How active is your gaydar?

Mine is rotten unless it’s a queeny gay.

That's it when we say people ping. Our gaydar is working. There are hundreds of mannerisms that tip us off. Maybe the way they cross their lower legs when standing. Hand motions. Running with their arms straight. Definitely how they walk. How they talk. Put all of them together in one person and they'd be a show. When I was young in the 50s and 60s, we couldn't even bring up the subject of being gay without being beat up, so we had to study every little idiosyncrasy before getting just a little friendly.

I disagree - I used to have pretty good gaydar, but now it's crappy. I think it's a function of subconsciously noticing that another man is checking you out. (Which a straight man will never do). Now that I'm over 50 (in other words, geriatric in the gay universe), most gay men are no longer checking me out. I can pass two young gay men on the street and as I pass, I can almost hear one say to the other, "did you just feel a wisp of a breeze?", I'm THAT invisible to them.......LOL (You have to laugh at those situations, otherwise it's home to the rusty razor blade).

Mine was fine until I moved to Los Angeles.

Man with Asian wife always gay.

[quote] we can tell by their looks and mannerisms and over all feel.

Wrong, you can't tell, you can have an opinion. Since you have no way to prove that your opinion was correct, your opinion has just about zero validity.

I know I will be killed here by angry people like r6 (who cares?) but these stereotypes are usually right:

Leaning into one hip

The gay “workout hump” ( overdeveloped back muscles preceded by subconscious poor posture due to early years of not standing tall and proud)

Lisp

Eye rolls

Pursed mouths when expressing discontent

Vocabulary full of superlatives: the “ous” words - gorgeous, fabulous, humongous, etc.

Inflection over-emphasizing certain syllables for effect - I LOVE Madonna, c’mON, no WAY, this is my SONG.

The gay gasp (Kathy G. is right)

Orderly behavior and need to please/be right.

Bitchy, snide sarcasm is still an old standard.

However, things like good taste, fashion flair, grooming, piercing, make-up, use of creams and products, etc. are no longer sure signs.

R7 Haha, on point.. what about a bi radar?

[quote]stereotypes are usually right

Exactly. Acknowledging stereotypes these days seems to be verboten, but all a stereotype is is a very common, universal type. There's nothing wrong with that...

Mine is set on “bi with daddy issues “.

Nice.

Mine’s good. Really good.

You are confusing gaydar, which belongs only to the gays, with assessing whether or not someone is gay based on their appearance and mannerisms, which anyone can do. Actual gaydar, like it’s namesake, involves sending out signals and paying attention to what comes back. It’s interactive, based mainly on eye contact.

Gaydar is merely a synonym for microscopic hairs all gay men have up their nares which are finely attuned to detect the telling fumes which emanate from the anal passages of all homosexuals.

F13 makes a good point. But even gays use the term "gaydar" to mean "xray" like detection of gayness.

How about a related subject of being able to tell when you see two guys who seem gay whether they are an actual couple, or just friends?

[QUOTE] When I was young in the 50s and 60s,

My god. Is anyone on this site under 70?

The 50s is exactly where an anachronistic concept like "gaydar" belongs. Do you also refer to gay men as "friends of Dorothy?"

Usually if some guy seems gay I'm not attracted to them. When I am attracted to some guy I usually assume they are straight. Oh well.

Two young men having dinner together in a real restaurant are probably gay.

Horrible. I'm awful at it. I'm completely oblivious to all of these signs.

[QUOTE] Two young men having dinner together in a real restaurant are probably gay.

Funny you should say that as I had a straight acquaintance who said he refused to have dinner alone with another male in a restaurant, just because he thought that they would be assumed to be a gay couple.

[quote]Since you have no way to prove that your opinion was correct...

Oh, I dunno, maybe when my cock is in his mouth is a sign?

Sometimes i see a male female couple in public and just want to go up and hug the lady and ask her if she knows her husbands secret.

R17 respect your elders, you ingrate! If you don't like the membership here, there must be a venue for low IQ shop bottoms just like yourself, somewhere on the intertubes.

How many here think Colton the bachelor is mostly straight?

Yeah, I don't understand the repeated put-downs of the audience here being "too old". Not every site needs to be like fucking Reddit or Tumblr.

R13 Fuck off asshole. Anyone can have gaydar. It is the ability to suss out if someone is gay not by obvious signs.

I love the eldergays!! More of them, please 🙏🙏🙏!

To answer to that dumbass at R17: no worries sunshine, in the latest years DL has witness an influx of mid/late 20s users. So, unfortunately, DL will eventually become like reddit et al.

[quote]running with their arms straight

etc. etc.

So basically what you're saying is any guy who looks like a fucking idiot is gay.

Gay = he stares at the crotches of other men.

When did the word "gaydar" come into use?

You guys are mostly describing flamboyant gays. Most of the signs listed are for very feminine men. Gaydar isn't special if you are noticing obvious behaviors.

R32 truth. A straight lady could not pick out 10 gays in a line up. We know the signs.

i tend to think that mine is pretty good, but an alarming number of gay guys think i’m straight. how am i supposed to get banged out like a rented mule!

Maybe they just want you to be straight?

Why would you say that, R19? Are you saying that only gay men eat in real restaurants? They could be related or old friends or coworkers or any number of things.

Bless your heart, R23, not every man you see with a woman is gay.

[quote]Are you saying that only gay men eat in real restaurants? They could be related or old friends or coworkers or any number of things.

No, straight men only go to wings places etc. and there's always more than two specifically so that "it doesn't look gay".

So yeah, bless your heart, R36, not every pair of men you see together are just "good friends".

If your gaydar doesn’t work, just look for signs that he’s straight and figure it out by process of elimination. Gay men come in all behaviour types, but straight men broadcast their heterosexuality like nobody’s business. But be warned if you use this technique - overt verbalizations of homophobia aren’t straight man behavior. That’s a pole smoker on the downlow trying to brick up his closet from the inside.

Give it up, r32. Gaydars are for detecting ALL types of gay behavior, from overt to subtle. Stop trying to redefine the concept to fit your masculinity fantasies

Haven’t you heard the expression “my gaydar went up in flames?”

Much the same way that radars locate all flying objects near and far, visible and hidden.

R21, he’s probably gay. I’ve had dinner with a number of straight buddies one on one in a restaurant. Only a closet mo would feel like that.

Can't tell with Millennial men aged 25-30 as the straight ones tend to feel comfortable showing a feminine side/no need to be a macho dickhead/bro type (which is good btw!), but with older men that was mostly only seen in gay men.