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Why do the straights have crotch fruit if all they ever do is complain about them?

I see shit like this on Facebook all the time.

by Anonymousreply 9803/21/2019

[quote]No one talks about the isolation. No one talks about the loss of identity. No one talks about the loneliness. No one talks about losing your sense of self. No one talks about how you had to give up your career because it's cheaper for you to stay home.

Who is she kidding? They can't STOP talking about that shit.

by Anonymousreply 103/08/2019

Because it's what they were made to do.

by Anonymousreply 203/08/2019

I knew it would suck to have kids, so I didn't.

by Anonymousreply 303/08/2019

Because they have no fucking imagination and just go through life checking off boxes on a To-Do list, and having kids is one of them.

by Anonymousreply 403/08/2019

Why do they go to their kids' sports practices? I can understand going to the occasional game, but practice?

by Anonymousreply 503/08/2019

I know most people don't agree with this (at least when not on DL), but most str8 people have kids so that they will fit in with all their friends, who mostly all have kids. Most people are scared to death to stick out like a sore thumb.

by Anonymousreply 603/08/2019

99% of that shit is avoidable if you stay away from straight people.

by Anonymousreply 703/08/2019

Breeders like to complain. Always the victim.

by Anonymousreply 803/08/2019

Moms have a lot of demands placed on them these days. Succeeding in their jobs/careers, raising a family and maintaining a home. It's not easy, and they need support. If they need to vent, let them vent.

by Anonymousreply 903/08/2019

R6 Totally agree. They use kids to "fit in" and to show their FB audience..."hey look at us...we're normal!" But also, it's called grabbing the husbands by the balls..."you can't escape me now bastard..we have kids TOGETHER".

by Anonymousreply 1003/08/2019

More than that, those of us without kids aren't allowed to complain about being exhausted or anything because we chose not to have them.

by Anonymousreply 1103/08/2019

I imagine that being married, breeding, mortgage-paying heterosexuals must feel a bit like being slowly squeezed to death in a vice these days.

Declining incomes and a rising cost of living means constant unrelieved financial pressure, comparing today's reality to your parents' lives and your own expectations means a constant sense of disappointment and inferiority, the lies on social media make those feelings worse, the pressure to maintain a perfect home and raise perfect children means constant overwork and exhaustion, the shitty parenting methods in vogue guarantees that your kids will disappoint you, etc.

And of course it's totally not socially acceptable to say what's really bothering you - that you don't adore your kids and that you resent giving up the person you were for their sake. So there's the misery of living a lie, on top of everything else.

by Anonymousreply 1203/08/2019

It's more than just fitting in. Couples with children will drop their single friends without children very quickly and mostly only participate in other activities with other people with children.

by Anonymousreply 1303/08/2019

R1 haha so true. You would really think from the whining that it's 1789 and there is not much in the way of effective contraception (or abortion ). It seems every week, there's a fluff piece in some Huffington Post type rag titled something like "Breaking Down A Mommy Taboo ". It's usually accompanied by no actually taboo breaking, just a self pitying suburban Frau talking about how annoying her brats are or how she sometimes wishes for more sleep ,blah blah blah. Guess what honey , everyone else hates your kids too. Where are our think pieces?

by Anonymousreply 1403/08/2019

They have kids for status, and then expect anyone they can get their hands on, to help raise them. Women who don't want to work, also have kids to pretend to be something more than a couch potato.

by Anonymousreply 1503/08/2019

Gotta follow the LifeScript or be exiled. Cry me a river, loser mommies!

by Anonymousreply 1603/08/2019

They have to think about someone other than themselves now. It must throw them into a narcissistic rage.

by Anonymousreply 1703/08/2019

Kids are born to propagate the species. It’s biology. The problem, as I see it, you have all these college educated women having kids and then acting like it’s rocket science. It’s so complicated and intricate these women need to broadcast how wonderful/awful it is, and aren’t they saints for choosing this profession? When in reality, you civilize the little buggers and send them off. Teaching them please and thank you isn’t enough, little Braedon needs to know algebra by kindergarten. It’s not ever about the kid, it’s always about the mom.

by Anonymousreply 1803/08/2019

Poor and stupid. Just what America needs.

by Anonymousreply 1903/08/2019

I think having children in your 30s helps a bit so you don’t feel like a lol of your youth was stolen by your child. Also making the man be a partner instead of sole bread winner. Kids are sick? Great let’s see who’s turn it is to stay home or who can manage it today based on work obligations.

I love that my boss is an aware mother that claims to have gone into motherhood, 3 kids, with her eyes wide open. When her kids are sick, she and her husband will strategize together. Aparently they try not to view on career as more important than another.

The hottest guy in my floor, is this 31 year old father with another on the way. He is soft spoken, workouts 4 times a week, eats healthy, has a normal social life, and a ass to die for (former soccer player). Just all around a perfect specimen of a man, all the gays and fraus would do him if single. He really lights up when taking about his daughter. He makes me want to have a kid the way he talks about his children. I get the draw, but you’ve got to be honest.

by Anonymousreply 2003/08/2019

I don't know, OP. Why don't you ask your parents why they had you.

by Anonymousreply 2103/08/2019

Generalize much, gays? Lord, do you gays even know any straight women. I can only imagine the venon you gays would spew if I were to make some general statement about your lifestyle. You gays can dish it out but you can't take it.

by Anonymousreply 2203/08/2019

Haha that pic @ OP is hilarious

by Anonymousreply 2303/08/2019

R20 that hot soccer player is molesting his daughter

by Anonymousreply 2403/08/2019

The ones who complain the most are always the parents who have the most financial and social support.

by Anonymousreply 2503/08/2019

The gays are happily following along the straight breeder narrative, OP, and are just as likely to act like martyrs for springing more sproggen on the planet.

by Anonymousreply 2603/08/2019

[quote]Lord, do you gays even know any straight women.

Yes, they all come here for some reason.

by Anonymousreply 2703/08/2019

R25, the people with the most financial and social support usually have the least realistic expectations.

by Anonymousreply 2803/08/2019

So they have an excuse to complain, OP.

by Anonymousreply 2903/08/2019

To my knowledge my parents never complained about having me r21, unlike yours who left you on the steps of a church. Do fuck off.

by Anonymousreply 3003/08/2019

I kind of understand having two. You don't know what you're getting into, really, and you fear never having that storied special experience - I mean look at Elton John and Michael Ja... well never mind him, but you envy people who have someone who loves them unconditionally (and they think that'll continue when they're old). And having one would make you worry about having an only child who'd be lonely or spoiled or whatever.

But three? I mean you've had that unique experience, two times over. So WTF?? All I can figure is some people like having kids. What else could possibly explain it?

by Anonymousreply 3103/09/2019

Accidents R31. I am one of three and the last one was an accident.

by Anonymousreply 3203/09/2019

All these complaining fraus out themselves as idiotic followers with no capacity for independent thought.

It was your choice to become a mother. Why didn’t you think it through before making that decision?

by Anonymousreply 3303/09/2019

R15 you just described my sister.

by Anonymousreply 3403/09/2019

So they can make more gaylings... otherwise I’m against crotch fruit

by Anonymousreply 3503/09/2019

One of the main reasons that people breed is to gain attention. Complaining about their children is attention-seeking behavior.

by Anonymousreply 3603/09/2019

A big part of the problem is that we tell women they can have high powered careers and then all of a sudden the reality of having kids hits and they're totally unprepared for how much time and energy are actually needed.

Some of them are okay with outsourcing the whole thing, hiring nannies and all that, but most women seem to want to actually be there for the kids and are torn between this notion of "women should be in high power jobs" and a corporate environment that makes no time for kids.

The luckier ones are married to men who also have high powered careers and they stop working, and nothing is more dangerous than a mother with degrees from Yale and Harvard Law School attempting to channel those skills into being a full time mom.

by Anonymousreply 3703/09/2019

R31 I think with some people it's a compulsion and for women a way to avoid the workforce. In most middle class families, a third child significantly reduces the quality of life for the existing kids. Two is enough.

by Anonymousreply 3803/09/2019

It seems to me that the bigger issue is, why do gay men resent straight women so much? Is it because you are like us (share common interests, etc.) and you see in us what you hate in yourselves? Do you consciously or subconsciously want to be women, and hate us for having the lives and straight men you truly desire? A combination of both? There is pathology at play here, and I'd just like to know if you understand why you hate us so.

by Anonymousreply 3903/09/2019

In this day and age, having children is a choice. I have no sympathy for parents (female OR male) who whine about “how hard it is” to raise children. No one forced you to have them.

It’s particularly annoying to hear complaining from the parents of twins or triplets. Uh, when you forked over hundreds of thousands of dollars for fertility treatments (or got your insurance company to do it), did you read the fine print about the likelihood of multiples?

by Anonymousreply 4003/09/2019

Most straight women hate other straight women too, R39. It's not a mystery.

by Anonymousreply 4103/09/2019

Most of us don't hate you R39

Though reading DL you'd easily come to that conclusion.

I think there is a sizable population of DLers who do fit your analysis

by Anonymousreply 4203/09/2019

They think they are doing us a favor by breeding, that's why the rest of the humanity must know how hard is the life of this heroes.

by Anonymousreply 4303/09/2019

Having kids is egocentric - the end. There is absolutely no reason other than narcissism to choose to have a kid. That - and the stupidity of getting pregnant by accident which is scarily how most kids are conceived even in 2019. It’s a crime,

Long acting birth control and cheap, easily available abortion should be encouraged. But even though it’s a feminist cause, it’s being blocked by the crazy number of women who are “pro-life” because they had their baby and think it’s the most important thing they’ve done.

by Anonymousreply 4403/09/2019

[quote]Couples with children will drop their single friends without children very quickly and mostly only participate in other activities with other people with children.

Thank god. Just keep them away from me.

by Anonymousreply 4503/09/2019

Christ what a bunch of shallow people are on this thread. And fucking stupid too.

by Anonymousreply 4603/09/2019

[quote]There is pathology at play here, and I'd just like to know if you understand why you hate us so.

DL is spilling over with pathologies. Your own may be: hanging out on a site with people you find hateful. I'd just like to understand why you do that...

by Anonymousreply 4703/09/2019

Fuck off Frau cunt r39.

by Anonymousreply 4803/10/2019

[QUOTE] They have kids for status, and then expect anyone they can get their hands on, to help raise them.

This. A million times this. My best friend of more than 20 years is a a straight female and there is almost nothing I wouldn't do for her. Anything she needs from help with moving to cleaning to shopping to borrowing money to bailing her out of jail to giving her a fucking kidney. I love her dearly and would sacrifice anything for her.

Except spend five minutes with her fucking kid.

You made that choice, hunty. Not me. I'm not kid friendly and I'm not a fucking babysitter. And I don't owe you that just because you made that life choice.

Fuck that noise.

by Anonymousreply 4903/10/2019

r19, did you not see how 2016 came out?

by Anonymousreply 5003/10/2019

No one Hates women more then another woman. So the nasty Gash that post remarks about ' Gays not even knowing other women ' can take that nonsense over to some Mommy blog....We have your number...Dear.

by Anonymousreply 5103/10/2019

Right r51. She’s probavlt the same Frau-type who posts inspirational quotes on Facebook all day but sits in inbox desperatley ripping other women on her timeline apart to her fellow fraus. GTFO with that.

by Anonymousreply 5203/10/2019

My brother in law wanted kids with every fiber of his being. He now has three children he adores. One day he said "Why didn't my parents tell me that I was so lacking in imagination? I had no idea how hard this would be".

by Anonymousreply 5303/10/2019

These women seem to expect praise for doing the job they're supposed to do, raising & caring for the children they chose to have. They're not warriors or heroes but they like to think they are. I'm a single, straight woman with a son and I've never once felt the need to go on Facebook and whine about how hard it is. They also like to post ridiculous sayings like "If he can't cope with you at your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your best". Usually after said boyfriend or husband has dumped them!

by Anonymousreply 5403/10/2019

Frau cunt @ r39, those reasons you suggest seem about right, plus another - annoying differences in the social behavior of men and women are overlooked in the fog of attraction and the chase for sex. The Gays lack this mediating impulse.

by Anonymousreply 5503/10/2019

My own mother likes to remind my brother and I how much trouble we were to raise. "It was just so STRESSFUL!!!" How can you not know that it's going to be that way? Kids aren't hamsters.

And now she's resentful because neither of her offspring had children. We both have excellent observational skills (no imagination needed), took a look at child-rearing and said hell no!

by Anonymousreply 5603/10/2019

Like all parents they're unconsciously imitating their own parents.

by Anonymousreply 5703/10/2019

[quote] And now she's resentful because neither of her offspring had children.

That's unfortunate. She should be congratulating you for your good sense and taking pride in having raised intelligent children.

by Anonymousreply 5803/10/2019

She kind of sounds like a narcassist r56, with respect.

by Anonymousreply 5903/10/2019

Having children is the ultimate SELFLESS act and reflects that one has grown up. It's about putting you and your needs aside for someone else. Gay men cannot identify with that.

by Anonymousreply 6003/10/2019

Sometimes it's necessary to have children to solidify one's position as a Royal duchess and to force one's husband's family into accepting you as one of them.

by Anonymousreply 6103/10/2019

They love playing the martyr.

by Anonymousreply 6203/10/2019

R61, get the fuck off of this thread...fucking loser, hijacking the thread , dribbling you MM hate saliva on everything. Stupid Stan asshole.

by Anonymousreply 6303/10/2019

Settle down Beavis

by Anonymousreply 6403/10/2019

[quote]And now she's resentful because neither of her offspring had children. We both have excellent observational skills (no imagination needed), took a look at child-rearing and said hell no!

Hell to the no, is right !! She just wants a grandchild, why? Because ALL HER FRIENDS have them. Fuck that.

She wants to join in grandma bragging, spoil the grandkid, and at the end of the day, turn it back over to its parents to take care of.

by Anonymousreply 6503/10/2019

The worst are the ones who drag their whole family into poverty with that extra twat dropping they just had to have. The oldest winds up being a caretaker and having no resources, youth or future because bitch mom ,who had no life skills, couldn't use contraception . Later on everyone wonders why the older one, after years of being a caretaker for mentally ill bitch moms kids, feels resentful and unhappy. While the younger ones wind up fine. They get their freedom! The older one has to give up their hopes , dreams and sense of freedom In the prime years of their lives but isn't allowed any anger.They wind up a living fucking corpse. At least parents made a choice, the sibling whose life was wrecked made no choice and was forced into a role they despise and now they have fucking nothing. Too many women think they are devoid of any responsibility over considering how many kids to bring into this earth and with what resources.

by Anonymousreply 6603/10/2019

A selfless act is one where you get absolutely nothing out of it. That is not why people have kids. People choose to have kids and put themselves through the challenges and suffering and changing diapers and sacrifice of time because they want to be loved and remembered and feel their life has a purpose. Having and raising children is not a selfless act. It’s a sacrifice in order to receive - or hope to achieve - something in return. You want to make a sacrifice - go ahead. But don’t pretend like it’s a selfless act - that is the whole point of this thread.

by Anonymousreply 6703/10/2019

Every single breeder with kids I've ever known--to the man--has said to me (when I explain why I don't want children) "but who is going to take care of you when you're old or sick?"

It's their standard fucking response.

You had kids because you want someone around when you get old who is obligated to bathe you and wipe your ass for free.

Spare me the "selfless" bullshit.

by Anonymousreply 6803/10/2019

Then they get a kid they don't want, too gay, too smart too whatever, and push that kid away.

by Anonymousreply 6903/10/2019

This guy probably asked himself that same question OP.

by Anonymousreply 7003/10/2019

Preach r68. I am always gobsmacked when people say that. It is the most selfish fucking thing ever, expecting your offspring must of course rearrange their entire lives to wipe your ass when you get old.

by Anonymousreply 7103/10/2019

I've actually found that narcissists tend to have more children. Look at Kris Jenner, she has six!

by Anonymousreply 7203/10/2019

Prime example

by Anonymousreply 7303/10/2019

Having is just part of the heteronormative cycle of life. That's why so many coupled gay, striving for acceptance that heternormativity brings, decide to have children.

by Anonymousreply 7403/10/2019

Thank you, r58. She has narcissistic traits, r59. Borderline traits as well. So it was often quite STRESSFUL having her as a parent.

You're right I'm sure r65 about the grandkids thing. That's why I appreciate r67 and r68 essentially debunking the parenthood as 'selfless act of sacrifice.'

by Anonymousreply 7503/10/2019

r60 is homophobic moron. Go back to you cunt.

by Anonymousreply 7603/11/2019

Oh for God's sake, people don't just have children out of narcissism and to explain their failed careers! Okay, that's part of the reason, but people also have children because they want to love and be loved unconditionally.

Of course they don't realize that the "unconditional love" becomes very conditional indeed as the kid develops a mind of its own and stops trusting the parents completely, so the fact is, that parenthood actually involves experiencing unconditional love and having it withdrawn. If a person really wants unconditional love and trust that lasts a lifetime, they need a dog.

by Anonymousreply 7703/11/2019

Well said R77 . I agree with the “be loved unconditionally” and that their love was always subconsciously “conditional”. Most parents who wrap up their identity and self-worth in their children end up disappointed in their children. Serves them right.

by Anonymousreply 7803/11/2019

Aren’t they always telling us to stop shoving our sexuality in their faces?

by Anonymousreply 7903/11/2019

[quote] Having children is the ultimate SELFLESS act and reflects that one has grown up. It's about putting you and your needs aside for someone else. Gay men cannot identify with that.

Revision in the text:

Having children is the ultimate SELFISH act and reflects that one has given up on having a meaningful life. It's about putting you and your needs for validation and attention above all else.

by Anonymousreply 8003/13/2019

Because the goddamn idiots insist on following the crowd, even though they really have no great love for children. Why can't they admit that they don't have room in their lives for children? People refuse to be honest with themselves or others.

by Anonymousreply 8103/13/2019

Jesus, what a miserable thread. Want kids? Have them. Don't? Then don't.

It's supremely gross to see a not-long-ago persecuted group judging human rights so harshly.

by Anonymousreply 8203/13/2019

[quote] It's supremely gross to see a not-long-ago persecuted group judging human rights so harshly.

OMG! Mommies are so oppressed! This thread is LITERAL MURDER!

by Anonymousreply 8303/13/2019

This is fascinating. I wanted my kid, had her when I was 45. Best thing I have ever done. Realized I was so done with I. I. I. I. done with it. Made sense to have a child, and make it all about them. them. them. BUT I am an old fucker. NO WAY I have a kid when I am 20 or even 30. Then it was Me.Me.Me.Me. If you have kids too early, you are really fucked. You cannot blame THEM, but you do resent them? DON"T HAVE KIDS UNTIL YOU HAVE EXHAUSTED YOUR YOU.

by Anonymousreply 8403/13/2019

Oh, stop it, R83. Go back to Reddit.

by Anonymousreply 8503/13/2019

Gawd, so much bullshit and projection on this thread.

No, most people don't have kids just for attention! No, they have kids because they have ridiculously unrealistic expectations!

They're old enough to realize that other adults don't love unconditionally, they either love extremely conditionally or not at all, and they always always always put themselves first. They think a child might give them the love and forgiveness they never had from their parents, friends, or lovers, and forgive them everything and accept them just the way they are. And I suppose kids do, for a little while. Of course they grow up to be just as self-centered as anyone else.

by Anonymousreply 8603/13/2019

My understanding is that the women have some sort of biological clock, or at least societal expectations thing, so that they browbeat their men into having kids. Unfortunately, in most cases the men don't always have the same drive.

by Anonymousreply 8703/13/2019

I've yet to encounter straights who have that attitude toward their children who *didn't* choose to have a child per year until they were done. Notice how even that cartoon features two kids who are, at most, two years apart in age.

If you have one child and wait several years before you have the next one, you'll be much better off in the long run. My mother had only me, and she never lost her identity or her job, and she had plenty of time to shower and put on nice clothes.

Also, double-wide strollers are an abomination. Just the need for them shows how stupid straights are about children. The only time a double-wide should ever be necessary is if a couple is cursed with twins.

by Anonymousreply 8803/13/2019

Somebody must have linked this thread to mumsnet r83.

by Anonymousreply 8903/14/2019

When most friends straight or gay have children I know our friendship is done at least for 16 years.

by Anonymousreply 9003/14/2019

Why would you want to be friends with someone who ignores you for 16 years?

by Anonymousreply 9103/14/2019

R88 I have witnessed the exact same thing. The incessant whining about the financial and personal stress of having children, all while continuously spawning more. Inevitably the older kids are fucked over and essentially made into babysitters.

by Anonymousreply 9203/14/2019

R84 is a thoughtless idiot who waited till she was 45, then put her child in being such an old woman when she gave birth.

by Anonymousreply 9303/14/2019

It's worth it to dress them up as Hansel and Gretel or Bonnie and Clyde...

by Anonymousreply 9403/15/2019

I never thought about this until I worked with a woman whose only two topics of conversation were her kids and her fibromyalgia. Fuck was she annoying and she had the nerve to complain about work despite doing less hours than everyone else, I hated sitting next to her!

by Anonymousreply 9503/15/2019

People don’t have kids for a “reason,” it’s a biological drive that eclipses all reason

by Anonymousreply 9603/21/2019

[quote] No one talks about how you cry in the shower because your day was overwhelming.

Well, that's a little extreme.

by Anonymousreply 9703/21/2019

Can we at least tip our hat to people who, usually very unintentionally, produce a world of wonderful, exciting, interesting and beautiful GAY people!

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