Are Weddings Worth The Hassle?

Yes. We had ours in our home. Ordered some sandwiches, and I made stew. We had a lemongrass water and sangria. Nice wedding cake. It was a nice wedding and we celebrated our first anniversary together recently. I think we spend no more than $750 total for the wedding.

I hate weddings. Always have. The structure, the expense, the narcissism. No excuse but to be the center of attention. I will never get married. The whole thing drives me crazy. Yet Im forced to go to family members and friends because it’s rude to say no (to close family and friends). I really wish they would stop.

I don’t get spending so much money on the reception when you could spend it on a downpayment for a home and the honeymoon.

I would do backyard wedding with a nice catered dinner or justice of the peace then hit the backyard. A small destination wedding would also be nice. Anything more is rediculouse. Also, I don’t have many friends right now so my guest list would have to be small.

Weddings are about your family friends and community, not about you.

Husband and I are both practical atheists. Got hitched at my parents house. Had total of 8 family members there and cost less than $100. Still married 35 years later.

R5 sweet story. Congratulations.

The poll doesn’t seem to differentiate between weddings and marriage

Been married 17 years, our wedding was around $700. We did a very casual wedding and dinner for our closest friends and family.

R4 weddings are NOT about other people, they are about you. So YOU can be celebrated by others. You can argue why that is a worthwhile thing but don’t say it’s about them and not you. That’s utter denial

We eloped and were able to enjoy the wedding much more than we would have if it was a big splashy thing. And yes, it was much cheaper. The Justice of the Peace was the only thing cost a bit more than we expected. We got a dozen roses for $7.99, a cake for $30, and a nice dinner at the best restaurant in town. No hassles, no family dramas.

Make it about just the two of you. Fuck everybody else.

I'm reminded of my dear old neighbors and their bratty granddaughter's inistence on a destination wedding. It would have involved them hiking in mid-winter in Washngton state-medical equipment was rented, the girl's uncles would have been responsible for getting my neighbors to and from this shindig, not the kid's equallly difficult and spoiled mother and her pedigreed hubby. The unmitigated assholery of it all!

My neighb's got fed up and finally begged out-but not before cutting a fat check for the affair.

I'm a big fan of you backyard wedding folks..the only weddings I've ever enjoyed. I have video somewhere of my-then 67 year-old mother and my cousin, mother of the bride, dancing to AC/DC's "You Shook Me All Night Long". Now THAT'S a memory.

Here is the deal. Before you begin planning ask yourself, are you doing this for you or are you doing this for everyone but you. Love is the same whether you at the the justice of the peace or in front of a room of 500 of your closets friends and family. Follow your gut, it will tell you.