Where to Move?

If you move to a small town and there is only one bakery you might not be able to get yo cake made.

I'd move to a college town, with a big city within reach.

R2 Good idea!

Whats Bloomington IN like?

Wow no responses jeez

Shville's the hot new place.

Madison, WI

You could make some money while you're at it, OP.

OP, I am 38 as well and all I have wanted to do for the last 5 years is leave Los Angeles and move to a small town. Funny enough I was thinking about Vermont but I am not sure if I can handle that kind of winter again. It's a difficult and never ending question of where to move. I also enjoy legal marijuana, so that narrows it down even more. Gay friendly + legal weed= very limited choices.

OP, if you are the Wigglyville CumDump I am afraid the supply of cock is limited in small towns.

Is warm weather a must?

Key West Florida perhaps? It is supposed to have a small town feel. So does Charleston SC

I thought VT was one of those places where they hate outsiders.

Athens, GA

I know it’s not exactly a medium size city but a friend suggested Sacramento. Any thoughts?

Same here R9, and OP. I’m in Minneapolis and feel like I’ve done the city to death, burned bridges, and more. Everyone is coupled. I’m single and may move to Palm Springs. I feel like the PNW is a good candidate too. So.. you are saying you feel like you’ll have a better chance of meeting people in a smaller progressive town? I’d avoid Indiana completely. I’m trying to find remote work myself, it would be ideal.

R16 Yeah it seems that way. Seems like everyone I know lately met their partner in small towns. Plus I’m just tired of the traffic and the overall hassle of big cities. Friends have mentioned Chapel Hill, Asheville etc. I couldn’t do Palm Springs to be honest it’s way too gay for me I need a bit of a mix of people. I’m in the middle of making a list of cities to visit. I can work remote and spend at least 6 to 7 days or longer in each place and feel the overall vibe.

We're just retired & thinking about leaving LA for Spokane, New Braunfels/San Antonio, or Ashville--at the moment we're excited about Asheville because of four seasons, proximity to Washington/NYC/Europe.

R17 I felt that way about Palm Springs OP. It's totally out of touch with reality. It's a sex party full of guys over 60.

Based on my travels Nashville - love it Asheville - OK a bit overrated Ann Arbor - too cold Charleston and Savannah - too backward outside the city Columbus - HOT guys

Where are you looking? Do you want seasons?

r4, Bloomington has turned into a real shithole. It is crawling with homeless and drug addicts. It used to be very liberal due to the university but, being Indiana, it is becoming more conservative every year. There are plenty of rednecks. Every big box store and chain restaurant is there, forcing more and more local stores to go out of business. "Indiana Fat" is a term my family uses to measure morbidly obese compared to plump.

Asheville is progressive, but the rest of North Carolina is rednecks and Nascar. As for Tennessee, skip it all together. It's a fun place to visit (esp Nashville and Memphis), but living there would be unbearable. Madison, WI is a good choice, as is Ann Arbor, MI or, even, Des Moines, IA. Stay out of the south as they'll soon have lynch mobs roaming the streets.

Scranton PA

^ r21 incorrect re the south as a whole, tho they may expect an oppressive degree of “discretion.”

But agreed that your choices open way up if you’ll accept a bad winter.

NY’er here and have had/am having the same thoughts. But unlike some posters, I can’t make any permanent move just yet - my mother is still alive, lives here in the City, and the feckless siblings have long since retreated to the Hudson Valley burbs. Not that she is infirm or anything, but I know I wouldn’t be comfortable permanently relocating and leaving her on her own here.

Friends who have left NYC or who are thinking about it have either gone South to Austin, Nashville, the Carolinas or Florida; or gone West to SF/the Bay Area. None of these areas really interest me. I actually question whether I’d stay in the US at all.

I travel a fair bit for work, mostly internationally and have done two stints living overseas (London and Hong Kong). While I wouldn’t want to permanently relocate to either, I have been thinking about Dublin, Ireland. I have citizenship, have family I’m fairly close with there, and when the bottom fell out of Irish real estate, I was lucky enough to pick up a nice house south of the City Centre.

Anyone else thinking of or who has retired or relocated outside the US?

Key West is awful now - full of loud drunks and sketchy folks loitering around in corners.

Palm Springs is an old, tired scene. Fun to visit but do not live there.

I love Asheville, but it appears that real estate prices are rising rapidly. I'm afraid i'll be priced out of anything decent there by the time I retire in a few years.

Re Asheville/NC--I drive a big diesel pickup, so will we fit in?

Booger Hollywood w AR

Austin is SOOOOOOO overrated jesus back away from the kool-aid.

I suspect gay people in smaller towns more easily couple up because there are fewer potential compatibles to choose from.

In big cities either you (or your “prey”) is always looking for the hotter one, just around the corner - nobody’s satisfied.

The somewhat slower pace of smaller towns means both of you can spend more time to get to know the smaller number of prospects: dates, rather than hook ups.

Try a small college town . . .

r24 I have considered Spain and Portugal. Lisbon is fantastic ~ always has been. Valencia, Malaga and Sevilla are phenomenal as well.

R24. I lived on the UWS and relocated to Nashville. I have been to Ireland about six times, and love it there. If I could relocate there, I would. I would also move to London -- where I lived for a short time -- and Melbourne. I've contacted an emigration lawyer, and I can not move to either London of Oz. I am not in a profession they desire, and I would have to invest a significant amount of money in a local business to quality, which I do not have. I have thought of Dublin, but I wonder if it will feel too small, like a runner-up city to London. If I had the chance, though, I would probably move there.

One drives a Subaru in Asheville.

I will sell you my 3 br/2 bath house in Portland, Oregon for 1 million cash. I will get more when I put it on the market. I can't stand what they've done to a once wonderful city.

But the Forester, Outback, or Ascent? TIA :) (I don't know what we'll do with the truck)

Great advice from everyone but I’m just trying to stay close to the small towns and progressive college cities. Who knows maybe I idealize these places because I watch too much TV but I’m so exhausted from living in the city I just can’t handle it. If I have to go through another Chicago winter.. omg.

R30 This is what I’ve been thinking all along

R34: Who's they and what have they done?

My uncle lives in Clearwater, FL. It's beautiful, but I don't know much about it.

Andes, NY. If you really want a small town.

I just made the move to Palm Springs from Chicago. I met my boyfriend here in February and it's been going very well. I have a new great job where I work remotely most of the time - but 1/3 travel, which should get me out of PS enough to enjoy it.

So far so good.

38 years old and single. A college town might not be the best choice. Social activities for single people tend to be for the under 25 crowd.

How about Tampa? Close to Clearwater beaches. Tampa has a progressive vibe.

Austin is a liberal haven within Texas. Also a college town

Clearwater is quiet with great trails, parks and beaches. Ok retail suport. Quick connections to Tampa, St. Petersburg, other beaches and the airport. Zero zero zero gay life. No sex. No sex ever. No gay sex ever.

You should move to Vietnam, OP. It's really cool there

Vegas seriously awesome place to live if you can get thru 4 moths of heat - no snow, tons of stuff to do Hike Red Rock or eat amazing food, gamble a bit Boys from LA and always a convention to hook up with an out of towner

How about Saratoga Springs, NY or Ithaca, NY? I think both places are pretty liberal and relaxed,