Least Desirable? Gay Asian men talk sexual racism and the impact it has on everyone

there's someone for everyone. Hoes like him (you) who get upset are the main ones who only date white men! Girl, bye

Is she dating other flips? Or does she like white meat only?

good question R2

Lots of guys like him don't just want white guys in general, they want white guys who look like Chris Evans. Sorry, even most other white guys aren't going to hook up with a Chris Evans lookalike.

bump

You know, asian guys could always date other asians. Or black guys. Or latinos.

But of course, we know that they're "not into" ethnic guys. Only white guys.

So isn't THAT in itself racist and discriminatory?

Pot, meet kettle. I guess it's okay if they're racist, but not okay if others treat them the same way.

Cry me a fucking river.

I always wondered why we weren’t as into the Asian men as....well, I guess Asian women.

Such white hatred here.

I love how people are just discovering this??? Check any app - they all pretty much say the same thing and have since the ads in the back of Frontiers - No Fats, No Fems, No Asians and only black guys with over 9 inches...Most..(not all) gay men are ridiculously bigoted and narrow minded - with an ideal picture of some unobtainable man they think they are entitled to be with.

Wait until 29-year old Jason hits 45. Then he'll find out what rejection and invisibility really feel like.

I'm not attracted to fatties or effeminate men, and nothing is going to change that. It just is what it is.

I would give anything for a guy like this to be into me, but these types never are.

Or this guy...

I'll admit I'm not generally attracted to Asian guys, but I would never proactively state something in my profile something like "Sorry, no Asians!". Nevermind racist, it's just fucking rude and unnecessary. You get a message or a woof from an Asian guy? Then either don't reply or say "sorry, not interested".

This guy "Jason" sounds very entitled.

As if to say, "How dare white guys not be attracted to me!"

Bitch, please. We can't always get what we want.

Deal with it.

We all known this kween was hitting on guys 10x more attractive than him

Oh please. I'm a white guy and been turned down by Asians before for not only having dark hair, but the great sin of having body hair.

Is he not trying to find other Asian men? Their out there.

I love Asian men. What can I say. Lately into Arab though.

Why is this man whining at me? Why isn't this 'Asian man' not living in Asia?

All his whining would evaporate if he was in Asia.

I don't want to hear your whining.

Oh for fuck's sake, almost everyone's self-esteem is hurt by dating! If you aren't gorgeous, rich, charming, well-hung, great in bed, whatever, someone is going to hurt your feelings for some stupid reason.

the Asian guys who are making this complaint should talk to any disabled person, poor person, uneducated person, fat person, dark-skinned person, old person, mouse-hung man or unattractive woman, and ask them how much dating helps their self-esteem.

Sexual attraction isn’t racism. For fucks sake, does this whiny cunt not understand that people have physical characteristics they are attracted to or repelled by and no amount of hissing “bigotry!” will change that?

May as well say gay men not being attracted to women is misogyny. It is the same thing, they’re just not your type.

Even very attractive people have been beaten up mentally by the dating world. It can be terrible for your self-esteem, sometimes even humiliating, even if you're pretty.

This topic about Asian gay men complaining about sexual racism comes up multiple times a year on this board. I do agree, insensitive language on profiles stating "no Asians" or "I don't date Asians" is hurtful and in poor taste. However, maybe as a community they should expand their dating criteria beyond masculine white men. This way they may find more opportunities for sex/love.

I found the "Hi." "Hi." "Hi." "Hi." "Hi." "Hi." "Hi." "Hi." in this parody on point.

Oops. Wrong URL.

I frequently see "no rice and no beans" on different apps... but to me variety is the spice of life!

Surprise, surprise resident rice queen Jason IS dating a white guy, per this NPR article on the same subject.

Gaysians are just laughable. Of course, these diatribes aren’t about real “racism”. They’re about white guys not finding them attractive

I meant ‘potato queen’.

All the guys I like end up being rice queens, that's not fair either.

Also why do Asian gays not date each other. They are just as guilty.

I like big guys, so that throws out most East Asians immediately though there are a few bigger ones.

I'm a Vietnamese living in Vietnam, and for the most part I am attracted to other Vietnamese, and trust me there are all shapes and sizes of them (since gyms are starting to get really big here). When I studied in the US, I found some white men attractive but was never infatuated with them, so take that for what it's worth. There are some really nice Japanese porn out there with very handsome and/or muscular guys.

Oh, right. It's from Queer T. They're not pushing this because they give a fuck about gay Asian men. They're using them as a foundation to kick off from, to argue "sexual preferences are bigoted" so they can then claim "sexual orientation is bigoted.

[And then,given time, just like the hypocritically racist trans activists use Black women eg "Trans women are as much women as Black women", they'll use Asian men against other gay men.]

[Quote]Also why do Asian gays not date each other.

I would love to know why many refuse to date their own kind. I see it among black and latino gay men, too, but I'm more familiar with their reasons.

Most “down low” black and Hispanic men prefer their own race. The kinds of gay black or Latino men you find on apps or at gay bars have a higher likelihood of not dating their own race than the down low guys.

I long for white meat. The less maggots the better.

It seems that everybody wants to fuck white people, except perhaps black women.

I'm mixed black and latino, and based on my experience, the gay blacks who prefer whites generally say it's because they were raised and educated in mostly white settings, so that's what they're accustomed to, or they're "sick and tired of dealing with other blacks." Some gay latinos share those same reasons about their kind, but many others see white guys as a step up in status. But I'm not clear as to why many gay Asians prefer whites.

Asians are all about status, hence whites.

Jason, you should take Anita’s advice.

[quote]It seems that everybody wants to fuck white people, except perhaps black women.

Uh, excuse me?

How groundbreaking. I swear Queerty revisits this issue every few weeks.

[quote]comedian Peter Kim, who describes himself as a “fabulous husky gaysian”

I'm truly shocked that he's having problems.

....

People tend to be attracted to the dominant culture of the country or area they live in.

In the US, people of all colors tend to default to white. The culture itself defines beauty by being white

The dominant culture is set worldwide by western media. I can't hink of a country where white is not seen overall as sexually desirable and a sign of status.

I think R44 and R45 have both pretty much hit the nail on its proverbial head.

I only see gay interracial couples. A black and white and Asian with white. A black with black. And, I live in nowhere’sville. Enough.

[Quote]In the US, people of all colors tend to default to white. The culture itself defines beauty by being white

That's sadly true. Any doll test on children tend to prove that.

People like what they like—why is it sad?

*like what they like.

Link to the Anderson Cooper CNN doll test please.

No Rice

No Chocolate

No Beans

No Maize

No Fats

No Fems

HWP DD FREE

You forgot "no olds" R52

[quote] “A job advertisement listing ‘no Asians’ would obviously be considered prejudiced and discriminatory. So why is a hookup ad different?

Is he serious?

OK, I give up, I'll have sex with somebody I'm not attracted to. But I'm a top, so I hope there's lots of Viagra involved. Anything not to be called racist.

Thanks R53, also I left out No Smokers.

Oh and No pocket size guys

Smooth Only

Hairy Only

Cut Only

Uncut Only

8 inches or more to the front of the line!

They never have to me, r45, and never will. Stop bombarding the world with white faces and that will hopefully change.

R57 the last ones are hilarious. I have seen disheveled trolls in their late 50's stating they will hookup ONLY with people under 30, good looking and 8 inches upwards. Like, WTF!?

I love Guidos and they love me. Is that so wrong?

And just to nail it down., No Curry

R61 I'll take second- and third-generation curry no problem. No first.

[Quote]Link to the Anderson Cooper CNN doll test please.

Here you go. It's actually a chart test of child figures representing various skin colors.

How many of the 'no asian' crowd would change minds if they could hook up with aguy like this?

Good looking guy. Personally not interested because I don't like the ripped look, though I appreciate the work it takes.

Give me a guy who likes carbs any day.

R23 THANK YOU. I've been comparing this supposed "sexual racism" to misogyny for ages. Just because we don't find some people sexually attractive does not mean we hate them. There's also something to be said for particularly gorgeous guys whose looks transcend racial preferences- if the subject of the article were nearly as attractive as the guy R64 posted, I would have a hard time believing he had any issue finding a man.

My college roommate was a gaysian. Not really attractive, kind of chubby.

He had white guys lined up at the door. He never had trouble finding a man.

[quote]Not really attractive, kind of chubby, He had white guys lined up at the door.

Money, drugs or big dick?

I'm not Asian and I find many Asian men to be very attractive. For example, Tony Leung (of Wong Kar Wei's "Happy Together). And Ken Watanabe.

I've hooked up with pretty much all ethnicities.. I like variety.. If someone doesn't like you based on your ethnicity, fuck em. I don't understand why you would basically want someone to pity fuck you..

P.S. I find that chef David Chang hot af...

just googled David Chang and he is one hot bear of a man. Thanks R70!

Feh, that shot of him cradling a dead pig is disgusting.

I have seen a lot of dicks and Asians are the smallest hung which is a total turn off. If you have to use 2-3 fingers vs. a full hand to get a dick hard, it's problem. Of course there are exceptions, but in the end who cares. People are picky and they like what they like. And that's why your single.

Good. More for the rest of us.

Well, more like the non-hot Asians are complaining.

Gay East Asians exclusively date white men only (for the most part). I am Indian and I get rejected a lot. Not just by white men, but also other Indians, black men, latinos etc. Rejection hurts, but I am also not attractive (kind of ugly face, though I am skinny). It hurts and there may be some truth to getting rejected because of a race because of stereotypes (they smell etc., some do and some don't just like any other race ). But gay Asian men by being exclusively focused on white men forget that they are showing sexual racism too.

I’d like to hear from those who constitute not just the premium brand (white), but the luxury end (blond/blue). The endless pestering by those more tinted would surely drive one to drink.

I've found other white guys, usually say dismissive things about 'gaysians', not based on looks or physical attributes, but more personality wise, or lack of personality, and their silliness.

[quote]“It’s usually white gays,” he added, speaking from his own experiences.

UH-HUH. It’s ONLY white guys because that’s probably ALL he hits up.

Jus sayin’ This horse is dead, folks. They don't want you? Fuck them. Keep it moving. Have some self-respect.

And OF COURSE, this "Preference" crap is.....crap.

This painful thread is SO very counter-productive.

I have no interest in these short, yellow-skinned, nose-picking people. But my disinterest turns to hatred when they start complaining that I don't find them physically attractive.

Somehow I think they'll get over their disappointment in you not finding them attractive, R80 . Quicker, if you just let them get to know you a little.

I'm white my first lover was Vietnamese. We found each other exotic. I had a Puerto Rican lover, probably my hottest lover and also the most classically handsome. We found each other exotic. I have enjoyed serving some of my fuck-buddies big black cocks and they enjoyed some white guy was serving their BBC. Asians should relax about this shit. If they are going to find boyfriends, and those boyfriends are going to turn into relationships that last a long time, its not going to be about either's ethnicity. And anyone can go out and get a fuck from the "exotic" flavor of the month.

R64 i live in Sunset Park Brooklyn, near 8th ave. Asians with abs are rather plentiful here and they routinely hit me up on Twitter and i ignore them.

Paging Mr Go Asian

I'm 5'4' and white. Plenty of Asians wouldn't want to date me because I'm too short.

Get over yourself, bitch.

Not racism, dickism.

Don't forget classism, R86.

Another reason asians want a white guy is for status.

To them, it's like wearing Gucci or Prada, or driving a Mercedes.

So they can also be accused of being snobbish/classist, in addition to racist.

This again? Every few months some Asian guys posts a whine about white guys not being into him. Then people point out he is just as racist since he wont date black, Hispanic or other Asians. Stop chasing another race and your problem will be solved. You cant force people to be attracted to you or guilt them into having sex with you just to be PC.

Gay Asians in LA are just as racist. Back in the day when there were a couple of Asian gay bars, I walked into one with a friend and it was like chumming the water for sharks. Literally a feeding frenzy if you are a half decent or even ugly white guy. If they were truly the ones who were not racist, then walking in, they would not have noticed me at all. Only time in my life where guys were fighting over who could buy a drink for me. LOL

Also Asians fetishize white guys and see them as a trophy or bauble to collect like jeweler or a fancy car. Its a status thing for them to say they have a white boyfriend even if he looks like the guy from Mask.

I’ve seen plenty of white guys into Asians... they’re just usually over 50 and out of shape. But most Asians only want the young, fit white guys. To quote the article, “sorry, not sorry”. You are not entitled to someone else, and no one has any obligation to find you attractive. So tired of Asian men and their hypocrisy—they are EXTREMELY racist themselves, and look down on other races, namely black and other Asians.

I wouldn’t touch one with a ten foot pole—and neither would most of the desirable young white, Latino, and black dudes that I hook up with.

Let's ask these same Asian guys if they'd hook up with / date a black guy...

I’ve never understood the sweeping generalizations people make on dating/hook-up apps.

Having dated blacks, whites, Asians, and Latinos, I find it unfathomable that people can be so narrow minded.

Part of this I think is the internet. We tend to have shopping lists of things we find attractive and things we don’t. I know it is hard, but the thing is not to take it personally.

The average want ad on Gay site reads like a Fantasy Island wish list. “ I want a hunk, straight acting , hung like Moby Dick, intelligent and rich who is confident and fit ( thinking Olympic Diver body ). Would also like them wealthy and drama free and have a great sense of humour. Looking for a guy who is 20- 21. Me I am 70 in the shade and 80 out of it, no money . Oh did I say he must be hung?”

So yeah I don’t take it personally.. Like most of the internet and shopping lists, they dissolve on human interaction when character and liking someone for who they are overcomes all the lists in your head.

For me, I love hairy guys who are dominant. The Asian guys I meet are hairless and passive. But in my generalisations I have to say one of the best, most dominant tops I had was a hot Asian guy and for some reason Japanese guys always turn me on.

But... he's not cute for an Asian.

[quote] I have seen disheveled trolls in their late 50's stating they will hookup ONLY with people under 30, good looking and 8 inches upwards. Like, WTF!?

I rarely look online anymore because about every one in five messages I get goes something like this: "I'm a 75 year old who lives in a nursing home and I just discovered I'm gay. I'm realistic about finding true love. Have erectile dysfunction and incontinence problems. Looking for a male, preferably 6'4 and under 40 years old. Must look like a Clavin Klein model and have a dick that swings down to his knees and, oh yeah, and have a million dollars in his back pocket."

Which is exactly why Asians stand alone in this fight, R89. Notice how you never see any blacks or Latinos standing with them. We know what the deal is. Fuck these Asians.

I'm white and I like asians but I admit I only go for the thin, smooth bottom type.

He's a 5.

Try looking like Jet Li and somebody will give you the time of day.

[quote]It hurts and there may be some truth to getting rejected because of a race because of stereotypes (they smell etc., some do and some don't just like any other race ).

I've heard that Asians (Asians in or from Asia, not those born in the West) complain that white people smell like dairy products, which they find unpleasant.

Well duh. Gay men are shallow and racist.

And here we go again...

If I wanted to date someone 5'2", as smooth as a beach ball, and with a baby-sized dick, I'd hit up my local middle school before hooking up with Online Asian, because at least dumping the tween would be less messy.

My anus is always open to all and any Asian men.

I dated a Chinese guy a long time ago and I really liked him and wanted to be bfs. He kept telling me he wasn’t looking for a relationship but loves how I fucked him, so we remained fwb. This ended shortly after when he met a white guy and instantly became bfs with him. I’m Latino and since then I noticed how Asians are always desperate to date a white man. I’m from NYC and every Asian I know in a relationship is in one with a white guy. So I can’t help but get a chuckle when I hear gaysians complaining about white men not wanting them. And for the most parts, it’s always Asians who write these articles. Blacks, IMO, face more discrimination but unlike Asians, they don’t exclude other minority groups hence less time to think about whitey.

Wai no white guy wunmi? Me love you long time.

Give me a break.

As a 30yr old white guy living in London, the amount of black guys who've messaged me back saying "i don't do white guys" is uncountable and Ive had relationships with every kind of person. Are they all racially attacking me or not because they are a minority?

The problem is many Asians only want white guys over even other Asians. Majorities of white, black and Hispanic guys prefer to date within their race over every other.

I’m a white guy and get hit on by Asians regularly while walking down the street in NYC. I never get hit on otherwise. Occasionally older black wonen hit on me, but I’m pretty sure they’re just having fun and really have no interest.

How do you look R108?

I don't understand the rudeness on the apps like Grindr or Skruff. You would think that a guy who writes "no asians" in his profile is so sick of getting hit up by 3 million asian men every nigh that he had to post about it. But that's not the truth ..... He's not getting hit up by asian men. He's being an asshole. Why do you even have to put that in your profile?? If an asian man hits you up, and you're not sexually into them, just don't respond or be polite and say, "Sorry, I'm not interested." Same goes for black men, overweight men, feminine men, etc. Instead of leading with your "preferences" why don't you wait till you're actually making plans to fuck them before you go through your check lists.

I agree, r110. It's so rude and tacky to write things like that in your profile. A simple "sorry, not interested" or just not responding to the person you're not attracted to is a much better way to handle it.

Of course, so many people these days just do not care about being rude assholes so it's not surprising.

^ QED Your second paragraph is the answer to your first paragraph's question.

I agree it is tacky to put things like that right in your profile, but like many have said...

I usually avoid Asian and Indian guys--not because of their skin or facial features--but because "getting a white boyfriend" is a status thing with many of them. They are almost never willing to date other Asians/Indians, and many are just as racist towards black and Latino men as they claim whites are to them.

Racism works both ways.

Oh, and people like what they like. No one is obligated to fuck you. I am blond, blue, and white, but at 43 am completely invisible even to other middle aged guys. I guarantee you I have met with a lot more rejection than this dude, but I don't sit around whining about "ageism."

Get over it, and move on. Sexual preference is the one place people have the right to be as prejudiced as they like.

Sorry, not sorry.

R109,

I’m mid-30s, tall, light features, work out regularly, but don’t take supplements, so fit/thin build. Not movie star or model looks by any stretch (unfortunately), but no totally horrendous features either. I feel like an Asian magnet.

I think this guy’s problem is not that he’s Asian — his problem is that he’s ugly even to guys who like Asians.

I have heard from Filipino friends that among Asians, Filipinos occupy the bottom rung of the racial hierarchy.

[quote]This longstanding bias bleeds into an international Asian hierarchy, on which Filipinos are considered the bottom rung. Because of its high unemployment rate, high inflation rate, and widespread income inequality, the Philippines remains one of the poorest countries in Asia. Some Filipino immigrants can’t obtain any other work simply because their qualifications aren’t recognized by host countries.

I've got a friend who's a multi-millonaire Rice Queen who says Asian Men are Chalk and Cheese.

Chinese are OK as employees but horrible as employers and sex objects.

Philipinos are desperate. Thais are even more desperate .

Malaysians are lovely, he says.

I never understood all this wounding and its been spoken of for decades. I was often a slut and most guys I met who were also down to fuck were open minded about who they fucked with.

All this wounding must be something for non-sluts who are looking for love and relationships. But then that doesn't make sense because we are all such melting pot countries now and heteros settle down across ethnicities all the time. What so special about gays that they can't find relationships. I don't believe for a second that gay guys who want to fuck can't find anyone to fuck with.

I’m really glad to see gay men collectively calling Asians guys out on their bullshit.

[quote] Sexual preference is the one place people have the right to be as prejudiced as they like.

So far, but only because SJWs haven't turned their attention yet to this. I bet within the next few years you will see calls for legislation for dating sites to not allow race/ethnicity to be listed, and fines if you don't date (or at least respond) in a demographically representative manner.

I know white gay men who like only Asians or only African American or only Hispanic or only older men or only twinks- I call ‘em specialists.. None of this necessarily makes them racist any more than I’m misogynist because I’m turned on by men not women. Now some are not turned on by a specific group due to prejudice, and some who are prejudiced are turned on only by the target of their prejudice. It ain’t simple, but for the most part, prejudice and sexual attraction are not parallel.

I get if some men don't want to date black guys. But not dating Asian guys? Why? Someone explain.

R120 SJWs have already turned their attention to sexuality. The demand that lesbians should fuck men in dresses or “they’re not really lesbians they’re vagina fetishists” is directly policing human sexuality.

R122 Bravo on that trolling?

[quote] Jason is a gay Filipino man living in Los Angeles

NEVER trust a Filipino!!!! I've worked with many, many and they will be nice to your face and knife you in the back in an instant. I'd date an asian as long as he's not a Filipino.

But then that doesn't make sense because we are all such melting pot countries now and heteros settle down across ethnicities all the time R R118

I disagree. Most of us are still attracted to like and that means if you are White, you are looking at other White guys. But this because we have a huge conformist streak in us. Every ethnicity does it.

That there are many exceptions to the rule, doesn’t mean the rule isn’t there.

With Asians ,a lot of it is status. They are obsessed with bettering themselves. White has not only been an ethnicity, it has been a status, both in the West and all over the world. The whiter you are the less of the Working Class peasant you have. To Asians this is ingrained to improve both them and their families’lot.

But let’s face it if you are an Asian bottom and you experience any other race you would realise there is more to life than having a small index finger going up your butt.

[quote]But let’s face it if you are an Asian bottom and you experience any other race you would realise there is more to life than having a small index finger going up your butt.

I howled with laughter.

R10. I’m 29 two and I never bitch too much about how hard it is to find a quality guy because I know that I still have a few years before a portal is cut off and I start a new part of my life.

I’d like to be married by 45 and not have to worry with dating at that point.

Honestly theres of plenty of ugly Asian men but there's plenty of attractive ones as well. I find beauty and ugly in almost every race. It's okay to have preferences in terms of race but when you say things like "no Asians or no Blacks" you're opening yourself for judgment. I promise you if a hetero guy had "no gay men" there would be bitching everywhere on here. Point is you're allowed to have preferences but don't be obnoxious about it.

R128 how about if you specifically exclude any racial group, but instead put “sexually interested in whites and Latinos”?

I don't see how "no asians" is any less offensive than no fats and no fems.

It's all in the same boat.

Most gay men are superficial as hell, and they don't give a shit about peoples' feelings.

So asians need to drop the victim complex. We're all in the same boat.

I mentioned this in another thread. There's an Asian who wants me to fuck him, but I won't because he has too many rules. He won't suck, doesn't want me to suck him, I can't rim him, he wants a minimum of touching. He says he hasn't been fucked before. I told him to get a dildo, because what he's offering is too dull to contemplate. He tried to claim I don't like Asians, but I assured him it's because he's too bossy and boring.

Where I live, blue-collar Mexicans are the biggest bigots and only want to get with their kind, or occasionally Blacks. Lots of people fetishize blue collar types. Blacks seem to be the most flexible about mate choice. There aren't a lot of Asians where I live, so I don't get with them too often.

Where do you live, R132?

Sounds like heaven to me.

I was turned down many times by good looking asian males before.

I'm fairly sure that lots of asians have hooked up with whites and then inmediately dumped them when they learnt the white was working class / blue collar. For them it's all about status and selfishness.

R22 is 100% correct. It’s just life

If more Asian guys looked like this we probably wouldn't be having this conversation.

What can I say? I like body hair and facial features that don't look pouty or feminine in any way.

No pooh!

No Eeeyore!

[quote]As a 30yr old white guy living in London, the amount of black guys who've messaged me back saying "i don't do white guys" is uncountable and Ive had relationships with every kind of person. Are they all racially attacking me or not because they are a minority?

That’s because the vast majority of blacks, gay and straight, are mainly attracted to other blacks. The ones that prefer other races are an actual minority as it is for whites and Latinos. But the same cannot be said for Asians who by and large are obsessed with white men and will not even date other Asians. That is truly pathetic.

Mr. Go Asian, Mr. Go Asian, please come quick, we need some reminding on how Asians pick!

I suppose I would add r141 we are talking about Western Countries here not Asian. I imagine there are many happy Asian couples in Asia.

I think in Japan there is a preference of Japanese men for Japanese rather than Western.

Andrew Cunanan was Filipino and I think kind of self loathing. Went after only white men with money/social status. Food for thought.

P.S. Japanese men are very hot.

I'm not obliged to be sexually attracted to all types in order to avoid having bitchy Millennials call me a racist.

The majority of people on earth are Asian..I'd say a few are getting some action!

I for one am not "into" Asians. I hear them all the time sweating over white men. And racist towards men of black or Hispanic descent.

They're named "honorary white people" in America for a reason...just as racist and entitled as their oppressors. I've been to Japan, Korea, Thailand, the Philippines, Guam, Samoa, Hong Kong and Australia... they're like that in those countries too.

I don’t have any preference for one ethnicity over any other but I hate whiny complainers. If you are on the perpetual victimhood train then you don’t get off at my station.

This article is from Qweerty, which like the rest of the awful and inept gay media, can't be bothered with basic journalism.

I would love to see one of these whiny Asians grilled on the number of fellow Asians they've dated/tried to date/have been rejected by.

Also, in this new era of "sexual consent" isn't coercing someone who doesn't want to have sex with you considered "sexual assault"?

R147 not only is Qweerty's journalism nonexistent, but there are so many typos and misspellings I feel like I'm reading a foreign language. The lack of comprehensibility adds to the foreign vibe. Maybe it's published out of Taiwan or something.

[quote]The majority of people on earth are Asian..

This is actually true, I hadn’t thought about it at all. Anyway it’s not only gay Asian men who chase after white men. Straight Asian women do it too.

Sexual racism?

I'm a decidedly average-looking, relatively short white guy and even I get swarmed by Asians. You would think I looked like Henry Fucking Cavill the way they hit on me and I'm nothing special. I feel embarrassed for them.

Asian women are usually looking for only one white guy, R149.

Gay Asian men on hook-up apps are looking for an endless supply of white guys.

Men as a whole are superficial and don't care about people's feelings.

Gay has nothing to do with it.

Let's be honest men are just basically shit.

It's an evolutionary thing so there's nothing to do about it.

Being called out and excluded for your race sucks in a way nothing else does tho. Fats & fems could lose weight or butch it up and then that cut-out doesn’t feel personal. It’s subject to opinion anyway.

But with race it’s an intrinsic quality so it’s a slap in the face. Keep it to your self. Have the respect to tell guys no as individuals, not as a racial class.

[quote] They're named "honorary white people" in America

Oh, please. You keep repeating this on every single asian thread on this site, but just because you keep saying it, that doesn't make it true.

I have NEVER heard anyone say that asians are "honorary white people." Not where I live, and not anywhere. Although I'm sure they'd like to think so. More self-loathing bullshit.

Yet another reason not to date them. They're delusional, on top of everything else.

Dream on...

Would he like some cheese with that whine?

There’s an Asian guy at my gym who’s always there with an older, bald white man and they are both so homophobic towards me. They really creep me out. They don’t like gays—or me. But, I think I represent “gay”. They are very homophobic.

What if you got turned down by someone of a different race than you because you were not his type?

Racist R158! Just kidding.

If more Asian guys could do shit like this, I'd be totally into them.

R155. They’ve been called the “model minority” partly because they don’t give whitey any trouble and take everything he throws at them. I honestly think (and this is a generalization) that if they, as a people, were less self-loathing and had more pride in themselves, more people would be attracted to them.

Ding ding winner at R161!

Not sure if it's always self-loathing- Chinese culture especially prides itself on ability to adapt. This means fitting in to new surroundings, assimilating so that the locals are comfortable using your business, learning the customs so your life is easier, and as immigrants they often feel like its part of the deal. "Go live there, do things their way, blend in. Don't make trouble, make money"

This guy is probably doing fine.

Rice-a-Roidy! R164

Where's Mr. Go Asian?

R166 sucking old white cocks at the the bathhouse

Can't get into them myself. A buddy once brought an Asian American college roommate on a gay bar crawl with us in Washington DC a few years ago. He was quite accomplished, bit what an asshole. He trashed blacks, Hispanics and even other Asian American men! I think that he was of Chinese descent and was picking out Koreans and Japanese guys and talking smack about them. But whenever he saw a blond or ginger man, he would practically drool on himself. "Isn't that blond/redhead white guy cute? I want him soooo badly!". And he had to have had the worst breath ever. Very garlicky and icky. I couldn't wait to get away from him. And apparently he and my friend dated in college. I felt so relieved after the taxi dropped me off. They guy was a complete tool.

Not all asians are the same, just like white, black, latino or brown, red or purple.... I’ve found most of asians are very well educated and well to do.

reddit.com/r/askgaybros/ comments/7ur8hj/article_the_gay_communitys_fear_and_loathing_of/

They say the same things we do here.

Let me tell you something:

If you ever go over to Japan or Korea you will find (98%) that they think that they're 'it', the absolute top of the chain, that everyone else is inferior so I really could give 2 shits about this debate. Racism is a human condition not just one allegedly of white heterosexual males.

Next ?

i am a white bottom and i only will play with Asians if they are tops and if there are 2-3 of them...not into one on one with Asians. But almost ALL latin tops are perfection to me. We all like what we like, i have yet to meet a guy who is attracted to any type of guy.

R171 truth

R171/r185: So basically, this behavior shouldn't be called out because it happens everywhere? If you believe that, you're part of the problem.

No matter the race of the person, rejecting a person based on race is gross. And a person who does it and dresses it up as a preference is also gross.i

Please just make these whiny cunts go away. Quickly!!!

I agree R176. If someone doesn't want to sleep with me because of my race, I think the best thing to do is to coerce them into sex. After all, racism is worse than rape, so I'm actually making a net improvement to the world 😁👍

I'm transphobic because I donT like "guys" with vaginas?!?!?

This is so dumb.

Do asians have any sense of self respect and pride? Aren't they embarrassed of their reputation as white obsessed weirdos? And I'm speaking of the men and women.

The women will take any ugly old white guy, mostly jewish, but any white will do. He doesn't even have to have money. My goodness get some self repsect and quit embarrassing yourselves.

So when white people want to date only white people, it's because sexual attraction can't be discrimination.

When Asian people want to date only white people, it's pathetic and embarrassing.

Got it. Thanks.

For the record, I think it's pretty silly for anyone to want to date only white people. But of course everyone can decide how exclusive they want to be, and I don't think their attractions should be judged because of what race they are.

At least they show that gay men can be just as entitled as straight men.

You’ve got it twisted, R181. When Asians only want to date white men, not other Asians, it’s preference. When whites don’t want to date Asians, it’s racism. 🙄

No. The least desirable are fatties.

OF course sexual attraction is a manifestation of bigotry, but it’s subconscious.

We become attracted to certain types of people for so many reasons—who we grea up around, who we are around now, what previous sexual experiences we’ve had, what society values as attractive, etc.

If you aren’t attractive to Asians, you likely didn’t grow up around them, don’t live around them now, have not seen advertizing showing Asians as sexual,etc.

Yes, it’s bigotry but it may be very tough to change

DLers are hilarious. Just wait until you’re 50. ONLY blacks and Asians will be attracted to YOU

Asian men seem obsessed with landing white men...why? In my experience, they can be just as racist and discriminating towards other non-whites! And in my experience, men of North Asian descent don't like men of South Asian ancestry because they tend to be darker and have more distinct Asian features.

In the end, we're all a little bit racist...

R174 - sounds like you just like tops, and you'll do Asians if it's a gang bang. Get it while the getting is good, cause bottoms age out early.

R186 You as in YOUr money

You don’t find me attractive? Then I must force myself upon you.

Has that ever worked? For anyone about anything?

When you beat a certain drum over and over “Asians are unattractive”, even those who never thought about are convinced now.

R181

No. (Some) White people want to date white people because they want to date someone who is (more) likely to have life experiences they can relate to and do not want to constantly be berated for the white privilege mythology.

When (some) Asians only want to date whites they view themselves/their race as undesirable, ultimately further lowering their race’s perceived worth/worthiness. Which is actually really sad.

This is the manifestation of the Asian’s racism, not the white man’s.

[quote] This is the manifestation of the Asian’s racism, not the white man’s.

And self-loathing.

If Asians hate themselves, why should anyone else like them?

All the Asians I know are short. That's the deal breaker. Actually, it's a deal breaker for me when it comes to any man, regardless of race. I'm 6'4", and I look ridiculous with someone who is considerably shorter than me. Any guy, ~5'11" and up are welcome to have a ride. A guy can be cute or handsome, but if they're short... we can be friends. It's a preference.

Now, I have to agree, if you won't even consider dating or sleeping with a guy because of their race or skin tone, and no other reason, I'd suggest you ask yourself why. I wouldn't call you a racist or a bad person, but it'd be something to reflect upon with yourself.

R193 - I fail to see how a height preference (which is also based in an idea that short guys are less masculine) is all that different from a racial preference.

I didn't say short guys are less masculine, and I don't agree with that sentiment.

R193 how big yo dick

R193 is bigoted against short people! He is a heightist! Shame !

People like big dicks no one wants to be poked by a tiny pencil dick.

R188 sorry but that kind bottoms age out early is BS...how you take care of yourself matters...and i know a number of older guys that are tops that have let themselves go and therefore can not attract men like before...youth is by far the number one commodity in the gay world but just eliminating bottoms as the only losers in the age game is stupid.

They tend to misbehave in darkrooms. Always trying to insinuate themselves into a moment where they're clearly not invited. But some are very good cocksuckers, so I'll throw the occasional pity fuck.

I like Asian guys a lot. Not at the exclusion of other groups of course, I like them all when they’re attractive.

Dislike excessive height (send those 5’10”s my way r193), excessive stupidity coupled with excessive talking, and anyone who wants to top.

So you like short, submissive, quiet Asians, R201. That is prettty telling.

^ lol not how I’d put it but sure, I like those guys among others

Agreed to a point R199 - youth is number one. But an old, average top is going to get more action than an old, average bottom. It's just a numbers game.

Problem solved!

R180

Fak me my mussy is wet

The first guy to approach me the first time I went to a gay bar was Asian and I was all flattered until my buddy clued me in it was just because I'm blond. I still get hit on by Asians all the time and I'm not some tall Chris Evans type of guy either, they don't care if you're short so long as you have white skin and light hair.

I find some Asian men attractive but the fetishizing thing makes the entire encounter awkward as fuck.

Same here, r208. I'm not exactly a drop-dead Chris Evans type either, but I'm fair-skinned with light brown hair and blue eyes and apparently that's all it takes with Asians. Like flies on shit lol!

R208 R209 dont flatter youself girls gaysians go after all the tops!

Attraction is subjective, if someone doesn't like you for whatever reason,move along... Why bother with someone else's bullshit. I'm white and hooked up with this hot Japanese guy off the phone lines back in the day. He was about 5'8", I'm 6'2"... He had a buzz cut and was very handsome. Great kisser. I ended up fucking him every which way. He was very vocal and made me cum twice over an hour and a half. He still didn't cum and was about to leave. I said no way, you're gonna fuck me. Guy had a thick ass dick and I wasn't gonna let him go til he shot a load. He said he wasnt a top. I told him he was versatile and that he was gonna fuck me with that fat cock... He fucked pretty good for being a so called bottom.. I think I helped him discover a side he didn't know he had.. Afterwards he said that all the guys he hooked up with only wanted to fuck him and did the stereotypical "Asians are bottoms" thing.. I told him he needed to think better of himself and to start using that fat cock for some serious fucking... Never hooked up again with him and lost his number.. I was too busy with other tricks.

R211 u ho!

Dear R211,

NOBODY is tell me who or when I'm going to fuck.

I say who, I say when, I say how much.

If you had told me I couldn't leave before I fucked you, I probably would have kicked you in the nuts and then run out the door.

Thank you very much.

^ ?

R213 you need to go back and read what is written. Throw in some comprehension too while you're at it.. Thank YOU very much...

the Asians could date each other but surprisingly many of them will openly say I don't find Asian people attractive.

If I don't want to fuck women, am I sexist?

I slept with an Asian man once. He was muscular and super hot.

But then I was horny again an hour later....

The real issue here is about men who are attracted to love objects who don’t reciprocate. Live at the gym, be rich, look fabulous; if the man you’re after just isn’t into you, there’s really nothing you can do.

Maybe if you're super wealthy, you could buy the man you want. But his heart will yearn elsewhere.

Better to accept life for what it is, rather than whine for what you can’t have.

😵

"The real issue here is about men who are attracted to love objects who don’t reciprocate. Live at the gym, be rich, look fabulous; if the man you’re after just isn’t into you, there’s really nothing you can do.

Maybe if you're super wealthy, you could buy the man you want. But his heart will yearn elsewhere.

Better to accept life for what it is, rather than whine for what you can’t have."

Darling, you sound like you haven't gotten laid in AGES! At least not without going into debt, right? No, but seriously, you sound creepy.

I'm sure you're lovely in real life, blah blah disclaimer statement. But you're coming off a little "White Race Apologist" if you know what I mean.

And hey, maybe, you're their internet publicist or whatever. But, c'mon WRA? You're at WRA with the "Zionist" yadda yadda blah blah? You couldn't have come up with other words for your organization that actually spell war correctly? How hard can it be? You can't even agree on which one of your money hustling con artist movement leaders you're going to throw your money and/or life on.

And so forth in a generally disapproving tone.

This thread is perturbing, and I haven't read all the posts. I'm a white guy, and have worked with a lot of Asian guys, and I've found many of them very sexy and attractive. And, strangely enough, the straight guys don't seem to be offended by my obvious attraction. Some of the sweetest, sexiest guys I've met have been Filipino or Southeast Asian. The Japanese, Chinese and Korean guys aren't too thrilled with me being gay, but the Filipinos and Southeast Asians just don't seem to care. Then again, I've never used a dating app (and never will).

R225 you sound like you are 80 though , eldergays are most likely to find asians attractive

R226, I don't know what about my post causes you to think I'm 80. I'm in my 50s. I guess that make me an eldergay, but I'm nowhere near 80.

R225

For proof that "preferences" are rooted in racism see this example. The gorgeous Sanjay Sood-Smith gets chatted up in gay bars, but as soon as they find out his name is Sanjay they are no longer interested. So you were attracted to him until you found out he was ethnic? That's not a "preference", that's racism.

[quote]That's not a "preference", that's racism.

OF COURSE, it is. It’s really hard to argue that BUT people don’t like to be called racist--or prejudice in many of these cases--and they will NEVER admit it even though it’s the most obvious thing ever. What’s hilarious--to me, at least--is when the people that have some awareness of their suspect behavior declare they don’t have an issue with color--when they obviously do--and immediately follow it by saying shit like “Have THEY tried to date THEIR own”? LOL

Every single gaysian I know who's in a relationship is dating a blond guy.

Every.

Single.

One.

I'm not attracted to guys with petite builds, which presents a problem with many gay Asian men. The bulky Asian bears I've found very attractive, but they're never interested in me.

Gay dating in NYC sucks, but we all know that.

R211 writes and sounds EXACTLY like Michael Peterson, from The Staircase. Doesn’t he? Read that and tell me he doesn’t.