Is 300 guys too many to tell your boyfriend about?

Nope. That's average for your age. He probably has just as many. Be open about your sexual history but don't tell him if he doesn't ask and agree to tell you his number first

That depends OP.....tell me, Do you feel used, cheap ?

Liar

Totally normal #.

No, you should lie to your boyfriend. It will make the relationship better in the long run. Otherwise, he'll think he can't trust you.

Slut , I’m jealous. I’m much older and I believe you have gotten more tail than me. But what is includes in your number ? BJs , Hand Jobs, full intercourse ?

You’re a whore, darlin’

Yeah OP - the details and breakdown of that number are probably relevant. And in this age of digital hookups - you probably aint special (tho to be honest - I think there was just as much or more actual sex happening in the 60s-80s golden age pre-AIDS in the big urban areas. When you found a hookup you just did it - there’s a lot of app timewasting that is very boring)

And really - if you’re 28 - and been sexually active si ce you were 18 - then 300 meets on a ten year period isn’t that slutty. It’s only like a meet every two-three weeks. Me - and many of my acquaintances - were doing two or three meets a day/night when we were that age! You sound almost like a sweetly old fashioned kinda boy - who was quite choosy! - to me!

OP:

Not at all.

What was the tally the weekend before?

How long have you been sexually active? I think it's a bit much if you started this year.

You found 300 guys attractive enough by 28?

Dear God, I’d dump you instantly if you gave me that figure.

Whorina, don't tell him.

300 Spartans? A formidable force indeed. I’m sure that Xerxes’ Persian legions will fall in your Hot Gates.

R13 has stated her boundaries!

I doubt he's into men your age, R13.

This thread—nay, this site—is full of whores.

Depends on who you're hoping to impress. The type to love you for who you are, will prob balk at the number and question your sexual maturity.

I'd say ~100 is closer to normal, but still psychologically extreme, putting you with a new partner every month or so, for 10 years straight if starting at 18.

So, at 300, you're a whore for sure.

By your age I had done at least 500. A few /week for years. You're good.

You all make me feel so much better. I was really concerned. He was hinting around about numbers the other night. I didn't want to tell. I've been having sex since I was 15. That number includes blowjobs and getting fucked.

My friend had had 4,000 by the age of 30. He got really pissed off when another friend and I worked out the figures. We're not allowed to tell his boyfriend about it.

You’re a fucking skank, op.

Loose goosey

Lots of needy fat guys with no standards reporting here.

The late NBA player Wilt Chamberlain said he'd slept with 20,000 women by the time he was 50. Granted, he got an early start.

From the Wiki: "According to Rod Roddewig, a contemporary of Wilt's, Chamberlain documented his love life using a Day-Timer. Every time Chamberlain went to bed with a different woman, he put a check in his Day-Timer. Over a 10-day period, there were 23 checks in the book, which would be a rate of 2.3 women per day. Chamberlain divided that number in half, to be conservative and to correct for degrees of variation. He then multiplied that number by the number of days he had been alive at the time minus 15 years. That was how the 20,000 number came into existence."

Kids today have no idea what life was like pre-HIV. They have no idea what a Day-Timer is, either.

Never tell him the true number OP ! I too,was a whore like you,and after a few times of being honest with boyfriends and watching them recoil in horror,I thereafter only admitted to 30 or so. its just best that way,dear.

Do some of you suck on a dick or spread your legs just for the sake of it without regard to how the person looks?

^ yes r28. Yes, I do.

R28 Most on here aren't in a position to reject for looks.

If you tell him you can kiss wearing white on your wedding day goodbye.

Jesus Christ, that's just shocking as fuck to me.

No way, OP.

I'm a 35 year old chemical engineer who's realistically a solid 8 if not 9 and I MIGHT have had 100 guys. I'm picky as hell but still. Christ on a stick you guys are just total whores.

You're a whore, darlin'

R28 A true bottom ONLY cares about the dick. It can be attached to Sasquatch,but if its big and juicy,into my hole it goes. All you high blown faux women on here need to get some perspective. We are gay MEN. We like SEX.

It doesn't matter what you are. You do you, darlin'.

Jesus Christ on a stick you're no fun mr chemical engineer. I'll be your number 101 and introduce you to some friends too

If you "round down" to 30, who will dispute it or contradict it?

You're in control of this truth. Let Jesus or Donald Trump be your guide. You decide.

I’d have always been more interested in the number of inches, in total, that have entered the hole. 300 guys is really meaningless measurement of whoredom to a hungry, bossy bottom.

How many of the 300 do you regret?

Op, just out of curiosity, would you fuck Kevin Spacey? What will you do?

Need breakdown of what counts. If it is 300 intercourse partners in ten years, that is quite a lot. If it includes fellatio, meh.

A whore’s a whore, darlin’.

"Op, just out of curiosity, would you fuck Kevin Spacey? What will you do?"

Sorry, but 28 is a little old for me

Average

Face it, mama: I was the slut of the century!

You could prepare him for it by getting this giant tattoo across your chest.

What you did before you met is none of his business.. if he ever asks just say “I have no idea, who keeps count?”

[quote] I'm a 35 year old chemical engineer who's realistically a solid 8 if not 9 and I MIGHT have had 100 guys.

I'm fascinated as to why being a chemical engineer would be part of the equation. Do you really think that makes you even more attractive?

If he asks, just respond "Why count waves in the ocean?" like Gina Lollobrigida in Go Naked in The World

R48, he means he's friends with other quality educated guys who are probably look good and go to the gym. Not like the skanks most of these guys probably hook up with off the turnpike.

So you believe there are quality educated guys and skanks

According to the guys who constantly hit on me in the gym, in restaurants, in the airports, and at work, R48, yes . . yes, I do, as a matter of fact. As they are fond of telling me (over and over and over and over again), "Wow, you're rich AND good looking," as if I'm some rare breed of butterfly.

Some people really need to see how small they can make world so the labels are easy to apply.

r53 = defensive skank

Spoken like someone of quality and education.

R52 That is an Extremely Scintillating Tale. How awful for you to suffer such repeated pestering from others.

r48

It's sexy as hell to me- it shows stability and intelligence.

I'm 198cm, 98k, "blandly handsome' (Ben Affleck, Vince Vaughn, Karl Urban type) that has had intercourse with 5 men, only twice as a slut, and 21 including BJs and jack off sessions.

Seriously.

Unless you're intelligent or ridiculously hot, sex isn't in the cards.

Mock him if you will,R56,but as a former hottie who started getting hit on everywhere when I turned 13 until 40,it does get tedious. Also,you never really knew if someone actually liked you as a person,or just wanted to fuck. Usually they just wanted to fuck.

OP, it's not uncommon for a woman like you to turn to sex for acceptance. Most fraus have your same experience. It's why they trap men by getting pregnant and ultimately end up alone.

OP is a human petri dish. Avoid!

Ok, if you are 24 and live in Greenwich Village and go out you can easily have a new sex partner once a week. Live there 10 years, 300 is hardly whoring.

Gotta love the misogynist troll at r59. Nice circa 1952 logic - women TRAP men!!!!! Women are evil!!!!!

Your caftan is starting to smoke.............

OP, you ARE a whore!

[quote] Gotta love the misogynist troll at [R59]. Nice circa 1952 logic - women TRAP men!!!!! Women are evil!!!!!

Gotta love the homophobic frau @R62 who assumed the OP is a gay man.

[quote]R21 He was hinting around about numbers the other night. I didn't want to tell.

I'd be weirded out by someone wanting to know this about me. Anyone.

When I get in uncomfortable situations, I find a way to say something like, [italic]"I'm wondering what you will GET out of knowing/doing/saying this."[/italic] This makes them articulate their motivation, and having to say it out loud makes them hear how unworthy whatever they're trying to accomplish is.

[quote]R47 What you did before you met is none of his business.. if he ever asks just say “I have no idea, who keeps count?”

Or say, "Besides your dad?"

300? Amateur

I'm guessing I had about 100 before I met my husband 25 years ago. I was afraid I was too much into random sex to find someone that I'd want to settle down with. Glad I was wrong.

That’s a whore’s #

OP, your sex fun is far less important than your other confessions.

Guys who want me to know they've had sex with a million guys also mention they are libertarian or racist or in the closet to their families.

The number (or lack) of dicks doesn't send me running.

"Ok, if you are 24 and live in Greenwich Village and go out you can easily have a new sex partner once a week. Live there 10 years, 300 is hardly whoring."

Greenwich Village? If you want a sex partner in a wheelchair.

"According to the guys who constantly hit on me in the gym, in restaurants, in the airports, and at work, [R48], yes . . yes, I do, as a matter of fact. As they are fond of telling me (over and over and over and over again), "Wow, you're rich AND good looking," as if I'm some rare breed of butterfly. —R32"

Is this a joke?

I love the people on here getting boastful and competitive with OP. "Oh, you've slept with 300, well I'VE slept with 30000! I'm more of a slut! I win!"

You're all very pathetic, you know that, right?

Your boyfriend will be more disturbed that you kept counting after the first 50.

Do you keep a ledger or something?

Someone is enjoying their deluded sense of superiority.

No that's pretty normal to low OP.

I had done a lot more than that by your age. Nothing to feel ashamed about - just life's experience and normal human stuff.

Were all of these 300 before the camera?

[quote]Is 300 guys too many to tell your boyfriend about?

Well, if you were planning on telling your boyfriend about them in one sitting it would be.

But, if you spaced it out, perhaps telling him about one guy each night, it would be fine - it would be like Tales of the Gaybian Nights and you'd be Gayherazade.

299 will give the illusion of a lot less.

Just like a price sticker in the shops.

Just say you're a try before you buy kinda guy.

If someone I was seeing at that age gave me that kind of number I would think that he probably had not been in any relationships and just had random hookups. I don't have a moral issue with that, but it would make me question whether getting into a relationship with him is likely to work out. I might also see it as a yellow flag in terms of emotional maturity. I might see it as a sign of fickle behavior. I don't think I would immediately end the relationship or anything, but it would have me on the look out for trouble.

One more thing ... don't give an evasive answer like some of the posters have been encouraging. That would be a red flag for me. Lying and minimizing in a relationship will doom it for sure; it's just a matter of time. Either tell him or don't, but don't string him along over it.

Poor OP. just thought you'd start an innocent/sincere l'il DL thread on Adult Beverage Friday?

[quote]One more thing ... don't give an evasive answer like some of the posters have been encouraging.

I may or may not know what you seem to be alluding to...for whatever reason...

"Is 300 guys too many"

In how many weekends?

[quote] but as a former hottie who started getting hit on everywhere when I turned 13 until 40,it does get tedious.

Mary! It sounds like you had to beat them away [italic]with a stick![/italic]

"Get thee gone, uglies; my beauty is not for the likes of you!"

[quote] Me - and many of my acquaintances - were doing two or three meets a day/night when we were that age!

Oh, [italic]dear.[/italic]

If only you had spent more time with your copy of [italic]The Elements of Style[/italic] and less with your copy of [italic]The Kama Sutra![/italic]

OP prefers variety. A bit of this, a bit of that. Some people are quite happy with the same old boring day in and day out. Others seek newness and diversity. It's all a matter of preference and does not deserve condemnation as outrageous whoredom by a bunch of prissy, boring queens.

300 is too many to tell US about let alone your boyfriend.

I would be insecure about it, but willing to talk about it. I also think that if he's the one asking you for a number, he doesn't have the right to be upset with the answer. If he doesn't want to know, don't ask!* Every relationship is individual.

*But be up front about your sexual health, if you want to be monogomous, blah blah blah /PSA

If a request for he exact number comes up, the secret is to use Miss Manners' recommended response for deflecting nosy questions: "I should never dream of burdening you with such [italic]personal[/italic] information!" He'll get the message.

wow 300? I'm about your age and have only been with about 15...I just feel too nervous about fucking every guy I think is hot. It's tempting but I don't want to catch any stds.

[quote]r88 It's all a matter of preference and does not deserve condemnation as outrageous whoredom by a bunch of prissy, boring queens.

[italic]Regarde ta gueule de putain, demoiselle....

"Oh, honey ... you're simple, you're shallow and you're a common whore. That's why we're soulmates! haha!"

What you did before you met him Is none of his biz. If he pushes it just smile and say “ who keeps track?”

It's not too many of you've never had a bf or two. It might be if you have.

Does your partner truly expect you to be a virgin?

We’re gay. Shouldn’t we stop shaming each other about sex?

Your bf should be happy he’s getting someone experienced in bed so you guys can start having great sex immediately

I'm almost 50 and estimate between 650-750. But most of that was in the first 15 years of me being sexually active. Have been monogamous for last ten years.

I don't know if he needs to hear a blow-by-blow number. What he needs to understand is that you had an active, healthy sex life before him, and now you'd like to have an active, healthy sex life WITH him.

Save your breath. You'll only have to repeat yourself next week with 301.

Is 300 gentleman callers too many?

R101

Mrs Wingfield was fighting them off at that age and look what happened to her.

"Oh, that's just like #209 except he banged my head against the lamp."

"Well, that's another #149-#172 thrust, thrust, bust a nut"

"Digging your fingers into my nostrils won't make me harder than #28, you know."

"No that's pretty normal to low OP."

You really think the average person has MORE than 300 partners? Really? You believe that?

R88 It's the literal definition of whoredom.

Is 300 anal or oral? Or both?

Why has it taken 105 replies before this was asked? Is it just assumed it's anal cuz 1/2 of the guys I talk to aren't looking for anal - at least not the first time.

R18, thank you!

I could get herpes reading this thread!

Who counts blowjobs in their tally, OP?

You sound extremely lame.

That's a lot.

What R85?

Turn in your gay card, r111.

R112. Exactly!

R91 has the best answer. It’s in poor taste to raise such a vulgar question. I suggest you move on from this boyfriend and find someone with a finer sensibility. The unrefined always want numbers: how much is this worth? How much do you earn? What did your house cost? How many dicks have cum in your ass? So tedious. .

WHORE!

Sex is so common. Anybody can do it. I applaud you for the hours and hours you’ve spent refining your craft. But remember, at the recital - no one wants to here how much you’ve practiced.

I am 26 and have had sexy with at least 2,000+ (adding to the number at the Black Party today).

Darling r116, you can't even write clearly or count past 20. But glad you "have had so much sexy".

R116, your mother raised a [bold]whore[/bold]. Was your mother just as easy ?

r113 I don't know what era you were raised in, but that's a pretty common question to ask towards the beginning of a relationship.

"Ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies"

R119 I've been with the hubby for 32 years. He knows he wasn't my first rodeo and that I wasn't his. Our rich and varied sexual histories (well, mine anyway) in the years before we met have never been discussed, which may be one reason we're still together after all these years. The Victorian writer and critic Walter Bagehot once famously said of the necessity to maintain an air of mystery around the monarchy, “We must not let in daylight upon magic.” He was speaking about Queen Victoria but any queen will do - who wants to compare himself to those who have gone before you?

OP you beat Dawson's record, has Treasure Island Media contacted you?

Quite honestly, if you're the sort of guy who thinks sex is a sacrament, and you rarely have sex outside a relationship (or when you feel some "special connection"), that's fine for you - as long as you're not then envious or bitter about guys with different values, or feel deep down that you're missing out. No need to bitch at guys who are very relaxed about having a lot of partners. You honestly don't need to sneer at or demean them. Just accept that there are all kinds of people, with different values, lifestyles and preferences, which you are not obliged to share, but which you don't need to be a cunt about. You be happy being you, and let them be ok being themselves.

OP was just trolling for these replies and has not come back to respond to anything or even to clear up what 300 is. Oral, anal, both, jerking off, etc... what are you counting, miss?

We all know we're being trolled softly, R124. What else do you think we have to do, though?

[quote]What else do you think we have to do, though?

You betta douche honey... if you want 300 of your own. And get on grindr. Get multiple phones with multiple pics. Work.

My mussy is renewed, R126. Gaymen.

Is your mussy moist? R127

Agree with r113.

If a woman was saying she had 300 guys by 28 the entire world would say she's damaged or crazy.

Do glory hole hookups count in a bookstore? Well over 1,000

300 kisses but 1000 fists!

This thread should be called The Four Hundred Blows

This thread brings out the total lack of sexual experience most of DL people have.

R98 "...great sex immediately. "

Not necessarily.

I just love the ‘chemical engineer’ Queen ragging on OP for his 300 score - because his score is a chaste 100!

Newsflash buddy: by the standard of good, straight, Christian middle America. - 100 puts you solidly on the whore scale as well.

It’s like you’re determined that anyone who’s had more that your fabulous - and very choosy and professionally qualified self! -is a slut.

Why is what other people do so important to you and tied up on your own self image - and why do you feel you are in a position to judge?

Anyway - OP - an attractive gay guy in a big urban area has lotsa opportunities! Less so in a smaller city or town - or somewhere rural - and you can bet that on long, lonely small town nights - there’s a lot of solitary guys whacking off to porn alone - just wishing they were you and had the opportunity to have fun.

I’m certain their scores wouldn’t be so low if they were given half a chance.

It's the number after you met him that he should care about.

And OP - I’m kinda envious of your boyfriend! - in general - I’ve found guys who’ve had the most experience - are much, much better at sex.

I think he’s a lucky guy :)

OP, you are not a slut. You are THE slut! You are the grand poobah of slutdom! The slut is dead, long live the slut!

R130, and much of the world would say it about a guy.

It all just sounds so tawdry....

300 seems like a low number. I can do 25 a weekend at the baths and at an orgy and I am 23.

Meh. I did 50 in a single weekend while you took decades to get to that number, OP.

Who cares, I've groped over 50000 masseurs!

R142 may well not see 24.

Maybe you can just present your hole to him and shine a flashlight up it from beneath while announcing, "A full fifteen score before you have been spaciously accommodated here!"

I think OP should throw a meet-and-greet, so busybody bf can meet as many of the select 300 as possible.

why that's enough to stop the whole Persian Army!

Good on You, lad.

I did at least 300 guys at the Black Party over the weekend!

If he makes too big an issue over the number, tell him it was one very boring rainy weekend in Miami and you haven't been with anyone else since then, except for him.

I'm a 29 year old chemical engineer who's a solid 10 and I'd be scared to tell my boyfriend I'd slept with 300 men in case he naturally assumed I was frigid.

[quote]That's average for your age.

In no way is that "average." That's like 30x the average hookups of str8 people.... throughout their entire lives.

OP yes TELL him! And be sure to RANK him for looks and cock size. Boyfriends love to get that info.

I’ve been with my BF for more than 10 years. We met in our early 20s, so I didn’t have 100s of men before him, but definitely made it into the solid double digits. He only knows about my immediate ex and I only know about his. I tried to gently prod for more information once or twice, but he didn’t take the bait. Honestly, I’m glad he didn’t share and i stopped fishing for information long ago.

I agree with R121. There is something to be said with keeping some of the mystery in a relationship

OP make sure to show him all your sex tapes and the dick pics of all the cock you have hoovered.

It depends, will you tell him how many times you have been to the free clinic for STDs?

If your going to be honest. And that includes crabs.

Why is there so much sex shaming in the gay community?

It is hardly limited to sex. We will jump on any opportunity to look down on others.

"Why is there so much sex shaming in the gay community?"

It's worse in the straight community

Not everyone is shaming the OP. In real life, I haven't met many gays who slut shame other gays. Shaming is an Internet culture thing.

I 'm 47 yo, and I think I'm around the 3000 mark, OP. I ALWAYS tell my tops ' be gentle, please, I am not used to that ', and I squeeze for all I'm worth. And I admit to 1 serious relationship, "although not REALLY too sexual.". Nobody wants to pass after the train OP. ( it's a french saying)

Seems like this sinkhole is smaller than some DLers' bumholes. :(

I've been keeping a list of every guy who has ever fucked me since 1999 when I was 14. Even when I didn't know or couldn't remember their names I would put a descriptor like guy from John Doe's party with green eyes. R162 let me assure you that I've had a lot of cock inside of me and my hole is still pristine and ultra tight.

I still can't get over how R1 says 300 sexual encounters is "average" for a 28 year old and no one here blinked.

Sow

R164

Assume starting at the tender age of 18. Divide 300 guys by 10 years. That's 30 a year, or a little more than one every two weeks. OP has never, to my knowledge, defined "300 guys." Three hundred guys who took a ride down the Hershey Highway? Three hundred oral experiences? Three hundred instances of mutual masturbation? Some from column A, some from column B, some from column C? Three hundred times fucking or three hundred times getting fucked, etc.? It'd be one thing if each and every one of them was a meaningful encounter but I'm assuming here that at least some if not most of them were quickies. It's not like he's Liz Taylor and had to marry each of them.

I've always lived in an urban area where there's more dick than, well, you can shake your dick at and I've always had a car and was thus more mobile than I might otherwise have been and maybe I'm a slut, but if - when I was his age - I didn't do something with someone twice a week I'd have just burst.

Fortunately I met one whose idea of post-coital conversation went further than, "Do you have another Kleenex" and I'm still here. But I'm not blinking.

Well I remained a virgin (with men), until the age of 28, and then, I moved to London, UK, and by the time I reached 29yo, I had well over 300 'encounters' so, I don't blink.

[quote]R166 I've always lived in an urban area ... and I've always had a car and was thus more mobile

....starting to sound like a serial killer...

300 a year is more like the average for sexually active gay men.

R168

I'm a lover, not a fighter.

In how long? Depends on your age.

300 a year is the average for most gay guys under 30 these days.

Double-barreled whore!

R32, and you're a fucking bore, you prissy little cunt.

"Chemical engineer" is it, who grades himself an '8 or even a 9'? Yeah, that says it all...

One is too many and a thousand is never enough!

Once is not enough!

OP, stay away from hard numbers. Period. If you feel like you must have this discussion, and I'd advise against it, then use vague terms and group them into types. No. Hard. Numbers. And that goes for everyone regardless of your age or your sexual orientation.

Why should he know? Unless you are carrying STDs OP then yes that you should tell him about.