, super smart and kind of nerdy with glasses, but on the way home she pulled him into a cemetery (where he'd be buried a few months later) and fucked his brains out.

It's the only time I've ever approved of desecrating a cemetary. I still smile when I go back home and walk by there.

Ah pity fucks are nice R23.

Now a cemetary not my thing to picnic in, have a party in our what have you. However Providence, RI has a gem of a park in Roger Williams Park. We were there having a nice dinner one night and these assholes on ATV's were ripping through the park. So I called the back office number of the Providence police and politely asked if they'd send a cruiser out. Reason I did it is because I knew the city was cracking down on ATV's. About 10 minutes later no more ATV's. Ha ha.

You’re right to be upset by this OP. Some people just don’t know any better. Are there signs posted at the entrance specifying what is and isn’t allowed in this cemetery? I would call or stop by the cemetery office and talk to the people responsible for enforcing the rules.

[quote]Are there signs posted at the entrance specifying what is and isn’t allowed in this cemetery?

Yes, at every entrance. People just don't care.

The cemetery where my parents are buried sponsors different running/walking events, including a CARACOLE walk. They warn people to keep pets on leashes (they never do). It's possible to be respectful, but most people aren't. It's very close to my house, and very peaceful and restful. Sometimes I go there for a long walk, but sometimes I just sit in my car, and read a book. It's one of the rare places that I can hear thrushes.

One cemetery near me had a big problem with competitive cyclists using the hills and winding paths to train. One wiped out near the historic baby section (miniature monuments) and ended up knocking over a few hundred year old headstones.

I doubt OP’s dad cares.

This didn't happen, but fun story

It’s not that OP's dad doesn’t care, it’s that OP cares about his dad.

I'm not opposed to people, especially seniors, using the grounds for a quiet stroll safely away from traffic, but visitors should not have to deal with scraping dog shit off their shoes. That's just rude.

0/10

You must just hate the doggos, OP.

I don't think this ever happened, but if it did, it almost certainly happened south of the Manson-Nixon line.

I’m sorry OP. People suck.

OP, that is what white trash is.

[quote]Maybe he was visiting a dead person and mourning in his way.

No, he didn't want to pay to have his kids enter a campground or he's already been told to gtfo at other places.

You must live in Michigan. The epicenter of white-trash America.

I used to love to go to the cemetery as a kid; my grandmother would take us every several weeks to put fresh flowers on my grandfather's grave. It was so peaceful and the gravestones were fascinating to me. Now, my mother and all four grandparents are resting there. It's no longer fun to go.

Maybe cemeteries have become a place for people that need help.

[quote] R22: My mother used to take us children to the cemetery where her mother was buried and have a picnic.

Picnics were actually quite common in the late 19th century.

My Mom would take us to the local historic cemetery once a year.

There’s a lot of tourism these days in cemeteries. Particularly garden cemeteries, where the turkeys are.

R24, there is no apostrophe needed in ATVs.

[quote] ended up knocking over a few hundred year old headstones

R28 No ma'am, this didn't happen, but nice try!

R42 I love your story. Cemeteries are places where people should enjoy, remember, and feel community love. I think more people would pay for burials if they knew it would be a lovely experience to visit one’s loved one.

R44, why don’t you think that’s possible? I believe him.

Lakeview Cemetary in Cleveland Ohio is also a nature preserve. There are hiking trails, you can certainly jog. They even have a naturalist there. I took a guided night hike there once. But I don’t recall ever seeing dogs there. That would be so wrong. And certainly no dirt bikes.

R46 bless your heart

Thanks r48, but that doesn’t answer the question.

I don’t find it that hard to believe that someone falling off a bike can damage a few headstones.

I can understand visiting a cemetery quietly and even picnicking because that's an old tradition with some cultures and at least traditionally they were picnicking while visiting family but letting your dogs and kids run wild is just disrespectful.

You guys are shit at knowing what is an EST and what isn't.

I found multiple articles about someone on a bicycle, motorcycle or ATV knocking over headstones, yet Miss Marple at r44 says it could never have happened.

I saw a person that would walk in the cemetery for exercise but she told me she avoided a certain area because every time she walked down that path in front of a certain mausoleum someone would tap her on her shoulder and hiss in her ear and when she turned around no one was there..

During hunting season you will see families of deer in the cemetery. I saw a doe, buck and 3 fawns one year. I do worry about a bear showing up sometime when I am there.

I feel her, R52. I inherited and now live in my grandmother's condo and the same thing happens to me.

[quote] I saw a person that would walk in the cemetery for exercise but she told me she avoided a certain area because every time she walked down that path in front of a certain mausoleum someone would tap her on her shoulder and hiss in her ear and when she turned around no one was there..

Are you sure it wasn't a tap on the haunches and a vicious "Move it along, toots!" ?

OP, you fucking pussy, why didn't you film them?

OP, you have demanded to speak with the manager.

Sadly, our local cemetery is becoming a place for drug addicts to hang out, purchase, and shoot up. There are now signs warning people to watch out for used needles and other drug paraphernalia on roads and in grassy areas. At one time, the only thing you had to worry about happening was finding parked cars at night in the very back of the cemetery with people having sex.......

I don't see a problem with jogging through a cemetery, but I' also believe cremation should be mandatory since we have 7 billion people on this earth. Very few people have made a significant enough impact on the world to command the preservation of a segment of Earth for all eternity. Most graves aren't even visited after the immediate family passes. The grave stones are nice, but most cemeteries should be converted to a park or evict the coffins after 100 years and move away from this wasteful practice.