I Can't Climax When I Top

I have difficulty doing so if I'm wearing a condom, but bareback is no problem.

Yep. I struggle to orgasm when topping as well. I have a hard time cumming except by my own hand. Maybe I masturbate too much.

Yet he cums quickly when he tops me. I must have a golden anus.

I usually climax fine as a top, except for when my urethra gets clogged with shit.

Or a premature ejaculator for a husband.

Try to vary your sexual position. I can only cum when I’m on top when it’s rear entry, and my lower stomach is contact with my bottoms ass.

Weird, I know.

Topping just doesn't turn you on that much.

Use a butt plug while topping.

Unless you are cumming hands-free OP, you are probably jerking yourself off to cum either while he is fucking you or after

Either way, you've gotten used to cumming from jerking yourself off, which gives you tighter pressure than even a twink's ass plus prostate stimulation.

That's why.

You too, R2

R9 Makes sense. I've even tried using a Fleshlight in the past and nothing seems to be better than my hand. I don't even like lube.

I am a top and I've never been able to cut while topping. Always have to finish myself off manually.

^^^ *cum

suck that dick while I'm fucking that ass

"I am a top and I've never been able to cum while topping. "

I'm not sure I'd call myself a top if it didn't get me off.

Have you had a conversation with your husband, OP? Take the chance and be vulnerable. And consider the suggestions of previous posters, particularly R9. If you aren't open to finding a solution, he might find a solution -- if he hasn't already -- with someone else. When I was younger and selfishly suppressing my conscience, I fucked many a top who occasionally wanted to bottom but their husbands (for whatever reason clarified) wouldn't. In a few cases, occasional become regular.

R15 i have no problem topping him, and can last well longer than he can, i just can't climax. He wants to know what it feels like to take a load in him, since we don't use condoms with each other, and he's never had that done to him before. And since he will never, ever have unprotected sex with anyone else, I guess he'll never know.

If he wants you to nut in him, just j/o yourself to the point of no return, then slide into him right while you're cumming (after getting him prepped and ready earlier so it isn't painful).

Have you tried getting topping him for a while, then jerking off to get really close, then putting in just as you’re about to cum? That way he’ll get to feel it. If that doesn’t work, maybe you can cum on his hole and then fuck him/push the cum inside of him with your dick.

Oh my, I think I'm having the vapors...obligatory pearl clutch...

No I guess', please. You're setting yourself up. I'm a baby eldergay who hasn't been fucked since my early 20's, but sometimes I have the same problem. The cause until now was always jacking off too much, too often. Sometimes it's taken as little as 3-4 days of no masturbation to get my sensitivity back. And whoo, does it feel good! Give your hand a week's holiday from the office, and see if that helps.

Good suggestion, R18. I tried that too. And then I became dependent on stroking to the blastoff point and pushing in. And he, as a bottom, will still suspect that his ass isn't turning you on. OP, try R9's suggestion first, and if it doesn't work, move on to R18 's.

Sex and sexual positions should be like a really expensive buffet. You want to try everything but too much of any one thing/position/turn-on --and you get bored/habituated.

Adding to r15 and r21, etc:

OP, are you good and turned on by topping him with your cock? Whether that's a yes or a no, are you two able to discuss such things (when you're not right in the middle of things)?

Feeling obliged (if that's what's up) might not be sexy to you, and not to your partner either.

And to add to R22, have you or can you have fantasies of cumming inside him?

Even if you are good and turned on and your husband is the kind of bottom that loves your endurance, every bottom at some point want's that cum. (A stupid lesson I shouldn't have learned the hard way) Since you call him your husband, give it some consideration and initiate dialogue... even if the dialogue comes after trying the above suggestions. If you really don't like it, be honest for you and him.

I just don't get much enjoyment out of being the top. I can do it, but bottoming is so much more enjoyable (and sometimes I don't climax when he fucks me, I just finish myself off later). Maybe -- and I'm going out on a limb here -- I'm so used to him being the dominant one, not only in bed but also in everyday life, that I feel like I'm defiling him or something when he's being submissive.

OP, if he wants it, he's not being defiled. But do you feel defiled when you top him? If so, and you can't work through it, mentally prepare yourself for some imperfect consequences.

OP, try getting a third person to fuck you while you’re fucking your husband. If that doesn’t get you off, I don’t what.

R26 oooooh nice! That's called a "Lucky Pierre"

Relax, OP. You are over 50 now and this is what happens. Your bottom gets a longer ride. No problem. All the eldergays have these problems

If you get climaxy problems, try some new things. If that doesn’t work, life isn’t over. Find something else fun to do. Maybe go to Disneyland or something.

How will your Blatino husbear survive?

Accept the fact that you were born a woman and will always be a woman, so stay in your proper positia, Mary OP!

I can't either, and I have to fake it.

Sigh.