Dating guys who don't drive

Drive him home from where?

A lot of old gays do not drive.

No,no I wouldnt.How do you not own a car?

Only if I lived in a city with great public transport. I prefer to avoid driving myself

It's a matter of how into him you are and how into him he thinks you are, OP.

I've dated a few guys who don't have a car and I have to drive us everywhere. DON'T go there! Even trying to get some gas money out of them is an ordeal. No more non-drivers for me. I've had enough of being a chauffeur.

People such as this take advantage of you after awhile and think nothing of it. You're wise to be wary of him.

No way. Make him take the bus home. He's freeloading off you OP.

R6 still single?

You will never make a couple with anyone unless you can easily find a compromise on such time and money issues.

Depends on why he doesn't own a car. If there were a legitimate reason (and yes, since I'm doing the chauffeuring, I get to judge what is and isn't legitimate), then perhaps.

It would make a huge difference in how he approached it. If he acknowledged it was a burden and attempted to do something nice for me (hey, let me make you dinner at my place since you're always driving me home), it would go a long way.

What you have to keep an eye on is certain behaviors which are leading indicators of other less desirable qualities. Does he use it as a weapon (if you don't drive me, then I can go out tonight). Does he attempt to use guilt. Does he expect you to drive him as if he were entitled to the service. These are all warning signs of a user.

It's hell.

There are a lot of guys saying they are engineers but they look like such bimbos.

I don't drive, because I live in a city with great public transit. When I meet people, if transit doesn't go there, then I Uber. I do not expect anyone else to be my ride. Occasionally some friend will insist that they pick me up, or take me home, and that's fine. But, as a rule, I'm responsible for my own transportation.

If he's an engineer and single, he can't take a taxi or uber? delete.

The guy I am seeing works at a university and makes good money, I drive but he never expects me to drive him anywhere. He does not see taking the bus as déclassé as I do. If we have to go somewhere, Costco or a restaurant, then I don't mind driving.

[quote]He does not see taking the bus as déclassé as I do. If we have to go somewhere, Costco

LOL

Costco is piss elegant, R16

OP, the next time he wants you to drive him home, tell him that you'll just meet him there.

I don’t drive. And I ride my bike. Also take the train, and when the bus is handy, then so be it.

Those who insist on driving are odd

R17 He is jewish, so loves the cheap stuff. I see Costco as very déclassé. I would never shop there. He once tried to offer me nacho chips that were 6 months expired! I was like WTF!

He's going to bury you early, in a pine coffin R19, and live off your money.

Driving is hard

I got rid of my car a few years ago bc I never used it. I take the bus and Lyft and bike a lot. It was a thoughtful decision on my part.

People who don't drive are fitter

R22 ooooh sexy, any pics of you in spandex with a big bulge?

Maybe he is hung like this guy.

Where do you live---I live in DC and it's pretty common here. Chicago lakefront it would be normal. Ditto NYC & Boston. Atlanta--would be odd.

R26, I live on Chicago Lakefront and have a car.

r25 is that bulge real?!

Colbert is known to have a huge cock and balls.

It really depends on where you live. I guess if you lived in NYC, it's not a big deal. Where I live (Ohio), it's definitely a big deal. There are only a few neighborhoods in my city where you might be able to live comfortably without a car. It's all about context.

OP, if he hasn't done or offered the following things in return for your being gracious enough for hauling his ass around town: taken you out to eat at a nice restaurant, sprung for pizza delivered to your place with him maybe giving you a blowjob while you wait for it to be delivered, money for gas, washing your car or any other inside/outside task that needs to be done, your option is to suddenly appear way too busy to be able to play chauffeur any more. It's ass for gas, not smiles for miles.....

Yeah, if you're off the beaten path you have to drive. If he's off the beaten path, he can take the bus. It will give him plenty of time to think about your tired set of sex moves, your poor housekeeping skills, and that tuft of hair growing in the middle of your taint.

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You guys realize this is a 0/10 EST, right m?

"Dating guys who don't drive"

In addition to learning one's Credit Score, this, too, should be part of the "DL Dating Vetting Process."

I have a friend who only bikes. He is saving the earth of course he calls me to take him everywhere. When I am not available he uses uber...I mean wtf.

R31 is a pimp and has 19 negresses working for him who he regularly beats up. ...ass for gas, no smiles for miles. Indeed. R33 choke on a huge black cock, cunt. Most people drive or take the bus. Most people are not a Grand Canyon sized cunt like you.

I only date guys who skateboard!

Pogo sticks would also be acceptable however, if I ever found one.

Don't laugh. It couldbe.

R36 is a reminder that this site really draws the mentally ill

r34 that sounds like its own thread. It might go the way of the pasta draining, though, I hesitate to create it.

R40 An anonymous site filled with diseased, putridly vile cunts like you. Quelle surprise.

@R41 . . .

You are out of line, R36

I've always had cars/trucks wherever I've lived, rebuilt engines & can drive a stick :) (Washington, San Francisco, LA) I love driving abroad, especially the autobahn around Berlin. In LA I thought it was a little odd that this new guy I was seeing didn't have a car, but it wasn't a problem for the most part. I moved to a place on Dolorosa Avenue in Woodland Hills and assumed that I'd really not see him so much; one night during a torrential storm he appeared at my door because he wanted to surprise me & had taken the bus all the way out & then hiked from Ventura Boulevard! We've been together 36 years now & are happy in our place out here in the country (Santa Clarita) where I still do all the driving . . . I found out after some time that he has PTSD as a result of recovering his brother's body after a particularly nasty car accident on 9th & Alvarado before we met. He's especially considerate to me if I take him to medical appointments, etc., & will frequently treat me to dinner among other things . . . we've travelled extensively, and for us it's not really an issue.

R45 Good that you are still together. I cannot imagine being without a car in LA.

r36=fat, smelly white guy who doesn't drive, never got the hang of "key in ignition" let alone the wherewithal to even purchase a car and couldn't bum a ride if his worthless life depended on it. Negresses, WTF........

R47 Janbot is triggered. Stay pressed, hunty.

"A lot of old gays do not drive."

But we always make it to the Piggly Wiggly for our Memory Mints.

People who don't have cars have no idea how much money it costs for the upkeep of a car, certainly including gas (which I have to get tomorrow).

Having been in the situation in which Op is in, you're better to date a man who also has a car and that way you're on equal ground right away.

R50 Agreed. As much as I hate taking public transit, I am willing to spend the money for the privilege of driving, spending hundreds on oil changes, parking, gas, insurance. It is a privilege to drive not a right.

Losers who take the bus should only be with other losers who are bussing it.

Agree that non-drivers often fit the profile of entitled users who expect others to pick up the tab for their life choices.

I wouldn't want to date OP.

How much do you enjoy being with him? How hot is the sex?

If you're questioning that you're being used I guess it is not very much.

So there's your answer.

A lot of younger people are choosing never to buy cars. They Uber if they need to go far, bike or mass transit at other times. The same rules of losers don't apply anymore. They also never got sucked into buying cable.

I am actually thinking about getting rid of my car, I cut the cable last year and I really dont drive that much. Uber and Lyft have never failed me. If I need to go cross country or a very long road trip I can always rent a car. No repairs, gas, insurance or car payments.

In 20 years you will be laughing at this post OP. Self driving cars will be in the mainstream by then and owning a car will be the equivalent of having a black and white TV.

It depends, OP. I don’t mind dating a guy who doesn’t have his own car, as long as he doesn’t expect me to drive him everywhere.

I never drove when living in NYC, and I took public transportation for 2 years while living in LA. I did, however, take an Uber, if I needed to go somewhere that was less than accessible via public transportation.

If a person doesn’t drive because they are horrible at managing their money, then the problem that I’d eventually have with that partner is their lack of discipline with cash. If a person doesn’t drive because they simply do not want a car, yet are responsible with their finances, I don’t mind. And btw, I don’t mind dating someone who isn’t making tons of money. I do mind, however, someone who is irresponsible with their income, because that eventually trickles into the relationship, in a variety of ways that I’m not into.

OP should break his car and try public transportation for a month. There's nothing quite like sitting on ghost dick in a train car full of unhappy folks.

The worst part of public transportation is that it’s public. Have you ever had to jump on a subway, or bus, with a homeless guy who has passed out drunk, but not before pissing, and/or shitting himself?

The worst part about that is that you have no idea that the train or bus reek like the bowels of hell, until you jump on, and suddenly, the odor hits you like a ton of bricks. You can demand do be let off by approaching the bus driver, but not so with a train.

I once got on the last bus going into work, and sat next to a woman who decided it was the PERFECT time to whip out some nail polish, and give herself a manicure, while she simultaneously passed gas that competed competently with the smell of nail polish. That was the last straw, and I got myself a car, soon after.

I thought that I could live car free, and save some money, but it just wasn’t worth the hassle in the end.

I become mentally ill after a few weeks without a car.

I'm sure we've met on the bus, R61. You look pretty today.

Taking a job in a place where you have to have a car changed my life for the worst.

But even here, more and more people are getting rid of their cars and switching to Uber.

[quote]sitting on ghost dick

????

R64, ghost dick is when your sphincter and colon brag to the rest of your body that they got used, bruised, and abused. Of course, your dick has to whine that it's too sensitive and needs to be left alone forever and this time he really means it unless it's to pee. We're all down for a good pee.

Anyway, it's mental entertainment for public transportation.

I own a scooter that I can use. Between the bike, public transit and ubers I've been happily car free for a couple years now. The savings has made for more vacations.

Biking is generally for the young. I'm sick of seeing a hot guy get off a bike and then come into smelling range reeking of sweat & BO. Total dick wilter.

R67 Plus the smell of sweaty ass from their slutty spandex.

Ass smell from spandex! Gross.

Ryan Gosling does not Drive.

LOL.

Where do you live OP?

If he fills up your tank now and then why not. He could uber or use the "bird"

OP = Miss Daisy

R67, fuck off

Indeed.

In Denver, I can't imagine not having a car but there are tons of people here who bike to work and then rely on uber to get around in the evening if need be. It's sort of a cult, like being a vegan and having ill-advised tattoos.

Vegans are disgusting.

Why, r77? Don't they drive?

Eat shit. This thread is deader than what's between your 80 year old legs.

R70 Hahahahahahahhahahahha.

I know an SF couple who don't drive. They get around by public transport in the city easily, but if there's something to do away from BART it MUNI then it's " When can you pick me up?" or "But if you don't drive us, we won't be able to go!" etc.

They're too cheap to spring for a rental car or Uber, so I finally started being honest with them about how much of an inconvenience it was to pick them up. After I told them that picking them up would add an hour to the trip each way for me, and that I was sorry that I just couldn't fit that into my schedule, they stopped taking my chauffering services for granted.

R58 you sound like a great person.

OP you sound like a snob. Taking public transportation is declasse? Grow up.

I know plenty of people in Chicago who don't have a car. I do, but it doesn't get used that much & the expense is really not worth it. Add up the parking space, insurance, maintenance, monthly payment, gas, IL & Chicago registrations, and parking in any city lot... it's a ton of money.

When I used to take the El in the winter to commute, I would constantly get sick. When I started driving instead, I never got sick. That thing is a Petri dish. Plus, in the winter, you stand on the platform outside freezing to death waiting for the stupid train for 10-15 min.

I take the bus when I take my car into the shop. One time I thought I heard luggage banging around and it was a guy slamming another guys head into the wall/window. People started rushing to the front screaming. I’ve also seen people obviously high as a kite. but it runs often and where I need to go so it’s cheaper and more convenient than Uber which I’ve used when out of town. I know a gay couple who sold their cars and use car share by the hour. They save $900 a month driving the same amount as b4.

I dated a guy who had to take the bus because of too many DUIs. He was blue collar, hot as fuck so I didn't mind. But his alcoholism got to be a problem.

Driving is so 20th century. Go Green, dudes! Or WALK !!

OMFG. Lol.

If he takes Lyft everywhere and doesn't ask me to drive him, I'm fine with it

Gurl, if you are letting a car get between you and some good dick you don't deserve him.

As somebody pointed out the dick is obviously not good enough if he has these questions about being used.

Otherwise he'd be 'Use me!'

Amazing what you old girls will do for a little bit of dick, lol.

DTMA.

Hilarious.

Guys who don't drive are scum. Everyone knows that.

Take the bus, op. He may drop you?

You might just say, I don't feel like driving you all the time. Get a car and take lessons. I did.

[quote]Guys who don't drive are scum. Everyone knows that.

Spoken like a person who lives in Kansas. Try living in NY, DC or Boston.

I've had a car and I've not had a car.

When I've not had a car and someone gave me a ride, I would try to compensate in some way (pick up the lunch tab, etc.).

At least the OP is dating an adult! At first I thought this might be about dating someone who was too young to have a driver's license.

So, we're supposedly concerned about the environment, then willing to ditch someone who doesn't drive?

[quote]r68 ...their slutty spandex...

quit bitching and be glad you found someone who can stand being around you.

Verificatia?

The fact that someone doesn't drive would never be a deal breaker. But a guy intentionally using me as his form of transport would definitely be a deal breaker. I do not like to be tied down to someone else's routine.

R99 you disgusting pedophile. Get off the site.

I live in a city and have a car. Sometimes I will leave the car and take a taxi, or now, über, because it’s too much trouble to find parking upon returning home. I rarely take the subway as it isn’t really convienent and is slower than crawling. I don’t know how the busses work. I should probably learn, but, no, I never will.

So, I would never date someone who lives outside the city. Actually, not even outside the Gayborhood. I did meet a guy from the suburbs who is 25 years younger and strangely into me, but he has to drive in. About the car: if a guy lived nearby, sure I would. Not if he lived far away, though.

I live in a city and don’t have a car. It might limit where I go in the suburbs but I get everywhere I need to pretty nicely, thanks.

The suburban lifestyle of large lawns and meandering streets far from practical shopping is anathema to me

[quote]The suburban lifestyle of large lawns and meandering streets far from practical shopping is anathema to me

I agree. The idea of being out in these suburban-type places where anything you do you have to get behind the wheel of the car sounds like torture to me.

OP, your guy probably lost his license due to too many DUIs. I would stay away.

Play “hard to get”

Driving sucks anywhere today, do not judge him on that alone. If all is well let it go .

Guys who don't drive = lazy bottoms

Guy who drive = massive assholes

I dated a guy once who didn't have a car and didn't even know how to drive. I didn't regard him as a keeper, I felt like his parent.

I grew up in SF and always had a car even though I relied heavily on public transportation to get to work downtown. I always had small economical cars for easier parking and low gas mileage costs. Once, when my car was in the shop I had to get from Lake St to out in the avenues of the Sunset District. It took me 2 hours to get there (had to transfer) in what would have been a 15 minute drive.

Unless you're in a big city with easy public transport people who don't drive can be a real pain in the ass for their friends.

OP thinks she's ms uber and deserves to get paid for any and all things. I'm an epileptic that makes good money, I don't drive by choice.

So, OP, you finally have the excuse you’ve been searching for, to dump him. Just cut the crap and tell the truth. You’re either afraid of a relationship or he’s not good enough for you. You want someone perfect and that’s impossible. You’ll keep searching for someone you’ll never find and you’ll wind up old, alone and bitter.

Furthermore, why are you so damned petty? Who cares if you pick him and drop him off? Is this causing a financial crises by doing so? Spare me that it’s a matter of principle. If so, then why do you do this?

Also, you state he’s beginning to expect it. Of course he is because you’ve picked him up and dropped off over the past months. Open your mouth and tell him how you feel. The reason you haven’t is because you’ll look selfish and petty, which you are. He might stop dating you. Since you don’t want that to happen, you haven’t said anything to him. A rejection will be a blow to your pride.

You really want the power to stop dating him first. That way, you’ll maintain your pride and proclaim to everyone that you can’t find a good man for a relationship.

I once dated a guy who didn’t drive. But I like driving and had a nice car at the time, so it worked out fine.

I also liked having more control over where we went, what time we left, and not having to wait for him to show up somewhere since I was picking him up.

Not driving is one thing. Expecting you to give him rides is different . Meet somewhere in the middle. He’s an adult. He can Uber like the rest of us.

R116 stick a fresh tampon in that cunt mouth of yours.

R119, are you OP?

Ooooh snap.

Why do people care about driving so much? I get everywhere I need to be on time without driving.

What city do you live? Is there awesome transit?

I do not drive. I used to. I lost my license due to some bad decisions, and when I attempted to go through the process of getting it back I would suffer anxiety attacks when sitting behind the wheel. My partner does drive, but I regularly fill the gas tank and don't expect him to take me to any of my personal appointments or my job. I take public transportation or use ride shares. We recently moved to the burbs, and I have been considering trying again. I understand my partner doesn't like to drive all the time, and we need to drive now to run errands and such (we lived downtown before and could walk everywhere). It scares the shit out of me. It has been 15 years since I was behind the wheel of a car, and the entitlement I see on the road now scares me more than anything else. For the OP, if your partner doesn't understand they are a burden and doesn't provide compensation for your time, it's time to move on. They are using you.

Each individual owning a car is one of those delusions that has ruined our environment.

I used to drive when I lived in more rural areas. It’s a must in small towns or places like Los Angeles where it’s really just a cluster of famous suburbs smattered about. But when I moved to Seattle I stopped and sold my car. Didn’t feel the need for it anymore. Moved back to northern Cali and still don’t need a car. I just rent if I need wheels. No big deal. It’s not for everyone, though.

So true.

When I started dating my BF, he didn't have a car. He took the bus everywhere (and had 3 jobs). So I'd drive my Dad's car to see him. I'd drive so I could see him, since I fell (really badly) for him. It was just normal for us. I totalled my Dad's car on I-75 one night, driving us back from dinner, but my Dad still let me use his car. Years later, my BF had a car (a Honda something) and drove us many times, but I was always nervous when he was at the wheel. Later on, I drove him in for Lasik surgery. As we drove back to his house, he started reading the street signs. Apparently, he hadn't been able to read them before. Now that I've had health issues, he's been driving me to most of my doctors' appointments. I'm too scared to drive some days.. But he's never afraid. He's feisty.