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Cities With More Tops Than Bottoms

In all of my travels I'd have to say only two cities appeared to have more gay tops than bottoms. The two being Chicago and Houston.

I guess there's obviously a higher % of gays who bottom. What say you ?

by Anonymousreply 7802/23/2021

Please NYC is almost 100% bottom at this point.

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by Anonymousreply 206/01/2018

[quote] Please NYC is almost 100% bottom at this point.

If what you say is true, R1, how do NYC bottoms obtain satisfaction for their needy slutholes?

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by Anonymousreply 506/01/2018

Many gay Hispanics claim to be 100% top.

by Anonymousreply 606/01/2018

^ ***BREAKING NEWS*** they're not!

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by Anonymousreply 806/01/2018

R3, escorts and dildos.

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by Anonymousreply 1006/02/2018

The ratio of tops to bottoms is usually 85% bottom but come cities have even more bottoms. DL is 99% bottoms.

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by Anonymousreply 1206/02/2018

this has been figured out so precisely. such clarity.

by Anonymousreply 1306/02/2018

Philadelphia, of course.

by Anonymousreply 1406/02/2018

I second Chicago and Houston

by Anonymousreply 1506/02/2018

R11 1%er here

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Yes, BUT, are you attractive ? I mean would most bottom want you to fuck them ? There's plenty of homely people out there.

by Anonymousreply 1706/02/2018

Chicago Craigslist always had lots of tops. City of broad shoulders, thick dicks and satisfied bottoms (cf. Wrigleyville Cumdump).

by Anonymousreply 1806/02/2018

I second Minneapolis.

by Anonymousreply 1906/02/2018

Marrakech. I was ravaged. Repeatedly, praise be to Allah!

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by Anonymousreply 2102/06/2021

I disagree about Chicago but maybe times have changed. I’ll give them “city full of provincial psychotic prisses” though.

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by Anonymousreply 2302/06/2021

R10 I have very different experiences there

by Anonymousreply 2402/06/2021

Being from TexASS myself, I sure hope OP is right about Houston having a spare top or two. Every homo I've met who's moved to Dallas as an adult (while acknowledging the overall imbalance worldwide) is still absolutely dumbfounded at the degree to which bottoms outnumber the tops here. (Make all the Prada-lipgloss queen jokes you want - fuck Dallas, I hate it here.)

by Anonymousreply 2502/06/2021

If you go to Steamworks Chicago you will find 100;s of hardcore 'tops' lying facedown waiting for cock.

I don't think there is a US city with more tops.

by Anonymousreply 2602/06/2021

I think the issue is that tops prefer guys who are smaller and or younger than they are and who take care off themselves.

by Anonymousreply 2702/07/2021

Plenty of tops in Germany, Austria, Serbia, Greece, Turkey, Egypt and Tunisia.

by Anonymousreply 2802/07/2021

Lots of tops in Scandinavia.

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by Anonymousreply 3002/07/2021

I sometimes think I’m the only top in DC that actually lives there. Every fucking resident and tourist is a bottom. There are the occasional tops visiting - primarily closeted dads.

by Anonymousreply 3102/07/2021

So, is it more of an American thing, that guys' sexual positions in bed are more rigidly defined? Are the men more versatile overseas in general? If it IS an American thing, I wonder why that is...

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by Anonymousreply 3302/07/2021

R32 in the U.S., a lot of guys will say they’re ‘vers’ which simply means they can get hard while bottoming. No clue why they don’t just say they are a bottom.

Also I think we tend to try to pick one or the other. I’d say I’m 90% top, only because I don’t eat well enough to be a spontaneous bottom. If I have a few days notice, I can ride.

by Anonymousreply 3402/07/2021

R14, I'd almost agree with you, lots of blue collar swagger in the town and though I bet half of the declared "tops" throw their legs in the air for the right cock, after twenty years of living here I have encountered more tops than bottoms, just.

It's maybe 60/40 in Philly

by Anonymousreply 3502/07/2021

Belfast and Beijing both had ample amounts of tops. Jakarta seemed to have more tops than bottoms. Taipei was all bottoms.

by Anonymousreply 3602/07/2021

R32 No.

I live in Berlin and position is position for life for most men. Versatile is not much of a thing here, it is only a phrase used by bottoms online.

by Anonymousreply 3702/07/2021

Madison and Milwaukee, WI

Both full of beefy, hung farmboy tops

by Anonymousreply 3802/07/2021

For R37:

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by Anonymousreply 3902/07/2021

Cleveland. More sausage less doughnuts

by Anonymousreply 4002/07/2021

R39 That is about forced social conditioning not about sexual preferences. People like what they like.

by Anonymousreply 4102/07/2021

I personally can say that Houston is full of eager young black and Latino tops. If you're a white bottom, you're in heaven.

by Anonymousreply 4202/07/2021

We’ve never had a problem.

by Anonymousreply 4302/07/2021

The tops and bottoms thing is so dated. I don’t know anyone under 28 that doesn’t identify as vers. Also if you’re beautiful enough, ANYONE will want to top you.

by Anonymousreply 4402/07/2021

R43 - Lindsey, don't you dare hijack this thread; we were just getting some momentum going

by Anonymousreply 4502/07/2021

What about LA and Toronto?

by Anonymousreply 4602/07/2021

r44 Darling, wait till you pass 30. You are likely to change your mind about tops and bottoms.

by Anonymousreply 4702/07/2021

[quote]We’ve never had a problem. —La Senatrice aka Lady G

Greenville SC?

by Anonymousreply 4802/07/2021

Definitely not Atlanta.

Small towns usually have more tops than bottoms. And for the record anyone who says they are verse, are just bottoms trying to expand their options.

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by Anonymousreply 5002/07/2021

R37 I live in Berlin, too - and what you said is total bullshit. Open grindr and you'll see one versatile after the other.

by Anonymousreply 5102/07/2021

If you want true tops, you have to find guys are identify as straight or nongay

by Anonymousreply 5202/07/2021

[quote] And for the record anyone who says they are verse, are just bottoms trying to expand their options.

QFE. Thank you r49, hon. I wish Muriel would sticky this at the top of the board so we didn’t have to keep repeating it.

by Anonymousreply 5302/07/2021

All gay men have bottomed at least once in their sexual life.

Therefore, there's no such thing as an exclusive top.

Everyone is either bottom or verse. But my guess is that probably 90% of gay men are bottoms.

It's reality.

by Anonymousreply 5402/07/2021

I wonder if the ratio of one to the other is more equal than it appears; maybe it just *seems* there are more tops on the apps - because we bottoms are greedy, neurotic, and insatiable, and we have a lot of competition, so it's in our interest to be constantly monitoring, like radar, for a free knob to jump onto. Most guys leaning "top" are chill and laid-back like straight dudes, and hence - not always online - and also can delete the apps regularly without fear of losing all their "prospects,* haha. They don't *need* to be online all the time desperately seeking dick, because getting laid is never an issue for them.

by Anonymousreply 5502/07/2021

Yeah r55 bottoms are greedy and insatiable - and want as many different cocks as they can get. Tops like a few good men.

by Anonymousreply 5602/08/2021

R54. you are wrong.

by Anonymousreply 5702/08/2021

R51 versatile means bottom. Meet a few and ask them.

by Anonymousreply 5802/08/2021

The versatile thing is so dated. I don’t know anyone under 28 that doesn’t identify as Top or Bottom.

by Anonymousreply 5902/08/2021

DC is almost nothing but bossy bottoms (CERTAINLY excluding ME). I knew a top across th river in Arlington once, but he moved to Florida.

Seoul, for all its bottoms, has been berry berry good to me in terms of finding tops. Tops that had decent-sized cocks no less!

by Anonymousreply 6002/09/2021

[quote] But my guess is that probably 90% of gay men are bottoms.

So... you’re implying gay men just don’t have penetrative sex anymore? Or that only 10% of the population is doing all the topping? That makes zero sense.

DL eldergays just refuse to believe that the majority of Gen Z and young gays are versatile, just like they refuse to believe bisexuality exists.

by Anonymousreply 6102/09/2021

Of course bisexuality exists. What bunk you spout R61.

At 41 I am not an elder but I suspect that you are giving us your experience in your part of the world. Anecdotal evidence is not evidence. What you are your friends do does not define the majority worldwide.

by Anonymousreply 6202/09/2021

R58 you have a point there. I honestly never understood the need to call yourself verse when you really have a pair of helium heels.

Then again, I don't understand why "bottom shaming" is a thing.

by Anonymousreply 6302/09/2021

[quote] And for the record anyone who says they are verse, are just bottoms trying to expand their options.

It's sort of ridiculous how many guys claim they're tops or vers in an almost catfishing sort of way.

Then as soon as they're back at my place or theirs it's suddenly "I'm feeling like being the bottom tonight"

by Anonymousreply 6402/09/2021

R61 enough. You’ve made your point. Nobody agrees or cares. Move on.

by Anonymousreply 6502/09/2021

[quote] Then again, I don't understand why "bottom shaming" is a thing.

And five minutes on this board didn’t explain it to you?

by Anonymousreply 6602/09/2021

I've been versatile. Then a period of being a total bottom. Then a total top. It's periodic with me.

by Anonymousreply 6702/09/2021

I always consider myself a bottom but I do like to stick my dick in holes as long as I can cum with a dick in me. I was told that means I'm a vers, would that be true? What I'm i?

by Anonymousreply 6802/09/2021

I think it's genetic, like with the trans thing.

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by Anonymousreply 6902/09/2021

I am versatile but I put Top on my profile because I don’t want people to think I am a secret bottom and I tend to top more than bottom anyway. I usually only bottom if I meet a guy at a bar or club and take him home, or in a bathhouse or something.

by Anonymousreply 7002/09/2021

R41 = Amelia Bedelia

by Anonymousreply 7102/09/2021

I'd like to be more vers. So many guys just want a quick, disconnected, anonymous pump and dump - I can't get hard for that. Kissing and foreplay are my "on" switch. If we can share some convo or a beer or two first, even better! Admittedly, that's not what most are looking for on Grindr, so reluctantly, I answer the door, drop trou, and bend over. When I *do* meet the occasional unicorn - a nice, friendly guy who wants hot no-strings sex, but with sensuality and connection - flipping is the absolute best. Obviously, I have "ladybrains..." ugh.

by Anonymousreply 7202/09/2021

Cities in Arab countries

by Anonymousreply 7302/09/2021

[quote] Cities in Arab countries

Oh good. I should be able to get fucked pretty good next time I visit France.

by Anonymousreply 7402/23/2021

There are lots of tops in India. They refer to themselves as pure tops.

by Anonymousreply 7502/23/2021

[quote]In all of my travels I'd have to say only two cities appeared to have more gay tops than bottoms. The two being Chicago and Houston.

Maybe Chicago and Houston just have more liars.

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