Lesbians of DL, Where are we?

South Florida!

Gulfport, Mississippi

[quote] Gulfport, Mississippi

I really hope you're kidding...

Non-Americans (or ex-pats), tell us where you are!

Canada!

So there are three of us?

The British ones are probably asleep now.

Four now. East Coast of Canada.

Which province, R8? NS? Nfld?

Two Canadians! Love it.

Oh, and I think we have a few Ozzies. They might be sleeping...

Cleveland! 🥳

Another Canadian here!!

Is it cold, lesbinadians?

Phoenix, but soon to be Los Angeles.

It was, but spring is coming, R13. It was a long , cold winter.

What is west-west? Arizona is considered Southwest.

You forgot the Northeast, Op

R6 I can confirm that there are now 4 lesbians reporting to this thread

8 lesbians! I just counted!

R17, oh, you're so right. Trying to fit that "Vivian Vance" option in screws up all my polls.

Why is Phoenix moving to LA?

I think even the Darfur Orphans condole Ms. Cleveland.

I couldn't fit in the Pacific Northwest (I was thinking of our Portland people especially), so I put in West-West as a catch all--also for things like Idaho and the Dakotas. (That's over there, right?)

Politics for one R20. Also, LA is warmer in the winter and cooler in the summer.

Oregon is the Pacific Northwest R21. There is no west-west. I guess people that live in California, but not in LA would have said west-west. But why did you add cities instead of keeping it regions?

Idaho is considered Pacific Northwest R21. I believe the Dakotas are too. Northern California is considered Pacific Northwest. This is hurting my head.

Chicago

R14, but isn't the DL meme that everyone is pouring out of LA because of real estate prices? Are you giving up living in splendor in Phoenix for a life of hideous drudgery in LA?

To R14/R22 and the rest of the world,

I added the two cities because DL seems to be overrun by New Yorkers and the Los Angelese entertainment insiders--or perhaps they're just the ones who post the most. I originally had Chicago and Miami as their own options, but couldn't fit everything else in. I had to make desperate, gut-wrenching choices...you know, for a poll.

R23 and the rest, "West-West" is sort of a joke, in the "add the next in the sequence." If you live somewhere over there, but not in the Southwest and not in LA, please pick choose "West-West." Then write in the comments where it is you are, and please tell me how awful my poll is.

Thanks!

R24, hello Chicago!

I wasn't making fun of your poll R25. I was going to mark west-west for Arizona, but I questioned it and it is considered southwest. Oregon and Washington could be considered west, but technically they are northwest.

San Francisco Bay Area.

Did you know the Dakotas are considered Midwest by the census?

Hello, Bay Area!

You all must be coming home for dinner. We on the east coast are fading away.

Any Norwegians? If so, how's the weather?

Yup, the Dakotas are definitely a long way from the Pacific. Definitely not Pacific Northwest.

R30 Hi South Florida!

And that is why your poll is confusing R29. Maybe someone from the Dakota's can tell us if they feel they are Midwest or pacific northwest.

Btw, a gay man not a lez.

If you go by the census we have 4 regions. West, Midwest, South and Northeast.

You all seem less pointlessly bitchy than your gay brethren. Not that there's anything wrong with that. But we'd have made several withering comments about flyover states and Florida by now.

Have fun!

East coast, I work between North Carolina and Washington, DC.

So Cal Lesbian here... and I like to think to think I'm one of the only lesbians here (and hope our numbers here stay small) because I really appreciate coming here for the bitchiness of our gay brethren and don't want this place to ever become like the L Chat. Ugh...

Anyone literally from Lesbos?

I am part Greek, but my Greek family was from the Sparta area.

I know a few in Seattle.

R32, hi guy! Welcome to our thread!

R34, I'm not sure we've ever had anyone from the Dakotas on DL. Surely, we'd have flushed them out and yapped at their behinds by now.

R37, if we make too many withering comments, we might end up as one sole lesbian.

Ladies, here's my quandary for the night--why, oh, why, are other lesbians so controlling? I have this acquaintance in my life whom I've only ever spoken to like five times, who is trying to control my life, and it's driving me up a freaking wall. She's not even single. I know she feels that since we're fellow lesbians..I don't know...that I owe her something? That's it.

I'll have a different lesbian problem tomorrow.

R42, you know a few lesbians in Seattle or Spartans?

Hello to North Carolina/Washington DC!

And hello to Northern California!

R44 go Spartans

Another Canadian here - Vancouver.

Four Canadians--great!

And from Quebec?

R38 here. I don't know that lesbians are overall controlling. I have a great group of lesbian friends and acquaintances. Thank goodness none of them are like that. My own sister, on the other hand, is to the max. But I can ignore her.

The only one in my life who gets to be controlling is the cat.

Hello from Portland, OR

Nova Scotia, R9.

Hi, R49,

Thank you for answering. In a few of the other places I lived, I used to have a circle of lesbians friends who were lovely, jolly, low-stress, wonderful, and I loved them.

At this point in my life, where I live now, I have fallen into the clutches of a bunch of lesbians who are way too much into politics and advocacy, and are terribly stifling to those who don't want to be their volunteers or who can't clear their calendars to go running after everything they want to do. And these are people whom I don't particularly know well at all, but nevertheless feel they have the right to do this (to their lesbian acquaintances). Of course, with straight people they know, they wouldn't dare.

And I was just thinking, "Why is everything so fraught and hysterical? Why do I feel so bad around these people?"

That is all.

Omg r52 - finally a lesbian that isn’t obsessed with politics/advocacy...can I presume to add animal rescue to the list??

Please say yes!

Hi from the HAMPTONS.

R54, ha ha.

R53, marry me! LOL, another les not into politics, advocacy and definitely not animal rescue!

You sound boring and uncaring R56.

San Francisco reporting in.

I'm surprised there are this many lesbians left on DL!

R52 here.

I *am* into advocacy and animal rights and all that jazz, just not to the extent that the controlling people in my life are.

R57, I have found that I prefer listening and learning; there are such a huge range of topics for my interest, other than focusing on politics. I also am routinely involved in community services, but have found that I am a much more effective "worker bee".

I don't choose to be a leader in these areas any longer; it can be way too frustrating to find your group has evolved into "we know the only way/ best way" to make changes and benefit others.

I will assist and care for any injured, lost or abandoned animals. This has been part of my career and I have done so for decades. I stay away from rescue groups in general, since many are thinly disgused for-profits, borderline hoarding situations, or warehousing the rescued.

I don't think that I'm boring, and definitely not uncaring, for working in different directions and staying away from overzealous, controlling types. You are entitled to your own opinion.

From Bavaria!

R61, are you an ex-pat?

Another Canadian

5 Canadians. Which part, R63?

Question: are French Canadian lesbians homophobic / gay-male hating? It seems like every other lesbian doesn't give a shit, but the frenchies are complete assholes.

R65, but where have you heard that? Are their examples that we might know?

(I'm neither Canadian nor French, but just curious to ask.)

From work. I would always get treated like shit by french canadian lesbians. Not the girlfriends, the wannabe male leader who was always two feet shorter than me.

Could have been an isolated incident.

What's the total count now, OP? Connecticut reporting in.

I'm sorry, r69. We don't count people from Connecticut.

But I'm Helen Lawson's pool girl! Here, look! Look,at my skimmer! That's Patty Duke head hair all over!

We're sorry, r71.

No.

18 lesbians in total, but I think that someone from San Fran posted twice.

If there are two different San Fran posters, then the total will be 19.

And, no, I'm not counting Ina in the Hamptons.

[quote] Idaho is considered Pacific Northwest [R21]. I believe the Dakotas are too. Northern California is considered Pacific Northwest. This is hurting my head.

Idaho is considered the Pacific Northwest these days as an extension of Washington State; Dakotas I would place firmly as Midwest. I consider Northern California, everything beyond (north of) the San Francisco media market, to be part of "the northwest".

I'm just trying to be inclusive of all those people who live in the states that I always forget.

I suspect and reject all limits.

Put me down for everything.

Nutloafs, I put "Vivian Vance" there as your option.

***loaves

Wise old lez counsels r75 thusly:

NEVER "try" to be inclusive, it will always end in tears.

R23 I'm a native of Northern CA (still live here), and have never heard this area referred to as the Pacific Northwest. It begins in Oregon.

R79, actually, it ended in lots of people complaining 'bout my poll.

Oops, forgot to post a map.

There's a lot of green in that map.

Do I smell cilantro on that map?

I better not be smelling cilantro.

Bitches, this is OP. I spend a lot of fucking time looking at maps (for my work).

I need to know why both countries, all the states highlighted, and the font are ALL GREEN.

Alfalfa, dear.

Ooh, I like alfalfa.

Alfalfa is delicious.

Good on you, OP, keep going!

WTF, Darla? What the fucking fuck?

A convent in Havordshire checking in.

NYACK, bitches!

Good question, peeps. Here's a map that more accurately depicts the true colors of the region. Or not.

The original map came from gonorthwest.com. All their maps seem to be green. Funny how gonorthwest almost looks like gonorrhea.

Here's a map that includes Northern Ca in the region. I have never heard of us called that. I don't mind because I love the the Pacific Northwest. It's not us, though. We're not like that. You don't see all that many man buns around here.

Help, guys! Is "a convent in Havordshire" a tv/movie reference?

The Northeasterners and New Englanders could easily break out in war over that map.

That is the Cascadia bioregion, R85

Cascadia the independence movement is just Washington, Oregon, and BC.

Sacramento, CA

Hi there from Chicago

Another Chicago! Hi there!

Now we have two.

Welcome, Sacramento!

And welcome, NYACK!

Minneapolis (Midwest obviously)

Silently cruising around the very entertaining DL parties this evening, which is my idea of fun. If one is boring, or if another is 'extra,' of if another is pointlessly argumentative, I go visit the next DL party . . . which is how I silently stepped into this one.

Welcome, Minneapolis!

R102, welcome you, too, whoever you are!

^^ Thank you. Pardon my typo; I'm slightly tipsy - Shhhhhh!

Another Oregonian, although not in Portland.

Grew up in the Pacific Northwest, always considered it to be Oregon, Washington, and begrudgingly Idaho. I'd rather include B.C. than Idaho.

Lesbo from Oz checking in.

Reporting from Norway. I can tell you that the sun is up, it’s around 40 degrees here in the south east of Norway right now. Spring is on the way. It is 8:28 AM

R56/r59 lets do this!

I’m 43 but I’m told I look like I’m in my late 20’s. Northeast but willing to travel and rent a uhaul for the lesbian in the right location

Oh my gosh...I had always dreamed of this moment, but I didn't think I would live to see it.

We lezzies of DL have taken over the, "I'm in my 40s but look 25" meme.

I'm so proud of us.

R109 I’m serious. I get told this all of the time.

Ive got receipts, too.

Did we find out whether our Bavarian lezzy was expat yet?

Where is Oz Lez based (that's a mouthful do to speak...)

Did we find out whether our Bavarian lezzy was expat yet?

Where is Oz Lez based (that's a mouthful do to speak...)

Did we find out whether our Bavarian lezzy was expat yet?

Where is Oz Lez based (that's a mouthful do to speak...)

Did we find out whether our Bavarian lezzy was expat yet?

Where is Oz Lez based (that's a mouthful do to speak...)

Transient ischemic attack, dear?

Aloha from Hilo, girls!

I resent your referring to my lesbian thread as a "buttload."

Aloha! Welcome!

Did you choose Vivian Vance on the poll?

if anywhere is “West-West” it’s Hawaii.

Augusta, Georgia here.

Outside of U.S. - Texas. (Since none of your categories fit.)

Canada - Minnesota - Chicago - we should meet up and plan a Spring Fling party. It’s been a miserable winter!

R31, Norwegians say there’s no bad weather, just wrong clothing choices.

Geez, R72, this is like a NYC condo interview.

Try not to make me feel like the oldest lesbian in the room. Which..... I am!

R92...

Hi Ro :)

Pacific Northwest

I'm still upset about Connecticut.

Gay lady fav Joanne Woodward lives in Westport, Connecticut.

You're really going to exclude Gay Lady Fav Joanne Woodward?

R128, yes.

Next!

^ That committee is filled with Boston pedigree, I'd be careful.

São Paulo, Brazil.

Any.others?

Wakey wakey

You girls quit picking on Miss Connecticut!

Hey OP, what's the count now?

Cane-upon-Dyke, Muffshire, UK!

OP/R78:

There are indeed two different posters from SF/SFBA - I am R58, and live in SF proper. R28 lives in the "San Francisco Bay Area", which generally indicates NOT San Francisco itself, but the greater Bay Area, which might mean Silicon Valley (South Bay), Oakland or Berkeley (East Bay), Marin County (North Bay), etc.

Per Wikipedia, "Although the exact boundaries of the region vary depending on the source, the Bay Area is generally accepted to include the nine counties that border the aforementioned estuaries: Alameda, Contra Costa, Marin, Napa, San Mateo, Santa Clara, Solano, Sonoma, and San Francisco.

Geek trivia: The City and County of San Francisco have the same boundaries - unlike other CA counties, San Francisco County has no other cities or unincorporated areas.

Adjust your count accordingly :)

Ooops - I was replying to R73, not R78

Another from Southern California here. Ventura, to be specific.

Ladies, I have just joined (free member) a dating website, and I have a question.

Why do so many profiles have something like, "I'm looking for HONESTY"? Are there that many liars circulating the lesbian dating website world? And what do they lie about that this is so common?

(I've never dated anyone from a website before.)

Which website did you join?

I think it is the games R140. Someone that is dishonest is not going to say, "hey, I'm dishonest, but give me a try.

Match.com.

By the way, all of the "likes" are bullshit, right? Match has shown me 3 of the people who are sending "likes" to me, and they're all three out of state men with no photos when I clearly state in my profile that I am a huge lezzie.

R142, in the sense that they are dating two people at once? Cheaters?

(This is out of a total of nine likes, but they only sent me email notifications identifying three of them--all bullshit.)

Be careful with online people - who are they? That is part of the plea for "honesty." Plus people burnt out from dishonesty in general.

Hussies,

Your thread derailment is causing me literal dementia. Desist, I'm begging you.

Throwing this in there, I think the OP's dead.

No, I'm not dead. I'm on match.com trying to figure out which profiles are real.

How do you determine that R149?

Ouija Board, r150.

R150, I don't know, friend. That's why I am asking my DL lezzie friends.

But as I said, three of the "likes" were from men not living in my state with no pictures, so I assume those are fakes. I wrote in my profile, "I am a super lesbian. No men please." So why would three men out-of-state (and old) "like" me? They must be bots that match.com uses to spur you into buying a membership.

What do you get with the free version R152?

Ahem.

Hot, educated lez in AZ here. Mid 40s and, yes, I look about 15 years younger, ha! Looking for a hot, educated lez who looks like a tax accountant. Meaning, not into tattoos, piercings, or purple colored hair, etc.

R155, LOL.

I know TWO lezzie tax accountants. They are NOT HOT.

If you look like Dr Melfi in the Sopranos, you'd be my type.

The people online are killers - beware!

R152, consternation :)

People write to you, but you can't read it. You also can't see who likes you. There are lots of internet sites claiming that match.com uses bots and fake accounts to lure people in, which I suspect is true. But match.com also seems to have a better clientele than POF or okcupid (in my area).

I used to be on a paid site called Pink Sofa (just for the lezzie) that functioned so much better. With a free account, you could read letters to you, so that you would know that they were real. Then if you wanted to respond, you could buy a subscription. This just looks like a bait-and-switch.

Don't waste your time and money on Match. Bottom of the barrel pickings and most of the profiles are dead.

R160, I agree that most profiles are dead. I notice that the smart ladies have profiles on all the major sites. So if you see one on a certain site, you can contact them through a different site.

In my area, though, I see better quality people (less visible tattoos, stupid hand signals, etc.) on match.

Is it worth the $42 a month R161?

R162, no, but there is a visibility factor. Since my photo is out there, other lesbians in town (that I see at LGBT events) will now know that I am single.

BTW, the joke is on anyone who buys the match.com subscription, in that most of us don't have a subscription. So I imagine they send loads of emails that they can see go unread--of course, there is like a 20 dollar add on to let people who write you read your emails. So actually, it's close to $60 per month.

What's the DL lezz count now then?

How many platters on nutloaf are called for? Is OP/ the Connecticut-phobic Committee over this key info yet please?

Norway lez sounds interesting. Plus, was just there and it was my favorite of the Scandinavian countries.

Hi there. I’m in LA. Is it just me or is this city slowly sucking the life out of me?

R162, take 42 dollar bills, put them in a pile outdoors, douse with kerosene, light match and ignite. I guarantee you will derive far more pleasure that way versus giving those dollars to Match.

R166, what's the dating situation like in LA? Are there any lez there who don't look like Shane from the L Word? No offense to anyone who looks like Shane from the L Word, BTW.

I don’t go out much or date R168. My bar days are ova! But that’s OK. Yes there are ladies that don’t look like Shane. That would be a dated look wouldn’t it?

R169 - thanks for the La update. Lived there 10 Years ago when an over abundance of Shane look-a-likes seemed to take over weho.... it was easy to spot the real deal (Katherine Moeing) over at Eleven for Lword airing nights.

I had a friend visiting from Germany and we were walking around WeHo and Kate & her friends walked past us. My friend got excited and wanted to go back and say hello and get a picture. I didn’t want to bother her but went with her to say hello. She was nice and personable and my friend got a picture with her!

It’s funny living in LA for so long it you see a celebrity and you’re like oh that’s so and so and you keep it moving. You don’t stop and go OMG! Also you don’t ask for an autograph or anything. There are very few people I would freak about anyway.

Thread-killers. You derailed your own thread, OP.

I'm withdrawing my Vivian Vance vote in protest, there was promise here, I tsk you.

Cmon, r164, let's you and me get drunk.

At least most of you seem to have a decent dating pool. Being a small town lesbian is tough. I have an online dating profile just because there aren't many local options. However, I men and transwomen seem to like my profile more than lesbians.

That sucks R173. Start your cat collection NOW!

When you get older it is non existent R173

Lovely things to look forward to. Oye

How many here are single and for how long?

Me R177 and too long, but I'm really not interested in a relationship.

Me, too. For way too long.

Me three.. dare I say it’s been like 4 years for me.

I should add - I’m horrible at knowing when someone is checking me out BUT I do know a new straight lady friend stared at my breasts while chatting today.. several times. I wasn’t sure what to make of it

I've been single for way too long (as I wrote above), but I do have prospects.

I have been asked on dates more times in the last year than any year of my life before, and I attribute this to the fact that my fellow lesbians my age and older are also becoming desperate and braver at asking.

What is your age R182?

(It’s anonymous so I’m not being rude, I think......)

I'm single and have been for about a year now. R181, I frequently have conversations with straight female friends about boobs and they openly admit to finding them attractive.

R183, very late 30s.

All the date requests I've had in person have been from women in the 40s and 50s--which is fine by me. My cut off is 49. But I have yet to find the right lady. I remain optimistic.

R184.. for some odd reason I think it was more than that. Subtle excuses to touch me etc.. something is up. I’m on high alert around her now.

Late 30’s lez.. what area are you in?

If anyone is in the northeast, a lez only DL get together would be fun.

R186, I'm in "The South"--but really, Florida!

Florida? Damn, that’s a little far.. I’m 18 hours north on i95.

I lived in Sarasota for almost a year to the day. Fucking hated Florida.

Late to the thread...reporting in from HUMBOLDT County in the far northwest of California.

I’ve always wanted to explore that area R190. What’s it like there?

Humboldt County is bigger than Connecticut with a population of only 130,000 people. It is wild and beautiful. It takes 5 hours to drive south to San Francisco so we are pretty isolated. This attracts people who like that sort of thing...including many artists and musicians and the cannabis industry. There are strong rural roots here in farming, logging and fishing, and also the highest portion of Native American people in the population of any county. Low percentage of people of color but that number is increasing. If you love gardening, birds, hiking, kayaking etc...this is a great place. There is a college town, Arcata, that is pretty liberal with good restaurants, bookstores, and music. It rains a lot, but you get lots of rainbows. There are lesbians and other women who sleep with women...the older ones tend to be partnered up. There are gay men who seem to know each other and who help sponsor the annual parade. There is/was a Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence group here. I love the area, we have great theater and musical acts that stop off here while they travel between larger cities, and parking is so easy, I’ve seen more performances than when I lived in NYC or SF. But the region has many of the same problems you find elsewhere, a homeless population dealing with drugs and mental illness. We also have a lack of good medical care. Anyone with a serious medical issue drives to San Francisco or Stanford for medical care...if they can. Would love more doctors and nurses to move here. Homes in Arcata average around $400,000, Eureka, the largest town where the biggest hospital is, is cheaper. We tend to make our own fun, this place invented the first Kinetic Sculpture Race and there are a number of fun festivals to attend if you want to visit. The Airbnb’s are a better choice than any hotel I could recommend. Lots of people visit here...(maybe just to pickup a couple pounds of weeds to drive home) ...the roads are filled with license plates from all over the county. Come visit!

Vegas!!

R155, I fit your description. We should chat.

R190, wow! I just finished the doc Murder Mountain. Fascinating.

I'm a cute, educated lezzie who looks like a society lady.

R196 and R194, age and location?

Have any of you tried to discuss the trans issue in real life? What have been the reactions?