When your dad wasn't exactly a role model

i never had a male role model. my dad was incredibly 'lazy'...he was a talented artist, he had a TON of interests, he was very smart... i think his father abused him and my uncle when they were little....we used to call the grandfather "The Hand' when we were kids....

i am 68. i am trying to think of any male that showed me what was what.

My dad never spent 10 minutes with me in his life. I didn't have any role models either. i wish i had. i missed out.

My dad was OK, a nice man that I don't think really wanted to be a parent. He was the son and grandson of some drunken assholes so I give him credit for not being them, for sure.

But I had a bit of a crush on my next door neighbor. He looked like Don Draper and was all the things I wanted to be.....and wasn't. And I've gravitated toward those kinds of guys - confident, athletic, sure of themselves - all my life as a result.

No, no male role models here....Female role models were everywhere, for which I am immensely grateful.

When they make DataLounge: The Movie, I hope the characters include Uncle Bottom

^^^Hopefully played by Leslie Jordan.

I might finger my asshole now.

My role model was my older brother which was an unfortunate choice, he was a younger version of our father.

He manipulated me into making some decisions that seriously messed up my life in y late teens to mid twenties.

I wasn't able to walk away from his influence until my early 30s, much to his anger.

My male role model was Kevin Costner. Growing up, he seemed like everything a man should be.

My greatest influence came from my mother. My parents we're married when me and my siblings grew up. But my dad would come home angry eat dinner take a shower get dressed up, and be in the streets for the rest of to day/night.

My mother did all of the heavy lifting with me and my siblings. She was always my favorite parent. And I made sure she knew it. There was never anything I wouldn't do for my mom. She was always there for me. I miss her a lot. My dad is still here, he's only in his 50s and me and my siblings are in out 20s and early 30s now. None of us really have a relationship with him anymore. He tells family friends and other people we know that we've thrown him away. But the truth is. He threw us away long before. He always seemed to have more interest in other people than his own family.

I still love him. But I think it's better this way. He's the reason why he doesn't have a relationship with his still young children. You have to invest in your kids early on.

Once again, or mother did all of the heavy lifting with me and my siblings.

I have daddy issues, too. My surrogates were my high school and college basketball coaches, and later, someone I worked for for nearly 30 years. The last one was as manipulative as my father. I just didn't know any better.

The Quaker Oats man.

My grandfather and classic male movie stars like Gable, John Wayne, Bogie.

I learned everything from my father. How not to be a terrible father, how not to be a terrible partner, how not to be an asshole, how not to be a good friend. I was glad when my mother divorced his ass 35 years ago and I've barely seen him since. And no I'm not going to regret it after he dies.

WHO ANSWERS THIS SHIT???

Whoever it is, YOU are the reason Datalounge sucks!

I had one nice uncle who lived close by. Funny, patient, never lost his temper. He died just before Christmas. R.I.P.

While my father was something of an asshole the proudest moment ever was when my mom died. The Catholic Priest, Father David was his name. Anyhow the priest told my father he didn't think my father gave enough to the church and the priest was thinking of denying the right of Christian burial. My father picked Father David up by the neck and I watched the priests eyes bugging out behind those coke bottle glasses. That was the one and only time I was proud of my father.

My dad was my role model and instrumental in my love of sports, the outdoors and building things. Taught me about fair play and sportsmanship, respect for the environment and how to fix stuff and always give back to the community. All the good stuff. Fortunately I was able to avoid becoming an alcoholic like him and I credit him for that, too. I miss him every day of my life. I'm sixty and I still play hockey, hike and build things.

My father taught me nothing except never to trust heterosexuals.

Pop was a wingnutty, far-right malignant narcissist who ruined several lives. My role models came from outside the family, including my godmother, teachers, and public figures like Carl Sagan and the astronauts.

My dad was okay. Just okay. Didn’t and don’t really have a male role model.

As a child our two role models were our mother and Judy Garland.

r17, go back to Party City where you belong!

Why do we need male role model when gender is a social construct?

R15 settle down will ya? maybe get laid. have a cocktail. smoke a joint. you will give yourself a stroke with that rage.

I didnt have a male role model nor did I ever really hero worship anybody. My dad wasnt really interested in kids or being a dad, nor really in being married. He was very very interested in golf. I had no siblings to lean on.

My uncles and grandfathers were in some ways stereotypical family men or father figures but were really all very flawed in some way...............I think that is why I fell for a high school best friend that was the all american boy. It didnt work out really but it was very intense for a few years.