When guys block you on Grindr

Not everyone goes for fat, ugly turds who are aged 80+. You are a zero looking for a 10. Stop that!

"when I sent my pic, he blocked me."

Just a little cock-blocking.

I think there’s a lot of catfishing that goes on on these sites. Probably stealing your pics to use as someone else.

[quote] When I messaged him today, it was clear he didn't remember me and when I sent my pic, he blocked me. WTF?

Maybe he is just not into stalkers?

I agree with R3.

Either way, I never give a shit if someone blocks me. I block a lot of people that I'm just not interested in, to save everyone time. I don't always mean it in a mean way, it's just if I know we're not going to hook up, then it also frees up more screen space.

Many guys just use it to chat and get off, but no intention to hook up. When it goes on too long...they block and move on. I'm one of those guys...

Grindr is for kids

I will NOT be IGNORED!!!

Sometimes I sign in just to block..

The entire vibe of online socializing, fucking, whatever, encourages people to be excessively choosy and fickle and rude. Welcome to Millennial dating, OP.

I'm more offended by lack of response than being blocked....

OP, it offends me sometimes but then I realize it just wasn't meant to happen if it didn't happen. Fuck that guy--you can do better.

You shouldn't "do better," R12. According to research, the reason why people don't score more often online is because they are seeking people who are out of their league.

Personally, I think you're putting yourself at risk specifically with Grindr. There were the usual idiots who respond with sweeping generalizations, but they're twatwaffles.

Here's the specific problem. Grindr implements xmpp protocol under the hood. This means anyone, anywhere can create an account and if they know xmpp apis can map the location, profile and pictures of every Grindr user. This is implemented in xmpp as a server side feature that cannot be disabled by the user, just the visibility to the user in the app.

This is how extremist governments locate and arrest gay men. Applications like Fukr demonstrate how easily Grindr's user data is exposed. Setting aside Grindr's comarketing of user's HIV and private data to its marketing partners, Grindr's poor security makes it simple to identify HIV positive, transgender, and any userwith a set of profile characteristics that make them a target for crime and locate them on a map,

R13 that was a study for straights and it never described how they figured who was more attractive than someone else to be "out of their league".

OP he probably never had any intention of hooking up with you. If I talk to a guy we exchange emails or WhatsApp to chat off of Grindr if it's serious. If it's not serious I keep it on Grindr. And there's also catfishing.0

He was playing games with you OP.

I block and get blocked all the time. No big deal. People are not real on Grindr until the point where you exchange actual phone numbers.

Grindr is never as transparent as it seems.

Dating apps are just a game, stop taking it too serious.

So here's the thing: this guy and I had exchanged numbers. We had messaged and texted for a couple of days and made plans to meet and everything. This was a couple of months ago. Then I had to leave town for work for a while. When I came back, I messaged him and he blocked me. I find it bizarre!

It's bizzare that you can't let this go.

If you really need an explanation... Presuming he hasn't genuinely forgotten you, he probably didn't believe you and thought your story about having to leave town for work was just a pretext not to meet. Did you text him at all between then and now?

Grindr norms are not real world norms.

From what you said in r20, maybe he thinks you are a flake & were lying about going out of town. He might not have been that into you to begin with, and then when you disappeared for a month and came back - he was just like fuck this guy. That's my guess.

Catfishing + general trolling OP

There was a period when it first launched when it was a useful app that made it easy to hook up quickly with a minimum of hassle.

About two-three years ago it jumped the shark and you got a whole lot of pic-collectors and guys using fake pics who just wanted to cyber and get off rather than actually meet.

R10, quite a few gay men are “excessively choosey, fickle and rude”, whether online or in a bar.

Barebacking has partly killed the gay hook up app phenomenon.

How so R27? Are there bareback apps I'm unaware of or are people just way more hesitant now that all the "But I Swear I'm On Prep" guys only want to bareback?

[quote]When guys block you on Grindr

One moves on. Unlike you.

Looks like Freak Fuck John figured out how to download apps.

r28 the bareback app / site is called BBRTS

But most of the guys on grindr these days are "neg on prep" meaning they won't use condoms. If you are not into bb sex, then you won't find anyone to hook up with.

I went to a cruisy park last night. Not many young men have bothered gracing us with their finery in recent years. But there were at least half a dozen last night and you could see their glowing phones, as they slunk around and leaned against lamp posts and trees, they were frequently checking their phones. I know one so I commented and discovered they were on Grindr. Meanwhile, a tall slim handsome 40ish guy had sniffed his nose at me twice and I told my young friend, "Put your phone away and go say hi to that man over there, he's waiting for you." "But I can't see him in the dark. What's he like?" "He's fine, he's handsome I know he wants you. He's waiting for you." This was all disappointing, that these generations don't understand how to cruise in real life. I mean who goes to bars and FUCK PARKS for God's Sake, for sex, and self-sabotages like this. "I don't know maybe." He makes a very distant circle by the tall man and comes back to me. "What's he like I can't see." "Honey he's fine now you go over there and say hi and touch your dick or his, which I think is already on display and large" "Really?!" "Please go now, and say one word, and you'll either get him or won't but just go, please." I left and circled by later and my young friend spent a least 30 minutes savoring that youngish daddy's cock.

Sheesh!

The problem with cruisy parks is cops, isn't it? I got a "speeding ticket" for going in and out of one that had a 5 MPH sign posted behind a tree. I never even left my car. I just did one quick circle out of curiosity & there were only 2 people there.

The thing is, the guy who gave me the ticket was with the park service, and not a real cop. So, I didn't have to pay anything legally. But I did have to give my drivers license and now my name is on a list somewhere. Hooray.

Europe. No harassment.

I have a fuckbuddy whose profile I no longer see on growlr. But when I go to messages I see he's on. Has he blocked me? Or just turned off the distance thing.

And he is still fucking you? Important piece of missing information.

Yes. We are open about fucking other people too.

Maybe it's a top vs bottom thing R31, but I have not gotten that much pushback when I tell them there's no way I'm fucking them without a condom on. When they ask why, I tell them because only a moron believes some random guy on an app who probably isn't using his real name when he says he's taking PREP regularly. (Though it seems there are indeed a whole lot of morons.)

He blocked you because you didn't acknowledge your previous faux romance. You went out of town, came back, and seemed to pretend it was a whole new encounter.

Could be r38. I am more vers and I won't do it either way without a condom, but the last 5 (?) years of PrEP + condomless porn have made people absolutely refuse to have sex with one. I actually met a guy in person who was really my type & we were making out & sucking each other off for half an hour - but he refused to be fucked with a condom. It was so bizarre. How is it THAT different?

If I'm bottoming, it doesn't matter to me if the top uses a condom or not. (I'm on PrEP) But condemns are instant dick wilters for me, so if I top it's got to be bb.

R39 there was no romance. But I did go out of the country for a longish while. But we'd hooked up a couple of times after that.

He may have been interested a few months ago when you were originally texting. He’s probably moved on to other hookups and lost interest by this point.

Also, he likely assumed you were a flake when you “went out of town” for an extended period of time.

Gay drama

[quote]Gay drama

Are you new here?

I do that sometimes. Usually it’s because we’ve had a long chat even though I’m not interested. Just being polite. Hard for me to say “not interested” since I hate hearing it myself. So,after a while I just block. Easier than saying no.

[Quote]"I recommend that people spend less time browsing profiles ... and more time meeting people for a cup of coffee or a pint of beer."

Or also going to bathhouses and cruise spots, r13.