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Become an "Alpha" by Not Jerking Off for 90 Days

I'm starting it. You stop masturbating for 90 days. It's really hard, but over time, you develop what are colloquially called "superpowers."

It's been 1 day, and I feel pretty good already! More alert, more into working out, more positive.

Supposedly, you grow to become more of an alpha-male kind of guy... About time, in my case: I've been a morose, pussy weakling for too long.

Anyone try the NoFap 90-day challenge? How did it work out?

by Anonymousreply 11305/14/2018

Prostate cancer, here we come (see the pun?)

by Anonymousreply 112/06/2017

Use it lose it, OP.

Proceed at your own peril.

by Anonymousreply 212/06/2017

[quote] It's been 1 day, and I feel pretty good already!

Your self-mastery is jaw-dropping!

by Anonymousreply 312/06/2017

If we weren't supposed to jack off, we'd have shorter arms.

by Anonymousreply 412/06/2017

I’ve always limited my ejaculations in belief that there’s great power derived from seminal retention. Even when fucking, I refuse to cum most of the time. And I haven’t jerked off in forever (always felt it made men weaker).

by Anonymousreply 512/06/2017

Your head get clearer, and if you really need to cum, it happens while you're sleeping, so your prostate will be okay.

You start reaching out to people more, getting more social, more risk-taking when it comes to getting out there.

It's just really hard on your groin (the burning, itching desire feeling)... But that's what working out and meditation are for. Cold showers, too.

by Anonymousreply 612/06/2017

R6 seeks approval from his Republican daddy

by Anonymousreply 712/06/2017

That's a recipe for fucking up your body. You'll probably have a wet dream anyway making it pointless. You're not supposed to go that long without relief and your body will take care of it.

by Anonymousreply 812/06/2017

I’m out.

by Anonymousreply 912/06/2017

Rule #5 on that list is the key, not the semen retention.

by Anonymousreply 1012/06/2017

Yes, I really want to become an alpha!

by Anonymousreply 1112/06/2017

OP it’s called being horny, after 2 weeks you will be super horny. The reason you start reaching out to people more is because you need to get off and want to fuck them.

by Anonymousreply 1212/06/2017

So do you get you cub scout dumb fuck badge after 90 days then.

by Anonymousreply 1312/06/2017

My voice is relaxing, getting more resonant, and I'm feeling more "Fuck, yeah!" about things...

R12, you're right, but that's the point, to get those urges channeled to action in the real world.

If you can score w/o doing it yourself, so some NoFappers, that's okay, as that's a large part why many of them start in the first place (to grow more outgoing, to meet women, etc.).

by Anonymousreply 1412/06/2017

You become the master of your domain.

by Anonymousreply 1512/06/2017

[QUOTE]You'll probably have a wet dream anyway making it pointless.

False. A nocturnal emission is nowhere near the same as orgasm and ejaculation. And if your brain and testicles are fried from chronic sex and/or masturbation, it will take a long time before you even have a wet dream as the body will be in a state of recovery.

by Anonymousreply 1612/06/2017

R16 is right. Wet dreams are okay in the program/challenge. They're great because they give you some relief w/o your giving into being "weak." Your willpower remains unchanged by a wet dream.

I actually enjoy them. My loins feel tingly afterwards.

by Anonymousreply 1712/06/2017

I've done semen retention as well.

Another key is to not even think about sex. So no touching yourself AT ALL.

These days I can't do it. I feel too BACKED-UP.

by Anonymousreply 1812/06/2017

[quote]My voice is relaxing, getting more resonant, and I'm feeling more "Fuck, yeah!" about things...

After one day?

by Anonymousreply 1912/06/2017

Well, basically two days, since i started midday the day before yesterday. I was jerking off like 2-4 times a day, so it was pretty bad.

by Anonymousreply 2012/06/2017

How long are you meditating for per day, R20?

by Anonymousreply 2112/06/2017

Haven't started meditating yet, R21, but I'll start today.

by Anonymousreply 2212/06/2017

R22 It needs to be two hours.

by Anonymousreply 2312/06/2017

90 days is excessive. But I sometimes takes a week or two off from jerking off, drinking, and smoking weed. Does do wonders for the mood.

by Anonymousreply 2412/06/2017

That sounds good. I was grossly oversexed as a teen, and would sometimes masturbate 6 or seven times per day. When I was 17 I tried meditation and almost immediately had a kundalini awakening that started in my head that traveled along my spinal cord like an explosion. Ididn't masturbate for almost 6 months after that. Was too blissed out. But after the kundalini I was too scared and anxious to ever meditate again and didn't do so for almost 20 years.

by Anonymousreply 2512/06/2017

This is the craziest fucking thread, full of the craziest (non)fucking people to ever appear on DL. It's funny enough to keep from being completely pathetic, while still in the realm of sadness and stupidity.

by Anonymousreply 2612/06/2017

[Quote] full of the craziest (non)fucking people to ever appear on DL

Honey, I don't know how long you've been here but we have not BEGUN to scratch the surface of DL crazy in this thread. This is pretty vanilla

by Anonymousreply 2712/06/2017

Inspiring post about NoFapping.

by Anonymousreply 2812/06/2017

good lord some people are dumb as shit.

by Anonymousreply 2912/06/2017

I believe some people probably benefit from no fap, but I just don't have all these problems its supposed to cure. I feel confident, enjoy interacting with people I want to sleep with (even if I won't be able to), and I'm pretty extroverted. For some people they may actually have a lot they can gain from this. I do think porn addiction is a real problem for many. It's not something we evolved around

by Anonymousreply 3012/06/2017

Yet another millennial boondoggle. I suspect this nonsense originates from the fact that they were never told they were wrong or mistaken about anything as children, leading to the natural conclusion that the merest thought that pops into their heads must be true because, well, they thought it.

So they run to social media (where else) and post about it as if it were fact, and it promptly becomes “a thing.”

by Anonymousreply 3112/06/2017

[quote] It's funny enough to keep from being completely pathetic, while still in the realm of sadness and stupidity.

In other words, just another Wednesday on the Datalounge.

by Anonymousreply 3212/06/2017

Do you have to refrain from fucking too? Or just jerking off? I can’t remember the last time I jerked off, but I have sex like 3-4x/week

by Anonymousreply 3312/06/2017

Have you tried abstaining from masturbation, R31?

R33, some people refrain from fucking, but mainly it's about masturbation. A huge goal of NoFap is to change your personality and motivation so you're out there fucking up a storm - so fucking's probably great on NoFap. It reinforces the idea that "this thing is really paying off as I'm getting laid left and right".

by Anonymousreply 3412/06/2017

R33 even when I have a regular thing going with somebody I jerk off sometimes. If you don't live with someone there will be times you want to get off and they aren't around. Plus its fun in its own way.

by Anonymousreply 3512/06/2017

I don’t know why people make such a big thing of fucking with nature for whatever reason.

Like various dumb diets that make nutritional sense not at all, but are presented as good for you by following some twisted, specious argument.

Ok - if you’re jerking off a few rimes a day - it might well get in the way of doing sone other stuff - but clearly you’ve got plenty of testosterone coursing around your system! - and you body can handle it. If you feel it’s too much - why not just do it once daily instead? All medical research we have right now suggests it’s goof for your prostate to have a regular workout.

by Anonymousreply 3612/06/2017

I think it’s a good idea then. People masturbate way too much. I have friends that complain about not having a BF, not having a good sex life, etc. but they masturbate all the time though. I think if they didn’t allow themselves to jack off, they’d go out looking for sex more and meet someone along the way.

Don’t listen to the detractors OP, I think you’re on to something.

by Anonymousreply 3712/06/2017

I’ll have to take your word for us since it’s something I’ll never get around to trying on my own. R25 your kundalini energy is supposed to go UP through your spine, not down. Maybe releasing your backed up energy would make it travel in the proper direction.

by Anonymousreply 3812/06/2017

Just be careful. I've read other anecdotal reports online of inexperienced people smoking pot, meditating and doing semen retention's and having kundalini energy "breaking through" which although pleasurable, can be terrifying. It's kind of an unmistakable feeling. In my experience the kundalini energy kind of moved where it wanted to of its own will. Its kind of the domain of advanced yogis who have built up their nervous systems enough to handle such energy.

by Anonymousreply 3912/06/2017

LMAO I did not sound like R39 when I was on LSD. Interesting that multiple people acknowledge its a thing though.

by Anonymousreply 4012/06/2017

mental illness is real, folks.

by Anonymousreply 4112/06/2017

[R5, R6] hot trash

by Anonymousreply 4212/06/2017

Kundalini energy, lol

by Anonymousreply 4312/06/2017

R39 you seem to know a little about it but maybe do more research.

by Anonymousreply 4412/06/2017

[quote]Don’t listen to the detractors OP, I think you’re on to something.

especially as he was

[quote] jerking off like 2-4 times a day, so it was pretty bad.

by Anonymousreply 4512/06/2017

The kind of funny thing is, I just signed up a for a popular gay website during Black Friday, and I just ordered 3 Fleshlights - 2 for me, 1 for this other guy. I'll have to wait to use the site again, and to use the FL's.

by Anonymousreply 4612/06/2017

R18 here, again.

I learned about semen retention reading some fucked up book called something like The Zen Of Good Health.

The same book also said how unhealthy homo-sex was - yang and yang was a bad idea.

But that female on female sex was fine - that it was 'polishing the mirror'.

That when I man ejaculates, he should only do so into a woman as her natural vaginal juices will be absorbed and will replenish his loss.

I remember the photograph of the guy who wrote it - VERY gloomy looking guy. Eventually I threw it in the trash. It was clearly NOT the book for me.

I'm not denigrating semen retention, just remembering the book that recommended it.

by Anonymousreply 4712/06/2017
by Anonymousreply 4812/06/2017

R25 Did you experience any siddhis?

by Anonymousreply 4912/06/2017

The ultimate in Reddit-osity.

by Anonymousreply 5012/06/2017

Perhaps certain people have the perfect hormonal profile that allows them to chronically masturbate and have all the sex they want to no ill effect. But for regular people, many of whom have various imbalances and imperfections, they could be the ones who benefit from giving their hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis a break from frequent ejaculation.

by Anonymousreply 5112/06/2017

Can I have your stuff ??

by Anonymousreply 5212/06/2017

I just ordered more lube.

by Anonymousreply 5312/06/2017

You even sometimes hold back coming when f*^king?!!! Then why get laid??? I'd toss you out.

by Anonymousreply 5412/06/2017

[quote]Did you experience any siddhis?

I did experience some siddhis phenomena over several years, both preceding and after I experienced kundelini energy (including a near-death experience before). I was a complete atheist before and non-new age. I tried to get right back to the "blissful' meditative state but only found crippling anxiety. I nearly forgot about it in my 20s and became focused on "normal" day-to-day activities. Now I'm older and my brain has slowed down a bit I feel it's safer to get back into that realm, like many gay men who start seeking spiritual alternatives to sex and drugs.

by Anonymousreply 5512/06/2017

'Tis too starved an argument for my sword, to quote the Immortal Bard

by Anonymousreply 5612/06/2017

I’m very skeptical of claims that lengthy abstaining from masturbation provides any benefits.

Whenever I abstain for days, I find that I get less horny. In my experience, you either use it or lose it.

Also, masturbation reduces stress.

by Anonymousreply 5712/06/2017


by Anonymousreply 5812/06/2017

I’ve heard it all now.

by Anonymousreply 5904/07/2018

Take Cymbalta. You'll hardly think about your dick. Or anyone else's.

by Anonymousreply 6004/07/2018

No, he’s going to have prostate issues. You need to cum.

by Anonymousreply 6104/07/2018

R55 There are instructions in the Yoga Sutra on how to cultivate the siddhis.

by Anonymousreply 6204/07/2018

Recipe for Alpha cancer, OP.

by Anonymousreply 6304/07/2018

As others have pointed out, you basically just forget about it if you don't do it for a long time. Your testosterone levels won't increase at all. You need edging for that.

The health of your prostate doesn't become an issue if you regularly remove the sperm out of it without climaxing when you engage in chastity or edging. And something tells me the straight nerds on that subreddit aren't the biggest fans of milking their prostate with a dildo.

by Anonymousreply 6404/07/2018

Working out is just going to raise your testosterone levels and make your balls bluer.

by Anonymousreply 6504/07/2018

Will I lose a few pounds and my hair grow back? If yes then I'm willing to try it but my erectile dysfunction probably gives me an advantage.

by Anonymousreply 6604/07/2018

People get really defensive when you challenge them to reflect upon their own deeds and choices. There seem to be some very devoted masturbators on this thread.

by Anonymousreply 6704/07/2018

Curious to know if OP succeeded in his mission.

by Anonymousreply 6804/07/2018

Considering my equipment is still fully functional at 75, not sure the point of this thread.

At 30 years old, I fucked the boy friend at night. Multiple orgasms with boy friend. Then pulled my pud in the shower in the AM.

As somebody already up thread said, use it or lose it.

by Anonymousreply 6904/07/2018


by Anonymousreply 7004/07/2018

[quote] Supposedly, you grow to become more of an alpha-male kind of guy...

This is a top tier candidate for stupidest thing I've ever read on DL.

by Anonymousreply 7104/07/2018

I already go days without masturbating, sometimes 2-3 weeks, although I wasn't specifically trying to do a "nofap". The main difference I've felt is that I have more energy. After masturbating there is a climax and you feel like eating and going to sleep, and the next day feels like a mild hangover. Some other side effects are when you finally decide to have an orgasm, it feels 100x better after waiting, and you get hornier in general so do something stupid, like hookup with strangers..

by Anonymousreply 7204/07/2018

So what happens on Day 91?

by Anonymousreply 7304/07/2018

People honestly believe this bullshit?

I jerk off regularly, and still lead a very active, social, well-adjusted life--probably because I don't deprive myself. Masturbating relieves stress, helps fend off prostate cancer, not to mention feels great.

This is just another stupid fad sold to gullible saps who are unhappy in their lives, and think this is going to magically change it for the better. Just another placebo re-packaged and sold to the masses who want an magic"pill" to make their lives feel meaningful.

by Anonymousreply 7404/07/2018

That would not be good for the prostate at all.

by Anonymousreply 7504/07/2018

This no fap thing was started by a black guy who now wishes he’d never even started the whole thing because it’s been co-opted by the Proud Boy losers.

This is nothing but a bunch of placebo-driven, YouTube health guru nonsense. If not jacking off miraculously turned one into an alpha stud then Utah would be overflowing with them. It’s not.

by Anonymousreply 7604/07/2018

Poor OP died full of cum.

by Anonymousreply 7704/07/2018

I'm trying to work out exactly how R72 is masturbating, if it leaves him with a hangover (albeit a mild one) the next day. Are you using rubbing alcohol instead of lube, R72?

by Anonymousreply 7804/07/2018

Is “alpha” a response to transgender women?

by Anonymousreply 7904/07/2018

Like, what is an alpha?

by Anonymousreply 8004/07/2018

No, R79, "alpha" means achieving power, whether it be over others or over oneself. Possessing power makes men attractive to others.

by Anonymousreply 8104/07/2018

How is this any different from those old health textbooks that said "self-abuse" made boys less manly, less able to compete in sports, more likely to be sissies (or Communists, or criminals) or that it made hair grow on their palms?

by Anonymousreply 8204/07/2018

I don't need either R78. And after watching too much porn, my head gets foggy and starts pounding. Sex requires energy. Feeling tired after = normal

by Anonymousreply 8304/07/2018

R81, that’s so weird.

by Anonymousreply 8404/07/2018

To teach their own, I must say. If men want to transition into alphas let them.

by Anonymousreply 8504/07/2018

It's always a good idea to evaluate your present habits (do they still serve me or am I serving them?).

Personally I do not believe in this alpha / superior vs. inferior bullshit, but when sex / masturbation becomes just a blur or routine where the climax is no longer a thrill that elevates you physically and mentally then it might be a good idea to find ways to re-connect with that wonderful sensaton you feel when you cum. After all change can be a wonderful and exiting experience which may give you the opportunity to discover something new about you which you can appreciate.

by Anonymousreply 8604/07/2018

Jesus, there is nothing more beta than dudes obsessing about becoming alphas.

by Anonymousreply 8704/07/2018

Blue Mountain State did it better, OP

by Anonymousreply 8804/07/2018

LOL at all the faux Hindu Ayurvedic BS or whatever it is.

They believe in drinking their own urine too - have you looked into that, OP?

by Anonymousreply 8904/07/2018

Wait, what's wrong with drinking urine?

by Anonymousreply 9004/07/2018

If you aren't the "alpha" / the center of your own reality / the lead in your own movie that is your life you've got some serious self esteem issues.

by Anonymousreply 9104/07/2018


by Anonymousreply 9204/07/2018

A nocturnal emission is your body's way of ridding itself of rotten degraded semen.

An empty prostate is a healthy prostate.

by Anonymousreply 9304/07/2018

I never jacked off until I was 20. Very religious, conservative upbringing. I always had nocturnal emissions though, which was always annoying having to wake up at night and clean myself off. Finally, I couldn't take it anymore and jerked off to photos of some of my fraternity brothers and the new pledges. Nowadays, I still don't jerk off much since I've never been used to it. I get my release from boyfriends or hookups. If I don't cum after a week, I always get wet dreams so I try to jerk off at least once a week so my prostrate will be healthy and I don't have to wake up and clean myself. As for superpowers, yeah whatever.

by Anonymousreply 9404/07/2018

You don’t contribute to homophobia here, do you R94?

by Anonymousreply 9504/07/2018

I love DL science.

by Anonymousreply 9604/07/2018

"Why Men Should Masturbate 21 Times A Month According To Science"

by Anonymousreply 9704/07/2018

I think you may be on to something. I have been celibate in every way for 4 years, and I have not been with another man by choice for 35 years. Although I regret not having love in my life, I think I am no longer beholden to sex for assertion of my identity, no matter what the expression of my identity may be. I am not self-effacing but am happy to be dominant if need be.

by Anonymousreply 9804/07/2018

You fear the AIDS R98? The gay cancer?

by Anonymousreply 9904/07/2018

[quote]I think I am no longer beholden to sex for assertion of my identity.

[quote]I am not self-effacing but am happy to be dominant if need be.

All that free time without sex or relationships and you didn't spend any of it on non-cringeworthy communication skills and vocabulary, honey? But glad it's all worked out for you.

by Anonymousreply 10004/07/2018

This is just a talking point from the far (ish) righ, like Gavin McInnes.

“Jerking off takes the lion out of men! Your supposed to be chasing your wife up the stairs at night!! Be a real man like me!”

Says the drunken Proudboy. Have you all heard of the Proudboys? A bunch of 30-45 year old frats guys that drink, take adderall/Coke to drink more and talk about The West and how ________ is ruining it.

The guys he founded Vice with must get a good laugh out of how goofy he is now.

by Anonymousreply 10104/07/2018

I'll take Incels for $200 please Alex

by Anonymousreply 10204/07/2018


by Anonymousreply 10305/14/2018

Guys need to jerk off that often?

by Anonymousreply 10405/14/2018

I've stopped masturbating while driving. It interferes with my texting.

by Anonymousreply 10505/14/2018

Since taking a break (I hope) from a guy I care so deeply about, I have had no interest in masturbating. I have lost all interest. I’ve been on Sam-E though the past two days and feel better.

by Anonymousreply 10605/14/2018

Maybe I’ll become alpha and wow him back. 🙄

by Anonymousreply 10705/14/2018


by Anonymousreply 10805/14/2018

OP is a total jerk-off, anyway.

by Anonymousreply 10905/14/2018

Agreed, R102. See also:

by Anonymousreply 11005/14/2018

Remember, each time you toss-off, Jeebus kills a kitten.

by Anonymousreply 11105/14/2018

Alright, this thread is completely uninteresting. Blocked.

by Anonymousreply 11205/14/2018

So this is basically aimed at anti-social guys who spend all their time watching porn, masturbating and saving themselves for Kate Upton or Rihanna-level hot and higher, and thus have no social skills or self-esteem, right?

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