Have you ever met a bisexual guy who mostly dates men?

I can think of two who lived with men as a gay man etc...but then reverted to women and seemed to have very solid, happy marriages to women.

But, both of them continued to have a very "gay" social life. Multo gays.

My experience is the opposite. The bisexuals who are out are homo leaning (I know it oversimplifies non binary sexuality, but it's short and easy for the sake of conversation), so they mostly date men or at least they currently have a long term relationship with their own sex.

The bisexuals who are hetero leaning or happen to be in a long term relationship with the opposite sex don't really come out. One bi woman I know only came out once she started dating an openly bisexual man who has been with men in the past. She did it to support him because some people in her circle were kind of mean to him. So she was like, you don't like him? Fuck off, I'm the same.

Anyway, I'd say if a bi man is out, he's probably gay leaning and has a gay social life as well. And he isn't likely to date a straight woman because she'll have a hard time fitting into his circle.

Also, some gay leaning bisexuals pretend to be gay because it's easier.

R2 Not really there are plently of bisexual men who are out dating women. Straight women don't care about male bisexuals... at least the younger straight women of today. Maybe they might get a few looks from their straight male friends but that's about it.

Alan Cumming? Although he is pretty much gay I think he still says he is bisexual because he used to fuck women and doesn’t want to delegitimise his romances of the past out of respect for his ex-wife and for pan-sexual Saffron Burrows.

R4 I am a bi man and that is just not true. Even younger women, many who themselves identify as Bi still refuse to date Bi men. Partly because they still have the same messed up ideas that alot of gay men have that all Bi men are really gay and afraid to say it, or that it is impossible for a man to be Bi. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because if you come out proudly that you are Bi, you find that many more gay men are fine with it than women are, which tends to lead you more to the dating men. It is true that these beliefs are not as high as they once were, but, sadly, we have not gotten to the level where it is no big deal to most people.

Yeah, I dated one for a bit. For some reason we had terrible communication skills together and so it ended. He was great in the sack though.

R6 It's true. I'd imagine whatever struggles you're going through as a bisexual man is due to your age group. If you go on Twitter and Instagram there's plenty of women pratically begging to date bisexual men and want them validated.

They are mostly fat and ugly though R8 and "gender fluid", "gender queer" or "non-binary".

Most women in GENERAL do not want to date a man whose had sex or been in a relationship with another man. I doubt that will change in the foreseeable future.

R9 You do know then technically if they were any of those things they wouldn't identify as "women" (the basis of this argument) right? Women have been more progressive in terms of dating bisexual men and I really don't think they prefer a gay men speaking for them.

LOL R10, no they REALLY aren't. You're obviously not a woman so you really don't know what you are talking about. Most women WILL NOT date a bisexual man. Time to get off twitter and Jezebel and get into the real world dear.

Twitter=Where real women express their thoughts and gives you some type of basis who/what they want to date

DL= Anonymous bitter gay men who think they know a woman's brain.

R8 Twitter and Instagram ARE NOT the real world. Also, I'm not going to stalk random people on social media looking for dates, that is creepy and a one way ticket to #MeToo ville.

I'm a millennial, and what I've heard from females, especially if they don't know I'm bi and are therefore free to talk, is alot of ignorant bullshit. Like ,"I couldn't date a guy who has been with other guys, he could have std's. " Like they don't think that that sleazy guy who has fucked every girl in the bar, isn't a walking petri-dish? Or, "I know he would cheat on me with a guy." First of all, I'm bisexual but I'm also a monogamist, and a straight guy could cheat on you too. ETC...

I don’t know any bi men who date men at all. Some of them identify as fluid or “mostly straight,” others “incapable,” but they don’t have romantic relationships with men.

R13, I get what you’re saying but statistically men who have sex with men are much more likely to have STDs than any other group. That’s empirical fact and people who deny it look exceedingly foolish.

R12="If it's on the internet, then it has to be true"

R12="No one lies on twitter"

R12="I'm talking to a real woman, and have never been catfished"

R12="I haven't been on a date in YEARS but Twitter is the real world so I KNOW what women want"

R16 You spewing bullshit about women is on the Internet, going by that logic it isn't true right?

R15 that is true on a macro level but shouldn't people be judged individually? The fact is if you take a serial monogamist Bi male compared to a straight male whore, I believe the straight male would have a higher likelihood of having an STD. Dismissing a Bi male for that reason is no different than a racist dismissing all African-Americans because their rate of violent crime is higher.

What R11 said. There seems to be a huge gap between the online world and the real world about this and many other subjects.

Yeah

This concept of "bisexual monogamists" does not compute. Bisexuality is all about options and openness and having the widest possible pool of potential partners.

R12 = bitter gay man, projecting.

Yes, but his dick tasted like stale pussy.

R6 Yeah exactly like I said. Most out and proud bi men end up practically gay. Not because they are "truly gay", but because of the way things work.

The winged unicorns of the gay/bi community.

R11 True. Even some bi women won't date a bi man.

R21 So if you like both tall guys and short guys you can now be expected to be fucking both in random succession, never just one type at a time?

The STD stigma associated with men who have sex with men is a huge factor

When I felt like a Bi serial monogamist while at University, none of my four girlfriends seemed to care one bit when I told them straight away (no pun intended) I really fancied blokes too; actually told them flat out I thought I might be gay...Once things became serious, and sexual they trusted my loyalty and fidelity. I ran with a crowd of hippies and druggies though, which may have had something to do with it. This was back in the 80's. Sex for me felt safer with the ladies at the time due to AIDS. I feel more gay now as I have learned I'm more romantically attached to males. I will get it on with bi blokes, but much rather prefer to date only gay men. Just simpler and easier. Funny how hypocritical I sound.

R21 What you suggest may be really true about some sexual adventurists, or sex addicts but certainly not true across the board. You have either regrettably only met the insatiable type, or just hold a mainly disproportionately negative view of bisexual people. VERY sweeping generalisation.

Yes but I was in love with him and he was closeted and always dated 18-22 year olds.

Please pass the Xanax.

The actual number of men who are capable of sustaining long-term romantic and sexual relationships (i.e., not just having sex) with both men and women is probably quite low.

Hope your heart heals soon R30. Anyone can hurt us or mislead us though. Try to remember that.

Yes. Hot, earthy, carnal, sweet, manly man who occasionally dated women, or dated guys and took pussy on the side . It was amazing. We dated and fucked off and on for years. He was even engaged to a woman for a while when we were on an extended break. He was excellent sex and his experience fucking women means that he didn't hold back when fucking guys or getting head.. Extremely oral. He used that big hairy dick like a pro and also loved bottoming. Some of the most satisfying , primal, sweaty, deeply, fully penetrating, leave-a-body-wrung-out-and-cum-soaked sex of my life.

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Of course. Two of my best friends are bisexual men and they just have casual sex or FWB with women, but only partner and get into serious relationships with men.

Yes. Sometimes they will identify as "gay" or have in the past.

One of my best friends is bi and has had two long term romantic relationships with men, at least two long term romantic relationships with women, and casual hookups (between relationships) with both men and women.

Most of the bisexual guys I have met are or were married to women, and were only interested in gay sex on the down low. I say these were bisexual men because they expressed interest in women, had sex with women ... all of them had kids with their wives. Even though I was having hot sex with them, they did not meet my definition of gay because of their equal interest in having sex with women. Hard for me to relate to, I was only ever interested in men.

Sounds like most of the ones who identify as bi really would prefer to be in relationships with women but are restricted to dating men because women won't have them. I, as a gay man, wouldn't be interested in dating this type of guy.

R39 who would actually want you sexually or want to date you R39? I, as a gay man, have zero interest in dating/sleeping with bigoted and dizzy queens such as yourself.

To answer the OP's question of course. Two of my best friends are bisexual and they have dated and had relationships/partnerships with men and women, and are sexually attracted to both sexes as they are bisexual.

I've heard that they're mostly in the closet. I knew one guy that said he was bi, but he pinged to high heaven. Mostly gay leaning bi probably. Bisexual women are a dime a dozen because it's "in". We should be kinder to the bis, they're like the red-headed step child of the LGBT community, the poor dears.

I've definitely met some sexy sluts who call themselves Bisexuals

I know of a gay man who married a woman because he preferred the heterosexual social circles. He isn’t a fan of the mean girls who permeate the gay social circles. His wife is a widow with two grown children. They met at their dialysis center! Both have diabetes. Both of them are obese and eat a lot, hardcore foodies. But no one rags on him for being fat. They live outside of D.C. and seem very happy together.

OP yes most biexuals I fuck are married to women but only fuck dudes. Poor wives! I guess they are getting something out of it.