Anyone else here find it hard to accept people saying this cliche when someone has suffered a major, even devastating loss? No matter how horrible the loss, the person is supposed to be "grateful" that they "survived", as if they are some kind of bacteria that only lives to perpetuate itself biologically. I have always hated anyone who told me this when the loss was really significant. To say it to someone who is older and has less reason to "survive" as if there is going to be some wonderful future around the corner just seems cruel. People want to live and get something out of life, not just "survive". Enough already with the "survival" cliche.
"You'll Survive"
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | August 19, 2018 11:42 PM |
What should a person say?
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | August 19, 2018 8:53 PM |
Okay, OP, drop dead.
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | August 19, 2018 10:06 PM |
You know it’s rally hard to say anything appropriate to someone who went through something painful. Your anger is misplaced - it’s sadness turned into aggression. In fact - a lot of us are just happy to survive. To keep living is an accomplishment in itself.
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | August 19, 2018 10:53 PM |
What r3 said.
People don't always know what to say in these situations.
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | August 19, 2018 10:56 PM |
Sometimes "you'll survive" is said in response to someone who is wallowing in self-pity or who brings a lot of problems on him or herself.
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | August 19, 2018 11:29 PM |
Is it better than “god has a plan for you?”
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | August 19, 2018 11:31 PM |
thoughts & prayers
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | August 19, 2018 11:31 PM |
OP. grief has it's limits but misery is infinite.
You have the constitutional right to pursue happiness, but there is no guarantee of happiness. Happiness requires hard work and it's up to you to do that work.
Of course, if you just want to die already, then just die already.
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | August 19, 2018 11:42 PM |