Have you ever rejected anyone who asked you out on a date? Has anyone rejected you?

You're going through life like this? It takes NO courage to reject someone you don't want to date. Its honest and efficient and kind. Your headline makes no sense. Everyone (except you, Wanda Wallflower) has said no thanks and also been told no thanks, or worse.

Yes and yes.

Your question, OP, indicates that you're really 14 years old.

OP, if you had such a strong reaction to your coffee friend trying not to lead you on or hurt your feelings, perhaps dating isn't for you (at least right now). Many relationships go through rough patches and, sometimes, even long term partners break up. You don't sound like you're ok enough to deal with some of the possibilities that you might encounter.

Take time for yourself, OP. Wait until you know your own value, no matter who rejects you, so you can stay mentally healthy in or out of a relationship.

As long as they've got the cash in hand, my policy was to welcome all invitations.

It's never fun to reject someone or be rejected. I got over being rejected a long time ago. You can't be everyone's cup of tea. I've been on both ends. When I'm not interested in someone, it usually has more to do with chemistry than anything. I've had good looking guys I've turned down because there was no chemistry and average looking guys I wound up dating because there was something there.

I do think honesty is the best policy. I was partnered for 13 years, then suddenly single for 9 years. The cowardice of people not being able simply to say, sorry, I don't see a match, or something equally polite but clear was hilarious. I was always up front and honest if I wasn't interested, but always polite. I only had one guy who threw a fit. He was a complete asshole about my rejecting him, although I did it politely. He went on about how he'd dated guys much hotter than me, so who did I think I was? When he was finished with his rant, I told him any bad feelings I had about rejecting him were now gone as he revealed he was a major jerk.

The toughest rejection was a guy I went on four dates with. On the fourth one, I could tell something was wrong. I pried it out of him and he admitted he "just wasn't feeling it." I felt pretty bad for a few days, but I soon got over it. I saw him at a bar about year later and thought, "What was I so upset about?" Rejection stings for all of us, but it eventually goes away.

Op here--I'm telling you all a story from 20 years ago. yes, I was young and inexperienced, which is why it hurt so much then.

I definitely takes courage to reject someone, particularly if you want people to like you. If you have no self-esteem issues, it's easy.

I was recently told by someone that they didn't see themselves marrying me. This was after many years of them texting me constantly when I wouldn't respond back, them coming back to me after many months apart, and overall, them never seeming ready to let me go.

Out of all my rejections, this one hurts the most because there were times when he was legit obsessed with me.

He's going to come back again. I know it. But this time, it will be me rejecting him.

R9, maybe he was more interested when you were hard to get

I prefer to just laugh in their face and walk off.

Works for all situations.

I hate rejecting people--absolutely detest it, particularly when the guy seems nice enough but I just don't feel a spark.

I always feel it kills a budding friendship

I've never had the courage to ask anyone out or otherwise indicate an attraction to someone. You can probably guess what my life is like.

I was in the closet so long, I never learned how to date properly. The closet really stunts emotional growth

It's very tough. I've been on both sides. I hate having to reject guys, especially if they're nice. I've had to do it maybe 3 times after a few dates. I always felt bad, because it was usually a day or two after we had sex for the first time and the rejection wasn't always about that necessarily, but I'm sure it seemed that way. Sometimes, you just have to let them know that there's no spark and there's no sense in wasting each other's time.

On the other hand, I've been ghosted a few times by guys I thought I could see a future with. Neither of them I ended up having sex with. It never got that far.

I think the worst rejection I ever got was a from a guy I'd been seeing for close to a year. We were fuck buddies of a sort and he was seeing other guys all the time, but he kept saying he didn't want a relationship, because he would be moving within the next 2 years due to med school and, at the time, it made sense. I wasn't too bothered, but he'd told me that, if we were to be in a relationship, it would be with me. I thought that was very sweet and, sure enough, I began falling for him. Twice during our run he called things off because he'd met someone amazing who he could see himself in a relationship with. These relationships usually lasted a few weeks tops and then he was back to me again.

We'd started seeing each other multiple times a week and everything was excellent until one day when I texted him asking about plans for the week and he said that the past few weeks had started to feel like an obligation and that he should be having sex with me because he wanted to, not because he felt obligated to. I was stunned and couldn't even respond. I mean, what does someone say to that? He moved away, I got into a serious relationship, I hadn't heard from him in over a year or so, and I ended up getting engaged. Guess who ends up texting me that night? He was trying to pass it off as something more causal, but I'm still weirded out by the timing. I think there had to have been some other reason why he did that.

[QUOTE]Have you ever rejected anyone who asked you out on a date? Has anyone rejected you?

Constantly. I'm used to it. What does bother me is when a sex worker or escort refuses to have sex with me even after I've given them my credit card number.

Years ago, pre-internet, there were “rejection hotline” numbers in various major area codes. If you were hit on at a club, you could give out your number. When called, they’d be informed that’d they were being rejected.