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Bi men: Do they all have weird fetishes?

I've been reading a lot of the threads posted on bisexual subreddits, and let me say, a large part, perhaps the majority, of the stories about straight men suddenly discovering they're not totally straight involve fetishes -- what turned them away from total heterosexuality was not the sensuality of the male body, as is the case for gay men, but the fantasy of being dominated, of being treated like a woman. These men are obsessed about bottoming or otherwise worshiping a man's dick; they give little thought to other parts of the male body or other sex acts beyond those that imply a dominant-submissive dynamics. Often enough, these men also admit to crossdressing, though they're very coy about getting sexually aroused from doing that.

Here's a thread I just found on a bi male subreddit. The OP was an originally straight men who thinks he's been getting gayer, but honestly, it seems he's just living out his submission and feminization fetishes:

[quote]My curiosity started with a desire to give oral. I had no desire to receive from a guy but wanted to give. I was interested in mmf porn only though the part the man would give oral then moved on to the next 1 once they got into anal. As time goes on and I have given a few BJ's, I became curious about anal and recently tried bottom. Totally loved it and consider myself a total bottom now. I am very masculine and type A in most of my life but find myself being a bit submissive in this part of my life. I have also recently began to fantasize about a guy flirting with me, picking me up and seducing me including kissing and totally bring dominate to me as I have many times with women. In addition, I recently came across a pair of panties an ex left at my place and put them on. I have no desire to dress or act like a woman but I have enjoyed wearing her panties and thought of buying more for myself. I still love women and don't see me in a relationship with a guy but definitely feel more gay than I initially saw myself being when I first felt curious. Just wondering if others experienced anything similar.

Well, to all bisexual or bi-experienced gay guy here, what do you have to say from your lived experiences?

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by Anonymousreply 21July 2, 2018 4:21 PM

Based on limited sampling I’m beginning to think Reddit is a magnet for cray-cray.

by Anonymousreply 1November 28, 2017 8:45 PM

There was a post on reddit about how having sex with with a guy doesnt make you gay or Bi and I was furious. Im in my 30s. This shit is for retarded sjw 18 year olds.

by Anonymousreply 2November 28, 2017 8:50 PM

Love David btw

by Anonymousreply 3November 28, 2017 9:03 PM

bump

by Anonymousreply 4January 21, 2018 10:34 PM

Gay means you like same sex companionship, along with admitting that you 110% like the emotional and physical aspect of being attracted to the same sex.

Bisexuality is a double edged sword: Meaning, you can be attracted to both sexes (Just for sexual purposes) but you may/ can lean your heart towards one or the other. Or Possibly (but rarely) “Both”. Sex can just be sex. I believe it depends on who you choose to fully invest your heartship and commitment too which defines weither your Straight, Gay, or Bisexual.

by Anonymousreply 5January 21, 2018 10:48 PM

Almost 100% of heterosexuals view sex through the dominant-submissive framework, so it makes sense that a newly bisexual guy would as well.

by Anonymousreply 6January 21, 2018 11:15 PM

OP, I know you're a dizzy queen but you can't be that stupid. The majority of bisexual men are not into the kink of cross-dressing, or forced feminization.

Claiming that most bisexual men are into this, because people on reddit wrote about these kinks, is like someone watching Ru Paul's drag race or Priscilla queen of the desert and claiming that most gay men are into the kink of putting on women's clothing and acting effeminate/femme when that's not true.

Reddit is a site for trolls who will post or write anything for attention, and socially awkward very young adults, and millennial SJW types who have never had sex or who don't know how to pick someone up for sex without an app like Grindr.

by Anonymousreply 7July 2, 2018 2:50 AM

[quote]The majority of bisexual men are not into the kink of cross-dressing, or forced feminization.

You know this how? I trust you have relevant data from published sexuality surveys?

[quote]Claiming that most bisexual men are into this, because people on reddit wrote about these kinks, is like someone watching Ru Paul's drag race or Priscilla queen of the desert and claiming that most gay men are into the kink of putting on women's clothing and acting effeminate/femme when that's not true.

Not a great thinker, are you? That's a horrible analogy. RuPaul's show was created to showcase drag queens. Of course drag queens are going to be overrepresented on that show, doofus. The subreddit in which I found that comment, on the other hand, was not created to be a platform for bi fetishists but to be a space for all bi men. Yet in all bi-related subreddits, these fetishists are highly visible - I do not know if they're the majority in those places, or among all bi men, but it wouldn't shock me if they were.

by Anonymousreply 8July 2, 2018 3:02 AM

Is that David Walliams?

by Anonymousreply 9July 2, 2018 3:05 AM

[quote]Reddit is a site for trolls who will post or write anything for attention, and socially awkward very young adults, and millennial SJW types who have never had sex or who don't know how to pick someone up for sex without an app like Grindr.

Pray tell, what is the connection between being socially awkward, or an SJW, with being a fetishist?

You're so confused. Don't you think you should put your thoughts in order before posting them on a public forum?

by Anonymousreply 10July 2, 2018 3:07 AM

Yea I know a bi who wants to be tied down and blindfolded during sex.

by Anonymousreply 11July 2, 2018 3:18 AM

“Yea I know a bi who wants to be tied down and blindfolded during sex.”

I know a gay who likes that

I know a het who likes that

Your point?

by Anonymousreply 12July 2, 2018 3:23 AM

I've met discreet bi guys and they are never into kink. Well that's what they want you to think. Bi men have the power to summon volcano eruptions just by twisting their scrotum hair, and sometimes they start off eruptions for their own damn perverse sexual pleasure!

by Anonymousreply 13July 2, 2018 3:28 AM

I’ve met two bi guys so far who were interested in either one of us wearing pantyhose during sex. I have yet to wear them nor have sex with a guy wearing them.

by Anonymousreply 14July 2, 2018 3:30 AM

I used to have a bi fuck buddy. He was a rough top, but nothing too crazy, just liked to hold me down and choke me a little (not to the point where I actually couldn’t breathe). I think “totally straight” men who suddenly want to bottom are probably just responding to a chance to not be dominant in their lives. They don’t feel they can explore that with women.

by Anonymousreply 15July 2, 2018 3:36 AM

OP, nobody wants to hear about straight men becoming bottoms.

by Anonymousreply 16July 2, 2018 3:54 AM

[quote] “Yea I know a bi who wants to be tied down and blindfolded during sex.”I know a gay who likes that. I know a het who likes that. Your point?

Just my experience. Calm down bitch.

by Anonymousreply 17July 2, 2018 4:33 AM

" I think “totally straight” men who suddenly want to bottom are probably just responding to a chance to not be dominant in their lives. They don’t feel they can explore that with women."

There are lots of men who are into female domination ("femdom") and women who love to dominate men, so if a totally straight man wanted to explore submission he wouldn't need to turn to other men! So saying that submissive men aren't really gay or bi they're just submissive straights is bullshit.

If you a man wants to suck dick then he's homosexual or bisexual, whether he likes to admit that or not.

by Anonymousreply 18July 2, 2018 6:24 AM

I think David Walliams is gay. He seems for more gay than Matt Lucas who is openly gay.

by Anonymousreply 19July 2, 2018 2:47 PM

Sorry. I meant to say far more gay.

by Anonymousreply 20July 2, 2018 2:47 PM

R18 of course, any man who is into sex with men is either bi or gay. But men who are bi prefer the submissive role when they’re with men doesn’t mean they’re weird or into a fetish. They are just exploring something they, for whatever reason, don’t want to explore with women.

by Anonymousreply 21July 2, 2018 4:21 PM
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