Perfect people on Instagram

A question for the ages

See, I like instagram. Short tidbits, nice photos.

I never feel jealousy for someone. We must bless and praise other's prosperity-

It helps more of it to us.

bring^ more of it to us..

[quote]How are we regular folks suppose to settle for our shitty lives???

Don’t look at them.

The secret is regular exercise. It leads to a better life.

It's very important to live the kind of life that makes others want to suicide.

link op

People like this tend to have narcissistic tendencies

They are desperate for attention and validation. You are a jealous and bitter type impressed by some shallow instagram antics.

Neither party comes off well here.

Um, this is why I left Instagram. I already feel crappy enough without seeing stuff that I wasn't even seeking out... and reminds me what I don't have, makes me want to die of depression, etc.. they sound showy. Not my type of people anyway.

There are lots of homeless people. Be thankful.

r9 nails it

Post the link, OP. I'm sure the DataLounge will bring them down a peg.

I’m sure the people OP is mentioning are good looking BUT I’m also certain those pics were filtered and photoshopped within an inche of the people in them lives.

People use words like “curated” when they talk about IG.

Curated = lies

You don't know what goes on behind closed doors. Those "perfect" people on Instagram could be miserable in private. Or in debt up to their eyeballs.

Okay, so they are beautiful and travel the world. That tells you nothing about what their real life is like. I can see how that seems like "heaven" if you are out of shape, lonely, and barely have enough money to fill up your gas. But you know nothing about how happy they are. I've known people who had a seemingly perfect life on Instagram and whose private lives were a mess, riddled with addition, insecurity, self-loathing, constant fighting with their significant other, feeling trapped in their relationship, wanting to pursue a passion but having a massive fear of failure, etc. Live your life, OP.

Oh, dear. Let me retype that:

"Okay, so they are beautiful and travel the world. That tells you nothing about what their real life is like. I can see how that seems like "heaven" if you are out of shape, lonely, and barely have enough money to fill up your gas tank. But you know nothing about how happy they are. I've known people who had a seemingly perfect life on Instagram and whose private lives were a mess, riddled with addiction, insecurity, self-loathing, constant fighting with their significant other, feeling trapped in their relationship, wanting to pursue a passion but having a massive fear of failure, etc. Live your life, OP.

Being out of shape should be illegal. Same with being poor says today’s white gay man with money.

[quote]How are we regular folks suppose to settle for our shitty lives???

By growing up and realizing that very few people, including people like Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, have perfect lives. What people don't put in their instagrams is what it takes to actually make the sausage - usually a mixture of barf-inducing ingredients.

Unless you know these people, you have no idea how much debt they have, what their relationships are actually like, whether they have any money saved for retirement, what they actually have to DO to earn the money they do have and, most pointedly, whether they are happy. People with gorgeous bodies actually have to work very hard - search for any of the famous "models" from a few years ago and many are not even close to that peak, neither the men nor women.

The general observation is that when people try to convince other people, whether old-style bragging or humble bragging, or new-style life on instagram, you should not take that as their having reached the terminal point on achieving a happy life. Rather, it's a big red flag that you should look more closely - who exactly are these people trying to convince. Even if it's ALL true, what sort of emotional insecurity does it take to need to brad and advertise in such a manner.

If he's an "incredibly fit, beautiful, blue-eyed, successful" guy he'll probably cheat on her sooner or later. Handsome types are in rare supply. So every person in his vicinity will be throwing themselves at him.

Having a handsome partner is both a blessing and a curse. The wifey has her work cut out for her.

I used to follow male model Christian Hogue on IG. He was dating a Latina model. For all her luck, I would not want to be in her place. Because you just know he has temptation on every corner - everybody will spread their legs for him. Being his partner in this situation must make one neurotic and paranoid. Handsome, successful people are seldom faithful.

[quote]Okay, so they are beautiful and travel the world. That tells you nothing about what their real life is like

I think it does.

[quote]Rather, it's a big red flag that you should look more closely - who exactly are these people trying to convince.

Themselves, for starters.

OP, do you have the link to this couple?

Stop consuming social media. It's toxic.

The secret is a trust fund it leads to a better life R5

If ever a thread were useless without pictures.

They've been to paradise but they've never been to them.

I didn't save the link to their account or even their names; as I said, i was browsing through stuff, found his account, saw the pictures and left. No need to expose people who did nothing to me anyway.

R28 It's useless to talk about this without any evidence.

[Quote]I didn't save the link to their account or even their names

And furthermore, my dog ate my homework.

Perfect? They are on IG. That alone speaks for itself. They need and crave people looking at them, and basically thinking what you are thinking. The vast majority of IG beautiful people are losers. Time will not be kind, nor societal changes that will make this an sick period of time that will be made fun of. Also none of them do anything for society to make it better.

Brock O'Hurn does nothing for anyone but himself. Multiply that by hundreds of thousands IG fucks.

You want pictures?

[quote]How are we regular folks suppose to settle for our shitty lives???

Oh, dear.

Yes, OP, but do they spend hours writing deep and meaningful prose about what it was like to be raised a Mormon and be a doctor? Do they pose topless selfies constantly? Of both of them? If not, be gone with them!

(Seriously, people like your Insta folks are insufferable to be around. Count yourself lucky that you are only looking at their pictures rather than forced to be in the same room with them.)

What's even stranger is when you go out of your way to be fun and self-effacing on social media and people still come after you, because they assume you have a perfect life and things fall into your lap. I've never once said I had my shit together or was perfect and I ended up getting publicly slammed by a couple of bitter people who didn't like that I always seemed to be happy. They went after me like I'd stolen their business proposal, their first born, and their favorite fuck buddy. Never underestimate a bitter bitch.

The trick is like others have said - no one has a perfect life. Most semi-together people aren't going to post selfies of them crying when someone breaks up with them or when they didn't get that job they were after. We're going to post when we got engaged or our kid won the swim meet or when we won an award for something. That's not narcissistic to be proud of our own accomplishments and the accomplishments of the ones we love.

Just be yourself. Do not let other people tell you how or what you should look like or be like.

Just ask Colton Haynes (the gay Ken Doll) how perfect his life is, based on his IG account.

OP, have you never seen Annie Hall and this scene about a happy, good-looking couple? It's everything.

Life can stop for anyone with a traffic accident. Be thankful for what you have.

The more "perfect" they are on Instagram, the less you want to know them IRL.

The really fake things on IG are the supposedly perfect relationships people pretend they have.

A few days ago I was at a coffee shop when I heard a lot of commotion behind me. The two women sitting behind me were moving their lattes and various food items around the table, standing up to take photographs from all angles, and then each one was taking a "candid" photo of the other. At one point, one of them put up her coffee cup to her lips and looked up and to the side in that typical fake "cutesy" pose. I sat back and watched. One of them got visibly irritated that I was watching them, which is silly considering this was all likely being done to share on social media. They took about 10 minutes doing all of this, so by then I am sure the coffees and waffles had gone cold. What a great life!

When looking at supposedly "gorgeous" people on IG check a bunch of their posts to see if they have the same expression in each pic and if they're all taken from the same angle. You just know that if they were to have a pic taken from any other angle they would look crap. Smoke and mirrors.

Like all of us, they are all subject to old age, illness, and death. They all want something that they cannot have or have something that they do not want. All pleasures that they experience are only temporary and will cease eventually. They all experience pain, dissatisfaction, and negative emotions daily. Whatever advantages they might have in life, they will all come crashing down on their death bed. Their body, regardless of how beautiful you perceive it to be, contains blood, slime, puss, shit, sweat, urine, fat etc.

You are projecting on them something that is not there. Do not be so harsh with yourself; instead, be kind to yourself and see that, in the end, we all suffer the same!

OP you don't want to "expose" this Insta couple? THEY posted their shit all over Insta for the world to see. Once you do that, you exposed yourself and the public can and will have opinions and readily share their comments. If they don't want to be critiqued, they should not post on Insta. See how that works?

So I'm suffering too, R44. Except like not all gross like what you say.

r19 nails it.

Besides, I thought the latest status symbol is to be anonymous and have zero social media presence.

Ok bitches..here's the link.

Barbie and Ken in Spain

barbie and Ken skiing

Barbie and Ken on an helicopter (of course he is flying it)

Barbie and Ken in Portugal

Greece

OP you have to remember that most Europeans can travel 1-3 hours and be in a different country, so it's not that hard for them.

They're not europeans, though, they're brazilians.

The only reason I posted the pictures is so R30 can fuck off and die. Why would I, or anyone, for the matter, lie about an instagram account??? Idiot.

Can't they just make a sex tape like normal people?

Wow, they're fucking gorgeous.

I had an interesting convo with a gal at an Xmas party this past winter who actually shed some light on these types of accounts. She does advertising and product placement for a manufacturing company, and one of her jobs is to get her employer's products featured in various profiles depending on the target consumer (it's actually quite complicated from what she described and not at all just simply perusing social media). She said that a lot of these "perfect life" accounts are entirely faked and manufactured ("curated") by what are essentially production companies, much like how a TV show or movie is created. They hire a model or models, create a profile character and storyline (a traveler, a stay-at-home mom, a buff gym bunny, etc), there's a dresser/costumer, they hire extras, there's a location scout/set dresser, a "script" writer who composes the text, etc. Most of the accounts on which she's had products placed are linked to a company. She was telling me about how she was trying to get some candle featured in this one gal's profile, whose whole thing is a mom/teacher/professor world-traveler, etc.. The woman featured in the profile was just some model, and she had some huge number of followers, in the high 100k's, but none of what was in her "profile" was real. She was just some girl taken out of a modeling catalog. And social media is riddled with these types of accounts. And they're only purpose is to gather as many followers in an effort to sell you crap. So whatever IG profile, it's probably one of those profiles.

I don't think that's the case, R60, he doesn't even have many followers.

R61 that may be the case. But it could also be a new fake account that's still in the early stages. And of course, just because a profile features a "perfect life" doesn't mean it's faked. I just wanted to throw out there the fact that there are companies out there that create highly specialized accounts meant to make you feel like crap compared to who and what's featured so you'll try and emulate their life by buying the stuff they do.

Thank you, R60. This “couple” looks incredibly fake to me.

What in the world does having blue eyes have to do with anything? Trailer parks are chock full of them.

They're not very attractive to me. Guy looks like your average Joe. Woman is caked with makeup and fake lashes.

Yeah, in the scheme of enviable Instagrams theirs is underwhelming. Also, the quality of their photos is lacking considering where phone cameras are nowadays.

6 pack

nyc

Are the photos in R65 R68 and R69 the couple being referenced by OP? The account is the Hallmark Channel movie of Instagram.

Yes, it is, R70

[Quote]What's even stranger is when you go out of your way to be fun and self-effacing on social media

Why does one bother with this? It isn’t necessary. It causes nothing but problems. It’s an absurd outlet that brings out the worst in people and turns grown adults into 15-year-old girls.

Don’t say it’s fun because it obviously isn’t if people are mocking you.

And why would one “follow” strangers as if they were real friends? Spend more quality time with the genuine people in your life instead of ogling people you’ve never met.

R72 as with anything, commercial and corporate endeavors have ruined social media. I recall first joining IG when it came out and really enjoying following friends' posts, and a few celebrities (it was fun to see some celebrity in the kitchen cooking or hanging out with friends in pajama onesies drinking wine). But now, it's "models" and "influencers" (I hate that term so much) trying to make the hoi polloi jealous and feel under-privileged with professionally produced photographs and videos so they can make licensing fees from showcasing whatever products from whichever company pays them the most. I know it's cliched, but mass-commercialism really takes the charm out of anything.

OP, R60 here. OK I was expecting something different, After looking at the pics you posted, I'd agree with you that this isn't one of those fake, curated profiles. Although these two are trying really hard to make someone jealous and keeping up with the Jones' way too hard.

I'm not bothered by any of this.

If you told me that they attended a top 10 university... then I might lose it.

But something tells me their highest grades (for whatever school they were forced to attend) were B- .

People value different things. Their "amazing restaurants" and "vacations" are moot to me. I've taken great vacations and eat wherever I want. I don't have his body at all - but I don't even like bodies like that. The girl looks like it takes her an hour every day just to look like that... all that makeup and peroxide.

I am bitter they are flying business class, though. I cannot ever justify the jump in price from $800 to $3000 for a business class seat. Maybe they're doing it with miles and never photographing their coach seats. I have a friend who posted his biz class pics on instagram (paid for by his BF's job) and I told him he's being a typical IG cunt and delete it. He left it up because he wants that attention / jealousy toward him, which is actually more pathetic.

And there are always going to be people with more money than you and who are better looking than you. There are just some things you have to accept. You can try to claim the pics are fake, the profile is sponsored by a corporation, they are in debt, they secretly hate each other, they're so insecure they need the validation from posting the pics, and on and on and on... and that all might be true - BUT regardless, there are many thousands of people who are better looking than you and more wealthy than you & not even on Instagram. Welcome to the world. It is your choice now to decide how you want it to affect you. You don't HAVE to be envious. Most people's first emotion is that, but it doesn't have to be.

Quick, get to the Barbie choppa...

[QUOTE]Besides, I thought the latest status symbol is to be anonymous and have zero social media presence.

Makes sense. Now that everyone and their dog has an IG account the cool thing would be to not have one.

It's a strange world when people think an advertising platform is real life.

he's had tummy work done. Lipo? it's all lumpy.

Yeah, he had lipo of the lower abs. Compare it to the guy next to him with a real 6 pack. There are not supposed to be ridges and bumps around / below your belly button. The lipo was too aggressive. Good lipo leaves an even layer of fat behind so you don't see little lumps like that.

In other lighting, it looks even worse. You can see the doctor stopped below his top 2 abs, where it still looks normal.

You see more attractive people on pretty much every subway in Manhattan. Also, there doesn't appear to be any "there" there behind their eyes.

This "perfect people" is looking more pathetic with each new pic

Actually, it looks as if it's a legit profile, but they're trying really hard to get followers, probably to monetize the account. I have to say, I find this whole concept of showboating (and the deceit that often comes with it) over social media, and the reactions (both positive and negative) from observers, to be utterly fascinating, almost in an anthropological sense. It's such a weird part of human society, it's own culture.

OP, Greece and Portugal are not expensive travel destinations especially not in September. That's when vacationing on the beach becomes cheap, in fact.

You will always suffer if you compare your life to other

OP, are you serious? I think I lost a couple of IQ points just by looking at their IG account. It's a total dulsville.

OP, not trying to be funny here, but please consider therapy. There's no reason to compare to what you think they have and then throw your hands up and say you can't compete.

R89 - There's no reason to be jealous in the first place. CBT is all about re-examining that emotional response and developing a more rational response based on your own personal priorities and values, which usually aren't having a 6-pack, no brains, and traveling endlessly. However, if those ARE your priorities, I'm not sure what CBT can do.

Well, a 6-pack with botched lipo over it, that is....

I stumbled on this thread looking for something else. It's mainly crossed out, but I'm so glad someone else had pictures of this couple due to my curiosity. They wouldn't even be top 20% of IG perfection. I've seen so much more attractive, glamorous couples. DLers gets stuck on such odd people sometimes.

And it may not mean much but Christian Hogue is married w/kids.

What R92 said. Also Instagram guy wears too much concealer.

R93, he is not. He always has his roommate's, a fellow male model, kids around. He said he gets asked all the time of they're a couple and he said no he just loves the kids and he's straight. He's very cool about it too. He has a girlfriend though.

Bump