Guys over 50--the new sex objects?

Their after your bank account not you. Buy hey, it you don't mind go for it.

You have money? Maybe they're looking for a sugar daddy.

Where's the "Sure, Jan" gif when we need it?

Please describe your anus in vivid detail

No, they are not looking for money. They just want to hook up. What's more, they're not all bottoms. I get hit up by tops ALL the time.

Did you put your income in the ad? They'll flock like flies to garbage.

I think it means White millennial gays are perceived to be racist and the Latino guys are going in with low expectations. Even though a sizable proportion of the Gen Y and Gen Z whites might not be racist at all, there's a perception that none of the young ones would be into other Latino guys.

Some people like daddies. Period. Nothing "new" about it, sport. The only thing new is this age for YOU.

well, I love latino and middle eastern guys so i'm in seventh heaven.

Well that's good OP. There is nothing more really to say on this simple topic, so bye.

It's the Daddy craze thing. You'll have it confirmed when they start calling you "Daddy" incessantly while doing the do.

^Or "Papi" in your particular case

2/10, only for tapping into the daddy zeitgeist.

At least they figure you're good for picking up the check. And they'll let you blow them and/or fuck them. Small price to pay.

But you know, as I said, a surprising number of them are actually tops. I got fucked by an absolutely gorgeous 25 yr old middle eastern guy in his parents' house (he's home from school for the summer, he's becoming a lawyer) last week. We fucked on his bed while they were at work.

They want to be taken care of and be your houseboy. They see rich white guy and no need to work.

Anyone who doesn't understand what's going on when a 20-something pur$ue$ a 50 or 60-something is too $tupid for word$.

You guys can continue your fantasy about them being hustlers (they are not). But these hot guys just want sex. Not complaining--at all--it just took me by surprise. I'm getting hotter guys now than I ever have in my whole life. (Yes, I'm in good shape)

Hey OP I've experienced similar responses. I'm honest about my age (51) and I get many hits from younger guys.

May I ask, where you live? I love middle eastern men but none in my area

“Their after your bank account not you.”

Oh, dear!

A lot of those younger guys are looking for father figures...and they don't mind putting out in the process. I think the issue of cash will come up...it always does with young guys.

R21 knows what I'm $aying!

I suspect OP is full of shit but R8 is right. There's been a market for DILFs before there was a term for them.

When I aged beyond 35, suddenly about 80 percent of people on those apps began to freeze me out. Now that I am 40, it’s more like 99 percent. It upset me wildly for a while but I usually don’t care at all. Everyone is having bareback wild sex with as many people as they can in this city these days, and I’m perfectly fine not having whatever they have.

I guess I was unaware that men over 50 were considered so hot by 18-26 year olds. It just surprised me.

r19, I am in Los Angeles.

r24, just wait till you hit 50, you'll be the belle of the ball!

Yes it’s a new thing- just started last year. Crazy new homo phenom.

R21 I have the same experience as op and r19 - I’m in my early 60’s but get away with 50. What I’ve found is:

- I’ve gotten together with one 19-28 year old every week or so for the past couple of months (since leaving a LTA)

- only one (South American) asked for money ‘to top up his mobile’. To be fair, he was an illegal working undocumented, so broke.

- others have been mostly middle class, meet in their parents home while parents on holiday.

- I hit on about a third so most hit on me to start with

- most want NSA, so no interest in a sugar daddy

- I reject as many again who hit on me - there are a lot out there

- others

Same here, OP. I'm 52, and Blatino. On the apps, many young Latinos and Blacks hit me up. It seems to me that many Blacks and Latinos have less issues about meeting up with a much older man (I was the same way when I was in my late teens and early 20s). It helps tremendously to look good for your age, though, which I do. If it's about money, they usually make that known through their texts. And yes, many of them enjoy topping.

P.S. Young White guys also hit me up on the apps, but not nearly as much. Those in the thirty-something age range and up are more likely to do so.

OP is Dan Savage. Or his husband. Psstt... they are after your money

Glad to hear of other experiences!

Same for me. Once my beard started turning gray the twinks came out of the woodwork.

I am 74 but I look 50 to young people and 22 to people my own age. Really, I look 17 in the mirror. Now of course not all 17 year olds are hot. Many are awkward teens. But I am a very hot 17/74 year old and so I guess that most of the three guys a day (whomever they are, I call them Breakfast, Lunch and Dinner) probably only want to sex me because I am agelessly hot.

But do you have a 28" inch waist?

I'm 49 and experience the same thing. Occasionally it devolves into asking if I'm "generous" but the hookups with cute boys in their 20s is surprising. But, I got tired of it cuz most wanted to call me daddy and wanted nothing but a hard cock up their ass. Most weren't into anything else - kissing, oral - just stick it in so they can be fucked. I don't want to play daddy and just act like a dildo. But some of these guys were really cute/hot.

R34 Of course not. Are you calling me FAT?

R33 Why do so many guys like you live near me?

Young thirsty boys are only in search of money, honey. And in LA, showy money. They'll take what they can hustle, but old OP if you don't have connections or power, you're of no use to them.

Older guys who look like this attract many twinks, because these daddies look cool, sexy, and a lot of fun. They also tend to be drug-free, clear of drama, and non-flakey, unlike those of their twinky age group. This makes the sex more likely and enjoyable.

Have you not read the thread, r38? You're babbling nonsense.

LOL sex objects

You seem a bit defensive, R40/OP.

Nevertheless, keep on enjoying yourself in your DL scenario.

I think your comments are pretty valid. I have younger college age guys approach me also. I’ve also enjoyed some very erotic sex with guys 18-32 but NEVER under 18, and mainly guys 19-24 range.

OP, as soon as my hair started turning gray (mid 50's), I started to get hit on by guys in their late 20's and up. In the last 10 years I've dated many and see two (both "suit & tie" professionals in their mid 30's) on a regular basis. Both admit they're only attracted to much older guys. Some of these young guys are only looking for a hookup but some are looking for something more permanent. I've been in two LTR's and not looking for another. But I'm enjoying this while it lasts.

Here are Op’s xtube videos

About 2% look like R39 over the age of 40. Of course a hottie like that gets plenty of offers,but you all must be smoking some killer shit if you think anyone believes your old asses are getting 18-29 year olds hitting you up constantly. if you aint paying,they aint hitting on you. LIARS.

R44 just curious why you don't want another LTR? I was just complaining to a friend about how I used to have my pick of older guys a few years ago. But now? The whole "Daddy" craze started and now they are just as popular than the guys my age. Pisses me off. Anyhow, my point it some younger guys just like older men. They have their shit together, they're directly and you don't deal with nearly as much bullshit.

These guys who like older men can be very specific about which older guys they like.

R48 white and easy lays basically....

R46 misses the boat ENTIRELY. There are young men who specifically want older men for their older men bods, dude. They have "daddy issues."

R46 (is probably r38) - read on:

One of the things I look out for while I’m in the parents house shagging their 20 / early 30’s something* kid is to spot the dads in the family photo on the bookcase. Inevitably they are probably 10 years younger than me but look 10 years older than me. Have the wrong attitude to life (ie not gay, fun and carefree, have given up on their looks and body) and have no positive outlook on the opportunities in life... a bit like you r46 / r38

R46 (is probably r38) - read on:

One of the things I look out for while I’m in the parents house shagging their 20 / early 30’s something* kid is to spot the dads in the family photo on the bookcase. Inevitably they are probably 10 years younger than me but look 10 years older than me. Have the wrong attitude to life (ie not gay, fun and carefree, have given up on their looks and body) and have no positive outlook on the opportunities in life... a bit like you r46 / r38

There is truth that some guys over 50 are getting a lot of sex with guys in their 20s.....there all sorts of reasons for the attraction. I was never attracted to older guys at their age, but see the appeal for them.

r46, please get help.

OP, what do you look like. Please be honest.

If I have a bunch of young guys after my ass, doesn't that speak for itself? I'm in good shape and look good.

O I see, None of this shit happened. his response at r56 confirms it. Thanks, carry on.

R57 The gloating on here confirmed it!

R57 is another fat, bitter, grey-faced queeny old git who young guys don’t even notice as they pass on the sidewalk.

Always trying to pull others down to their “it never happened” level. Here’s a tip - get a life of your own instead of trying to unsuccessfully piss on others.

I've always gone for 50 year olds. I'm 30 now but realized and acted on my daddy lust since I was about 22.

I find guys that age kinder, smarter, and so experienced in bed. The things I've learned from them sexually runs the gamut.

The guys my age are so boring in comparison (although I do have 1 or 2 FBs my age, everyone else is 45-55).

Nice to hear r60

Of course the pathetic naysayers above will deny your feelings , your experiences and very existence.

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. Unless you insist on denying other people can be more successful with relationships than you!

One of my best friends had the same thing happen to him early 50s. He was suddenly hot again. He couldn’t explain it.

Was conflicted because he kept being “distracted” even as he pursued the age appropriate man who’s now his husband

What is ‘age appropriate ‘?

R64 when people don’t mistake your partner for your son...

I’m in my 60s and my partner, also an adult, in his 40s. How is that ‘age inappropriate ‘ r65

For R66...cause NOBODY wants to fuck a 60 year old. And Im 57,so dont bother with accusations of ageism.

I DO NOT want to become a sex object so as soon as I turn 50 I'm gonna start wearing a burka.

[QUOTE]What is ‘age appropriate ‘?

After 30 we are all the same. 35, 55, 75...it's al the same shit.

Correction, r67 - no one wants to fuck YOU.

R69 You either, Bitch. They just want to fuck your wallet .

A lot of these younger guys-- especially if they are Latino or MidEastern-- could be on the down-low, extremely closeted from their family and community. They're going for an older white guy because they are in a different group and crowd, away from being recognized in their own community. Older men don't want attachments, only sex, not as complicated.

R71 & most younger white guys aren’t wanting middleeastern/black guys...

I'm 54 and honest about it on Grindr. Most of my hook ups are 20-25 and about half are white guys like me. The other half are Latino, South Asian, or Asian-American. A few specify in their profiles that they're looking for older. Most do not. I have found that the Latinos want to kiss and cuddle and talk. These guys are one-offs. I like the ones that come in, drop their shorts, and let me service them. In the past six months, I'd say around one new guy a week, with some repeaters in there. My favorite guy just turned 19 and is a black-white mix.

R73 that sounds pretty much like my experience with Grindr. I am 55 though. LOL. Two nights ago, I had a very sexy Latino in his 20s asking for a massage because he said he was new to everything. He got naked and once he was relaxed and asked me to do the same and so it was.... We both had a nice time.... Not a penny was requested and he wants to return already.

OP Same here. All I get are 25-35.

I'm not using apps, but just turned fifty, and for the last several years my experiences have all been with younger men in their mid twenties to mid thirties. Most pursued and hit on me. Other than a few beers on two occasions I spent no money on them whatsoever. Thankfully none of them called me Daddy. Some initially took me for younger, while others confessed they dug older blokes. Only one turned into a regular friend with benefits though, might I add.

Lovely to read about all this great sex us guys in their 50s and 60s are getting from twinks. Except of course the ignoramous types like r67

I am 24 and I have to call BS on this.

Unless you are being scammed, which is a possibility.

Don't believe they are real, dude.

R78 I’m one of the 50/60 year olds that scores with guys your age. Obviously not you, so don’t get hot under the collar just yet. Recently I decided to try some basic research and hit on all 25 hotties between 20 and 30 in my area (grindr). I didn’t message those 4 or 5 who mentioned age ranges nor those who were not my type from their stats (big/fat). Over 24 hours I got 2 positive responses that led to sex. 2 said I was too old, but the vast majority ignored the approach.

So that’s a success rate of 8%. It’s high enough (given that many also hit on me and the others who have posted here without chasing) for us older guys to be getting a decent time with your age group +10 years. But it also says that 90 odd percent of your peer group aren’t interested, which is where you frimly are, and that’s ok.

R77 You must bear in mind that some unfortunate 60 year olds are not attractive at any age.

Precisely r80 but try telling them that!!!

daddies daddies DADDIES!!!!

OP you should be less concerned about this and more concerned that you haven't found love and got married at your age.

I can confirm the OP's scenario does happen, though I think it is reserved for only the most attractive 50+ dudes out there . I have a 56 year old friend who is very attractive and in good shape with a nice dick. He isn't the kiss and tell type but he told me he was having lots of sex with 20 somethings. I was a little skeptical but he showed me his grindr with the emails from young guys he had obviously been with. As I said he is veyr attractive and does look quite a bit younger than his age but he isn't Matt Bohmer.. just a handsome guy with a decent body and a good dick.

An engaging personality helps too. I know I have an engaging personality.

61 here, and same thing happens to me, but in waves. I can’t explain it, but I’ll get hit on by a handful of younger guys all within a week or two or three, then nothing for a while. Then it happens all over again. Btw, I’m not generous, I don’t have it to give even if I wanted to. I don’t look young for my age at all. I have no interest in a relationship with a younger guy. Actually, not much interest in a relationship at all these days. But sex? Absolutely.

r84 here forgot to mention my friend is a total top. Very suburban dad vibe

Again, I assert that there are young men who specifically ARE attracted to the older male. Here ya go. Enjoy.

26 and I would happily have been the sex slave of this man , 59 years old in this photo

As others mentioned:

A lot are probably closeted and know that there's zero chance of any overlap with an older white guy

+

They may have major daddy fetishes, which seem to be more common with Latino guys in particular (no idea about Middle Easterners)

No one goes on dinner dates from Grindr, so unlikely money will be involved and OP is openly gay, so it's not like they're thinking they could blackmail him.

I'm usually (okay, always) into other guys my age +/- ten years, but I have met other guys my age who have major "zaddie" fetishes, though all of them were over the top femmes, and two of them were a little pudgy so not as in demand from guys their age, but for the 55 year olds banging them, it probably felt like they'd struck gold.

Where I live, it's most likely to be a couple where the significantly older "daddy" is Caucasian while the younger guy is Asian.

R84, you have a point. Many 20somethings wouldn't mind getting with this 50ish-year-old guy.

But that beard.

A) the beard and B) you sure he's anywhere close to 50 R92? I'm thinking late 30s, maybe early 40s.

It happened again, this morning. Out of the blue, I got hit on by this absolutely gorgeous 25 yr old latino. Again, I made the mistake of assuming he must be a bottom. Nope. He's a top and wants to fuck me. I tell you, I'm getting more dick now than I have since I was in my 20s.

He's "Quest" on Scruff, r94. His profile says he's 51.

No money involved you just get them an uber, give them a free massage and some free 420.....

Just turned 50 and yes, Daddy is having a moment. Maybe no more than in the past, but certainly more open about it.

54 years young, here. And this thread makes me glad that I'm in a monogamous relationship.

I like you, R99, lucky duck.

61 and 2 months out of a long term monogamous relationship. Those kiddos make it all worthwhile.

why do you guys keep feeding this troll. He won't even tell us what he looks like. its probably some old fattie starving for attention playing out his wildest fantasies here on DL.

And when I tell you what I look like you will undoubtedly screech that I'm lying, an old troll, a liar, etc etc etc. I have nothing to prove to you, wretched, miserable r102. But if you MUST know, I am 6 feet tall, I weigh 180, I work out 5x a week, I have a full head of hair, good skin and very few wrinkles. Satisfied now?

R103 why would turning 50 all of sudden make you a sex object? with your stats you would have had no problems getting laid at any age, lying liar

Then he is the DL unicorn R96, the 51 year old guy who really does look ten years younger.

Or it's a typo or a marketing trick and he's hoping you all will think "wow, this guy looks great for 51" and he's really 43, lol.

Either way-- not sure it's cool to put his pictures and Scruff handle up on DL which shows up in search engines.

I have had the same experience since I turned 50. Well, I didn't act on it as I was in a monogamous relationship - until it wasn't. When I was in my twenties and single, I never dated a guy over 37. That was pushing geezer world. The one pity fuck I threw was so awful - a guy in his fifties - I could barely get it up.

So, here I am nearly 60 and definitely more pursued than I have been in years. I'm in decent shape, a top and we'll endowed. I don't pay but I also don't care if I come. I can eat ass and fuck for hours on end and only care about the other guy's pleasure. If he wants to have five prostate orgasms before shooting his load, Im there for him. If he wants double penetration - I have friends. If he wants fun with e-stim. Got it.

I suspect it's in part because I'm zero effort, guaranteed stress free as man orgasms as they can handle - and it's only about them. And they can talk as much as they want and I actually care.

Yes, I am getting a stunning number of Latino men, too. But mostly white guys and two are married who want buttplay. They're uncomfortable asking their wives for it, so they'd rather find a guy with a big dick and no attitude who can host.

Sex iin your fifties is complicated.

It's the whole "daddy complex" thing. A fetish. They want to "be daddied."

I find that married men are almost always bottoms when they have gay sex.

Some of us are attractive, or still attractive and this is obviously key to getting lucky. When I was in my late twenties and thirties, several men I found attractive were fifty or so. Many times I was surprised, as I had initially taken them for forty-ish. I'll bet the posters here who find all this incredulous either look their aga or more, and probably are not fit.

I'm finding my contemporaries have taken care of themselves. Among my friends, I have several who are around my age who all look great. One of my good friends is in a 2 year long (and still going strong) relationship with a 27 yr old (my friend is 54).

OP is wishful thinking...lol

you're an idiot, r111

They're apparently quite jealous, aren't they R112?

R108 I concur, however the authentic bisexual men I know who are out (sadly) usually do not "take it up the coat".

R113 Agreed. They are so shouty and yet so self absorbed it’s no wonder they are ignored - in every sense

The last three guys I've bottomed for were 37, 28, 27. First two are fuckbuddies. So crossing 50 ain't so bad even as a bottom.

I am 54 yrs, 6ft, 202 lbs, muscular (attractive for my age) and never offer to pay, BUT, sometimes after great to average sex with a guy in his 20s I like to offer them some cash for two reasons: 1. I am truly grateful and still somewhat in awe that someone much younger was interested in me to begin with because I was never into older myself. 2. Often, these guys are struggling financially, unlike me. I can afford to be generous and it feels like the right thing to do. Very often, it is actually very sweet to me when they try to protest and decline, but they always relent. I truly believe these guys have a variety of partners and I am just one of others, but it is just sex and it all comes from Grindr, so it is what it is.

“The guys my age are so boring in comparison (although I do have 1 or 2 FBs my age, everyone else is 45-55).”

Um, one or two? How is a person not able between one vs two regular sexual playmates?

r117 you seem like a nice and generous person but i feel like doing that is insulting to both yourself and the guy youve been with. If they wanted to have sex with you, presumably they already benefited as much as you have. Plus then if they contact you another time how do you know theyre really into it and its not just for the money?

R119. I am a realist and know it is a Grindr hook up. If a little money, and I mean a nominal amount, brings them back sooner, so be it.

Even so R120 if it had been offered to me when I was young getting it on with the older blokes, I would've been insulted. The younger hook ups I meet probably wouldn't take kindly to it either. I'll buy drinks, supply grass, or even offer to pick up a dinner when there has been an actual "date", but would never feel right about offering cash. I trust you're coming from a good place, so please don't be offended. Perhaps buy them token gifts instead. I must agree with R119 on the matter.

r120, does that work? I mean do they come back again and you give them the same amount each time? What is a nominal amount to you? I feel as if a small amount of cash, say 20, 40 or 50 bucks, would be even more insulting than a couple hundred, would make the person feel even cheaper, like that nominal amount equals what theyre worth to you. I think your heart is in a good place but it could be backfiring on you without your even being aware, which is why i ask if a good amount of them return or not?

Some 20something devoured me 2 weekends ago. I was bewildered and then It was getting Suddenly Last Summer adjacent for awhile but after he came the first time, then kept going, I realized it was just sex and I must have been some deeply needed type for him.

I can understand where r117 is coming from. I've often taken guys my age out when I'm in third world countries. Just because I had more money than they did.

What r117 said is quite different r124 . Both r119 and r221 are right, offering cash is demeaning, can be seen as cheap and sets up the wrong dynamics for future contacts both with him and other ‘daddies’.

They may accept it because they are broke but it wasn’t what they were looking for and they may start connecting sex with money - not a good way for a man of the world to pass his experience on to a younger man.

R117 how nice of you I am sure they appreciated it much, don’t listen to these other cheap bitches.

I don't understand whoring around on Grindr at any age. Not judging, but it just seems kinda sad to me. Not to mention unsafe. But, carry on....

R127

I did this for a bit my own way. I’d go to a nightclub where a friend tended bar and I was usually the only 50-year-old by himself. I’d sit at the bar nursing a drink and reading on my phone when not talking with my friend. At least once every 3 times I went I’d get hit on by a 20-something. Once I took home a guy on his 21st birthday. I never hit on anyone, but I’d get laid semi-regularly.

Nothing sadder than seeing someone in a bar staring at their phone. While I concede that there are SOME 50+ that get laid a lot,most of these stories are just that,fiction. Im 56,and told at least twice a month by different people how attractive I am,sometimes more,and the only thing that hits me up on any dating site are the 70+ crowd or the truly undesirable.And I have a fat 6 incher and huge balls.Maybe its where I live?

where DO you live?

I would have been appalled to be offered money in my 20s. Well, actually I was offered money a time or two and I huffily declined.

R129 Has a point, not necessarily about being on his phone though. I go out with friends and purposely don't cruise. Little eye contact, interact primarily with my friends. This lack of interest gets the young ones chasing after me. Especially as the young are often offended when someone over 40 even looks at them.

I agree, the majority of these stories are pure fiction, ESPECIALLY these 50+ year-old bottoms claiming that young guys are tripping over themselves to have at their worn out, stretched out holes. Give me a break! I just don’t buy it.

I'm 56 with a rugby-ish build. I have twinks hit on me all the time. And my interest in twinks is close to zero, fortunately/unfortunately. The guys i"m attracted to have no interest at all in me.

And trust me, no discussion of money is happening. A whore will make that quite clear at the outset.

R129 That is exactly similiar to my MO. It is usually two hip straight bars to boot. They do have a mixed following, and one a music venue with open mic and poetry. Many times I am the only one nifty fifty, other times there may be a few even older. Take that R127. I abhor twits and twats who lead in with, "not judging, but..," You probably think going to a pub or bar at fifty is sad too, don't you. I don't use the apps, but your attitude makes me want to get them all now.

None of the 20 somethings I've been with have seemed needy. I'd feel really weird offering money.

r134, you don't buy it because you're an idiot with no imagination. You're too small-minded to understand that there's a whole world that you don't understand and have no ability to live in.

R130 I do believe it is your attitude or personality. If you are on the apps, or thinking of them six isn't anything to boast about, especially if you're all potatoes and very little meat.

The sour cunt naysayers here are assuming too much. We're not all bottoms, and the blokes aren't all twinks either.

Very well said R138, touché.

R135 Perhaps your locale is part of your equation. You didn't mention your type, but I played rugby, am fit, slightly short (er) 5'8", newly fifty, and I wouldn't put you out of the game unless you're inordinately proud, mentally defective or mean.

Everything depends on where you live. In NYC there are many many 20 somethings that are into sex with guys over 50. They ask for pictures to see if there is some attraction, sometimes they ask if the guy is gen, other times not. Some need cash, others not so much, IT all depends...

The subject of human sexuality is infinitely fascinating. There is no accounting for taste, and beauty DOES lie in the eye of the beholder. Believe it or not, there are young men who are even exclusively attracted to Octogenarians. I know, it's mind boggling, but alas it's true.

just like chubby chasers

You know, to the guy who posted that he goes to bars and ignores the 20 somethings and then always gets hit on, I sort of do the same thing with the apps. I NEVER make the first move on a 20 something. But I get hit on all the time.

When I was in my 20's and 30's, I always hit on 50 year olds because (1) I am physically attracted to them, and (2) I knew I wouldn't get rejected.

When I would talk to a 50 year old on an app, I knew he would say yes

Ooooh, R136 has been triggered! Notice I stated clearly I was NOT judging. I simply stated that I don't understand and that whoring around for tricks on apps seems like a sad life to me. This is a site to post comments and opinions on random topics, isn't it? But whatever. Do whatever you want with your life. Makes zero difference to me. Carry on.....

R147 it’s funny you should say that. I just got tapped, said hi and was asked for pics from a 19yo an hour ago. My profile says 20-40 (I’m 60 but say I’m 50 on the app and have never been challenged). Neither of us were showing face pics but we swapped and I asked for a full body pic. I was suspicious of the way he took and cropped his other shots that he might be a fatty. He asked for mine in return but didn’t send his. The conversation ended there. If anyone contacts me first - even if there is a generational age gap, it’s beholding on them to provide the first pics in my book rather than asking for mine first. Basic politeness and etiquette. I’ve got nothing to hide but the 19 yo clearly has, or like you in your youth, feels entitled. Nothing wrong with that, but he got a big “No” from me.

Speaking of pics, I have a question: guys in their twenties seem to have no problem sending out full body naked shots that include their face. I have never done this and never will. But is this the new normal? That full on naked shots are ok now?

^^ If you're a top just use a cock pic. If you're a bottom use an ass pic.

See? It's simple!

Grindr is a single bar on steroids. It brings all types together, for better or worse. As a single man in his mid 50s I am very grateful to Grindr because it is a way to have some hot sex. I could never get this type of action with the bar scene alone. It has plenty of downside too of course, a whole different discussion, for another time. I live in Upper Manhattan so the sheer number of gay men nearby is substantial.

I wonder if guys use grindr in jail....will Michael Cohen be using it soon?

I'm not sure what's new about any of this. I used to totally horn for buff older guys when I was in my 20s. Now I am one of those buff mid-40s guys and I enjoy plenty of attention from younger guys. I think a lot of them see a manliness they're attracted to but don't yet feel they possess.

I agree R154. There are so many reasons why younger is into older (besides money).

I am 57, very fit, and pass for younger. That's the truth, but I'm pausing a beat to let the regular DL hate brigade take some shots.)

Well, I do find many of the stories of older very true. I consider myself lucky and know that this can end at any point. I catch a look at myself every so often in the mirror and it's always jarring to not see my younger reflection looking back. That being said, my experience is that I get SOME very attractive younger guys, many of them are return visitors. It's incentive to keep on being fit, keep on trying. That being said, it's also true that with every "success" that I have, there are numerous rejections (Scruff, Grinder) that come my way too. On the apps, I'm polite and not at all aggressive. It's very true that when I was younger, I certainly did not pursue older guys--I ran fast the other way, in fact. So, for me, I'm fortunate and realize this can end at any point, and when it does, I'll revel in the good fortune that I had.

Recently, I met up with a visiting high school gay friend who lives several states over. When we were comparing notes and showing pics at the restaurant (while shamelessly checking out the hot waiters and customers in my college town), he told me that that very morning he had an encounter with a hot younger guy. He showed me the pic, and I was impressed. My friend does look his age, is mostly bald, thin, but not that fit. Also, he lists his age as 47 on the app, and has told me it has not had an impact on the action he gets. I do not put my age on my app, but if pressed, will tell the truth.

Hi r156 that’s exactly my experience to a ‘T’. You just have to laugh at all these deniers who are all getting their knickers in a twist with their cries of “it’s all LIES, LIES I tell you!” Reminds me of the late great Kenneth Williams’ protestations...

R148 Seriously I'm not triggered by you, or your comments. I merely stated my opinion that I hate those using the disclaimer. Following up your remarks with you think it sad we single older people are meeting others and scoring proves my point there is something off about your sort. You would feel better or glad that we sit home sexless, with masturbation our only outlet? Just state your negative comments and beliefs with conviction and pride next time. By eliminating the "not judging or anything" you shall come off as more forthright, and less nellie.

R156 and R157 please count me in as a guy in his 50s who has more sex on Grindr with younger guys than guys my own age. I have only been on Grindr for 2 years (was in a long term relationship for 15 years) and had never tried a hook up app. I really was blown away at first, now it is just normal to me. Guys my own age almost never reach out, nor do I toward them.

Boys are not encouraged to grow up and be adults ... with helicopter parenting and an endless array of technology as toys and a social media culture encouraging them to be prissy models, we have a generation of arrested developments. Boy-men want daddy figures now.

R160. You are onto something, yes, I agree.

I've enjoyed reading the above replies. I'm 64 now, and my online profile shows my correct age, measurements and a current picture. I prefer guys between 30 - 45. If I was told when I was in my 20's or 30's that an older guy was having regular sex with someone my age I probably wouldn't believe them. Or that there was money involved. I have regular encounters as a result of them contacting me, no money exchanged, everyone I've met has been decent and have enjoyed my time with them. A few like to call me daddy, but I'm not into role playing. Though there have been a few where one time was enough. I never go to their place. I've enjoyed all types of guys, either local or from other countries. Yes, some middle eastern men are mostly on the DL, which I can understand. How long will I be meeting up with younger guys. I guess I'll find out.

R160 r161 I agree too, it explains a lot.

R135 You still perusing this thread? I would like to meet more men in my age group... Curious as to where you are.. I dig the rugby-ish build. Very rarely do blokes intheir late forties approach me. I'm not complaining about the young lads' affections, but think you may have untapped potential!

The white guys who hit me up who are in their 20s are mostly bottoms, but the latinos and middle easterners are mostly tops. Interesting!

well, any new escapades gentlemen?

[quote] I wonder if guys use grindr in jail....will Michael Cohen be using it soon?

Do they keep phones and wifi in jail??

I got called out today first time) on Grindr by a twenty something who asked for my age. I said 48, he said ‘hot, but you look more my dads age and he is in his 50’s”

Don’t you just know the coffee bar on the corner opposite this place is going to be stuffed with hot daddy-luvin Latino twinks

Today this 56 year old (non gen) from NYC had amazing sex with a 41 year old who I met on Grindr. This is the 4th time we hooked up and it was still pretty amazing. There is no chance for romance, because we are from two different worlds, but oh boy when worlds collide (fun!). That's all I got.

Going down the list of who hit me up on Grindr today: 21, 23, 25, 27, 32, 38. No one my own age.

Ok I was bored and did an experiment. I made a grindr account using my handsome straight uncle’s (age 57) photo, listed versatile. I got messages from literally dozens of guys aged 19-35 and only two messages from men aged 40-50 ,none over 50.

Op are you as handsome or more?

The poor straight uncle is all I can say. Hope he isn't anywhere near the place you live R172/R173. Not cool. It would be less troublesome if Uncle were gay, but still not quite right.

He lives thousands of miles away and I deleted the account right after though.

OK, looks like you broke many hearts though! (or at least their Friday evening hot plans).

Lucky you for having such a hot uncle (judging by the replies on Grindr). If you share his genes, you must be a hottie!

Love older guys.

Let's hear more about your uncle, r172.

R173 He's very handsome. If his body is at least halfway decent, I'll drop my drawers for him in a New York minute.

[QUOTE]Believe it or not, there are young men who are even exclusively attracted to Octogenarians.

This is true, One of the hottest men I've ever met was a 26 yo spanish guy in Madrid, I tried to hit on him but he told me I was too young for him. He then showed me a picture of his 77 yo boyfriend. I was fascinated by this so we started chatting. First, he told me that it had nothing to do with money because he made a decent living as a chef, when I asked him about the sex he told me they used "toys" and that the main problem was that his boyfriend kept forgetting thigs. All of his closest friends were also guys in their 20's who loved much older man, in fact he was on his way to Amsterdam to attend the funeral of one of his friend's boyfriend, a 82 yo french guy,

[Quote]Experience: from the bedroom to the boardroom, older guys usually, though not always, have a better sense of what’s going on. And will be happy to share it with someone younger/not in the know.

[Quote]Decisiveness: After a certain age, a man usually knows what he wants or doesn’t want and isn’t afraid to vocalize that. Maybe it’s because we realize we don’t have all the time in the world and don’t want to waste it being uncertain.

[Quote]Mature physicality: I’m constantly amazed that there’s so many younger men who are physically interested in a more mature body, whether it be for the hair, the salt & pepper color, a belly, those distinguishing lines in the face — whatever it may be, there are younger guys who specifically look for those traits.

[Quote]Mentorship: A lot of young men are at a loss in terms of job and educational advice. They’re not getting it from home and they’re not getting it from the culture. Many of them may have run up against a homophobic brick wall and have no idea how to approach their future. Older gay men have already been through this and can provide some guidance and perspective.

Thank you guys, this is turning out to be an interesting topic.....I am fast approaching 50 and this information is very positive for the most part. I am recently single and I now feel a little better about it.

Settle down with somebody in your age range to spend the rest of your life with. Don’t get excited fantasizing about being some 20 year old’s method to satisfy his daddy fetish.

I'm 56 and have been chatting the past couple of days with an 18-year-old (I live in NYC). He's gorgeous with an awesome body, total bottom (I'm a total top) and wants to get together with me on Monday. It's very tempting to be sure and I've been looking forward to meeting him, but for the past day or so I've also been having second thoughts. There's no worry/concern about my being generous (I don't pay for sex and he hasn't asked, and even if he did I wouldn't give him a dime) but I find myself being increasingly bothered about the age difference -- believe me, I've hooked up with lots of guys much younger than me but none no younger than 24 or so. This is the first time I've ever had a chance to hook up with an 18-year-old and, I don't know, it just feels weird to me. For the first time I actually feel like a "dirty old man" and I don't like it. Yes, he's legal and yes, he's hot as fuck -- and most of all, yes, he seems to be genuinely interested in me -- but I'm seriously thinking I'm going to write him tomorrow and say thanks but I just don't feel comfortable with it. Hell, what if he lied just to get on the app and he's really in fact 16 or 17? Not that he looks *that* young but just saying you never know. It's just feeling more and more creepy every day, so I think I'm going to let this one slide.

I know I'm overthinking it and should just "go with it" and have fun, but it's in me. Besides, I also have this 30-year-old guy (who I think is a doctor) who's also interested, so perhaps I'll go in that direction instead.

* but it's not in me I meant to say

[quote][R135] You still perusing this thread? I would like to meet more men in my age group... Curious as to where you are.. I dig the rugby-ish build.

NYC. If you're in New York and looking for rugby types, I'd recommend the Eagle on weekends. Scores of hot older guys wandering around. There's also of course literal gay rugby in the form of the Gotham Knights rugby team. Good luck!

r135, you are definitely overthinking it, but to each his own. Do what you're comfortable with.

I was only on the apps for a few minutes this morning, but the guys who hit me up today were 23, 25, and two 31 year olds. I'm telling you, things are good for 50 somethings these days.

Good for 50 somethings who like random hookups with strangers on apps. What about those who want to live a fulfilling life with someone by their side? Someone they can converse with, relate to? How’s things for those guys? Or is everyone else their age busy chasing 20 year olds on Grindr?

Well, I hope I'm not still using hookup apps in my 50s.

R189 0pen marriages?

I'm ing my late fifties and am only interested in guys my age. Don't care for twinks.

I'm early 40s, I don't think I would go below 30

I find there's a sweetness to 20 somethings that is unique to their age. Many of them aren't that experienced, especially the 18-22 yr olds. The awkwardness is charming.

'I'm so desperate for someone my FATHERS AGE....I SO hope to meet someone over 50" = overheard by twinks at the clubs and across the land.. It's right up there with Beyoncé concert tickets and what Kendall wore to dinner last night.

R185 I am also in my 50s in NYC. I have been tempted a few times with sexy guys that are 18, they always are the ones reaching out first. I have flirted and gotten thisclose to setting up a date, but have always backed out. The youngest I have been with was in his early 20s and that still felt too young.

[Quote]but I'm seriously thinking I'm going to write him tomorrow and say thanks but I just don't feel comfortable with it.

I would go for it, r185. If anything, ask to see his ID, and sincerely explain why. If anything, you could serve as this to that young man:

[Quote]Mentorship: A lot of young men are at a loss in terms of job and educational advice. They’re not getting it from home and they’re not getting it from the culture. Many of them may have run up against a homophobic brick wall and have no idea how to approach their future. Older gay men have already been through this and can provide some guidance and perspective.

They need our example and experience, just like we needed it back when we were their age. I actually knew a few 50ish men back in my late teens and early 20s, and I'm glad they thought enough to spend with me. I learned a lot from them.

What's your decision, r185?

I'm fine with hooking up with guys in their 20s but couldn't ever see it becoming anything other than sexual. They are sweet and eager and fun but I can't relate on anything other than a sexual level so it usually feels kind of empty afterwards. I don't like playing the dad or mentor role.

R185, he just wants your cock, not your heart, so give it to him and move on

[QUOTE]I find there's a sweetness to 20 somethings that is unique to their age.

😂 Yeah, I bet.

I just turned 50...where is this magical neighborhood, OP?

[QUOTE]I also have this 30-year-old guy (who I think is a doctor) who's also interested, so perhaps I'll go in that direction instead.

Go with the doctah, go with the doctah!!!

R202 Primarily in Flyoverstan.

R185 here. Just got up and have been watching TV all morning. Haven't thought about my new "friend" yet or what I will ultimately decide about our meeting tomorrow. (Would actually love it if he'd email me first and back out, saving me the trouble.) For now I'm just getting ready to go have lunch and run a few errands.

Perhaps I'll go ahead and meet him, though. As others have said, it's just about sex anyway, nothing more. And with regard to being his daddy/mentor, I have no interest in that and sure he can find that elsewhere if that's what he's looking for.

Flyoverstan? Hardly. I live in one of the biggest cities in the US. And I've had the same reaction whenever I've traveled to other cities.

There is a plethora of cute young guys who want to be with older men. Thank goodness!

Nope, not Flyoverstan. I live in Hell’s Kitchen, NYC.

Guys over 50, we are the new black.

I live in NYC and am 55. I work full time and have a good career. I never smoked or did drugs. I swim, lift weights, and do yoga every week to maintain a good physical appearance. When I was younger, I would say I was a solid 7 or 7.5, never a Greek God or supermodel, but always above average. Now a days, when I compare myself at 55 to many of my friends (both straight and gay) around the same age I am an 8 or 8.5.... This in part explains why I get hit on by the younger guys on Grindr.... I have a close friend who smokes and never works out and his sex life is much more diminished than mine. I have so much more in common with guys my own age, but it is also nice to meet a younger sexy guy on Grindr to have sex with sometimes, it is a powerful incentive for me to keep fit.

Why don't you try daddyhunt or Growlr? The daddy fetish at those apps is through the roof. Try it and come back to tell us. I have no daddy "issues", I just like older men because they're not full of shit and have more to offer in terms of sex experience and life experience, why must this be an "issue"?

I'm also masculine, so this idea all the daddy lovers are femme queens is a myth too.

R209 here. I forgot to add that for every one guy in his 20s who shows interest towards me, there are dozens more who see me as invisible. I think that is why us older guys are sometimes surprised/suspicious when a younger guy does show interest, because it is still not all that common, but in a big city like NYC, the large and diverse population helps a lot.

Yay! Daddies are all the rage.

R210 The problem I found with Growlr was that, although I appear to be a "bear," I have nothing except physical appearance in common with the bear community -- at least as far as I experienced. Half the guys who hit me up on Growlr were bears or cubs who were into being bears or cubs, or an "admirer" of bear culture. Inevitably, when I found somebody atteactive to meet up with, all they could talk about was my being a bear. Nope. I am not. The other half were chubs who got pissed off that I was not interested in meeting them.

Skeptical but possible. 51, tall,in shape, full head of hair, no gray. Occasionally will meet a younger guy in bars or apps. But definitely don’t get hit on like I did at even 42. No way would I say I get MORE action after 50. Sorry - but the guys who want (much) older are the exception. If you’re under 40, enjoy the hotties while you can. But accept that you’re not going to be having the endless sex with hotties at 55 that you do at 35. I’m all for optimism and looking st he bright side, but no need to exaggerate or deny the reality of gay sexuality.

" Since I turned 50, guys who are in the 18-26 range will not leave me alone."

I hear there's such a shortage of transplant organs, young guys will even take a 50 year old liver.

Try not to eat or drink anything they give you unless you want to wake up in a bath tub full of ice.

r214, my experience has been different. I get more cock and ass now, in my 50s, than I did in my 40s. I think it's become far more commonplace for younger guys to date or have sex with older guys and be open about it.

It is all about the apps. I am 55. When I was 40 the apps were not around. I am invisible at a bar. I know that. The sheer volume of guys on Grindr gives us guys over 50 some level of action. Believe me when I say this, most of the hot guys on Grindr have no interest at all to meet up with me, but there are definitely enough guys in the 22-33 year range who do show interest. Some have told me that they are really jaded about guys their own age and wanted to try getting it on with a mature guy. Some like an older guy as a preference, and others only sometimes, whatever....it is a real phenomenon. I am not complaining.

I think with the advent of apps, those with ordinarily "hidden qualities" really have a chance to shine, not possible in other ways. Many men seriously seek out good dick.

The only reason a guy under 50 wants a guy over 50 is the size of his bank balance.

R219 You apparently are not at all familiar with the modern style hook-ups are you mate? No real names, and many are one-offs. No "dates", very little other entertainment involved other than sex 90% of the time. Don't lull yourself into a false sense of mastery of others' intentions, especially when they are negative. Not a good way to see the world.

I said it before, I'll say it again: boys looking for a sugar daddy make their intentions quite clear from the beginning.

You bitches are forgetting your gay history.

Whoops! Wrong thread.

Well said, R220. There are plenty of real, credible stories above. It's too easy to dismiss those who are receiving young attention for whatever reason than to address their own issues. Honestly, just be happy for those of us who are still getting action from hot guys. It's going to end sooner than later for me, and when it does, I'll still be cheering my same-age brothers from the sidelines with a tip of my cap.

location, location, location....makes all the difference (for Grindr success)

You know, every year I keep thinking "this is the year it will end. guys will no longer be interested" and then....it doesn't end. I really think there is a major trend going on here. Some of the guys I get hit up by wouldn't have given me a second look if I were their age.

I once thought as you too R226. I'm surprised how many times I'm approached even at my neighbourhood haunts. Lately more thirties, but I don't really prefer twenties TBH. Turning fifty two months ago was no problem mentally. Older friends kept asking how I was "dealing with it". I think it was difficult for them because they don't have sex lives.

Thanks R224.

A big dick is more important that a big bank account in the app world. If you have a big dick, you will get attention well into your 50s. Not a mystery.

True from my experience with some of these younger men who tell their friends about what they got from me R229. I don't do the apps, but am considering. I had stated earlier similar logic, ability to just advertise really. Younger lads have no qualms coming up to me and making very forthright remarks and requests. Younger people seem to be much more to the point I find. I find it a total turn-on most of the time.

I am old, overweight, poor, don't have a big dick, and no one gives me the time of day. So fuck this thread in its smug entirety.

Not that I'm hostile or anything.

R231 Maybe you have other charms or interesting qualities to attract them? Are you funny, kind, or smart?

R231 - finally an honest response. Thank you. From a slightly overweight, average dick that requires Viagra, middle class 53 year old guy in the suburbs. Fortunately it has also allowed me to focus on things other than the sex game which most people outgrow by 50 - except urban gay men I guess. Nice to get validation - and sex - from young hotties. But also nice to be forced to find other meaningful, self-affirming and fulfilling activities that make life so pleasurable in the elder years.

R231: Am I funny, kind, or smart? All of the above. So what? And don't tell me bitterness drives men away. FUCK YOU.

I’m happy many of you are having success with older men, but I don’t think it’s the norm. You guys must be in the top 20% looks wide, of your peers.

And I say this as someone young, who has talked to many, many guys under 30 about their sexual age preferences, and most prefer guys under 35.

One thing that was never made clear: are those of you receiving a lot of messages from younger guys tops?

I meant younger

R235, I am one of the older (55 yrs) guys who get attention from younger guys on Grindr. I have been on Grindr for about 2 years. Prior to being on Grindr, the last time I bottomed was when I was in my late 20s. The first couple of guys wanted me to fuck them as they were total bottoms. I advertised myself as versatile. Then one guy in his 20s asked to fuck me. I told him no and the reason was that I had not bottomed in a long time, but promised if he still wanted to try it, to give call me again (I gave him a massage and we 69'd the first meet up). Well, about 2 weeks later he did get back in touch and I bottomed and had a great time with him, and so did he by the way that he filled up the condom. This guy was really cute in every way. I thought I was in a parallel universe or something. Anyway, most of the younger guys are bottoms, but this particular guy has now fucked me on average of two times a month for more than a year and it continues. There is nothing else between us besides sex and once in a blue a Netflix after. During this time I have also met one other top who also enjoys time with an older guy. Both are Latino, and both have never been fucked, so they tell me.

It is very true that most younger guys find older guys unappealing sexually, I was the same way then too. However, there really is a subset of younger guys into us mature gents.

56 yo, exclusively top. Most of the attention I get is from twink bottoms in their late twenties/early 30's. On the other hand many of them are RAGING size queens, so many walk away the moment they grab my 6.5".

But sometimes they don't.

R7 Not true out here in LA. The Latinos and whites love fucking eachother. They also hate black bottoms but love black tops. At least from what i’ve seen out here on Grindr.

R220 owns this thread. I’m one of the early posters, 63 and sekeing out and getting the younger bottoms to hook up with me, an exclusive top. A few recent points here I’d agree on in terms of my now 6 year experience on grindr, so for the highest hit / success rates:

- big cities and holiday / vacation locations

- you to be in one of the top 20% of your age group looks/body/hair/attitude wise. I’m not talking the 3% sex machines but those who have taken a long look at themselves and done something about it, maintained it and had good genes to start.

- look out for the Latinos

- maybe 1:20 to 1:30 of 20-34 year olds will be interested, but many of them seek out you

- none or very few of these guys would admit to their friends what they are up to. For many it’s not on their radar but they pick up on an opportunity for the ‘morbo’

- these figures are for a top looking for a bottom

- probably 1 in 3 those who I contact who show some interest are looking for a very big cock over age (I’m average so don’t score there). It’s the handiness of the app, if you are in contact and have sizemeat they will snap it up rather than say no because of age

- 1 in 4 who hit on me are young fatties / uglies who probably feel they stand a better chance (not with me they don’t). They are the ones who don’t send fotos straight away and pester you with too many messages. Desperate.

- some, not many, maybe 1 in 20 I contact, will ask for money. This is always upfront and usually an afterthought in the sense that their initial reaction is ‘no’ to a mature, but then it’s ‘hang on, this guy might pay and I need some cash’

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I am 58 and get hit on by tops in their 20s all the time. It's astonishing, really. But I have taken care of myself and am in good shape.

R234 I was being kind. You don't appear properly socialised or particularly nice by your post. Granted endowed tops have it easier, but there are plenty of men with small to average equipment, who are not rich, and they get laid too.

Ditto, R239 I advertised as a good looking, lean black bottom on Grindr in LA last year with a face pic, and got so few messages you would have thought I was a 50 year old obese guy. I only had one hookup. Where I live I get a lot of messages.

I hear that Asian guys also have a hard time in LA.

Sometimes age on a man can do wonders. There are a number of guys who I was never attracted to when they were in their 20s and 30s, but are more attractive to me now that they've reached 50. Their soft faces have become more hardened, their bodies have filled out and, overall, just look more masculine to me.

R240 I have a question. I am 50 something NYC. Versatile. Overall good for my age. There is one very sexy hot 33 yr old Dominican guy who speaks very little English I have been hooking up with. The first time I asked if he likes an older guy in Spanish (google translate) he said "me morba" You used the word morbo. Morbid in English? What does that mean? He is fascinated with older guys? The sex has been really good, as good as I have had when I was younger so any backhanded insult does not matter. There is no money involved, he could use some, but he never asks. I am almost afraid to mess things up by offering.

good lord, don't offer someone money. buy him a gift if you like

R245 "me da morbo" in a sexual context can be translated to "it turns me on" . It's very common in Spain.

good to know, thanks.

R245 Morbo is a bit edgier than a turn on. Its direct English translation, morbid, is a turn off and no way represents it. In Spain morbo is used when talking about the type of sex you want and means something a little different than the norm in the context of the discussion. So morbo for your lover would a be sex relationship with an older man. For others it might be sex outdoors, or role-play, spanking. It can also be used in general meaning you’d like sex a bit edgier rather than straightforward.

What’s your morbo DLers?

sex with 18-24 yr olds

R241 don’t think being in good shape matters to some guys Seriously I messaged this guy on grindr with a nice hairy chest a while back, he said I was too young for him he’s 24 and a total top, now dating a big pot bellied bearded 55+ year old who isn’t attractive. I dont get it but whatever floats his boat

Young guys going after old guys have Daddy issues and/or are looking for money. Ok for a fuck but not LTR. They’ll only be around until the next old fart comes along.

This 55 year old is welcome in my bed anytime!

Daddy's are at a premium in today's world.

Is that based on demographic fact R254?

R255, just personal experience and from what I read on this thread.

We Toppers are @ a premium too R254. R251 I agree with you, as I find many not so fit average blokes very attractive, it all depends. Sometimes from the bottom's perspective the inches are more important too. Keep banging on gentleman!

I can't read this entire thread but I will tell you from personal experience that men in their mid-50s are at their peak as lovers. They know what they're doing, they have a healthy outlook on life, they aren't looking to prove anything, and they aren't afraid to be loving.

Obviously there are exceptions but a man who reaches that age with a healthy outlook on life makes a wonderful lover and maybe more.

There was a study mentioned on the TV yesterday (wish they named it with more details) that claimed men enjoy the best sex in their sixties. Something to "shoot for" and be grateful for! I'm sorry for all the negative Nancies on the thread... I at least hope you are still masturbating at least, or getting it on with your husbands.

A friend of mine who is 56 is in a relationship with a hot guy who is 26. They've been together for two years now.

I am 53 and have been seeing a really beautiful young man who is 27. He saw me at the gym several times and one day started a conversation, shortly after exchanging numbers he texted me and asked if I ever would like to have him pose privately for me (he has a muscle body). OF course I said yes. The first month has been very nice (sex and cuddling). We have just started whatever journey we are on. Since the age of 16, he has always gone out with older men. He works full time and never asks for money. I pay for UBER whenever we meet, but that has been all so far. The hundreds of younger fit guys in my gym never cruise me, and to me, that is to be expected. I keep expectations very low, but so far, so good.

sweet

I have assignations set up with a 21 yr old and a 23 yr old.

Some young twink sent me a “Hi daddy” message this morning. I said LOL. He blocked me.

I have Grindr on right now. In my fifties. Got 3 texts, all from guys under 30. They can call me Daddy or anything else, I am here to float their boat.

Most of the younger guys messaging men over 50 fall into one of several overlapping categories:

1. CLOSET CASES: they know they are unlikely to ever encounter these older guys IRL which eliminates their fear that they are messaging someone they actually know who will out them or who will know their friends, etc. They also know the older guys will pretty much agree to whatever they want--no kissing, service only, etc.

2. OVERWEIGHT OR UNATTRACTIVE: This can range from 10 lbs overweight to 100 but these guys are generally insecure about their looks and feel they have no shot with guys their own age. The fact that the older guy can't believe his luck scoring a 25 year old and so treats them as if they were an Instagram model is a huge ego boost/turn-on for them

3. DADDY ISSUES: That's why they keep calling you "Daddy" -- bad relationship with their own father or he left them or died when they were young. They are turned on by older guys ... maybe a little too much.

4. GRIFTERS: They are expecting the older guy to take care of them and have usually had success convincing an older guy to provide them with some funding/

5. DOM TOPS: They know the older guys will do whatever they want and are usually grateful bottoms. They will frequently ask to bring along a friend or two or three.

r266 #6 gaysians

R266. I agree with your assessment. #5 is a little scary though. I have, thank God, never been asked by a younger guy if he could bring a friend or two along, that would be a real deal breaker as it would feel dangerous. I am versatile, but when a younger guy asks to fuck me, I usually don't say no, and I am always grateful for a job well done. I still believe it is a numbers game, if you are in a big city there are just more younger guys that fit in the 5 categories you described. Overall, the vast majority of younger guys don't want an older guy sexually. I was no different. The difference from when I was younger and now is that the apps make the connection between the older guys and the subset of Daddy hunters possible.

r266, sorry but you're full of shit. Most of the guys who contact me do not fall into any of your neat little categories.

I reject the assessment of R266 also. I don't put people in tiny little boxes, let alone young gay men. I think many jaded malcontents here are projecting a wee bit too. So many negative assumptions about potential sex partners may explain how unlucky many of you are.

I am not here to defend R266 but it seems that the 5 points he made were in a general sense. There is a kernel of truth in all of the examples. I feel Grindr is able to connect people together who would never find one another otherwise.

sexuality is fluid and often changing. attractions change. there's nothing strange about going through periods of being attracted to different types of people.

I've been growing more into them lately. Hot daddies at the Equinox steam room ... and that guy on the Mormon porn site. So hot. "President Oaks." Just wish his shoulders were broader, pecs more pumped, and pubes more closely trimmed.

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There's a 21 year old who won't leave me alone. I'm 58.

If you are in your 50s and in good shape, you are for some guys in their 20s a "fuckable Daddy" They are good for a one and done or once every now and then type of encounter. Enjoy it while you still have it. If you live in a big city like NYC or LA, these hook ups are more common than people realize, especially people in smaller venues.

[r 266] I cannot imagine what kind of shit you’ve experienced. I dumped grindr for a lot of reasons, but daddy chasers wasn’t one of them. And, I never had the experiences you cite.

What I get are: 1. Bottom curious. Mostly first timers, straight identifying but strongly interested in butt play. Prefer someone older, masculine, patient. Long conversations in advance focused on prostate play and orgasm. Then when they show up, it’s a lot of prep work and long sessions of up to 5 hours. Several of these guys become longtime play buds

2. Young guys attracted to older men. It’s a real thing, and there are a lot of younger men who genuinely do prefer older men. Not just the usual {age}+7 years . I get approached by guys who {my age}-50%+/-7 years. They generally are looking for the not quick fuck, someone who will actually talk with them and not just throw them out the door after sex. Nobody has every approached me for money.

3. Downlow. Yep, I get a lot of married men who seriously love sex with men. They’re a lot of fun and they are far and away the wildest in bed, generally wanting to try out every possible toy and after we’ve played a few times asking if I am open to double penetration or group scenes. Married men are often sexually adventurous, trust and safety are absolute priorities.

4. Wrong Ways. I’ve had a couple of guys who thought they wanted to try buttplay. It took vey little time to figure out they really wanted pegging and with a woman. You cannot imagine how relieved they were to not be judged, to find out this was a “real thing” and - with some play time to discover how much they enjoyed it. Several contacted me afterwards that they’d found a woman who was into the scene and it’s been a serious source of pleasure.

5. Men who Love Extra. My favorites, which are the rarest are the guys who really love giving oral . They’re the unicorns. When you present a challenge, it takes an unusual man who’s up for it and I’m a challenge for a lot of reasons. I’m pretty selfish when it comes to this.

54 here. Loads of youngsters 17-23 hit me up. At the bathhouse, I'm chased by several in the same age group.Athletic, salt'n'pepper hung. Ask them what they like and they say you're just hot. Best of all is they all want to dominate me! Heaven to be pounded by an energetic rock hard 20 year old.

The mormon porn guy is just gorgeous. The silver hair is an asset, but he would be unusually attractive at any age. I like that he isn’t a bodybuilder. I am really sick of the heavy-lifter standard. I don’t love that he does straight porn.

I love millennials. I think they started this trend.

For all of you guys In your 50s , if you are in good shape and in a big city and on Grindr (lots of qualifiers) you will get some sexy guys looking for a Daddy or whatever they want to call them. Only from time to time. It comes in waves. Today, I got a sexy, skinny young black guy still in college who likes a Daddy. He said he is versatile but really wants to Top a Daddy, if that would be ok with me. I am white and he seems attracted to my race as well, since he told me this as his preference.

Still, 95% of the younger guys on Grindr want someone their own age or close to it, unless there is money paid.

What's the best app to meet older guys? How is Mr. X?

Says guys over 50.

My experiences are very similar to R266 in terms of younger guys. I'd add out gay guys who are looking for an easy and discreet fuck are in there too-- by discreet, I mean I am unlikely to know any of their friends and so our hookup won't get back to the guy they were hoping would be boyfriend material, we're not going to run into each other at a party, etc.

R277 sounds like he's mostly discussing older guys and freaks.

[r284] If by older you mean “white guys in their 30s”, ok

49 here. Handsome, but chubby, though I do get a lot of exercise, so I'm a mix of muscle and chubbiness, what one lover called a musclechub. Live and work in Manhattan. I'm white, blond hair, blue eyed, and tall. Classic WASP.

Black and Hispanic guys of all ages have always hit on me, mainly cause I have major booty.

I'm supposed to have a hook-up with a 20-year-old tomorrow. Very cute, well-hung. He approached me. Also got hit up today by a former lover, a 6'4" Middle Eastern god with a 10" cock, and his main concern was that I looked like I'd lost too much weight since he last saw me!

So many in this thread are defensive about any older guy getting laid by younger studs. No need for that. The apps have made bars irrelevant (if not obsolete) for meeting people, and give everyone far more access and reach than ever before. There are so many possibilities, and so many preferences. Yes, I attract chubby chasers, but guess what? They don't want twinks. Or thin. It's just not attractive to them.

I have talked to some of the twentysomethings about why they go for older guys. It's not about money, as so many here want to believe. (There are those looking for sugar daddies, but they're usually upfront and specific about that.) The younger set often want someone older who's more mature and settled, less flaky. Not all want that, of course, but many do.

Finally, when I moved to NYC at 25, the AOL chat rooms exploded on the scene, and that's how I met a LOT of guys. We've all moved on to apps. Because technology has made the possibilities so much greater, there's pretty much something out there for everyone. Have at it.

OP, FUCK YEAH! I would give my ASSHOLE and MOUTH HOLE up for this 52 year old sex pot RIGHT HERE, Mr. Todd Barry!!!!!! He's funny, he's short, he's balding AAAANND he's a hoarder!!!! This man makes me laugh, sure he's worked for scum bags like Louis C.K. and Amy Schumer. I WILL GIVE HIM MY JUICY TIGHT LITTLE FUCK HOLE!

R286 is hilarious. Made my weekend.

R286 bars are better. You're dealing with the person face to face. Anyone can airbrush and or photo shop psycho eyes out.....but face to face you're seeing the full on crazy.

OP I'm 58 and I'm with you on this one. When I was in my 20s, you couldn't pay me money to hook up with anyone over 50. Well wait, I did once, for 20.00, but it was a one-shot thing, so it hardly counts. Thirty-five was about my max.

Thank God i aged well, just in time for the Daddy Movement. After a lifetime being clean-shaven, the goatee I grew after landing in the hospital for three days with a broken hip and no shaving accessories sealed the deal. Maybe we have the following we have because we take better care of ourselves?

Todd Barry. He's 5'6, he has a bit of a tummy....but just look at that face. I want his cock in my ass as I present HOLE.

Robert Redford and Kevin Costner. I would FUCK THE SHIT out of their antiquated assholes.

Cellino and Barnes. Injury attorneys. FUCK! I want Barnes to rough fuck my farthole then I want Cellino to hold me tenderly as he rubs his big fat Italian dick on my as Barnes SKULL FUCKS MY MOUTH!

***rubs his Italian dick on my ass AS Barnes (the bald one), SKULL FUCKS yada yada yada.

Ian McKellan and Patrick Stewart. ENGAGE YOUR STAFF UP MY ASS MEN!!!!!

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20 somethings are easy because they're horny all the time. Remember, fellow 50+s?

PAUL MOONEY (grey cap, black jacket) and that guy next to him who looks like GARY GNU (or a muppet) dick Gregory. I WANT ELDERLY TAG TEAM BBC!!!!!!!!!

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This. They're over 50. I'm really in2 old Asian men.

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DADDY FUCKERS!!!!!!!! YAAAAAAAS!!!!!!!!!

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PAPI MEAMS DADDY YOU IN SPANISH YOU STUPID WHITE PUTA!

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You all sound so stupid like the straight idiot men you cover BWWWWAAAAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! You sound like you are trying to impress a bunch of fucking random strangers lol! IF YOU HATE OLD, OKD AGE OR OLD PEOPLE get the fuck off the planet! You wanna die young? Fuck you sound like retards.

If you block that one insane troll, about 12 posts disappear.

Yes, guys in their 20s are instantly hard and horny all the time. And there are quite a few of them who are not at all bothered by the age difference. Whatever the reason is--and I don't care what the reason is--I'm happy for that.

The problem is when they want to hang with you. Of course they do. They are young. They have no concept of age. Their friend circles and mine don't match.

The only option is to be a sugar daddy and entertain him and his friends on your yacht.

Just spent the day texting with a 23 yr old. He wants to fuck me but most of all eat my ass. Life is good, peeps. (He is hot too.)

R327 these guys fuck anything you aint special

Were you like that at 23 r328?

Ignoredar reveals that OP/R327 has a VERY vested interest in this thread.

Draw your own conclusions.

Do tell, r330, what conclusions have you drawn?

R331 you are a big boasting slut whore

It is good to know someone over 50 is getting a steady diet of cock. I am sure that it makes a difference where you live. A hot man in some small Nebraska town is not going to do as well as he would otherwise living in LA, SF, or NYC.

I am 54 and have been dating a guy who is 28 years old. The first few weeks I had to keep getting reassurance that he was really into older guys. After he told me that he got in trouble at 13 for hitting on his father's co-worker I relaxed. He really has been into older men from the beginning. He even admits that his attraction for older guys is not mainstream but he accepts it, so why shouldn't I?

7 things Daddies should never say to twentysomethings:

R334. I am hoping for the same.

Any good daddy porn where the guys don't look like nursing home escapees?

Stop speculating that young boys like older men because of some nefarious deceit hidden in their approach. Maybe some do, but I bet they're in the minority. I always liked older guys. They've been my fetish since I was a kid and now that I'm in my 60's they still are and, yes, whilst I have a limit -around 75- I wouldn't kick a handsome 80 year old off my bed. I'm much happier hooking up with an older guy because they're usually more graceful, have less hang-ups and are generally more civilized. And at my age, if the equipment fails, they totally understand that this is a normal thing for men our age. Plus, I hate being called Daddy when the intention is to pretend I fathered the other guy. Older guys don't usually call me that, but when they do, it's like "You fucking hot daddy", not in a childlike moan that seems to say "Oh, pop, you finally love me, you do".

If you use Grindr and filter out the guys looking for cash, it is possible to find some younger men who are into a mature Daddy type. It helps if you are in shape Daddy

Sorry, old queens. Not even endless amounts of whirlybirds and jackhammers is going to make Guys Over 50 happen as sex objects.