R45, and others, on this thread - I’d like to explain something about the early onset of addiction and alcoholism.
From what I understand, Depp’s been drinking since the age of 11. Not sure if this is correct, but this is what I’ve heard.
If this is true, then Johnny stopped developing emotional maturation, at this age.
I started partying after I turned 17. Fortunately for me, I loved school, and loved learning, so even though I was partying, I was educated enough to admit to myself that I had a major problem, by the age of 23.
When I got sober, it became exceedingly clear to me that I lacked emotional maturity, and had zero coping mechanisms available to me, other than my previous abuse of drugs and alcohol.
Learning to become a “grownup “, took some time, and admittedly, still ongoing. Even though I’m sober, there are times that I just want to isolate, and retreat, especially when circumstances around me, get deep.
I’ve been in therapy, and have stayed sober since my relapse. Because I got sober early on, and have been sober for most of my life, I have most of the basics down. I get up early, I go to work everyday while on summer break, I go to school, I study, do my homework, pay my bills, etc. Shit everybody does or has done. But when shit hits the fan, as it has recently for me, I am still not 100% OK. I’m much, much better than before, but I do catch myself behaving like my 17 year old self, plenty of times.
For me, alcoholism was a way to deal with the justified anger I carried around , because I was raised by a mentally ill, abusive mother. My childhood was hell, as a result of living with her, and I stuffed that down as far as possible, because this is what my mother, and her enablers, taught me to do. That right there, is NOT my fault.
So Johnny is dealing with anger. Depression is brain chemistry that is inherited, and environmental in the development of the brain. It’s obvious that he had a very dysfunctional childhood, and he’s punishing himself for shit that others were responsible for.
The reason why it’s so difficult for people to get sober, and stay sober, is because all of the narratives that were built in one’s mind, have to be deconstructed. Erasing the old tapes, as they say. Admitting that people who were supposed to love you, fucked you over, is not easy to digest. The truth really does hurt here. However, it’s necessary to get to the bare bones, in order to have a fighting chance, and to rebuild.
Getting sober, hopefully affords one the opportunity to compartmentalize what goes where. Once you know who the toxic people are in your life, and what behaviors within yourself, trigger self harm, you are able to draw boundaries, and own your own part in your self harm, and accept complete responsibility for yourself.
I think that Johnny is terrified of growing up, and being alone. He’s definitely lonely, but being alone, is too much to bear. When you get sober, and get your shit together, you realize that everyone is actually really alone. No matter who’s around, we are all responsible for our own choices, and how we deal with conflict.
He will either get into a long term rehab, and get rid of all of his enablers, or he’ll die an alcoholic death, which isn’t pretty.