"Need hot guy advice" - UPDATE

You can't be his savior or rescuer. Even the fact that you sent an Uber is too much. This is toxic and harmful to you.

OP-Everything you've done is the right thing. I would strongly advise not to get sexually involved with this guy. Also do not make him dependent on you for food money or any kind of money.. Looks like a drug problem, Right?

I'm glad you're not in love with him and it's natural to feel empathy . You're a good guy OP, stay safe.

R1 and R2 thank you. He claimed to be suicidal, so I felt I needed to see him.

I advised him to get into therapy, and go to rehab (he white knuckled the withdrawals)

No interest in sex with him. If I see him at all from now on, it will be once a month to check in. I really, really root for him.

I was pretty destroyed over him for a while. Time and distance gave me perspective. It was ridiclous of me to think we could ever be a thing for a million reasons. But I care what happens to him. There is a good person there, he just has to realize that himself.

Good, thoughts, R3. I hope this is a true story, because it gives me hope that not everyone on here is a basement-dwelling psycho.

Did he ever send you any dick pics? Hard to say without pertinent info.

Not basement dwelling, but sometimes I feel a bit psychotic. People who were around for the original thread might agree with that.

I know statistics are against him here, but I really hope he's going to be ok. He has a good family who love him, and friends who care, so that might give him an edge.

R5 Deleted long ago.

Deleted? Sizemeat verificata?

It was a nice one. Thick and dangly. Uncut.

I was a little freaked out because it was the first uncut one I had extensive experience with. The natural lube thing kinda freaked me out. But I got over it.

I remember your story, OP. You and the young guy weren't fooling around, you were buying drugs for him so he would let you blow him. Didn't he and the young woman move to NYC?

R9 I didn't want to give too many details this time, but yeah that's me.

Prince Hal, Liza. You guys remember.

I saw him again yesterday. The stories he told me were so terrible. For New Year's they drove up to a cabin 2 hours north of where they live. The next day, he started to go into withdrawal. He made some excuse as to why he was leaving, and drove back to their home to buy a bag, and back to the cabin. He did it again two days later.

While I was with him, he looked back at texts he sent her after she threw him out. He'd been drinking and taking Xanax, so he was shocked to see what he wrote to her. Horrible, evil things. I've never seen a person melt down like that in front of me.

I know most here would never- but if there's even one person who in the future will consider doing heroin- don't. It stole my friend's entire life away in 6 months. He viciously attacked the person he loved most in the world with horrible, horrible words. I'm blown away by the damage. Fuck. He said things to her I know he'd literally rather die before saying.

OP, are you still enabling him by buying drugs for him?

R13 no.

...but did you get head?

Wow, a druggie and his supplier. No sympathy, cupcake.

R16 No looking for sympathy.

We used to use together. Sometimes he would buy, sometimes I would buy. But, this hasn't been the case for many years. When he asked me for money a couple of weeks ago, I refused but bought him dinner.

I will say one thing- the girl and her family are remarkable people. My friend knows how badly he screwed up, and is trying to improve himself. It's a sad situation, but there is hope.

R15 I'm no longer interested in anything but being his friend. No, nothing like that happened, or ever will again.

Run, OP... Run

I don't remember hi being uncut and natural lube. I think R8 is not the op

R20 I may not have mentioned that before, but it's so.

This is why you should date one of your equals and not try to pick up rough trade.

[quote][R20] I may not have mentioned that before, but it's so.

so did he fuck you bareback?

You realize, OP, that he's far more likely to steal from you to feed his habit, than to go to rehab?

Really, people make a huge deal about love and desire, but the fact is they are not always our friends. Sometimes our dicks lead us away from the sane and kindly people who'd make ideal life partners, and point straight at the losers who will ruin our lives if we aren't careful. My sympathies for having genitals with poor judgement, OP.

R23 No.

R24 He tells me that he hates that drug for what it did to him. He would never do it again. I went through a laundry list of the times he lied to me, and he said he was sorry for each and every time. I think he is really trying to reform himself. I will not give him the opportunity to steal from me.

He was very hot, but the drugs and the no eating have caused him to lose his looks. I'm no longer interested in him sexually.

In fact, the other day I said to him "Remember how I used to tell you that you're lucky to be so good looking, because otherwise I would never hang out with you? Now you know I was joking, because you're no longer good looking"

On Saturday night at 1am I showed him Gypsy, and he loved it. That's better than sex.

This guy is a loser and deep down he RESENTS you for sucking his dick when he was desperate.