People who hang out in pubs and bars frequently

It's an escape thing generally; no nagging, no reminders of obligations etc.

Also, alcohols just dandy.

op is the program troll

OP - I feel a bit like you. But then I’m really ‘on’ during the day at work and quite social. I love going home to relax with my partner and my dogs. Our place is fairly large and there’s lots of space - and I feel like I’m recharging my batteries...

But that’s not how everyone else feels. If you’re single or maybe live in a small apartment in a big city - then going to a bar could be a great way to unwind after the day. Especially if during the course of your workday you don’t get to interact with others much or it isn’t especially social.

I had a friend who broke up with his partner - after his partner cheated on him multiple times - and he moved into an apartment that was almost right across the street from one of the two surviving gay bars in town. He was lonely - and full of pent up horniness and frustration! - and would stop in each night for a drink and to get take-out as it were. Some nights he’d go back and grab a second - and even a third! - serving. He loved it! But eventually it ran its course and he moved to a place in the suburbs and it all became online hookups (which weren’t nearly as frequent or reliable!). It suited him for six months or so...

So yeah - It’s not really my scene as I said - but I can really see any number of reasons that people would like it. Live and let live. There’s no need to brand people as ‘losers’ or whatever. They just have different ideas if socialising to you. No biggie.

It made me the sort of household name that I used to be.

Not to sound pedantic, but an extrovert by definition is someone who gets their energy from other people. Staying home with TV every night would be miserable for them.

Some people are extroverted, night owls, AND alcoholics, and there you have it.

Not all pub goers are alcoholics either. Many go for dinner and a pint ot two. Pubs take the place of more tony clubs for many socially.

Beats sitting in front of the TV with a bottle of wine or a tumbler of vodka soda. Whenever I want a drink I go to a bar. That’s probably 3x week. I’m considered a “regular” and have friendly relationships with bartenders, share intimate stories with them and vice versa as well as other regulars. I have no delusions that these people are close friends or even necessarily friends - but it’s a community and a comfort as an eldergay. (And I’ve done the real community groups - they are filled with controlling elder fraus who I have no desire to be around).

In some countries, in certain regions, hanging in a pub is pleasant and neighbourly.

Where everyone knows your name

Yet OP says he's an alcoholic on his other thread:-

[quote]How many years does alcoholism take to affect you? I'm a heavy drinker and wondering how many years it will take until my looks start to deteriorate. Does anybody really die from alcoholism?

His "friend" is clearly HIMSELF.