do exclusive tops and bottoms really exist?

You need to get out more. There's a range. I know very few people who are truly vers outside of relationships. I dated two exclusive tops and it didn't work for me because I mostly top when I'm just dating. (One was also huge and wouldn't even let me finger him).

You have met them, you just have no had sex with them.

Anecdotal experience is no marker of the culture at large.

R2 I asked questions because I was curious.

R1 Well, vers with a preference is still vers.

Most tops are versatile with the right guy. 90% of bottoms are total bottoms.

total bottom here..had to try topping in my youth but did nothing for me physically or psychologically...and personally i think total tops are rare, I also think there for the most part is no such thing as a "vers bottom" i met a few they were NOT good tops..they are just afraid to call themselves "total bottoms" . Probably most "vers" guys lean more bottom but have met a few that were vers tops and even more that were true vers..not sure what dictates their mood..if it is just what they that day or the guy they meet. I do have a question though for any vers/vers tops out there..could you actually be in a monogamous rel with a total bottom?

As a lesbian most of my lovers have been versatile, and all the better for it. I think I might have met one or two who were exclusively "passive" and not much happened, boring as fuck. Some people have zero understanding of the possibilities of sexuality and should be best utilized doing the dishes.

I should add these were all relationships, except the two boring ones, because I don't really do the one-time thing. Again, it's boring.

I would say like R2 that these people certainly exist, I've just not wasted enough time with them to find out more. Very sorry they are missing out on a sexually fulfilling experience, but whatever.

Yes, just like people who are totally straight or totally gay.

What's the problem imagining that?

I don't believe anyone is totally straight or totally gay. Those are social constructs. But, there are people who rigidly believe in systems and social constructs. Too bad for them.

I’m a total top. Never bottomed and I never will.

R10, I contradict your philosophy with my personal experience. I'm totally, 100% gay. As to pussy, never had it, never will.

hey R10 ...R5 here and totally agree with you....R6 sounds like they are not as open minded as they want us to believe...there are total tops and total bottoms there are total straight ppl and total gay ppl...get over it R6

op posts this same thread everyday.

Same exact topic over and over.

division thread

What division? Bottoms already recognize the superiority of pure, masculine tops. They worship us; they yearn for us. There’s no war to be fought.

And when they’re with a guy who they think is a top but starts to display his “versatile” side by shoving a big dildo in his ass, they’re disappointed that he’s not one of us.

Yes.

R11, #MeToo

I've met those types as well, R5/R13. Of course there are exclusive bottoms and tops. It's more interesting meeting the guys who advertise as versatile but would happily choose one position exclusively as well as their complaints about the other versatile guys they've met who simultaneously wanted the same thing leaving both unhappy. There are also more bottom couples than some posters here (from that thread) might believe. I've only met one couple who claimed to be both tops that like oral only. For most of these so-called rare types -- especially the ones that don't advertise as such -- you'll only meet them if you have something they want. But OP knew that, unless he's one of those "haven't seen it, doesn't exist" types.

And don't let those "superiority" tops fool you. Though it doesn't apply to every top or tops like them, they're usually the first ones to send "only for big ones" messages to other tops. Not that I would tell their secret.

answering for a friend...

I used to be total top and then I met the man who became my husband. The first time I let him fuck me when I was 33 years old. Now, I enjoy it. I’ll do anything sexually with him.

#bottumzrool

Total bottoms can be found at your local Walmart.

Total tops, on the other hand, can be found only here...

[QUOTE]And don't let those "superiority" tops fool you. Though it doesn't apply to every top or tops like them, they're usually the first ones to send "only for big ones" messages to other tops. Not that I would tell their secret.

Those aren’t tops. I already acknowledged the fake tops out there in my earlier post. That’s what happens when you’re highly desirable but scarce: you get people pretending to be you.

You get people pretending to be you. LOL I like that, R23.

Yes. There’s lots of catfish tops out there.

I'm a total top, but I don't say that with any particular pride. I attempted to bottom several times when I was younger, and I just couldn't do it, physically. I hate the #Alphatop shit I see here some times. My ex was a total bottom, so we were both satisfied.

Another top here, tried it once and it wasn't for me. Fortunately, it hasn't been as issue.

^^ A couple of bottoms. No total top would even have the urge to try anal.

Yes and they are some of the most unimaginatively boring people I've ever met.

What is so unimaginative and boring about exclusively bottoming or topping? I don’t get what that’s supposed to mean.

I’d love to be versatile but sticking things in my as hurts like hell. So no.

I am an exclusive bottom. I tried fucking and it wasn't for me. I love taking cock and luckily guys still love giving it to me.

Total bottom. I’ve tried topping a few times with different partners and didn’t like it

It has nothing to do with lack of imagination

A question for those who are bottoms: let's say you run into your fantasy guy and he only wants to bottom. Would you rather top the guy or go completely without?

A bottom wouldn't be a fantasy guy, R35.

Total anything is boring.

Why, R37?

Because their sexual repertoire is so limited.

A lot of bottoms can’t even stay hard. What exactly are they supposed to do?

R35 I've been a total top and a total bottom and vers, depending on the guy and the relationship. It's a chemistry thing with the other guy for me.

you are by definition versatile, r41, even if your partners haven’t been.

Yeah, I guess it depends on the time frame you're looking at.

No total top would have the urge to try anal? What an idiot. When you're 17 and horny, you'll try anything at least once.

I’m a natural born top. When I was 17 and horny, the only thing I wanted to try was double teaming a bottom with my bi friend (which we did). I never thought about putting anything in my ass. I’m dick-oriented. All I think about is what to do with my dick. In the bedroom, my ass doesn’t exist.

Per DL standards, if man was sexually active as a top for his entire adult life and he bottoms one time, just one time, that man will forever be ridiculed as a bottom.

#bottumzrool

Do total tops suck cock?

If not, there goes 69ing

Giving your bottom oral pleasure is the only permissible penetration for a top.

Exclusive bottoms certainly do.

What, like exclusive tops don’t, R50?

They exist but are rare R51. Exclusive bottoms are common.

My bf is a total top. Not even a finger goes in there.

I've topped a couple of other guys who were primarily tops, but they complained that it hurt too much. And I'm not any bigger than average. For whatever reason, no matter what position we tried it didn't work and I was more than happy to throw my legs in the air and let them go back to fucking me like god intended

Tops are rare, period.

R53 is a good example of most versatile guys. Prefer bottoming but will top on occasion.