What are the signs you notice that remind you that you're getting older?
|by Anonymous||reply 533||05/03/2019|
I keep having birthdays!
|by Anonymous||reply 1||04/09/2019|
White hair obviously. Wanting to go to sleep early.
a few wrinkles, but not too bad
|by Anonymous||reply 2||04/09/2019|
I no longer think about sex all the time
|by Anonymous||reply 3||04/09/2019|
I can sit through a 14-hour documentary about the Roosevelts, and not want it to end.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||04/09/2019|
I couldn't care less about cute little pop singers like Ariana Grande, Taylor Swift, Billie Eilish, etc., anymore.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||04/09/2019|
I gag at the thought of drinking Tequila and reach for my Maalox.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||04/09/2019|
I have no time to waste on silly, petty arguments.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||04/09/2019|
Gray hair. Seriously. I think I'm at the end of coloring it.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||04/09/2019|
Can't remember if I've brushed my teeth or not.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||04/09/2019|
When I drink too much, I’m exhausted and run down for a good week.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||04/09/2019|
R9 If your toothbrush is wet then you've recently brushed your teeth.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||04/09/2019|
Roller coasters give me a headache.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||04/09/2019|
Today's music is so loud!! (I sound like my parents)
|by Anonymous||reply 13||04/09/2019|
Big thick wiry white hairs in my eyebrows. It's like fishing line.
And along with that, the realization that manicured eyebrows make me look like a post menopausal woman - in my case, Mom.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||04/09/2019|
Whenever I rent a car in a different city, I find a radio station I like the music on.
Inevitably it will be some version of WLITE
|by Anonymous||reply 15||04/09/2019|
hairy ears are a daily struggle
|by Anonymous||reply 16||04/09/2019|
I don't tolerate crazy people anymore
|by Anonymous||reply 17||04/09/2019|
THe TV remote is so fucking confusing. I just want Off. On. Change Channel
|by Anonymous||reply 18||04/09/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 19||04/09/2019|
From age comes the wisdom that you never pass up a good opportunity to hit a pissatorium.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||04/09/2019|
People in their 20s look SO young to me.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||04/09/2019|
Reminding myself to stand and sit erect,and not letting my head and neck jut forward when walking.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||04/09/2019|
When I hear younger people's stupid conversation
|by Anonymous||reply 23||04/09/2019|
Drinking isn't fun anymore, it just makes you feel tired.
If you happen to have too much to drink, it takes two whole days until you feel normal again.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||04/09/2019|
The fact that I’m sitting here reading Datalounge with my reading glasses. Ugh.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||04/09/2019|
Yes you do, r7, don’t lie.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||04/09/2019|
When the most important thing I have to worry about every day is what time I'm going to take my mid day nap, I knew I was officially old.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||04/09/2019|
Fucking ear hair
|by Anonymous||reply 28||04/09/2019|
Jesus r28. You’re not the first person (at all) to mention this. Is this what I have to look forward to, looking like I’m wearing earmuffs all the time?
|by Anonymous||reply 29||04/09/2019|
It won't be like that R29. You'll just suddenly notice a strange wild hair growing out of places on your ears that hair never grew before. Many times you won't notice it until it's an inch long. And it'll be a thick hair. I notice when I get one it will have a very shallow root and will pop out with just a tug. They'll grow from the rim of the ear or the ear lobe.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||04/09/2019|
Oh yeah, and they tend to grow VERY fast.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||04/09/2019|
It's easier when ear hair turns silver because others can't see it from a distance. On the other hand, silver ear hair.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||04/09/2019|
I fart alot and I just dont care
|by Anonymous||reply 33||04/09/2019|
I've been a bottom for most of my life. I assume my ass has become loose like those older guys I used to fuck when I was younger.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||04/09/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 35||04/09/2019|
I now like to go bed when it's dark outside. Television is boring, same story line just with different costumes from those at The Old Vic. Everybody mumbles.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||04/09/2019|
The pointing and the laughing.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||04/09/2019|
More conscious of potential dangers and the finiteness of life.
Reduced stamina in both physical and mental exercise.
Would kill for the body and hair that I was unsatisfied with at age 25.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||04/09/2019|
Realising I am a good person and not giving a Fuck what people think of me anymore..... it's very liberating.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||04/09/2019|
Yes, one good thing about getting older is that you don't bother with so much stupid bullshit you thought was so important when you were younger. And you don't let crazy people or people who are really not good for you into your life. So that's one thing.
I had two very dysfunctional relationships when I was younger, and if I met either one of those guys today, I wouldn't even waste my time. You get a sense that "life is too short" when you're past a certain age and you just don't concern yourself with a lot of things you know aren't good for you.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||04/09/2019|
I always wanted to be liked and to have lots of friends. Then one day I realised they were not my friends and I dropped them all and have never regretted it and my only regret is I didn't do it sooner.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||04/09/2019|
If you are fit and healthy ageing is brilliant as you lose all of your neurosis and worries about yourself and really start enjoying the time you have left.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||04/09/2019|
You find yourself and your peers talking about retirement, superannuation and how expensive things are. Your fashion and diet obsessed fag hags hit menopause and on come the weight in a matter of months, never to depart.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||04/09/2019|
You are completely invisible to everybody under 40.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||04/09/2019|
Why should that be an issue, R44?
|by Anonymous||reply 45||04/09/2019|
I've not had sex in more than a year.
|by Anonymous||reply 46||04/09/2019|
[Quote]People in their 20s look SO young to me.
I've got you beat, r21. People in their [bold]30s[/bold] look young to me. It makes me laugh when they reminisce about "the old days" (which for them are the early 2000s).
|by Anonymous||reply 47||04/09/2019|
[quote]People in their 20s look SO young to me.
Actually, I think it's the complete opposite, when I was younger we actually looked our actual ages. These days, teenage girls wear so much makeup they look like street hookers.
As for 30 somethings, ever look at the NY Times wedding announcements? Those are the oldest looking 30+ years olds I've ever seen in my life. There was one couple who looked to be at least 45, they were both in their early 30s! Even the gay couples look much older than their stated ages. much
More like people in their 20s ACT much younger! They act like whiny teenagers.
|by Anonymous||reply 48||04/09/2019|
I've got you beat, R47-People in their early 40's seem young to me.
|by Anonymous||reply 49||04/09/2019|
Everyone already said most of the major ones. I'll add this - as I've been going through my closet & trying to clean things up. Most of my clothes are from 2006! And I don't have a clue if any of it is in-style or hideous because it looked good in 2006. I moved, changed jobs, and met a ton of new people in 2006 - so around that time, I bought tons of clothes.
I also still think the clothing style from my high school years was the best - and I will never back down from this! I was so comfortable in flannel shirts and "rugby shirts" that would, today, be XXXL size (was a L back then). I haaate the tight clothes, spandex in everything, clothes out now. And pants that are super tapered that hipsters started wearing & now everyone does. I suppose it would look ridiculous on me anyway. I can't decide if I should try to stay up to date with clothes or if that would look even worse.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||04/09/2019|
I'd like to get through one whole day without feeling tired, until bedtime.
|by Anonymous||reply 51||04/09/2019|
I've been tired ALL DAY EVERY DAY for at least 3 YEARS.
|by Anonymous||reply 52||04/09/2019|
I can't smoke pot two nights in a row anymore. I just turned 49 last week, and my body just can't handle it; I feel dehydrated and fatigued for a few days afterwards, can't think very clearly, and become susceptible to colds/infections more easily. I'm going to give once every weekend a try, and if that's too much, maybe only every other weekend.
I wouldn't even bother with pot anymore, except I can't enjoy sex without it. If I'm not high, giving a blowjob is like sucking on a dildo to me. :(
|by Anonymous||reply 53||04/09/2019|
When I get together with friends we talk about our medications and aches and pains. We used to talk about hot sex. Gray pubic hairs.
|by Anonymous||reply 54||04/09/2019|
every time I bend over to pick something up I fart. I suppose I should just be glad the old hole is still tight enough.
|by Anonymous||reply 55||04/09/2019|
I also can't remember the source of where I heard something. I remember the facts - but where it came from is sometimes lost on me. I usually am good at attributing jokes though.
These days, with so much information on tons of websites and tv channels, youtube channels, netflix, etc...constantly flying in your face at 100x the rate of the past, I think it would be more common in all age groups. I wonder if it has been studied.
|by Anonymous||reply 56||04/09/2019|
Noice. I love silence. Clubs are out of question because of the heavy noice. I travel a lot and few years ago spent all nights partying. Now I find myself in my hotel room planning next day thinking I should go out but I am sleepy and the bed is nice. Sad. I have also began to hire escorts because that way I still get hot young guys and without hours of trying to find someone I could tolerate. These are things I couldn’t imagine five years ago.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||04/09/2019|
When I get together with friends the retirement conversation comes up - as in when are you going to retire. I don't want to retire because I know the next conversations will be about who just died. The last year or so when I read or see someone has passed I start doing the math. I don't like being this way. I worked hard my whole life and I am lucky to have a job that I still enjoy but I want to be able to enjoy the fruits of my labor - but how do you enjoy what you know will be the last act? I get very weepy when I am by myself thinking about it all.
|by Anonymous||reply 58||04/09/2019|
^ have begun, couldn’t have imagined
|by Anonymous||reply 59||04/09/2019|
The mere thought of going out for a night of drinking and bar-hopping makes you feel tired. That used to be a favorite activity, but now the appeal is just GONE.
|by Anonymous||reply 60||04/09/2019|
Being able to say whatever I want, whenever I want, and wherever I want, and getting away with it. And yes, I have sense enough to know when it's better to just keep my mouth shut.
|by Anonymous||reply 61||04/09/2019|
I'm another one who would need at least two days to recover from an all-night-bender. I used to be able to drink profusely until the wee hours, sleep most of it off, and then wake up in the early afternoon with only a slight hangover that would be easily eliminated with coffee, toast-eggs-and-bacon, and a nice poop and shower. Then I would go out drinking again that evening!
Those days are over. The last time I had a bender was this past New Year's Eve, and I thought I would die the following day. I was achy all over, with a headache that wouldn't quit, eyes I could barely keep open, and an insatiable desire for ice-cold water. I must've drunken two full pitchers of water that day. The second day was better, but I was still lethargic, thirsty, and unable to concentrate on anything. I finally fully recovered the morning of the third day. I decided right then and there that I'd never drink like that again.
|by Anonymous||reply 62||04/09/2019|
My used condoms have wrinkles.
|by Anonymous||reply 63||04/09/2019|
Friends are just ...gone. This is more of a big city phenomenon, I think. I live in NYC and all of my close friends from my 20s and early 30s have long since moved away. A couple have died. I still have one or two around - but I see them once a month at best.
It's weird though - I feel like a stranger in my own city.
Also, I used to want to take over the world when I was young. Now? I just want another another cookie before bed. I have almost no ambition left above and beyond keeping my career going and generating some money.
I don't want to wish my life away, but part of me is looking forward to being too old for people to expect much from me.
|by Anonymous||reply 64||04/09/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 65||04/09/2019|
R63, oh, honey, that’s not the only thing you have that has wrinkles. We agreed not to tell you, though.
|by Anonymous||reply 66||04/09/2019|
Stopped dying my hair recently and went out and bought hair clippers then shaved most of it off. I feel much better as I was always trying to hide the grey and I got depressed if my hair looked a mess. So I am saving a lot of money and no more trips to the barbershop. Have met a number of friends who have not even noticed that the dark hair has gone. Aging is not as bad as people say, its all about your state of Heath and your state of mind.
|by Anonymous||reply 67||04/09/2019|
June Allyson is now my favorite actress.
|by Anonymous||reply 68||04/09/2019|
Realizing I am older than a lot of actors who I could swear were older than me.
|by Anonymous||reply 69||04/09/2019|
Hearing songs from high school on the oldies station. Yikes!
|by Anonymous||reply 70||04/09/2019|
EVERYONE looks absurd in skinny jeans!
|by Anonymous||reply 71||04/09/2019|
Your body starts to creak like your house.
|by Anonymous||reply 72||04/09/2019|
Something hurts for no damn reason ... so you ignore it, and usually it goes away because it's just an aging ache.
But you know that --one day-- it will be a harbinger of something serious.
|by Anonymous||reply 73||04/09/2019|
For today's hipsters, everything old is new again.
Tell me this photo doesn't look current. It was taken in 1964.
The clothing styles of the young woman and the young man, who just passed, LSD researcher Ralph Metzner, looks like so many hipsters walking around in Brooklyn! Especially the young woman.
|by Anonymous||reply 74||04/09/2019|
Ooops, I forgot to add...the woman above is married to Robert Thurman and is Uma's mother. She was formerly married to Timothy Leary, who is also in the photo. Nena had four children with Robert Thurman.
|by Anonymous||reply 75||04/09/2019|
I despise social media and stupid reality shows and talk shows and they all the people enraptured with such things are trash!
|by Anonymous||reply 76||04/09/2019|
True r73. When I used to get some ache or pain, my first thought was "oh, I must've slept wrong." I'm now at an age where my first thought is "omg, could it be cancer!?"
|by Anonymous||reply 77||04/09/2019|
When I reach for my contact lenses and just say "Fuck It" and put on the glasses because it's easier. (I am not a candidate for Lasik).
Ear, nose, and back hair.
When it gets dark at 7 and I can't wait until 10 so I can go to bed - and then waking up at 3 a.m. to pee.
|by Anonymous||reply 78||04/09/2019|
You can watch episodes of Last of the Summer WIne and find it funny. Howard is my favorite.
|by Anonymous||reply 79||04/09/2019|
You think current pop music is absolute garbage and you wonder how anyone can listen to it.
|by Anonymous||reply 80||04/09/2019|
No sex drive anymore.
|by Anonymous||reply 81||04/09/2019|
Have ear hair already, been almost a year since I’ve had sex (I’m also getting pickier and pickier with age - I’m also in LA where everyone thinks they are a 10), starting to get one or two wild eyebrow hairs. Head hair thinning. Only thing that is good is that I’m in better shape than I was ten years ago...FWIW (and only straight guys seem to notice) :-/.
|by Anonymous||reply 82||04/09/2019|
I can't eat fast food anymore - always makes me sick. The ear hair thing has really kicked into high gear this past year (I'm 49). I feel like I have to monitor my ear hair every 3-4 days now.
I hate driving at night - that never bothered me years ago, but the reduced vision just bugs the shit out of me and makes me nervous.
I think I'm getting cheaper as I get older. I eat out a lot and the prices vs. cost of ingredients is starting to get on my nerves. There's so much overpriced stuff on menus now - $8 for a handful of grilled brussel sprouts with parmesan cheese is an outrage. (ingredients are maybe 40 cents). I never cared much before, but now it's ruining my good time.
|by Anonymous||reply 83||04/09/2019|
Prostate cancer at age 60. Now 72.
|by Anonymous||reply 84||04/09/2019|
You look forward to having a bowel movement.
|by Anonymous||reply 85||04/09/2019|
I have stopped being impressed by restaurants. I always hear about the newest place that does amazing things.
It’s all bullshit.
|by Anonymous||reply 86||04/09/2019|
You forget that you read a thread on this exact subject a few months ago and another one a few months before that.
And also, like someone above said, the contact lenses become a bother and so you wear the old man glasses.
And - you see old men on Scruff and then notice that they’re two years younger than you.
|by Anonymous||reply 87||04/09/2019|
[quote] I must've drunken two full pitchers of water that day.
You must have water on the brain.
|by Anonymous||reply 88||04/09/2019|
R18: I've been the InfoTech/InfoSec field for 25+ years so things like remotes and things don't confuse me.
My favorite story though - the spouse was in the hospital. They were wigging out about his blood pressure and one night I noticed when they came in to have the machine do his BP the disastolic number was 68. Asked a nurse about it next day and was told I was probably getting it confused with pulse rate. Really?
Well never lie to someone in I.T./I.S. - because I then said to myself, the machine has to be simple enough for non-technologists to use it. So I found the logging tab went in and sure as shit, 114/68 BP reading at 2AM the night before. I told this to the doctor - he laughed when I told him. But he agreed, never assume the patients spouse doesn't know about tech.
|by Anonymous||reply 89||04/09/2019|
For me its the drinking thing and pot. Just like people upthread, if I drink the after effects are BRUTAL. The worst headache and nausea. Pot dehydrates me so bad and I drink 4 liters of water a day. It's bad. Can't smoke at night. Always a slight headache when I wake up and extreme dry mouth. Starting to get grey hair in my beard this year. I just turned 38. I'm shookith. This all just changed in the last two years.
|by Anonymous||reply 90||04/09/2019|
When I feel a fart coming on I run to the toilet because I am never sure what is going to come out.
|by Anonymous||reply 91||04/09/2019|
Wow. Most of these postings I could have written. Good to know at 65 that I'm not alone. Thankfully I'm in good health, don't have any prescriptions to worry about, can still cum once or twice a day if I'm up to it and enjoy making new friends. Though some days I prefer to be alone and watch old TV shows and movies, but I get restless and have to get outside or do something where I can be around friends or be productive in some way. To think that I now have no desire to go out to clubs and stay out late drinking. What a relief!
|by Anonymous||reply 92||04/09/2019|
Damn, 90% of the above plus I never leave the house unless I have to. I hate driving at night or in really sunny conditions. I've gotten some seniors discounts even though I'm not officially a senior.
|by Anonymous||reply 93||04/09/2019|
The drinking seems to be a theme here. I honestly don't know how I used to do it! When I think back on how much I was able to put away and still be functional and go to work the next day, it amazes me. I could drink hard liquor half the night, and in the morning I could get up and go to work like nothing happened. It I tried to drink like that now, I wouldn't be able to leave my house the next day!
And I don't miss it either. I still have a couple drinks here and there, but the thought of getting shitfaced holds no appeal for me anymore.
|by Anonymous||reply 94||04/09/2019|
I was born at 40 so lost interest in current music at the age of 12 a very long time ago. Always loved old movies and was creaming over Follies as a boy. Always hated too much noise in bars and discos and drinking too much.
So what's really killing me is getting senior discounts and not even asking. I started being sirred at about my late 40s but this senior thing which is fairly recent has thrown me for a loop. I was always the youngest in a group and then things suddenly turned and I became the oldest.
|by Anonymous||reply 95||04/09/2019|
I think rap music rots the brain.
|by Anonymous||reply 96||04/09/2019|
Knees and back aches from simple ordinary things, not from happy fun times.
|by Anonymous||reply 97||04/09/2019|
Two times in the last month I was carrying a package out of a store and someone asked me if I needed help with it. It's nice to know there are helpful people about in today's world, but a bit embarrassing that my age is showing. I wasn't struggling, I swear!
|by Anonymous||reply 98||04/09/2019|
Balls hanging to about mid-thigh on a warm day.
|by Anonymous||reply 99||04/09/2019|
You can gain weight in five minutes but as far as losing weight goes, you'd have a better chance of Chris Evans presenting hole in your living room.
|by Anonymous||reply 100||04/09/2019|
My memory and my joints. Both are going. Oh and no I don't smoke joints that affect my memory.
|by Anonymous||reply 101||04/09/2019|
I get the senior discount automatically now too!
These skinny jeans and muscle tees don’t fool anyone.
|by Anonymous||reply 102||04/09/2019|
[quote]I was always the youngest in a group and then things suddenly turned and I became the oldest.
That's happening to me now, and it's hard to take.
|by Anonymous||reply 103||04/09/2019|
I’ve quit being surprised when young people don’t know my cultural touchstones.
Who’s Ann Margaret? Elvis, maybe I’ve heard of him, not sure. Who was Burt Reynolds? Absolutely no one from old Hollywood.
|by Anonymous||reply 104||04/09/2019|
When furniture attacks.
|by Anonymous||reply 105||04/09/2019|
When my prolapse wouldn’t push back in.
|by Anonymous||reply 106||04/09/2019|
When candidates for the next presidential election are younger than you.
|by Anonymous||reply 107||04/09/2019|
When MeTV is your go to channel
|by Anonymous||reply 108||04/09/2019|
Not long ago, I fell down, and couldn't get up. My neighbor had to come by, and pick my (naked, shivering) ass off the floor. Most of the time, that wouldn't have bothered me (much),. I'm a little white guy, and my neighbor is tall, black and strong. He didn't get offended seeing me naked. But I hated being helpless like I was. He still calls me pretty much every day to make sure I'm okay. I'm lucky to have neighbors who care for me, but I wish I didn't have to depend on them.
|by Anonymous||reply 109||04/09/2019|
Yes and I love CoziTv and Antennae TV and all off brand over the air channels.
Looking at you, Grit and Bounce and Comet and Laff and H&I
|by Anonymous||reply 110||04/09/2019|
For the life of me, I really don't get Twitter's purpose (and I work for a B2B software company in Los Angeles.)
|by Anonymous||reply 111||04/09/2019|
r111 I think the world would be better off without Twitter. I hate it.
|by Anonymous||reply 112||04/09/2019|
Having sex with strangers. I used to love being a big slut, but after being with the same guy for 9 years, I'm too old to go out there and cruise guys for sex again. It's all too much work.
|by Anonymous||reply 113||04/09/2019|
Peeing multiple times during the night.
|by Anonymous||reply 114||04/09/2019|
When I watch the Country Music Awards
|by Anonymous||reply 115||04/09/2019|
I’m 40. I went for a brisk walk, maybe 2 to 3 miles, and when I finish - my body aches. Lower back, joints, hips?? legs,… All of the pain. I used to be able to walk and feel absolutely Nada.
|by Anonymous||reply 116||04/09/2019|
When you're standing in the checkout line, you have no idea who the fuck half the people on the magazine covers are anymore. And you couldn't care less.
|by Anonymous||reply 117||04/09/2019|
I don't understand Twitter and replied to Facebook like I was on DL. I got such surprising comments that I was afraid the police were coming as I believed my "friends" would report me as a pervert. I deleted all my comments and have been afraid to comment on Facebook ever again.
|by Anonymous||reply 118||04/09/2019|
My 41 years old work collegue has a 26 years old bf. They have been together for 2-3 years and started dating when he was just 23. The boy just finished college and is currently looking for his first job. We often have 10-12h work days and I'm always looking forward to a relaxed evening, weekend or vacation with my partner. He usually spends all his free time in the gym and often goes clubbing on the weekends with his boy. Also basically has to pay for all dinners, activities and vacations since the parents still support the bf financially. It must be fun to fuck a twentysomething stud, but I'm really glad that my partner and I have the same interests, he can pay for his own meals, rent and vacations and I don't have to spend every single minute in the gym to stay in shape. Also don't have to be embarrassed when using my reading glasses at a restaurant to read the menu. Not wanting to the deal with the drama and life circumstances of a twenty something boy makes me officially old I guess.
|by Anonymous||reply 119||04/09/2019|
I never go shopping anymore, I have two of everything ever made. Now I spend more time discarding "treasures" I never needed in the first place. Dollar wise, I probably have two retirement accounts worth of things that I simply couldn't do without, way back when. I still find packages that I never bothered to open, hidden away in a closet or in a storage bin. I have to watch my eating, as I get nauseated if I overdo it. This, of course, makes me worry about pancreatic cancer. I have to be careful about the way I lie down or I can't catch my breath, which actually scares me. It's just one wonderful event after another.
|by Anonymous||reply 120||04/09/2019|
I hear the distant path, calling me back to myself.
|by Anonymous||reply 121||04/09/2019|
I have to let it linger. I have to. I have to. I have to let it linger.
|by Anonymous||reply 122||04/09/2019|
When I ask for directions to the hospital, I get directions to the cemetery.
|by Anonymous||reply 123||04/09/2019|
I started going to Vegas for the shows
|by Anonymous||reply 124||04/09/2019|
lol I'm going to vegas for a show at the end of the month, r124.
|by Anonymous||reply 125||04/09/2019|
You get fat from reading a menu.
Gaining weight takes 5 minutes.
Losing weight takes 5 months.
(Liposuction only takes a few hours though...)
|by Anonymous||reply 126||04/09/2019|
I'm still in love with the college friend I fell in love with 20 years ago. Dark, handsome, fit, sensitive.
Other guys warned me he was straight but liked to tease guy guys.
I've never connected with anyone, gay or straight, as much as him. Nothing remotely physical happened, but we were best friends for a year.
He makes six figures now and has a wife and kids in the Midwest. We're still friends on social media. I just messaged him tonight, alone in my NYC apartment, saying hey.
|by Anonymous||reply 127||04/09/2019|
Holy shit - r127 - I have the same weird thing & he was the same kind of guy with gay guys (mostly me - I don't think everyone else was as open about it back then). We also got along so well, I'd sit in his dorm room every night for hours talking to him. I cannot find a damn thing about him except his bar registration. He's completely off all social media. The last I saw of him was in 2003 in NYC. And we're in the reverse. He's licensed in / living in NY and I am in the midwest. I emailed his work email years ago, but it either went to spam or he decided not to reply (which was somewhat unlike him but maybe he moved past the whole thing). I am so curious what he looks like... probably bald given the early pattern that started in law school.
|by Anonymous||reply 128||04/09/2019|
R116 wow I am 43 and can walk two hours or more and never have any of that happen.
|by Anonymous||reply 129||04/09/2019|
I have one like that, too, r127 r128. I thought we were going to the chapel when we graduated. Instead, I moved away, and he married a woman. He would seek me out over the years to implore me to consider being his...male equivalent of a mistress, I guess is the best thing to call it. I was not interested.
I emailed him maybe ten years ago, but never heard back.
|by Anonymous||reply 130||04/09/2019|
I don't respond to as many DL threads as I used to.
|by Anonymous||reply 131||04/09/2019|
I'm only 41 but pay for sex on occasion. It depresses me. I don't think I'm bad looking but I feel that I'm invisible these days on the gay scene. Guys aren't interested anymore, even at a sauna. When you can't get laid at a sauna you know it's over. I used to get a fair amount of attention. Sometimes it depresses me and i get suicidal thoughts. But i guess its how it is. Gay men are cold.
|by Anonymous||reply 132||04/09/2019|
I remember that when our friendship was developing, thinking, this is how it's supposed to be, this is how my father met my mother, and how so many great creative couples met — in college.
We were both raised serious Catholic boys. In college, we were in writing seminars together. Although he was quite a hetero lothario, he sought me out, striking up a friendship, showing up outside my apartment for "advice." Even after I submitted stories about being gay.
It seems ridiculous now. Today, we would've been able to explore "heteroflexibility" and maybe kiss each other. But in 1996, I couldn't even address the fact that I was attracted to him, even when we went out drinking. Instead, 20 years later, I still love him and wonder what his lips would taste like.
|by Anonymous||reply 133||04/09/2019|
I understand why bi guys end up with women now. At least that gives them some stability and comfort in their lives as they age. We gays mostly end up alone. It doesn't always get better, that campaign was bullshit. It's a lonely life as a gay man. Fun in your 20s but that's it really. Most gay guys also have emotional problems as a result.
|by Anonymous||reply 134||04/09/2019|
Being with a guy for 20 years and when you look at him you still love him as much as you did then, but when he looks at you, all he sees is an old man he's no longer attracted to.
|by Anonymous||reply 135||04/09/2019|
R135 doesn't that happen with straight people, too?
|by Anonymous||reply 136||04/09/2019|
When I started preferring a nice dinner with close friends and conversations over wine over bar-hopping.
|by Anonymous||reply 137||04/09/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 138||04/09/2019|
[quote] Big thick wiry white hairs in my eyebrows. It's like fishing line.
[quote] And along with that, the realization that manicured eyebrows make me look like a post menopausal woman - in my case, Mom.
For eyebrows, there's some middle ground between long fishing line and post-menopausal woman. Just get out a fine-tooth comb and scissors and clip those eyebrows.
|by Anonymous||reply 139||04/09/2019|
But, who am I kidding, right? What does any of that even mean?
|by Anonymous||reply 140||04/09/2019|
well, smell r89! she found the “logging” tab!
|by Anonymous||reply 141||04/10/2019|
My partner and I used to have hot passionate sex now we're just friends, no sex.
|by Anonymous||reply 142||04/10/2019|
Younger gays, this thread is your future.
|by Anonymous||reply 143||04/10/2019|
Decreased stamina and less restful sleep.
|by Anonymous||reply 144||04/10/2019|
Over hearing young people having conversations and bothered they use the word fuck too much.
|by Anonymous||reply 145||04/10/2019|
Spending the weekend doing nothing but lying on the couch and watching Netflix sounds like absolute heaven.
|by Anonymous||reply 146||04/10/2019|
The luxury, after leaving a career, that there are some days when you don't have to do damn thing if you don't want to.
|by Anonymous||reply 147||04/10/2019|
you don't need signs of aging other than coming to the DL and reading threads.
|by Anonymous||reply 148||04/10/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 149||04/10/2019|
I love all you bitches on this thread! We all have the same issues. It’s amazing.
Special hugs coming to r132! We love you.
|by Anonymous||reply 150||04/10/2019|
Not having to bathe for months at a time! Heaven
|by Anonymous||reply 151||04/10/2019|
r151 misread OP's thread. This is not Aging homeless.
|by Anonymous||reply 152||04/10/2019|
Realizing my best times are behind me. I used to look forward to the future. I also dread Christmas.
|by Anonymous||reply 153||04/10/2019|
[quote]Over hearing young people having conversations and bothered they use the word fuck too much.
Reading aging gays' posts on Datalounge and being bothered that they type "over hearing" instead of "overhearing."
No, wait. That has bothered me at every age.
|by Anonymous||reply 154||04/10/2019|
[quote]I also dread Christmas.
I have always dreaded Xmas as an adult.
|by Anonymous||reply 155||04/10/2019|
R155 - Thank you. I used to get excited about buying my family gifts, trimming a tree, putting up lights. Now I just don’t participate at all. And I hate those damn Salvation Army donation seekers in front of the store.
|by Anonymous||reply 156||04/10/2019|
[quote]And I hate those damn Salvation Army donation seekers in front of the store.
I am purposely surly with them. I try to avoid my regular chain supermarket from Thanksgiving to Christmas.
|by Anonymous||reply 157||04/10/2019|
i'm 55 and I swear half my metabolism is geared toward ear hair growth. The other half of my metabolism is for converting all food and drink to gas.
|by Anonymous||reply 158||04/10/2019|
r153, don't be discouraged. all of us are only on this planet for a short period of time. live life today and don't look back and dwell on what you do not have. today is a gift. sunshine is a gift. oxygen is a gift. nature is a gift. enjoy it and know that you are apart of life at any age.
|by Anonymous||reply 159||04/10/2019|
Stuart Smalley at r159!
I’m kidding. Hell, I even gave r132 hugs!
|by Anonymous||reply 160||04/10/2019|
New York Times begins to look either misguided or biased, instead of insightful and enlightening.
|by Anonymous||reply 161||04/10/2019|
My 20's, 30's and 40's were great. As I got toward 50 all the fun started, the hearing loss the right leg just going out from under me. Nobody warned me about this stuff. One warning I did get - you'll bleed from both ends - not me but the spouse who's 9 years younger than me.
The hearing thing - all a result of me having ear infections as a kid. Apparently scar tissue retracts the eardrums. I went through all sorts of tests and a visit to a doctor I'd been seeing for allergies was the factor that brought it to focus. The Ear and Nose folks couldn't figure it out and chalked it up to Menieres Syndrome. The allergy doc - he mentioned the ear infections and was the one who looked in my ears and said "Your eardrums are retracting." I thanked him for being the one who figured out the issue.
|by Anonymous||reply 162||04/10/2019|
Having no desire to interact with younger gay men because they will never understand what the 80s and early 90s were like for our generation. That also applies generally to straight people . The drinking issue is so relatable too. I'm 62 and up until about a year ago could go out with friends and spend hours eating and drinking especially in the summer. Then one day I woke up and felt AWFUL and decided I had to change. That was only part of the problem though. The other is that people expect you one to keep the party rolling and when you abdicate that role they don't quite get why.
|by Anonymous||reply 163||04/10/2019|
Will be 60 at the end of the year. Yes, the nose hair, ear hair and graying pubes started at the age of 50, but I manage to keep up with the ear hair, nose hair and straying eyebrow wires. I'm noticing the occasional aches and pains from seemingly no injuries. Going to clubs and staying out really late ended years ago. Too much drama in that realm. Still, hanging out with friends a little younger than me keeps me from feeling old. As does listening to new music, usually considered alternative or underground. Trying not to dress in frumpy clothing by wearing classic cut items. Yeah, I'm old, but I'm fighting it.
|by Anonymous||reply 164||04/10/2019|
I check the obits every day, mainly to make sure I'm not listed.
|by Anonymous||reply 165||04/10/2019|
All of the physical stuff as stated above. But what has surprised me most is how many of my peers haven't become sage and wise, but rather ramp up their childishness and get into silly arguments. Maybe it's an onset of dementia.
|by Anonymous||reply 166||04/10/2019|
R161, what the fuck does that have to do with anything? And from a garbage right-wing site like "Virginia Patriot 1776"?
|by Anonymous||reply 167||04/10/2019|
One drink gives me a hangover for 2-3 days
|by Anonymous||reply 168||04/10/2019|
Eat one bag of chips and you gain 2 lbs.
|by Anonymous||reply 169||04/10/2019|
I love talking to my gay friends who are my age (50). Our interests are so different from when we were younger; the conversations are deeper
|by Anonymous||reply 170||04/10/2019|
When you have to go to the bathroom, you have to go RIGHT NOW!
|by Anonymous||reply 171||04/10/2019|
Especially at 3:17 AM, r171. What a pisser.
|by Anonymous||reply 172||04/10/2019|
I will now blow just about anybody. When I was 23, I was oh so selective. Now I see it as paying it forward for my own dotage.
|by Anonymous||reply 173||04/10/2019|
[quote] every time I bend over to pick something up I fart.
Great heavens! Is r55 the only one?
|by Anonymous||reply 174||04/10/2019|
You look forward to going to bed early.
|by Anonymous||reply 175||04/10/2019|
Remember that after 40 it's never just gas.
|by Anonymous||reply 176||04/10/2019|
Cherry angioma, skin tags, seborrheic keratosis, and liver spots.
|by Anonymous||reply 177||04/10/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 178||04/10/2019|
You lie in bed and things hurt. For no particular reason.
|by Anonymous||reply 179||04/10/2019|
I find myself watching the Weather Channel for hours.
|by Anonymous||reply 180||04/10/2019|
[quote]You lie in bed and things hurt. For no particular reason.
I’m just grateful when I’m in bed I can feel anything, hurting or otherwise.
|by Anonymous||reply 181||04/10/2019|
I started drinking decaf and using less salt: blood pressure.
|by Anonymous||reply 182||04/10/2019|
For those of us born in the 40s, and even 50s, there were some scary and desperate times trying to hook up with another gay in our youth. Now in our 70s, there are some scary and desperate times trying to navigate perhaps the last decade of our lives. Hopefully, most of us more than made up for it during the middle years, giving us plenty of memories to ponder.
Aches and pains are a reminder we are still alive. Deal with them.
|by Anonymous||reply 183||04/10/2019|
The funny thing is the pain I don't get that and I'm in my 50's now.
|by Anonymous||reply 184||04/10/2019|
On the bright side us oldsters will be gone when Earth becomes WaterWorld.
|by Anonymous||reply 185||04/10/2019|
I am enjoying reading the comments here. I’ll be 50 next year and I’m grateful to be alive because I’ve lost several friends my age. I don’t feel like I’ll live to be 90 and that’s ok with me. But I would like another 25 years!
|by Anonymous||reply 186||04/10/2019|
My dick seems to be getting smaller but my foreskin seems to be getting longer.
|by Anonymous||reply 187||04/10/2019|
Do dicks shrink when one gets older? A fuckbuddy commented mine seemed smaller. Maybe I need to exercise it more?
|by Anonymous||reply 188||04/10/2019|
R188 Do cardio to keep blood pumping.
|by Anonymous||reply 189||04/10/2019|
I love everyone on this thread and am grateful for all the replies.
|by Anonymous||reply 190||04/10/2019|
Every time you have an ache or a pain you think "cancer!"
Every time your bladder or bowel habits are off you think "cancer!"
Every time you feel tired or lethargic for more than 24 hours you think "cancer!"
|by Anonymous||reply 191||04/10/2019|
[quote]I can sit through a 14-hour documentary about the Roosevelts, and not want it to end.
But how many bathroom breaks?
|by Anonymous||reply 192||04/10/2019|
Cute young guys always think you're straight because they aren't attracted to you.
|by Anonymous||reply 193||04/10/2019|
While perusing the obituaries I'll see one with a photo of a real old fart then I'll read it and learn he's younger than I am.
|by Anonymous||reply 194||04/10/2019|
My under eye bags never go away no matter how thin I am.
|by Anonymous||reply 195||04/10/2019|
I considered the Times a joke a million years ago when I would read Walter Kerr and Clive Barnes. They were dreadful. This was the best the Times could do when it came to serious theater criticism? The paper always seemed a farce to me. Yeah I know people hold up Kerr as some sort of paragon but I thought he was a shitty writer when I was a kid. And hiring Barnes was total insanity. Who was that obese balletomane blowing?
|by Anonymous||reply 196||04/10/2019|
Posting in the wrong threads time and time again.
|by Anonymous||reply 197||04/10/2019|
When in a public place and you see a pathetic old man across the way- and then you realize.........its your reflection .....
I dream of sleeping a full 8 hour stint
Was told the shoulder injury is just the normal progression of joint deterioration...
Ive just had my 3rd heart attack....
|by Anonymous||reply 198||04/10/2019|
I was always a fast walker now everyone passes me.
|by Anonymous||reply 199||04/11/2019|
Being ignore on Grindr
|by Anonymous||reply 200||04/11/2019|
Oh, and R18 just leaves the volume control set to LOUD.
|by Anonymous||reply 201||04/11/2019|
I'm losing my eyesight, so I don't care that there are bags under them
|by Anonymous||reply 202||04/11/2019|
Karma isn’t fast enough. Fact is when karma comes I might be dead.
|by Anonymous||reply 203||04/11/2019|
When you get cataracts everyone looks like their photoshopped, filtered profile pix.
|by Anonymous||reply 204||04/11/2019|
Reading glasses. Reduced sex drive.
|by Anonymous||reply 205||04/11/2019|
Perusing a menu and dismissing menu items I at one time loved because they are not good for my health, digestion and new food allergies.
|by Anonymous||reply 206||04/11/2019|
Thinning hair, thinning lips, bushy eyebrows, hairy nose and ears.
In other words, losing hair where it counts and growing hair where it's unwanted. Gaining fat where you don't want it and losing it where you do.
|by Anonymous||reply 207||04/11/2019|
Having to thoroughly shake my penis out after urinating, lest I dribble pee into my underpants, thereby creating a visible wet spot on my crotch.
|by Anonymous||reply 208||04/11/2019|
Watching my parents get old. I’m “only” 38, but my parents had me young and are in their early 60’s now. Dad just had a hip replacement, mom is getting a mastectomy. They’ve always looked good, but are now really starting to look their age. Up until recently, I always saw my parents as young and vibrant as they were when i was growing up, and now I look at my dad and see his father, my grandfather. And i see myself and I see... my dad.
|by Anonymous||reply 209||04/11/2019|
Wanting to eat dinner at 4pm.
|by Anonymous||reply 210||04/11/2019|
I used to joke about people who got plastic surgery done and now I'm seriously considering getting my eye bags reduced.
|by Anonymous||reply 211||04/11/2019|
R209, I hear you.
Mom recently went to visit my brother in another state. He called me and said, “When did Mom get [italic]old[/italic]?”
|by Anonymous||reply 212||04/11/2019|
I bought a bedside urinal because I hate getting up and going to the toilet at 3:00 AM.
|by Anonymous||reply 213||04/11/2019|
I keep embalming fluid close by my nightstand so it's ready to insert!
|by Anonymous||reply 214||04/11/2019|
i feel i missed out on Nipsey Hussle while he was alive, and well...don't give a shit.
|by Anonymous||reply 215||04/11/2019|
I need to take a nap in the afternoon.
|by Anonymous||reply 216||04/11/2019|
Knees and tendons not so good. I can walk 20 miles a week and love doing it, make sure to have good shoes, but goddamn my knees and Achilles tendons feel it.
Memory can be disturbing. If I have to remember a part number, something like 86160-AC150, that I read off the part, type in to search for it, there's no small chance I 'll transpose at least a couple numbers. About a month ago I saw a screaming deal on some shoes that are more for summer, at least not shoes I needed to wear right after I got 'em. Earlier this week I was looking for something, came across those shoes, thought, "Oh yeah. I bought these, didn't I?"
|by Anonymous||reply 217||04/11/2019|
I turned into my dad.
|by Anonymous||reply 218||04/11/2019|
Maybe some of it's me being grouchier, people getting slimier and sloppier or maybe it's part of the ebb and flow and I've had an unusual run of bad experiences in recent times, but it feels like service and integrity at locally owned businesses is appreciably worse than it's been in years and decades past.
I mean, fast, sloppy haircut; pants left too long when hemmed; mechanic quoting ludicrous prices for parts; car stereo guy padding the labor time by about 100%; silly prices for utterly mediocre "farm-to-fork" food; etc.
I used to get all that shit at corporate-owned chain stores; it's depressing to feel like it's the new normal.
|by Anonymous||reply 219||04/11/2019|
I can deal with top of the head hair loss/thinning, but I used to have hairy, muscular legs. Now almost all the hair is gone.
|by Anonymous||reply 220||04/11/2019|
We are all getting older and must learn to embrace it. I was always a night owl and would party till dawn. Now I prefer to have dinner with friends and enjoy conversations. I was always able to eat what I like and stay slim, now I have to watch my weight and diet. I have lost most of my once great hair and have recently shaved it all off and actually feel better for it. I was full of insecurities about myself when I was younger and even though I am older I am much happier with who I am now and no longer care what people think of me. Getting old can be bad for some people, but if you learn to embrace and enjoy life it can be fun.
|by Anonymous||reply 221||04/11/2019|
Amazing thread. Early 60s here and relate to much if not all of what’s already been said.
This was my cold-water-in-the-face moment. I was trying on clothes in a fitting room at Macy’s. Since it had a three-way mirror, I was curious to see what my body really looked like. (Now I understand it was not curiosity but masochism.)
I stripped. Completely. Turned one way then another. I suppose when I’m dressed I still look reasonably slim and trim. (Call me delusional.) But naked in that mirror? Everything sagged. Every last part of my body was soft, limp, saggy. Hideous.
You know how shocked people are by hearing their voices played back to them. “That’s how I sound?” they ask. Well, that was my reaction looking at myself in the mirror. Do I really look like that?
|by Anonymous||reply 222||04/11/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 223||04/11/2019|
R222 Work out at home with some weights just 3 times a week and you will soon see your wobbly bitts firming up. 60 is not old these days and your body will firm up faster than you think.
|by Anonymous||reply 224||04/11/2019|
Agree R224 - you need weights pronto. Won't take more than 2 months or so.
|by Anonymous||reply 225||04/11/2019|
Multiple twinks contact me looking for Daddy
|by Anonymous||reply 226||04/11/2019|
R226 - same here. Most on Grindr reply to me with offers of sex for $$$.
|by Anonymous||reply 227||04/11/2019|
Another sign is realizing how frightfully old your older siblings and cousins now look, and then saying to yourself "My God, am I THAT close to looking like THEM?
|by Anonymous||reply 228||04/11/2019|
When I'm naked in the bathroom, I try my damndest to avoid looking at my body in the mirror. Similar to r222.
|by Anonymous||reply 229||04/11/2019|
Having the body of an old sphinx cat despite weight training.
I can finally see my abs because of a recent manic phase, but the skin looks....droopy around them.
Also, I’ve had to avoid whitewall sneakers because they make me feel like it’s 1983 again.
Also, I do not have to assure too many straight guys they are “safe” from my homosexual proclivities anymore.
|by Anonymous||reply 230||04/11/2019|
When I got a prescription to Viagra, I knew I was “mature.”
|by Anonymous||reply 231||04/11/2019|
When I walk by a plate glass shop window I look at my refection and am shocked that I look so old. Nothing helps to make me look better.
|by Anonymous||reply 232||04/11/2019|
I feel like a pervert when I walk thru Abercrombie and Fitch at the mall. I can’t help myself though, there’s a lot of eye candy in there.
|by Anonymous||reply 233||04/11/2019|
Last night I was at the Parker Palm Springs - wanted to stop by for a pre-Coachella cocktail before this weekends madness, don't you know. I was with my nephew, his girlfriend and other bright and pretty young things. We were all so smart and cool. The cocktails were endless and the conversation delicious. Oh, the fun I had.
Today my nephew posted a group photo, and I thought "what is that great glob of potato and lard" in the middle?
|by Anonymous||reply 234||04/11/2019|
Your last drops because of gravity
|by Anonymous||reply 235||04/11/2019|
That should say your ass drops due to gravity
|by Anonymous||reply 236||04/11/2019|
Kevin Spacey won't shove his hand down your pants
|by Anonymous||reply 237||04/11/2019|
You can't squat without farting.
|by Anonymous||reply 238||04/11/2019|
You pout as you put away your turtleneck sweaters and base layers.
Sun’s out. Ropey neck’s out.
|by Anonymous||reply 239||04/11/2019|
During my bathroom reno I installed a 7' x 3' mirror opposite the glass-doored shower, which is my impartial reminder to keep lifting weights.
It's also my memento mori.
|by Anonymous||reply 240||04/11/2019|
Mirrors lie, R222. Mirrors lie!!!
|by Anonymous||reply 241||04/11/2019|
Cannot read the font size/lettering on the spine of a compact disc
|by Anonymous||reply 242||04/12/2019|
I can’t name any social media “influencers” nor do I care to know who they are.
|by Anonymous||reply 243||04/12/2019|
I have no idea who any of the guest judges are on Drag Race most weeks.
|by Anonymous||reply 244||04/12/2019|
I'm playing it safe. Just read through the Brett Somers thread and remembered every name mentioned. Many were the Match Game panelists. I'm finished trying to remember all these new people on TV, never mind all the You Tube "celebrities."
|by Anonymous||reply 245||04/12/2019|
My husband and I use to have wonderful sex and go to sleep cuddling every night. Now, we take turns going to bed early cause the late one has to listen to the other snore all night long. However, the late one gets dibs on the bed for a nap the next day.
Holidays come so often these days. Seems like Christmas was only a few months ago. We used to love putting up decorations and having parties. Now, we avoid everyone during the holidays and tell each other 'Merry Christmas' while watching COZI TV and Hallmark movies.
I am 6'4" and 180lbs but have poo-pot belly that looks like the baby of Chrissy Metz. It won't go away even if I eat nothing. Hubby eats anything and looks like Dom DeLuise...always.
We have let all our friends go. They seem so boring and trite these days. We believe we have become mystics and don't need to talk to communicate. Besides, everyone mumbles ~ people, tv, even the dog.
|by Anonymous||reply 246||04/12/2019|
All my good friends have died. However, I still talk to them and I swear they reply.
|by Anonymous||reply 247||04/12/2019|
r242, what’s a compact disc spine?
|by Anonymous||reply 248||04/13/2019|
R246, I love you guys. You sound great!
|by Anonymous||reply 249||04/13/2019|
R247 I do the same thing, I talk to the deceased, my first partner and my parents, I feel they are listening.
|by Anonymous||reply 250||04/13/2019|
That's sweet R246. My husband and I exchange grunts as we pass in the hallway. It's nice.
|by Anonymous||reply 251||04/13/2019|
We used to love entertaining. No more. It takes all our energy to make a Blue Apron meal at night.
|by Anonymous||reply 252||04/13/2019|
I’m totally alone. I ordered two chicken dinners to get a whole chicken at a steakhouse. I ordered a 2nd drink and desert so I would appear I’m not by myself.
|by Anonymous||reply 253||04/13/2019|
65 yrs old and my dick doesn't go up anymore. It's either age or the anti-depressant and diabetes meds. I get depressed because of it so thank god I have anti-depressants.
|by Anonymous||reply 254||04/13/2019|
I'm constantly raging at websites that use that faded out font that I simply can't read. Who the fuck ever thought that would be a good font to use? I want them dead! I've had to put the Windows 10 magnifier icon in my taskbar, set on full page, because I have to use it so much.
|by Anonymous||reply 255||04/13/2019|
To quote the great Sarah Palin: All of 'em!
|by Anonymous||reply 256||04/13/2019|
With prostate surgery, one's penis recedes into one's body cavity a distance equal to the length of the removed prostate. Suddenly one has foreskin again and if the prostate was really big, a very short penis. Doctors never tell you this before surgery and deny it happens when you question them after surgery. Well, they are in the slice and dice business so it might be bad for business.
|by Anonymous||reply 257||04/13/2019|
I'm in my mid 50's, and one of my parents, as well as a great many friends and colleague's parents are dying.
Not feeling refreshed from sleeping. But then, even as a kid, I rarely did. Naps are my saviours. Other than that, I'm holding up pretty well.
|by Anonymous||reply 258||04/13/2019|
For those who've lost interest in sex, how are you now keeping busy?
|by Anonymous||reply 259||04/13/2019|
At 56 my life is a testament to my friends that didn't live through the AIDS crisis. I live each day lucky to be alive.
|by Anonymous||reply 260||04/13/2019|
The one silver lining to my decrepitude even with gray hair is that I still get hit on by guys. Too bad for them there won't be none. But still.
|by Anonymous||reply 261||04/13/2019|
R248 Thanks for caring / enclosed should contain more than you'll care to know re CD spines...(hint: they are like spines on a book...)
|by Anonymous||reply 262||04/13/2019|
A bit late, but thanks for the support/comments/suggestions/empathy.
R241, I’m especially grateful for your, ahem, clarification.
|by Anonymous||reply 263||04/13/2019|
[quote] R259 For those who've lost interest in sex, how are you now keeping busy?
Eating, Drinking, Murder She Wrote, Porn.
|by Anonymous||reply 264||04/13/2019|
In that order?! That’s heresy!
Murder, She Wrote should ALWAYS come first!
|by Anonymous||reply 265||04/13/2019|
My students protesting that knowing the difference between East and West Berlin was a "random" detail "literally" no one in the world knew or cared about.
|by Anonymous||reply 266||04/13/2019|
Also: that not even their moms knew who the president was at the very end of WWII.
|by Anonymous||reply 267||04/13/2019|
I never had in luck with sex so you can’t miss what you never had. I do miss really good porn like there was in the 80s.
What streaming has Murder She Wrote ?
|by Anonymous||reply 268||04/13/2019|
[quote] What streaming has Murder She Wrote?
|by Anonymous||reply 269||04/13/2019|
I’m sorry you had to deal with that stupidity, r266 r267.
I think my head would explode.
|by Anonymous||reply 270||04/13/2019|
I have very mixed feelings about getting older.
|by Anonymous||reply 271||04/13/2019|
[quote]Cannot read the font size/lettering on the spine of a compact disc
You could have just said "still use compact discs," R242.
|by Anonymous||reply 272||04/13/2019|
Wow, I’m really surprised by a lot of your comments. A lot of you guys are so young to have these kinds of problems/issues. This is a sincere question. Did you just abuse yourselves when you were younger? I’m by no means a prude or a health nut or have great genes in my family history, but at 67 y/o I still have hard ones every morning, work out everyday. Just got back from a vacation where my partner and I walked a minimum of 6 miles everyday. I’m nothing special. Never smoked, only drank when I went out and usually got a good buzz. Really didn’t do many drugs. Kinda watched my diet but nothing religious. Only meds I take is 10mg lisinopril for blood pressure but it’s more of a prophylactic than a real necessity. With that said, hair growing out of the ears, gray pubes and those ever present wrinkles don’t stop no matter what you do.
|by Anonymous||reply 273||04/13/2019|
I did online jigsaw puzzles for 3 hours today while lying back in an easy chair with my feet on a hassock. And was perfectly content.
Here, try it. You might like it.
|by Anonymous||reply 274||04/13/2019|
I forget that including lots of specifics in my made up stories exposes my bs to others.
You know, 6 miles, 67 years, every day....
Oh, and I forgot that thing about protesting too much.
Just let it suffice to say that I now feel better about myself.
|by Anonymous||reply 275||04/13/2019|
I spend hours looking for good porn. Reruns aren’t as good.
|by Anonymous||reply 276||04/13/2019|
Re: penis shortening after cancerous prostate removal. They told me that I'd lose perhaps 1cm, or less than half an inch. Lost a full inch but perhaps a quarter inch has returned. A straight hockey buddy whom I've seen naked many times over the years lost much more, like two or three inches (he was impressively endowed five years ago) and it seems not to have returned in the least. Makes him like everybody else now.
|by Anonymous||reply 277||04/13/2019|
I'm gonna be 35 soon...still look great but my desire and stamina are waning.
The heavy drinking I can no longer do. I have switched over to wine instead of hard liquor.
Working long days is starting to wear thin on me....when I get home I just want to sleep.....going out with friends is now a dreaded chore.
I am no longer a people pleaser, if you hate me...who cares. Love to say no to things I don't want to genuinely care to do.
I don't know how my mom did it....she had me at 40....she's now 74. My dad is 79. They are pretty healthy...because the stay active... exercise and eat healthy and laugh and have a big circle of friends and neighbors.
I have always been attracted to older guys....still am.
The oldest guy I'm friends with is 88!!!....he does not look it....he can pass for 65....his secret? Healthy eating and exercise....no drinking or smoking.
My last boyfriend was 59....hairy dirty blonde German descent....always horny.
I'm in bed right now (just woke from a nap) as I type this debating whether to go out tonight with my best friend....dinner and drinks.
|by Anonymous||reply 278||04/13/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 279||04/13/2019|
Family holidays are not the same. My parents and aunts and uncles are dead. The two that are left are too decrepit for get together. My siblings have their own families and grand kids and no longer invite me to holidays except for Christmas Day. After the elders died I began to feel like a satellite circling at a distance to my siblings' families. It was a hard transition and to cope I emotionally distanced myself from them. For a long times I've been closer to friends than to family, but now they're moving away and dying off.
|by Anonymous||reply 280||04/13/2019|
Oh honey, r278, if you're feeling old at 35, you're on the fast track to caftans.
|by Anonymous||reply 281||04/13/2019|
[quote]I am no longer a people pleaser, if you hate me...who cares
This is the best part of getting older. You get to a DILLIGAF point and don’t care what other people think.
|by Anonymous||reply 282||04/14/2019|
I didn't expect to feel this old at 50. I'll be 51 on the 17th of April and when I wake up in the morning I'm walking (shuffling) like an old man until I get warmed up. Plus, when I sit for long periods of time it's the same thing. I feel like I might be getting arthritis in my goddam feet too! I've been a gym bunny my whole life and have run TWELVE marathons since I was 35. To look at me I'm in phenomenal shape, but the "aches and pains" are really getting to me. Is this fucking normal at 51????
|by Anonymous||reply 283||04/14/2019|
All that running has damaged your joints, r283.
|by Anonymous||reply 284||04/14/2019|
R284 beat me to it.
|by Anonymous||reply 285||04/14/2019|
Dry winter skin, especially on the back.
Cracked fingertips, again in winter months
Thinning skin on forearms
Insidious anosmia and phantosmia
|by Anonymous||reply 286||04/14/2019|
R280, I've gone through the same process. I wish I had some sage advice.
|by Anonymous||reply 287||04/14/2019|
I have one old friend about 400 miles away. All the others have moved to box-city. Fortunately, I have a brother and two sisters remaining and my mother who is now 98, in good health but uses a walker. I'm 77 so the signs of getting old are common occurrences in my daily life. I'm fighting a losing battle with prostate cancer too. I apologize for the complaining, as I actually have better than a lot of people my age and younger.
|by Anonymous||reply 288||04/14/2019|
[quote]I apologize for the complaining,
When you complain about something, then you can apologize. I didn’t see any complaints in your post, just relaying of information.
In addition to your friend 400 miles away, you’ve got tons of friends right here at your fingertips, also.
|by Anonymous||reply 289||04/14/2019|
My hands have recently become SO SENSITIVE to the cold. Even when the temperature is a mildly cold 39 degrees outside I have to put gloves on when I go on my daily 2.1 mile walk.
|by Anonymous||reply 290||04/14/2019|
[quote]I have to put gloves on when I go on my daily 2.1 mile walk.
You're okay if you limit it to 1.9, though?
|by Anonymous||reply 291||04/14/2019|
[quote]a mildly cold 39 degrees
honey, 69°F is cold to me, and i’m only 42.
|by Anonymous||reply 292||04/14/2019|
I have prostate cancer. I've been getting hormone treatments for four years because prostate cancer feeds on testosterone. My genitals have been decimated, my sex drive is non-existent but my romantic life with my husband has never been better.
|by Anonymous||reply 293||04/14/2019|
RE: What are the signs you notice that remind you that you're getting older?
|by Anonymous||reply 294||04/14/2019|
I once measured the distance of my walk by setting the trip meter in my car back to zero. That is the approximate distance of the route that I walk.
|by Anonymous||reply 295||04/14/2019|
R292-I can't stand HOT weather. I don't like the temperature going above 65 degrees. I should move to San Francisco. It rarely gets hot there and it NEVER gets cold (less than 40 degrees)
|by Anonymous||reply 296||04/14/2019|
Funny thread. Today I just realized that I was 25 years older than a 30 year old and mayor Pete was born the year I graduated high school. Yeehaw!!!!!!!
|by Anonymous||reply 297||04/14/2019|
Some might have gone with "approximate 2 mile walk," r295.
|by Anonymous||reply 298||04/14/2019|
I used to love being outside in bitterly cold weather, but always hated the heat. Now I'm at the point I yearn for the summer and stay inside as much as possible during the cold months. I just can't take the cold. I think my blood must have thinned down to water consistency. Although I do still love to have the heat go off at 10pm in the cold months because i like to sleep in a cold room under the electric blanket. Then the heat comes back on automatically at 5am.
The skin on my arms and the tops of my hands has turned into crepe paper. And don't even get me started on the liver spots.
|by Anonymous||reply 299||04/14/2019|
When I started hating cold weather!
|by Anonymous||reply 300||04/14/2019|
I trimmed the ear and nose hairs and put some face cream on my turkey neck before getting on here today--even though you can't see me. It makes me feel better! R293 that's what we like to hear...old age and its infirmities not slowing down the love with your husband. A real soldier, you are. Best wishes on managing your health.
I used to laugh when I knew my parents' friends by what ailed them. "She's the one with the new hip." "He's got cancer." Now it's my friends who I refer to with what's slowing them down. What's slowing me down at the moment is my surgeon as I wait for him to speed up the process to get my right knee replaced. I had to take a leave of absence from work, the pain and limping had gotten so bad a few weeks ago. Until he gets me walking and back to work, I won't be able to pay the bill for what Medicare doesn't cover.
Reading this thread over the past week has not only made my downtime go faster, but it has brought us together due to the commonalities of old age that we share. How many times have you thought when reading, "Boy, you're not the only one."
Better we laugh about our situation than cry. Some of us have had it worse than others: coming out, facing rejection and even ridicule, and not necessarily being felt equal among others. But we have shown resilience and made it this far. We can and will make it to the finish line with the strength we've always had.
|by Anonymous||reply 301||04/14/2019|
Such a sad thread. I hope i die before 60
|by Anonymous||reply 302||04/14/2019|
At what age does old man smell begin to set in?
|by Anonymous||reply 303||04/14/2019|
R303 For some of us, maybe not until we're dead. I think it happens for some, once they're retired, and don't go to work every day. They decide that it isn't important anymore to shower every day. Perhaps as dementia sets in, they don't remember when the last time was that they showered. If the beard stubble and crustiness around the mouth and ears don't register, then that's when it really begins to stink.
|by Anonymous||reply 304||04/14/2019|
It’s nest smell. Some don’t ventilate well at home and it’s as if they off-gas in public. Like carpet.
|by Anonymous||reply 305||04/14/2019|
I agree R305. And I forgot to include R304 that if they're not showering, there's a good chance they're not changing their clothes, either.
|by Anonymous||reply 306||04/14/2019|
The weirdest thing-You see someone that you think of as older than you as if you're only 30 still-and this 43 year old man is actually TEN years younger than you!
|by Anonymous||reply 307||04/14/2019|
Good point R307 as I do know what you mean. My brain thinks it is 30 years younger than my body and expects me to do things that I'm no longer able to do. I believe this age difference relates to how old we feel, which seems to signal what state of health we are in. If you feel young, you're most apt to view others from your perceived age. Congratulations, youngster.
|by Anonymous||reply 308||04/14/2019|
An above poster mentioned the Ken Burns documentary series on the Roosevelts, I also loved it. I could've easily watched another 14 hours on the Roosevelts, fascinating stuff.
|by Anonymous||reply 309||04/14/2019|
I'm 53 now-DEFINITELY eldergay-Though inside I still feel 30 as I posted before. When I was 21 years old in 1987 PBS broadcast Upstairs Downstairs. I was too young to watch in the 1970's. I LOVED the series. The characters became SO important to me. Upstairs Downstairs is definitely the type of British drama elder gays would love. But I was a gayling then and LOVED it.
|by Anonymous||reply 310||04/14/2019|
I was telling someone the other day that I still feel like I'm the same person I was when I was 16. He told me, "Yeah, you were born an old man."
|by Anonymous||reply 311||04/14/2019|
As I get older I've become a homebody, on nice days I don't mind staying in now. When I was younger I always wanted to go out and enjoy the day.
|by Anonymous||reply 312||04/15/2019|
I got 5 gray hairs. 😭
|by Anonymous||reply 313||04/15/2019|
Most HOMOS find that the worst thing about aging is becoming invisible to the HOT ,GOOD LOOKING guys.
|by Anonymous||reply 314||04/15/2019|
I used to watch [italic]All in the Family[/italic] (in repeats) as a kid. Archie was always an old man to me.
Recently I found out that Carroll O’Connor was 48 when he started that series. I’m 47!
|by Anonymous||reply 315||04/15/2019|
Yes. But Archie Bunker looked about 62/63.
|by Anonymous||reply 316||04/15/2019|
Confusion about time. "Was that twenty years ago - or thirty years ago?" - that sort of thing.
People born in 1991 are HOW OLD now?
and more - "I've lived in this house HOW LONG?"
Seeing people you remember as young adults die of old age.
Middle age is strange. You're neither young nor old. In a way I'm ready to be old now. Live the life of a retiree.
|by Anonymous||reply 317||04/15/2019|
Actually, I've found being old is kinda fun. I drive my convertible with the roof down on cloudy days. I wear my kilt to go for a walk along the ocean even if it's not Robbie Burns Day or NYE. Nobody cares because you're pretty much a) invisible or b) old enough not to be questioned.
Recently painted my doors, window trim and garage doors an eggplant colour to go against the weathered cedar shingles of the house. My neighbour asked if it was a good idea re: resale but I told him that it will look great with the lavender foundation plantings and yellow and white flowers that are perennials in my yard. Besides, when this place gets sold I'll presumably be dead and won't care about the money.
|by Anonymous||reply 318||04/15/2019|
That’s my point, r316. But I don’t see myself that way.
|by Anonymous||reply 319||04/15/2019|
I still put two spaces after a period.
|by Anonymous||reply 320||04/15/2019|
I need more than two spaces that’s for sure.
Oh, you meant the punctuation. Carry on.
|by Anonymous||reply 321||04/15/2019|
I still use checks.
And unlike many of you, I have the money to make sure they never bounce!
|by Anonymous||reply 322||04/15/2019|
Belching and farting are no longer voluntary bodily functions.
|by Anonymous||reply 323||04/15/2019|
How is belching different from burping?
|by Anonymous||reply 324||04/15/2019|
MY EYES!! MY EYES!!
Within the last 6 months, it seems my eyes have turned into buttholes. Sort of a slit with wrinkled skin around them.
What the fuck is this fuckery?
|by Anonymous||reply 325||04/15/2019|
Just wait until you have macular degeneration and slowly go blind.
|by Anonymous||reply 326||04/15/2019|
R325 It's a natural prophylactic against photophobia. When you block out the light you don't wince at the sun.
|by Anonymous||reply 327||04/15/2019|
Over the years the people I have liked have died or disappeared from my life. I haven't made a new friend in years.
|by Anonymous||reply 328||04/15/2019|
over the last 4 years 3 close friends have died, they are irreplaceable.
|by Anonymous||reply 329||04/15/2019|
[quote]My brain thinks it is 30 years younger than my body...
When I was in my 20s, my dad told me that his biggest challenge was realizing that the way he viewed himself was out of sync with the way his life actually was. He said it was if someone had taken a picture of him 25 years before, and permanently implanted that picture in his brain. He found it challenging not to live as though the picture was the reality. He told me this as a warning to what I would face later in life. I always remembered his advice. He was absolutely right.
So gaylings, when you see an eldergay acting as if he were a younger person, understand that he's probably being fooled by his mental version of himself - unable to reconcile with the reality of his current situation. That's sad, not funny.
|by Anonymous||reply 330||04/15/2019|
And, R315, Ed Asner was in his early 40s when the Mary Tyler Moore Show premiered!
|by Anonymous||reply 331||04/15/2019|
I think one reason most gay men think they look young for their age is that their concept of what 40 and 50 year olds look like was defined by what that age looked like when they were young, Forty and Fifty doesn’t look the same as it did in the 70s and 80s.
|by Anonymous||reply 332||04/15/2019|
I said this in an another thread. In the movie MARTY(1955) Marty's mother and aunt are only in their 50's and they already act like OLD WOMAN.
|by Anonymous||reply 333||04/15/2019|
[quote] 65 yrs old and my dick doesn't go up anymore. It's either age or the anti-depressant and diabetes meds
Even with cialis?
|by Anonymous||reply 334||04/15/2019|
Exactly r332. How many people in their early 40s look like Carol O'Connor or Ed Asner today? And not just celebrities, regular people in their 40s don't look like that.
|by Anonymous||reply 335||04/15/2019|
I had an embarrassing portent of incontinence to come. Let's say it was a bit more than "touch the cloth" as enshrined in Peepshow, for those who are fans among us.
I suppose an active life as a bottom may have had something to do with it but I couldn't make it to the commode in time.
Does anyone know if Kegel exercises will tighten my anal sphincter?
|by Anonymous||reply 336||04/15/2019|
I'm sitting here thinking that when they cast actors for older parts, they have to be straight. It's because the gay genes keep us looking younger. Sorry O'Connor and Asner... Shoot, when I was in my 40s I was still passing for in my 30s. Weren't you?
|by Anonymous||reply 337||04/15/2019|
Oh R336 how I relate to you ! Ive been doing anal kegel exercises since I was a young queen and some old tranny told me men loved to feel it around their cocks plus itll help you stay tight.I never stopped doing them though at 58 its been years since I had a good fuck. recently i was out with a friend and as we were walking back to the car and without even a twinge,out it came .Thats the second time in recent years thats happened so I cant help but think getting fucked 1000s of times now has a price to be paid. So no,I dont think kegel made a rats ass bit of difference in the long run.
|by Anonymous||reply 338||04/15/2019|
I'm TIRED ALL DAY EVERY DAY. Even on a Saturday when I get a good nap in the late afternoon all I feel is LESS tired.
|by Anonymous||reply 339||04/15/2019|
R339, have you tipped over a store display lately?
|by Anonymous||reply 340||04/15/2019|
What does that mean?
|by Anonymous||reply 341||04/15/2019|
R337, I looked 40 at 16.
|by Anonymous||reply 342||04/15/2019|
R273. For those of us who where drunk and stoned for most of the 70's, I must say you must have been the boring nurd on the couch who never spoke and was the designated driver for the rest of us.
|by Anonymous||reply 343||04/15/2019|
[quote]ust wait until you have macular degeneration and slowly go blind.
I've got a type of MD but if you get shots in the eye you can stave off the blindness and even improve your vision a bit.
It used to be hopeless (my poor father had it) but Boomers started doing their own research and hassling the medical powers that be to up their game and now at least there's some hope.
Stephen King has MD and I think he uses part of his wealth for MD research.
|by Anonymous||reply 344||04/15/2019|
My dad had the "wet" kind and there was nothing to be done. He went through several yttrium laser sessions, but they were just making him blind faster,
|by Anonymous||reply 345||04/16/2019|
R339, see a doctor.
I’m not being snarky. We all get more tired and welcome naps, but it’s not normal to be tired all the time.
|by Anonymous||reply 346||04/16/2019|
[quote] ... so I cant help but think getting fucked 1000s of times now has a price to be paid. So no,I dont think kegel made a rats ass bit of difference in the long run.
That's dismaying r338. Must I look forward to a life in Depends?
|by Anonymous||reply 347||04/16/2019|
^^^ Was it being fucked a lot or fisted a lot? That might make a difference.
|by Anonymous||reply 348||04/16/2019|
Can't speak for r338 but I've never been fisted.
|by Anonymous||reply 349||04/16/2019|
Can I just talk about the invisibility thing mentioned by a few people in here? It's so real... like science fiction actually is occurring. I rarely go to gay bars anymore, but I went this weekend because I had some friends around who I usually don't see. I am 40, which isn't that old- right? Especially considering this thread is largely 50+ from what I see here. But, here's how the night went. Most of the night, we were in Barracuda in NYC - and I literally couldn't make eye contact with anyone. I just wasn't visible in there. And it gets worse. I was sitting with my friends towards the back, and when I tried to get to the bar to get a drink - nobody would budge 1 inch to let me through. I tried 5 different angles (and 2 occasions) - and there was no chance. I'm 6' tall and thin - so it wasn't that complicated to move. They literally wouldn't even look at me... and the bar has plenty of 30+. I don't know wtf was happening.
So, my younger, much better looking friend then tried to get to the bar, and he cut through the crowd like a hot knife through butter in seconds. I followed him, since he cleared the path. Everyone looked at him, acknowledged his presence visually, and moved aside (still barely looking at me, if at all).
I don't know if it is just an age thing. I think it's a looks thing too... it just started happening in the last few years in the rare occasions I go to bars. It's not just the immovable people - it's really the "no eye-contact whatsoever" thing that freaks me out at first. The complete wall of immovable people felt like sci fi... like I wasn't even there.
I'm probably overreacting, but the whole weekend of socializing with them just made me feel old as fuck. We were friends since our late 20s & this night was certainly not the "old days." If I was walking to the bar through a crowd back then, I'd be saying hi & people would be turning and saying hi. When I said "excuse me" they'd actually hear it...this is just a tiny thing but it was a fucked up night that reminded me I am just done basically.
|by Anonymous||reply 350||04/16/2019|
R350 - I feel your pain! I too am in my 40s and occasionally like to be social at a gay bar. I simply changed where I go (to a piano bar) and now get plenty of attention. I know it’s silly and meaningless but I still get a kick out of it!
|by Anonymous||reply 351||04/16/2019|
Thanks R351 - it happened in Side Track too, in Chicago - which was even more bizarre. They have a giant mirror by the coat check & I literally had to look at myself to make sure I was actually there. I don't know why I am so sensitive to this, but I guess I am. My favorite bar is the George in Dublin (in terms of friendly guys - and everyone will chat with you) but the last time I was there - it was similar too. But that bar changed a lot since the really fun days before apps & people staring at their phones. There are a lot of factors going on.
I've been to a few piano bars and people are certainly more willing to talk and they actually do see me. I guess I just graduated to the next level at this point . I've stayed out of the 20-something places since I was 25 practically (that's old for those bars). But now I'm too old for the lounge type places? wtf? Anyway, I'll shut up about it. People have had it worse. I haven't had cancer or friends die (well, one did from an overdose around 42)... so it could be a lot worse. I prefer to be alone & in quieter places anyway. Maybe part of it is me too.
|by Anonymous||reply 352||04/16/2019|
R350 The same reason I stopped going to clubs. Bars are better. But I have hired escort few times and been happy with it. No long nights in a place nobody will even look at me. When I have been with an escort going out to have a beer is easier. I have no need to find anyone and I am relaxed. I usually choose bars. Gay clubs are the worst. Those who are young today will find out it later and then it is their time to complain.
|by Anonymous||reply 353||04/16/2019|
Recently went on a cruise with a large group of gay guys. There was a large contingent of guys who I guessed were in their early-to-mid fifties. Still fit and good-looking, and full of life. The fun ones.
I learned later that most were in their early-to-mid sixties. Given that information, they looked GREAT!
|by Anonymous||reply 354||04/16/2019|
R353 - they will just go to a bar with you? Do they charge the same $200-300 / hr to go out to the bar? Do you end up having sex with them or is it just for a hot date situation in the bars?
|by Anonymous||reply 355||04/16/2019|
R336- R347. Nope,never been fisted,but I truly couldnt tell you how many times I was fucked.
|by Anonymous||reply 356||04/16/2019|
R355 I hire an escort for sex and then going out by myself is easier because there is no pressure to find anyone. I surely won’t spend money to hire a guy for a drink in a bar.
|by Anonymous||reply 357||04/16/2019|
Oh - yea that makes sense. there are escorts that offer the "date experience" - so i wasn't sure if you were referring to that. Other ones probably can't handle having conversation.
|by Anonymous||reply 358||04/16/2019|
My allergies have gotten worse, along with my allergic asthma. What was once an occasional issue is much more often, it's hard to breath. My body creates massive amounts of mucus. It's a problem. Thank a God I quit smoking years ago, I think 20 additional years of smoking and I'd be on oxygen.
|by Anonymous||reply 359||04/16/2019|
OP? Every gay is an "aging gay." No one is not aging. Everyone is always aging. Time does not stand still for anyone.
|by Anonymous||reply 360||04/16/2019|
Noise. I'm more conscious of loud music and people who have loud mouths.
|by Anonymous||reply 361||04/16/2019|
I was in Zabar's in NYC earlier today and I could see someones eyes following me for 1 or 2 seconds. I'll take it. I'm NO SPRING CHICKEN at 53. The guy who was staring at me was probably about 66 years old. But I'll take anyone noticing me nowadays.
|by Anonymous||reply 362||04/16/2019|
r359 i feel you on that. i smoked too much weed in my 20s and 30s and i’m paying for it now.
|by Anonymous||reply 363||04/16/2019|
I’ve experienced the invisibility thing but not just in bars. I’ve always wanted to see how invisible by trying to open the register or take money out of the tip jar. I bet I would get noticed then.
Maybe not though. I’m sure no one would be able to describe me to the cops. Ha Ha!
|by Anonymous||reply 364||04/16/2019|
How old are you?
|by Anonymous||reply 365||04/16/2019|
R352, I must be doing something right because when I, at 61, no less, was at Sidetrack last fall I got plenty of attention, including that of one guy who, with his friend, was cruising me and, looking me up and down, eventually gushed, "You are cuuuute."
|by Anonymous||reply 366||04/16/2019|
^ I might not be being cute.
|by Anonymous||reply 367||04/16/2019|
To paraphrase WC Fields "Cute young guys are like elephants to me. I like to look at 'em but I wouldn't want to own one."
|by Anonymous||reply 368||04/16/2019|
R349, Double penetrated?
|by Anonymous||reply 369||04/16/2019|
Yes r369 one time.
|by Anonymous||reply 370||04/17/2019|
[quote]No one is not aging. Everyone is always aging. Time does not stand still for anyone.
|by Anonymous||reply 371||04/17/2019|
I just turned 50 and I get cruised more now than at 25 or 30. I am not saying I look anywhere near those ages, but I think if you reach a certain age and still have most of your hair, most of it is not grey, you have less than 2 chins, minimal sun/smoke damage and your body has not gone to complete shit, you're okay. Of course you need to be somewhat good looking to start, but at 30 I was just one of the pack. At 50 I stand out more in my age group.
|by Anonymous||reply 372||04/17/2019|
One word - colonoscopy.
|by Anonymous||reply 373||04/17/2019|
^^^ if they would only give you a happy ending with that, it could be a more memorable experience.
|by Anonymous||reply 374||04/17/2019|
You're asleep through the colonoscopy, r374, so all you'd feel is your sticky hospital gown when you're done.
|by Anonymous||reply 375||04/17/2019|
R374 and r375 are why I come to Datalounge day after day!
|by Anonymous||reply 376||04/17/2019|
After my last colonoscopy, the happy ending was getting told I don't have to come back for 10 years. Odds are, I'll have died by then.
|by Anonymous||reply 377||04/17/2019|
Almost all of your teachers from school are now dead.
|by Anonymous||reply 378||04/17/2019|
All the people in your life and everyone you knew when you were young are one-by-one replaced during your lifetime by a whole different set of people by the time you’re very old. Two groups of people. Mostly older than you when you’re a kid. And a second group, mostly younger than you by the time you die. Including other, high-profile people like celebrities and TV people. These people are also switched out during your lifetime.
|by Anonymous||reply 379||04/17/2019|
Looking at all the stressed workers going off and coming home. They'll never know what it was like to have your own office, where you could shut the fucking door. They'll never know what it was like never to have diabolical HR instead a Personal Officer everyone used to ignore and mock. They'll never know what it was like to work in an environment where you could say anything you liked without second guessing it. We had the last and best of it.
|by Anonymous||reply 380||04/17/2019|
R380 Your last sentence is very accurate. The Electronics Age was blooming and jobs and new careers advanced our prosperity. There was a TV and fridge in every home. More and more driveways had two cars in them. Education was affordable, just like houses. We grew up with fewer fears after World War II and the Korean War. We had more than anyone had before us. And without the massive credit card debts! We trusted and believed in others, moreso than today. My first pass to Disneyland (1957) cost $5.75. We were a bright generation, eager to impress the world.
|by Anonymous||reply 381||04/18/2019|
R379 I think about that from time to time. A celeb or distant family member (there aren't many left) will die, and it'll feel like another little bit of me is gone from the world. It's a weird feeling sometimes.
|by Anonymous||reply 382||04/18/2019|
People only bought what they could afford, or pay off in installments within a reasonable amount of time. They didn't go into massive debt because they just HAD to have a shit-ton of material things they didn't really need in the first place.
|by Anonymous||reply 383||04/18/2019|
Our parents, teachers and even some of our peers instilled a lot of positive ideas in us as well as a laundry list of expectations. Looking back we appeared to be wholesome and innocent, even if we didn't stay that way. But we were groomed to be good citizens and men of good character. To this day, I tell people that the two most important things I have is my word and my integrity, and I expect to take them to the grave with me intact.
|by Anonymous||reply 384||04/18/2019|
less patience with stupid/slow/inconsiderate people - which seem to make up 99% of the population
|by Anonymous||reply 385||04/18/2019|
skin texture changes.
|by Anonymous||reply 386||04/18/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 387||04/18/2019|
[quote]Looking at all the stressed workers going off and coming home . . . We had the last and best of it.
Great post, R380! A couple of years ago, my next-door neighbour and I (both retired now) were discussing how lucky we were to have worked - and stopped working - when we did. We both felt as if we'd spent the final years going faster and faster to outrun the nastiness nipping at our heels. I can't imagine having to adjust to a new workplace where you might not even have a desk to call your own.
So, in that respect, I guess it's good to be old. What's a little joint pain compared to having every last atom of dignity squeezed out of you?
|by Anonymous||reply 388||04/18/2019|
Workplaces are horrible now. Just horrible.
|by Anonymous||reply 389||04/18/2019|
Simply put, the death of the relative closest to you is a dismal reminder that we are not too far behind.
|by Anonymous||reply 390||04/18/2019|
Going to the grocery store. Too many choices. I have my list all planned. Then I walk into the store and feel like a deer in the headlights. Years ago, there would have only been a few choices for each item. Not today where there are dozens of choices for most items. Today, what would have been a 15 minute trip 20 years ago, took me four hours ~ $350 dollars.
|by Anonymous||reply 391||04/18/2019|
Are you depressed, r391? That's one of the first signs for me. I remember the first time. I needed shampoo and went to the store, but I just couldn't make up my mind, so I went home. I don't know if I didn't take a shower or just used soap.
|by Anonymous||reply 392||04/18/2019|
There are advantages to being invisible. You can check out hot guys in complete detail without being busted. VPL - you could practically draw it with your eyeballs, and the person showing it wouldn't even notice......although, as you passed, he might say to his friend, "did you just feel a little gust of wind?" Staring at a guy's ass as he's walking in front of you? No problem. People in your vicinity just assume you have cataracts.
I was in NYC last November. Getting ready to change floors as I was transferring to another subway, I was given a heavy-duty cruise - such as I haven't experienced in a decade. I was so surprised and stunned, I almost dropped a package I was carrying.
The most scary part is walking downtown and seeing your father (who's been dead for 10 years) time and time again......spooky........even more spooky when you realize you've been seeing your own reflection in show doors and mirrors.
|by Anonymous||reply 393||04/19/2019|
Your parents, aunts & uncles start passing away, it makes you feel old and makes you confront your own morality and the knowledge you time here is getting shorter.
|by Anonymous||reply 394||04/19/2019|
I'm 56 and have rheumatoid arthritis and cataracts. Am i totally fucked already. I have little pain now and the cataracts can be fixed. But I fear that I'll be living in a world of pain. Should I get a gun for later on already?
|by Anonymous||reply 395||04/19/2019|
r395, smoke copious amounts of pot, silly!
|by Anonymous||reply 396||04/19/2019|
Looking at this video, and realizing that it's from forty years ago, and that the young adults interviewed are now senior citizens. To me, this just doesn't seem to be that long ago, but it truly is.
|by Anonymous||reply 397||04/19/2019|
Cute, youthful chipmunk cheeks have turned into jowls.
|by Anonymous||reply 398||04/19/2019|
I'm way over 60 but I don't think of myself as old. Came from a huge family, all the aunts and uncles and several from my own generation have died. Gone. Finis! But I do feel fear, just sad that I've lost a part of my family history. I am active. Very active. I am on several non profit boards, I am always taking a class here and there to learn something. The key is to feed your mind! And to keep learning and growing and never lose your curiosity. Then you will never grow old. You have health issues? Me too. Heart, lungs, old bones, etc. But I walk 3 miles every damned day and I take my meds, and I eat healthy. I mean, ETF else can you do, right? I intend to squeeze every single bit of enjoyment I can out of my life. Tomorrow is promised to no one. I may not be able to do everything I want, but I'm going to try to do everything I can. Enjoy your life! Some people are already dead and don't know it. They have allowed their minds to atrophy.
|by Anonymous||reply 399||04/19/2019|
I posted a photograph online that I'd taken in New York in 1979 as a teenager - I wanted to see if anyone knew the location.
The amount of messages I got! People saying they weren't born yet, but how fascinating! - how it captured a long gone era etc...
I posted a few more and they were featured on websites!
In my mind New York still looks like this.
|by Anonymous||reply 400||04/19/2019|
R400, hmmm, here's my guess: 1st avenue in the 70s?
|by Anonymous||reply 401||04/19/2019|
Or 2nd Avenue looking downtown?
|by Anonymous||reply 402||04/19/2019|
R391 has a point. There are literally about five flavors of VANILLA ice cream, including homemade, country, vanilla bean, extra-creamy, natural. It's insane. Chips, too – the choices used to be potato chips, corn chips, pretzels or Cheetos, take your pick. Now it's an entire aisle. Exhausting.
|by Anonymous||reply 403||04/19/2019|
[quote]Or 2nd Avenue looking downtown?
@ 58th St.
|by Anonymous||reply 404||04/19/2019|
Oh, my, r404. That's the second random NY street photo I've IDed today. The first was in James Cusati Moyer's IG stories (I'll let you guess where it is rather than telling you).
|by Anonymous||reply 405||04/19/2019|
That's MUCH harder, R405.
Or do you mean the second pic?
I'd say Park Avenue in the 70s..pic # 2
First one probably the West Village.
|by Anonymous||reply 406||04/19/2019|
It's the second pic, r406, to which I refer. And no, it's not Park Avenue. It is in the Village, though.
|by Anonymous||reply 407||04/19/2019|
I'll have another look.
Fifth Ave - somewhere around 10th St?
Where's this? (another of mine from '79)
|by Anonymous||reply 408||04/19/2019|
R408 Fifth Avenue at 11th. 43 Fifth is on the left, 41 Fifth is on the right.
Is the new pic @ r408 Third Avenue? First?
|by Anonymous||reply 409||04/19/2019|
[quote][R408] Fifth Avenue at 11th. 43 Fifth is on the left, 41 Fifth is on the right.
I was pretty close. I think I deserve some sort of recognition.
[quote]Is the new pic @ [R408] Third Avenue? First?
Neither of those.
|by Anonymous||reply 410||04/19/2019|
Also taking into account I haven't even been to NY in almost 20 years.
|by Anonymous||reply 411||04/19/2019|
I haven't lived there in 40.
Is the new pic 6th Avenue below Central Park South?
|by Anonymous||reply 412||04/19/2019|
[quote]I haven't lived there in 40.
Are you the Unmarried Woman Troll?
|by Anonymous||reply 413||04/19/2019|
[quote]Is the new pic 6th Avenue below Central Park South?
No, WAY OFF!
|by Anonymous||reply 414||04/19/2019|
I still use my AOL email account. When anyone I’ve only communicated with through email meets me, they all say they thought I was ancient.
|by Anonymous||reply 415||04/19/2019|
I am, r413.
|by Anonymous||reply 416||04/19/2019|
R414, is the background downtown or uptown?
Also, that is an avenue, isn't it? Or is it a street?
|by Anonymous||reply 417||04/19/2019|
[quote]I am, [R413].—Dah-dah-dah-daddah-DAHHHHHH.
I'm quite good at picking you out from the crowd (odd, I keep asking for recognition)
Hope you're well.
|by Anonymous||reply 418||04/19/2019|
And I hope you are well, r418.
I'm taking a painting class this year, and I'm making like Jenkins.
|by Anonymous||reply 419||04/19/2019|
[quote][R414], is the background downtown or uptown? Also, that is an avenue, isn't it? Or is it a street?
|by Anonymous||reply 420||04/19/2019|
[quote]I'm taking a painting class this year, and I'm making like Jenkins.
What's that mean exactly?
|by Anonymous||reply 421||04/19/2019|
r420 Amsterdam in the __s?
|by Anonymous||reply 422||04/19/2019|
[quote]makes you confront your own morality
At least you’re honest.
|by Anonymous||reply 423||04/19/2019|
[quote][R420] Amsterdam in the __s?
You're/were a downtown gurl - so of course this one's going to be tough.
But - you SHOULD know...(clue #1)
Here's another clue:
|by Anonymous||reply 424||04/19/2019|
I'm going to guess E.B. is Erica Benton, which would make this another shot of Second Avenue, as her building took up the entire block between Second and Third, and you said it wasn't Third. So it has to be second.
If this is not it, we can talk about clue #1 again.
|by Anonymous||reply 425||04/19/2019|
In March 1979 my friend and I took Conrail in from the suburbs and spent the entire day in Manhattan on our own. We were only 13 years old. We had a good time though we didn't stray too far form Grand Central.
|by Anonymous||reply 426||04/19/2019|
It's taken in front of her building, looking north
This is synchronicity - when I picked it out I had no idea who you were.
|by Anonymous||reply 427||04/19/2019|
[quote]In March 1979 my friend and I took Conrail in from the suburbs and spent the entire day in Manhattan on our own. We were only 13 years old. We had a good time though we didn't stray too far form Grand Central.
Must have been fun, on your own.
|by Anonymous||reply 428||04/19/2019|
Oh, good, r427. Thank you for the geographic adventure.
My rent was $432/mo. then.
|by Anonymous||reply 429||04/19/2019|
[quote]My rent was $432/mo. then.
Where was this and for what sort of apartment?
|by Anonymous||reply 430||04/19/2019|
[quote]In March 1979 my friend and I took Conrail in from the suburbs and spent the entire day in Manhattan on our own. We were only 13 years old
Did the grown-ups know?
|by Anonymous||reply 431||04/19/2019|
r430 E. 10th between University and Broadway. A 1-BR in a renovated factory building. Not lofts, though. Apartments. It was nice.
|by Anonymous||reply 432||04/19/2019|
Oh yes. My mother loved the city. She approved of us going in and spending the day there. She even came up with some suggestions. We went to the GM building where they had all of the new GM cars on display(the Apple Showroom is there now). We went to the Museum of Broadcasting and watched the February 1964 performance of The Beatles On the Ed Sullivan Show. We ate lunch at a place called The Hamburger Train. You had to walk down some steps to get to it. Even in 1979 the area around Grand Central was safe.
|by Anonymous||reply 433||04/19/2019|
I'm r426 NOT r431 for the above post.
|by Anonymous||reply 434||04/19/2019|
I'd never heard of The Hamburger Train - so I googled it.
There's a whole website dedicated to its memory.
|by Anonymous||reply 435||04/19/2019|
The Hamburger Train in NYC - where R433 went in 1979
Clearly the invention of a model train fanatic.
|by Anonymous||reply 436||04/19/2019|
[quote] We went to the GM building where they had all of the new GM cars on display(the Apple Showroom is there now). We went to Museum of Broadcasting and watched the February 1964 performance of The Beatles On the Ed Sullivan Show.
Those are exactly the kind of things I did when I was a visiting teen in NYC. I loved Museum of Broadcasting and was always going in there. But I'd go on to Hamburger Heaven afterwards.
Also, in the plaza beneath the GM building they had a place called the Autopub - you sat and had lunch in old cars.
|by Anonymous||reply 437||04/19/2019|
As long as Paul McCartney and Mick Jagger are still alive, I feel young.
|by Anonymous||reply 438||04/19/2019|
[quote]We went to the GM building where they had all of the new GM cars on display(the Apple Showroom is there now). We went to Museum of Broadcasting and watched the February 1964 performance of The Beatles On the Ed Sullivan Show.
The GM building was also called the General Odors Building because Revlon and Estee Lauder had their headquarters there. I worked for both companies. I worked on the 48th floor for Revlon, a few years later I worked for Estee Lauder on the 36th floor with an amazing view of all of Central Park and north past the George Washington bridge, on a clear day you could see Bear Mountain.
|by Anonymous||reply 439||04/19/2019|
R439: years ago (1980s) I interviewed at Estee Lauder in the GM building for Estee's in house advertising department. I did not get the job - so what was the company like to work for? Did I dodge a bullet?
Was FAO Schwartz in the ground floor at the time?
On topic: my feet hurt.
|by Anonymous||reply 440||04/19/2019|
R440 You did dodge a bullet I worked in Creative for Estee Lauder Cosmetics for a few years then moved to Aramis where I created packaging for La Mere, Aramis and Tommy Hifiger. It was like working in a shark tank I don't know how I survived. La Mere was garbage I know people on this board love it. After Lauder bought the brand they took out most of the exotic and expensive ingredients that created its reputation and replaced them with lesser ingredients, it's probably worse today.
|by Anonymous||reply 441||04/19/2019|
[quote]Was FAO Schwartz in the ground floor at the time?
No, it was across the street.
|by Anonymous||reply 442||04/19/2019|
It appears this thread has been hijacked.
|by Anonymous||reply 443||04/19/2019|
I used to wake up in the morning with tons of energy now I need 2 large mugs of coffee to get me going in the morning.
|by Anonymous||reply 444||04/19/2019|
My father told me about the cafe in the lower level of the GM building where they had cars on the ceiling or on the floor etc. That was what drew me to the GM building but we didn't eat there because I'd already eaten a nice lunch at The Hamburger Train-Which reminded me of that skit on Saturday Night Fever-Cheeseburger,Cheeseburger,Pepsi, NO COKE.
|by Anonymous||reply 445||04/19/2019|
R445 Revlon had their company store in the basement you could get in if a Revlon employee gave you a pass. There were always long lines in front of the entrance.
|by Anonymous||reply 446||04/20/2019|
This thread has fallen victim to aging; two old queens bantering back and forth like old people do in public posts on Facebook
|by Anonymous||reply 447||04/20/2019|
WHAT’S THAT OP? SPEAK UP SONNY! WE CAN’T HEAR YOU YOUNG ‘UN!
|by Anonymous||reply 448||04/20/2019|
[quote]Which reminded me of that skit on Saturday Night Fever-Cheeseburger,Cheeseburge - r,Pepsi, NO COKE.
Don't remember that at all.
|by Anonymous||reply 449||04/20/2019|
Yes, r447. No one EVER bickered before the 21st century.
|by Anonymous||reply 450||04/20/2019|
R447 hissing about "aging" and "old" on a thread that's about aging.
|by Anonymous||reply 451||04/20/2019|
The Saturday Night Fever skit is from ca. 1979-John Belushi plays a waitercook at a Greek Diner. All they serve is Pepsi and Cheeseburgers NEVER COKE. Lorraine Newman plays the waitress.
|by Anonymous||reply 452||04/20/2019|
I had a friend who would work SNL skits into every conversation he ever had. "No Coke, Pepsi" and "it's a dessert topping and a floor wax" were his two favorites.
|by Anonymous||reply 453||04/20/2019|
My Hell's Kitchen apartment, rented in 1980, was $225 a month. It was a four room railroad flat. With two roommates, we each had the lowest rent in town. Not a lot of privacy, but tremendous financial freedom and that is what we all needed at 23 years of age.
I can't imagine what 47th Street between Ninth and Tenth Avenues would cost today. A lot more than $225, I'd wager.
|by Anonymous||reply 454||04/20/2019|
R454 wasn’t hell’s kitchen very dangerous back then? And very Latin?
|by Anonymous||reply 455||04/20/2019|
r454 A four-room railroad apartment in that location would rent for about $3000 per month today.
|by Anonymous||reply 456||04/20/2019|
And railroad apartments were horrible - no windows in the middle rooms. Always hated them.
|by Anonymous||reply 457||04/20/2019|
In 1980, Hell's Kitchen, west of Eighth Avenue, was still pretty much West Side Story. But I was never bothered on the street. Ninth Avenue was kept stable by an array of food businesses. And oh those beautiful sons at Poseidon Bakery!
Hell's Kitchenwas just starting to improve with young actors moving in for the low rent. Bit by bit, it got better, though friends would always admonish me to be careful going home. On or about the day in 1986 that the Javits Center opened, Hell's Kitchen was flooded with drug dealers and prostitutes. Literally, one morning the street was strewn with glassine envelopes and hookers and they did not leave for a long time. The cops taking protection money relocated them from that glorious jewel of commerce, sending them to Hell's Kitchen. It took a while for that to shake out.
|by Anonymous||reply 458||04/20/2019|
How old are you, R457? Air shafts have been mandatory in NYC since the 1880's.
In my Hell's Kitchen tenement, we were very au courant. We had windows and an air shaft!
|by Anonymous||reply 459||04/20/2019|
My first apt in NYC was in Washington Hts it.was a 1 br. on 112th & Broadway. It was $225 a month across the street was Toms Diner. The front of Toms Diner was used in Seinfeld.
|by Anonymous||reply 460||04/20/2019|
That's Morningside Heights, r460.
|by Anonymous||reply 461||04/20/2019|
That's correct R461 it's been a while since I've been there, my bad.
|by Anonymous||reply 462||04/20/2019|
my pubes are course and wirey now. not nice and soft.
|by Anonymous||reply 463||04/20/2019|
Do any of you take Metformin for its longevity/anti-aging properties? David Sinclair is on it.
|by Anonymous||reply 464||04/20/2019|
metformin is for diabetes.
|by Anonymous||reply 465||04/20/2019|
Yes, in context, r465. But do some new research on its other benefits.
|by Anonymous||reply 466||04/20/2019|
Young people start to look even younger.
|by Anonymous||reply 467||04/20/2019|
R458 Poseidon still has beautiful sons working there!
|by Anonymous||reply 468||04/20/2019|
Celebrities who were SO YOUNG like Leonardo DeCaprio who are now OLDER than you think you still are.
|by Anonymous||reply 469||04/20/2019|
Seeing kids who were severely mentally handicapped was very common. Not as common a sight anymore because of pre-natal testing. The pregnancies are terminated.
The numbers of Down Syndrome births and other births of babies with mental disabilities have declined so much that many group homes have closed.
|by Anonymous||reply 470||04/20/2019|
R469 Since Titanic was released twenty-two years ago, it's not surprising that Leonardo DiCaprio is in his mid-forties.
|by Anonymous||reply 471||04/20/2019|
It’s a relief to have a lower sex drive and realize there is so much more to appreciate and do in life. It’s so much more peaceful and need-free. I’ve had plenty of sex - and probably spent too much time and took too many risks because of it - so don’t feel at all sentimental about a waning sex drive.
Really the main negative is having death (re)appear regularly. After the AIDS crisis, had a nice 15-20 years where I learned to stop worrying/obsessing about death. Now it’s cancer and heart attacks - and the people dying are 50+ so it’s not as heart wrenching. But I realize this will be the way things go for the remainder - losing people one by one and waiting to see what hits me.
Feel like I’ve had a full life - and lived MUCH longer than I ever expected. So I’m grateful and ready. Still have a lot I want to do, but look at whatever is left as gravy.
|by Anonymous||reply 472||04/20/2019|
r472-How old are you?
|by Anonymous||reply 473||04/20/2019|
How can one prevent those hard yellow old man toenails that look like an exoskeleton?
|by Anonymous||reply 474||04/20/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 475||04/20/2019|
R474 — Use a hammer.
|by Anonymous||reply 476||04/20/2019|
Seems like every celebrity has an autist kid.
|by Anonymous||reply 477||04/20/2019|
R474. Soak your feet. And go see a podiatrist regularly. It’s treatable.
|by Anonymous||reply 478||04/20/2019|
R280 [quote] Family holidays are not the same. My parents and aunts and uncles are dead. The two that are left are too decrepit for get together. My siblings have their own families and grand kids and no longer invite me to holidays except for Christmas Day. After the elders died I began to feel like a satellite circling at a distance to my siblings' families. It was a hard transition and to cope I emotionally distanced myself from them. For a long times I've been closer to friends than to family, but now they're moving away and dying off.
This was moving. And someone else upthread mentioned losing older relatives one by one. Feeling the loss of family foundations. Maybe parents have it easier, when they lose their older relatives, because they can attach to the younger generation coming up. But there's never a guarantee the younger generation will attach itself to you, either.
Love this thread.
|by Anonymous||reply 479||04/20/2019|
PS to r280
Go see the decrepit relatives anyway. You May be surprised how much you can learn from them. R479
|by Anonymous||reply 480||04/20/2019|
Agreed r480. I moved back to my hometown. I've discovered and rediscovered relatives. In every case it's a new relationship.
|by Anonymous||reply 481||04/20/2019|
Will someone please turn up the volume?
|by Anonymous||reply 482||04/21/2019|
The music is too loud. Turn it down!
|by Anonymous||reply 483||04/21/2019|
That's not just an elder issue, R483
|by Anonymous||reply 484||04/21/2019|
Eh? What did you say r484? Speak up! Can't hear you above this infernal noise.
|by Anonymous||reply 485||04/21/2019|
R485 HE SAID THAT IT’S NOT....aw fuck it.
HE SAID READ THE LINK!
|by Anonymous||reply 486||04/21/2019|
r483 What did you say? Stop MUMBLING!
|by Anonymous||reply 487||04/21/2019|
[quote]The Saturday Night Fever skit is from ca. 1979-John Belushi plays a waitercook at a Greek Diner.
Do you mean Saturday Night Live, Gramps?
|by Anonymous||reply 488||04/21/2019|
Sorry SONNY I meant to say Saturday Night Live. My father used to call it Saturday Night ALIVE.
|by Anonymous||reply 489||04/22/2019|
Live from New York! It's my pussy and asshole!
|by Anonymous||reply 490||04/22/2019|
I now don’t mind talking to older friends and acquaintances where when I was young I used to blow them off.
|by Anonymous||reply 491||04/22/2019|
OMG. I do not speak to ANYONE over 40 years old. If I even think they're one day over 40, I just pretend like they do not exist. That will show them to leave generation z alone!
|by Anonymous||reply 492||04/22/2019|
Interesting,R491. I was always more comfortable with older friends andacquaintances. Dealing with people my own age was always complicated by the competitiveness of youth. Now I'm so old, no one my age has any competitiveness left in them. The young folks are tolerable now. We're not competing for any of the same things.
|by Anonymous||reply 493||04/22/2019|
There's a barber in Windsor NY who still works full time , drives his own car and lives alone and he's 107 years old. Now that's old! So stop complaining SNOWFLAKES.
|by Anonymous||reply 494||04/22/2019|
It's true that your social circle gets largely replaced as you age. None of my mom's high school friends came to her funeral, because many already died, and the few hanging on were too sick or frail to travel. All of her neighbors from neighborhood around the house she downsized to 15 years before were there, though. Nice people, but they only ever knew her as a old woman.
|by Anonymous||reply 495||04/22/2019|
Gunt development is shocking.
I would never have thought you could get fat "down there," but you damn sure can! Makes your dick look way smaller, too.
|by Anonymous||reply 496||04/22/2019|
I can deal with the gunt,R496,but its the gray pubes that freak me out when I dare to look at myself in a full length mirror. Id trim them,but then id be bald down there.And dont even get me started on the gray pubes around my hole ! I call it "Granny pussy" now.
|by Anonymous||reply 497||04/22/2019|
r497- You sound like Samantha on Sex And The City when she says NO ONE WANTS TO FUCK GRANDMA'S PUSSY!
|by Anonymous||reply 498||04/22/2019|
[quote]your social circle gets largely replaced as you age
I have a list of people I sent Christmas card to from 20 years ago, I don't remember 3/4 of these people and why we were friends.
|by Anonymous||reply 499||04/22/2019|
So you didn’t send the cards? Damn you, I KNEW I shouldn’t have checked off “received” in my Christmas card book.
(Yes youngsters, those things used to exist.)
|by Anonymous||reply 500||04/22/2019|
R487, will you please pay attention!
HE SAID HE SOLD THE DRUG STORE.
|by Anonymous||reply 501||04/22/2019|
R497 Why ya all oldies trying to have sex? Old age is the time for contemplation and teaching the millenials and zs.
|by Anonymous||reply 502||04/22/2019|
^^^ Well, for whom do you think they invented Viagra?
|by Anonymous||reply 503||04/22/2019|
I’m 49 and I take viagra. I just can’t get it as rock hard as I used to in my 20s and 30s without it! I know I’m older because I remember thinking to myself not so long ago “oh I’ll NEVER need Viagra!” Oh how quickly things change....
|by Anonymous||reply 504||04/22/2019|
Wrong thread r503. You should be posting in Dirty Old Men.
|by Anonymous||reply 505||04/23/2019|
My prostate has hardened to marble.
|by Anonymous||reply 506||04/23/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 507||04/24/2019|
The nose hairs! If only my new lawn grew as fast...
|by Anonymous||reply 508||04/28/2019|
I now have to take a cocktail of viagra, cialis, and horny goat extract to get a semi. But it’s also bigger than average (9x6 inches) so that could explain why I need so much to get it hard. The young uns still like to play with it though so there’s that.
|by Anonymous||reply 509||04/29/2019|
R509- How old are you?
|by Anonymous||reply 510||04/29/2019|
R510 - 63
|by Anonymous||reply 511||04/30/2019|
R511-When you're that large between the legs it's not always easy to get rock hard at ANY age.
|by Anonymous||reply 512||04/30/2019|
I don’t know anything about the latest music. Kicking booze ten years ago means that it has been awhile since I’ve set foot in a dance club or bar. And other than NPR and some classical music and old school pop, I don’t pay any attention to whatever is on the radio.
|by Anonymous||reply 513||04/30/2019|
R513-I didn't pay attention to contemporary music/fashion when I was 16!
|by Anonymous||reply 514||04/30/2019|
[quote]I don’t know anything about the latest music.
Good for you.
|by Anonymous||reply 515||04/30/2019|
Bless you, R514. Come sit by me, please!
|by Anonymous||reply 516||04/30/2019|
There’s NOTHING about current music worth knowing or noting.
|by Anonymous||reply 517||04/30/2019|
I’d say more than 50% of my age group has given up alcohol and cigarettes and eat better. Fun is defined differently. More about contentment than fun.
|by Anonymous||reply 518||04/30/2019|
R516- I was 16 in 1982 and I loathed contemporary music and fashions. I like the Beatles and The Byrds. In my high school it wasn't considered COOL to be into PUNK/NEW WAVE anyway. Almost everyone listened to Classic Rock, so my being into the Beatles at that time was socially acceptable .
|by Anonymous||reply 519||04/30/2019|
Just wanted to say I Love This Group. Is there anyone in the I was really fit my whole life but have had so many recent surgerys from injuries and have so much pain I cannot work out anymore, as compared to the I never really cared about working out and was never in shape so being out of shape at 60 is something I have had 30 years to get used to crowd?
|by Anonymous||reply 520||04/30/2019|
At 22, I was a professional dancer. I danced for hours and hours every day and I looked it.
At 62, however.... No, it's not the same. A back injury. A knee injury. Arthritis in my feet. Long walks become painful.
And my body reflects all that. No, it's just not the same anymore.
|by Anonymous||reply 521||04/30/2019|
I don't know how anybody can listen to modern pop music. I hear it when I'm out and about and sometimes I'll go on Youtube and watch a video from some current artist and it's all complete SHIT. Autotuned garbage that sounds like it belongs in a strip club, and it all sounds the same.
If that makes me an old fart, I don't care.
|by Anonymous||reply 522||04/30/2019|
I stopped listening to most new popular music after Tusk. I continued buying records by most artists I was already buying records by (Linda Ronstadt, Fleetwood Mac, Talking Heads, Police, others), but mostly I was done. After I bought a CD player in 1986, I started buying CDs, which led me to buying and listening to classical most of the time.
|by Anonymous||reply 523||05/01/2019|
I love silence now, I rarely turn on the premium sound system in my car. I can sit home and enjoy the quiet which is calming.
|by Anonymous||reply 524||05/01/2019|
R524 - I love the silence as well! While watching TV with my partner he hates that I mute the commercials, but I’d rather not hear that crap.
|by Anonymous||reply 525||05/01/2019|
r524, is your car soundproofed?
|by Anonymous||reply 526||05/01/2019|
I rarely listen to recorded music. I like silence, ambient sound, birds.
|by Anonymous||reply 527||05/01/2019|
R526 Not soundproof, it's a sports sedan and can be quiet inside with the the radio off.
|by Anonymous||reply 528||05/01/2019|
IS it ever possible to gain back muscle tone in your 50s? Without steroids I mean. I hate my saggy manboobs!
|by Anonymous||reply 529||05/03/2019|
I realized that I'm going all Swifty Lazar, getting bigger and bigger eyeglass frames to cover up my face. Soon I'll be going full hood.
|by Anonymous||reply 530||05/03/2019|
|by Anonymous||reply 531||05/03/2019|
BUT I want look better naked r531 Won't flyes or bench presses help as they did when I was younger?
|by Anonymous||reply 532||05/03/2019|
Daddy’s First Orthotic Inserts.
|by Anonymous||reply 533||05/03/2019|