[quote]Queen, please! It’s how you identify and which gender you are romantically attracted to that dictates your sexuality. NOne of these coveted straight men want to marry or date any of you swishy ladies. They’re straight, period!
r46, a person can 'identify' as anything, that doesn't make it so. I can 'identify' as straight that doesn't make it so.
When did the notion that romantic attraction has anything to do with sexual orientation take hold? Because sexual orientation is, as it says, about your sexual attractions. The idea that your romantic attraction can be determined by the sex of your partner, if one is truly bisexual, makes no sense. Think about it. You constantly hear bisexuals (and maybe some of them on this thread can comment) say 'oh I am sexually attracted to both but I only fall in love with one'. But fundamentally that makes no sense because, if there is genuine sexual attraction, then the only other factor in terms of whether you fall in love with someone is how well you connect with them on a personal level, and personality has nothing to do with the sex of a person.
For example, I'm a gay man, I can love a woman but I can't fall in love with one because there is no sexual attraction. The content of a woman's personality (character, sense of humour, outlook, temperament, etc.) have nothing to do with her biological sex, these are individual characteristics. I can love a woman's personality and totally connect with her but I can't truly romantically fall in love with her because there is no sexual attraction there.
But what bisexuals indicate is that they are sexually attracted to both but somehow the biological sex of their partner affects whether or not they fall in love with them. Clearly other factors are at play here because the sex of a person can't affect how much you match with them on a personality level. The most common example (but it does happen in reverse) is a bisexual man who will say he's sexually into both but can only fall in love with women. But think about what he's saying, which is basically that regardless of how well he and another guy connect on every level, both sexually and personality-wise, he could never fall in love with a guy because, well, reasons. But clearly those reasons have to be self imposed and socially influenced because the only two factors that determine whether one can fall in love with another person are sexual connection (which, as bisexuals, is present) and personality (which is independent of someone's sex).
Now, I would welcome the input of bisexuals on this because I'd like to hear their point of view. Kindly note, I'm completely aware that some bisexuals are more sexually attracted to one sex over the other, that's not what I'm commenting on. What I am saying is that the argument that you are unable to fall in love with someone that you are genuinely sexually attracted to, based solely on their sex, makes no sense on its face.