Hello and thank you for being a DL contributor. We are changing the login scheme for contributors for simpler login and to better support using multiple devices. Please click here to update your account with a username and password.

Hello. Some features on this site require registration. Please click here to register for free.

Hello and thank you for registering. Please complete the process by verifying your email address. If you can't find the email you can resend it here.

Hello. Some features on this site require a subscription. Please click here to get full access and no ads for $1.99 or less per month.

Masculine Asians

I recently took a trip to Japan I was pleasantly surprised at how masculine the gay men are. Japanese guys are super hot. WTF happens to Asians when they come to the US? They fucking turn into women. For once I’d like to see a masculine Asian man in the states.

by Anonymousreply 110October 13, 2021 11:42 AM

Straight Asian men are masculine bros. Have you been to the gym?

by Anonymousreply 1October 31, 2017 6:53 AM

Plenty of straight masculine asians in America.

The gays ones....well.....

by Anonymousreply 2October 31, 2017 6:53 AM

You guys have no idea how incredibly hot these Japanese gay men were I couldn’t believe it. I’m so used to seeing fem asians here. I’m telling you all these guys that say no Asians go to Osaka and you’ll change your fucking mind

by Anonymousreply 3October 31, 2017 6:57 AM

Always had a thing for hot butch actor Toshiro Mifune. Pure man

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 4October 31, 2017 7:05 AM

He was hot, r4.

Too bad he was so crazy.

by Anonymousreply 5October 31, 2017 7:07 AM

Japanese and Mongolian men are absolutely stunning. And yes, very masculine in a far more graceful fashion than American men ever can be. Well dressed Japanese men (usually straight, unfortunately) can absolutely take your breath away. Korean men are hit or miss. Chinese men not at all.

by Anonymousreply 6October 31, 2017 7:08 AM

Masaki Koh (RIP)

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 7October 31, 2017 7:09 AM

How are Japanese guys in the sack?

I read a blog post about hetero Japanese sex. Bizarre!

The men expect the women to lie perfectly still the entire time. They’re not supposed to act like they’re enjoying it at all. It was very Victorian and strange.

by Anonymousreply 8October 31, 2017 7:11 AM

R8 I have no idea about real life, but women in Japanese porn are known for making this really odd squeaky whimpering noise.

R5 don't know anything about his personal life, in what way was he crazy?

by Anonymousreply 9October 31, 2017 7:24 AM

My bad, r9. I was thinking of Yukio Mishima, who had a pretty fucked up suicide.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 10October 31, 2017 7:28 AM

Asian men in the US grow up in a society dominated by white men.

by Anonymousreply 11October 31, 2017 7:35 AM

What’s your point, r11?

by Anonymousreply 12October 31, 2017 7:39 AM

Hmmmm.....maybe because that's because America was settled by white Europeans and are the majority population in the US.

For now.

by Anonymousreply 13October 31, 2017 7:45 AM

Also not sure why being an ethnic minority in America would make Asian American men less "virile" than Asian men.

Doesn't really make a whole lot of sense.

Also guessing you don't live in an area with many Asian Americans.

by Anonymousreply 14October 31, 2017 7:47 AM

Can Asian men handle conflict and still maintain their masculinity?

To continue the Japanese hetero sex thing I read, a white woman tried having normal sex with a couple Japanese guys in Japan, and they freaked out and immediately assumed the passive, female role (as in lying perfectly still). They both told her that her not lying still made them feel gay.

They certainly didn’t rise to the occasion. Tat’s why I wonder if Japanese men can handle uncertainty beyond the very narrowly proscribed theater of their day-to-day lives, or if they would just crumble.

by Anonymousreply 15October 31, 2017 7:56 AM

Because the appearance of masculinity in America is totally different, R14. It is more physical and size related. African-americans, Hawaiians and Pacific Islanders look just as masculine as white American men here. However, East Asian men just look slender and gracile in their midst, even when when they are muscular.

by Anonymousreply 16October 31, 2017 7:57 AM

There was this 6'4" Japanese leather guy who used to buy coffee at the Starbucks where I was working while I was attending college.

Very masculine and ridiculously attractive. Definitely gay. I impressed him with my Japanese skills and should have whored myself off to him during my shift.

But I didn't because I was a chicken-shit.

Also, attributing a man qualities generally associated with women is frowned upon in Asia more so than in America and that's reflected in the child rearing. This is more so East Asia and less so places like India where parents are more liberal in that context... on average. I think it has more to do with this than anything else really re: gay men from Asia more masculine than gay Asian men from America.

by Anonymousreply 17October 31, 2017 3:56 PM

There's nothing hotter than a Cali native of Japanese ancestry, Ridiculous. slurp

by Anonymousreply 18October 31, 2017 4:07 PM

Str8t white guys in America are more attracted to biracial Asians (mix of Asian & White) than 100% Asian

If a 100% Asian was masculine & muscular 99% of the white gays would not be interested due to race.

Sorry but it is true

by Anonymousreply 19October 31, 2017 4:14 PM

Asian men are ugly. Masculine, feminine, short, tall, thin, fat or muscular. They're just so damn ugly!

by Anonymousreply 20October 31, 2017 4:20 PM

R17 You got it completely backwards.

Indians are much more overtly homophobic than East Asians. They are more likely to be intolerant to "fem" stereotypes.

There is a LONG tradition of homosexual partners and men dressing in women's clothing in east Asia. In performing arts both in China and Japan, men dressed as women has a long traditon. Also i don't kow where you went to in Japan, but Japanese gay men has a wide range from super femmy to super butch and everything in between. There is a giant boyband scene where they dress like Yaoi characters (comic books of "boy's love", women are the target demographic).

PS. who removed the "Asian immigration" thread i have been commenting on for the past day?

by Anonymousreply 21October 31, 2017 4:26 PM

R19 Yes, all straight white guys have exactly the same taste in women, and all white gays disgusted by muscular masculine Asian guys. Did you run Hillary's polling or Trump's crowd calculations by any chance ? Your statistical skills are amazing.

by Anonymousreply 22October 31, 2017 5:12 PM

This thread needs more Toshiro Mifune gifs.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 23October 31, 2017 5:18 PM

I enjoyed watching Shogun.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 24October 31, 2017 6:02 PM

Ken Wantanabe

I worked on both Last Samauri and Memoirs Of A Geisha. Very nice man. Very sexy in person.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 25October 31, 2017 6:09 PM

How did we get 25 posts without Chow Yun Fat?

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 26October 31, 2017 6:15 PM

THere are tons of masculine Asian Gym bros in America, some of them with a lot of urban swag and attitude. I know some big buff thuggish Asian dudes too

by Anonymousreply 27October 31, 2017 6:21 PM

R7 The things that I would do to that man if he were still alive..mm you have renewed my interest in Asian gay porn. Peter Fever sometimes has good Asian gay content.

by Anonymousreply 28October 31, 2017 6:27 PM

R25, please tell us some Ken Watanabe stories. He's a big favorite of mine.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 29October 31, 2017 7:51 PM

The Japanese are the top of the Asian heap.

by Anonymousreply 30October 31, 2017 7:56 PM

I usually avoid these threads because I go on DL for fun and not to analyze things but these are really general statements. You haven't met one Asian in the States who was masculine? I don't know where in the US you're from or if you grew up rich or poor or is it just East Asians because I think class and ethnicity might have something to do with these generalizations. So if you actually want a thought out answer to your general question, I'll tell you some of my experiences.

I grew up in a working class area in California. It was 95 percent minorites. Mexicans, Blacks, Southeast Asians. Many of the Asian men in my area were masculine. They worked out all the time, were on the football team. We had Asian homecoming and prom kings. Some joined gangs. They had shaved heads, tattoos. I know 2 who are still in prison for murder. 1 of them robbed a mcdonald's and someone got killed in the robbery. Another one was playing pool with friends but kept getting racially insulted by a Mexican guy, so they fought and he ended up killing the guy. Most Asian guys in my neighborhood joined the military after high school, except for me. Most of our fathers were in the military.

I will agree with you that when I went to college, many of the Asian guys did tend to fit your stereotype. It was a culture shock. I think since they grew up in upper middle class areas around mostly white people, they think and act differently. They don't have to fight people all the time or be on guard so I guess they can concentrate on academics.

After college, I got a job in Japan and lived there for two years so I also agree with you about what you saw over there. I still live in Asia. Even though I miss the states, there is a feeling of comfort here of being able to be anything you want to be without feeling bogged down by stereotypes, pressure and self-doubt. It can be psychologically freeing. America is still only 2 percent Asian. That's a really low number so I get why you're generalizing but there are masculine Asian men in the states. You'll have to go to the ghetto though. Anyway, I'll go back to avoiding these threads again and go back to the mindless fun threads now.

by Anonymousreply 31October 31, 2017 7:56 PM

DL, stick to B&W films and Instagram hoes and Trump updates.

You don't do race well.

by Anonymousreply 32October 31, 2017 7:59 PM

[quote] Did you run Hillary's polling or Trump's crowd calculations by any chance ? Your statistical skills are amazing.

R22 when you come back in your next life as an Gay Asian dude, come back and write the above again from that lens

by Anonymousreply 33October 31, 2017 8:12 PM

R19, I'm wondering if you've been to San Francisco recently. There are quite a few masculine, muscular, 100% Asian guys there who are very sought after by lots of white guys.

by Anonymousreply 34October 31, 2017 8:42 PM

[quote] There are quite a few masculine, muscular, 100% Asian guys there who are very sought after by lots of white guys.

But are the white guys who seek out these Asians also masculine & muscular?

by Anonymousreply 35October 31, 2017 8:44 PM

R35, good point. Lots of the white guys are older and not in the best of shapes. But those Asian guys do also have hot, young white admirers too. Maybe it's because SF is more multicultural in general.

by Anonymousreply 36October 31, 2017 8:46 PM

It's not just gays.

I have a friend from college who is a very masculine (and hetero) Korean-American guy. 6'2" and a D3 athlete. He had a lot of trouble finding women who would date him even though he's very good looking and in shape.

Asian women found him too 'white" and too aggressive and white women assumed all Asian guys were wimps with small dicks.

Fortunately he found a wonderful woman who was able to get past the stereotype and they've been married for at least 5 years now.

by Anonymousreply 37October 31, 2017 8:52 PM

I know muscular does not equal masculine, but the Asian Muscle dude threads have lots of Asians are both

by Anonymousreply 38October 31, 2017 9:23 PM

I would love to date a super masculine Asian guy there just aren’t that many in Chicago. The gay Asians that I see here are often walking/sashaying down Halsted sucking on lollipops acting like eighth grade girls. I’ve been asked if “I like rice” on many occasions.

by Anonymousreply 39November 1, 2017 1:49 PM

R33 You're dumb. And uneducated. You fail as an Asian.

by Anonymousreply 40November 1, 2017 2:00 PM

OP, perhaps you Hang out with an effeminate crowd of men in general, not just Asians. At my gym and neighborhood, are countless masculine Asians playing basketball, football, and hanging around macho latin and black guys. There are also Asian thuggish guys who may be part of gangs.

by Anonymousreply 41November 1, 2017 2:10 PM

I grew up in Southern California, where there is a large Asian population with people from all walks of life, so I saw everything from effeminate to masculine. The Bay Area has similar demographics, and I know the Houston area has a large Asian population from all walks of life, so I've seen lots of masculine Asian men there too. My neighborhood had a lot of Filipinos, Cambodians, and Vietnamese from working class backgrounds, so a lot of them leaned masculine and rugged. There were a lot of older masculine East Asian men that I would see from time to time as well. There were several Asian guys that I had crushes on, but didn't understand/comprehend because I was 13 and barely understood homosexuality (it was the early 90s and I was raised in a religious household). When I lived in Atlanta, the Asian population there was mostly Korean and quite a few were FOBs. I did wind up becoming fuckbuddies with a Chinese man who grew up in Georgia, and happened to be masculine, well-endowed and could fuck very well. I wound up moving to Los Angeles for awhile, and I would see attractive, masculine Asian men there, but they either dated white men or other Asians, so I really didn't get much play/attention from them. Now, I live in the DC Area, which also has a large Asian population and while I do see some masculine, attractive Asian men around here, I think due to the fact that many of them grew up in the upper class suburbs in Virginia and Maryland around DC, or came from Ivy-league schools in the NE, they don't seem to have the edge that a lot of West Coast Asians have. And a lot of them act shocked that I would find them attractive.

by Anonymousreply 42November 1, 2017 2:41 PM

R41 I don’t have one feminine friend. Now don’t get me wrong after rugby we camp it up a little bit. All in good fun though. I’d love to know where these masculine Asian men are. What city are you in?

by Anonymousreply 43November 1, 2017 2:48 PM

Sulu was always very brave and masculine. I seem to recall him saving that black woman many times.

by Anonymousreply 44November 1, 2017 3:23 PM

[quote] You're dumb. And uneducated. You fail as an Asian.

Are you Asian R22? If not then you don't know what you are talking about

[quote] And a lot of them act shocked that I would find them attractive.

Because Gay Asians have conditioned to feel that white guys have zero interest in them

by Anonymousreply 45November 1, 2017 3:29 PM

R45 - I'm a black man. I already wrote that most of the Asian men I had dealings with in Los Angeles and other places either dated other Asians or dated white guys. I should've shared that tidbit of information, LOL.

by Anonymousreply 46November 1, 2017 4:02 PM


by Anonymousreply 47November 2, 2017 3:50 AM

Just don’t go to any asian night at any gay club. There will be 500 boys acting like girls dancing around

by Anonymousreply 48November 2, 2017 2:41 PM

THere are a lot of fluid and bi Asian dudes who are masculine. That’s who I️ mess with.

by Anonymousreply 49November 2, 2017 3:01 PM

The ones I love are guys named Winston Chang. They usually try to talk like corp white guys which is a huge turn on for me. Need to be corrupted

by Anonymousreply 50November 2, 2017 3:05 PM

Asians in Asia are WAY hotter than their counterparts in the US, just as white guys in Europe are WAY hotter.

by Anonymousreply 51November 2, 2017 3:28 PM

Pass the masculine Asians over this way !

by Anonymousreply 52November 2, 2017 7:30 PM

At least in the movies I've seen they are either yakuza psychos or pathetic, drunken "salarymen."

by Anonymousreply 53November 2, 2017 8:03 PM

There's a higher proportion of tops in Asia. I know; they all tried to fuck me.

by Anonymousreply 54November 4, 2017 4:54 PM

I lived in Japan for two years. I became a Rice Queen cause many of them were so damn sexy. And yes, like R54, they all wanted to fuck me.

by Anonymousreply 55November 4, 2017 5:06 PM

Rice Queen is a racist term dude

by Anonymousreply 56November 5, 2017 3:48 PM

R56, it wasn't when I was living there. I don't use the term anymore. That said, I'm also not buying in to all the over-the-top Political Correctness. Rice just refers to the staple cuisine of most Asian cultures. It's specific, and isn't inherently derogatory. And the whole phrase is so utterly ridiculous in its own way that to take it too seriously is in and of itself an absurdity.

by Anonymousreply 57November 5, 2017 4:16 PM

R30, you must be Japanese.

by Anonymousreply 58November 5, 2017 4:36 PM

R56=Dinge Queen

by Anonymousreply 59November 5, 2017 4:45 PM

Snow Queen is rather elegant. Is it derogatory too?

by Anonymousreply 60November 5, 2017 4:48 PM

Cowboy Kenji Sakaguchi

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 61November 5, 2017 5:19 PM

Kenji naked

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 62November 5, 2017 5:21 PM

Division thread. United we stand.

by Anonymousreply 63November 5, 2017 5:24 PM

R62 Is he cut? Maybe he's Korean.

by Anonymousreply 64November 5, 2017 5:30 PM

R57 Probably the best thing I’ve read all day.

by Anonymousreply 65November 5, 2017 7:14 PM

Ed Chen from Silicon Valley is masculine and a total bro.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 66November 5, 2017 7:15 PM

Vincent Rodriguez III from Crazy Ex-Girlfriend

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 67November 5, 2017 7:32 PM

Has Kenji done porn for us yet?

by Anonymousreply 68November 5, 2017 7:40 PM

R59, you’re old and effeminate and use archaic subculture terms no one else understands today, dude.

by Anonymousreply 69November 5, 2017 7:43 PM

Kay Thao

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 70November 16, 2017 1:58 AM


by Anonymousreply 71November 16, 2017 1:59 AM

OP has limited comprehension and certainly hasn't looked at Asian men with a non-jaded eye.

by Anonymousreply 72November 16, 2017 1:59 AM

Ludi Lin was the only thing that made the Power Rangers movie watchable.

I kept fantasizing about tying him up and edging him for hours with my tongue...

by Anonymousreply 73November 16, 2017 4:47 AM

Gay Asians in the US are immigrants. They grew up with very different family dynamics and personal expectations than their counterparts in their native countries. As an immigrant, you are taught that in order to survive, you have to make money to pay the rent, buy grocery, pay the utilities, etc... So that's what you focus on instead of working on your body or your looks.

So it's really not that gay Asians are less masculine in the US. It's that they're immigrants and they have different priorities.

by Anonymousreply 74December 17, 2017 12:43 PM

In Japan, the way people perceive you is very, very important. They are very much locked into gender roles in Japan.

Sexism is still a huge issue. Homophobia is still a huge issue.

All people have to do to be masculine is self-analyze 100% of the time, which Japanese people do.

The fathers (Japan/Korea) are very strict and "being a man" is very important or else you'll lose face for the family--or the Japanese equivalent.

It's much different than other parts of Asia like the Dravidian / Indo-Iranian or Semitic areas in which the men's behaviour--in terms of masculinity--isn't considered as important, but similar to the Slavic areas of Asia.

I'd say if the family is more Ainu in Japan they will be more lax, If they are more Han, they will be more strict.

by Anonymousreply 75December 17, 2017 12:57 PM



by Anonymousreply 76December 17, 2017 12:57 PM

Hot sweaty mens

by Anonymousreply 77December 17, 2017 1:28 PM

Justin Kim from America’s Next Top Model had a hip hop vibe which is obviously very masculine and dated (and got cheated on) by his black showmance girlfriend Mamé.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 78December 17, 2017 11:56 PM

More Justin Kim.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 79December 18, 2017 12:08 AM

He looks tiny bro

by Anonymousreply 80December 18, 2017 12:08 AM

None of those men are attractive. Indian guys on the other hand can be hot.

by Anonymousreply 81December 18, 2017 12:34 AM

Indian guys are gross.

by Anonymousreply 82December 18, 2017 1:47 AM


by Anonymousreply 83December 18, 2017 3:49 AM

I love muscled Asian dudes

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 84August 19, 2018 1:14 PM

Face is feminine and it feels out of proportion with the hunky body. Asian men need to stop trying to live up to western standard of hotness.

by Anonymousreply 85August 19, 2018 2:05 PM

You’re crazy r84. The guy above has a very masculine face. Don’t be ignorant

by Anonymousreply 86August 19, 2018 2:07 PM

R85 types like angry old white guy...

by Anonymousreply 87August 19, 2018 2:09 PM

R85 is stuck in 1967. Sad

by Anonymousreply 88August 19, 2018 2:12 PM

I was never into Asian men for years, and then something clicked at some point in my early 40's, and I was like WOOOOOW. I think it has mostly to do with the skin tones combined with the jet black hair. A sublime combo, IMO.

by Anonymousreply 89August 19, 2018 2:13 PM

Agree that you would get wider choice in Asia obviously, especially finding tops or even hairy(!) Asian gays. But goddamn, I met this really muscular, 40-something HKong-born lawyer at the gym. Lives out in Long Island but works in the city. He was persistent so I finally gave up my ass and was shocked at how good it was. Yes the dick is on the smaller side but he knows how to use it and at least it doesn’t hurt! That also means he can really ride me a really long time. Big beautiful nipples, amazing back, lots of hot verbal worship between us. I like daddy bears normally but this has been a pleasant surprise. Thinking he might be married though.

by Anonymousreply 90August 19, 2018 3:09 PM

Everyone has a preference. I just don't find Asian men hot especially, east Asian. Indian men can be hot depending on their facial structure. Why do some of you attack others for not finding a certain race hot.

by Anonymousreply 91August 19, 2018 3:15 PM

It proves that immigrating to US is the wrong choice for them especially for East Asians.

by Anonymousreply 92August 19, 2018 4:24 PM

Some DLers are especially mean to Asians . Not sure where do these hatreds come from.

by Anonymousreply 93August 19, 2018 4:35 PM

In college, I wasn’t into Asian dudes. But now, all these big buff athletic Asian dudes at my gym have got me so sprung now

by Anonymousreply 94August 19, 2018 6:19 PM

I think media and social media are showcasing hot masculine Asian men more than ever.

by Anonymousreply 95August 19, 2018 6:20 PM

So hot

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 96January 30, 2021 8:58 PM

I remember seeing this guy back in 2016 and my heart melting. Looked him up today, and yep, still has that effect.

Plus, for all those interested out there, his name is An Chang Rim.

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 97January 31, 2021 12:13 AM


Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 98October 12, 2021 12:02 AM

Oh well....

Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 99October 12, 2021 12:07 AM

Who dat

by Anonymousreply 100October 12, 2021 12:18 AM

Many Asian Americans seem willing to literally bend over backwards to assimilate. 😂😂🤣🤪😳

by Anonymousreply 101October 12, 2021 8:42 AM

Shut up

by Anonymousreply 102October 12, 2021 3:30 PM


Offsite Link
by Anonymousreply 103October 13, 2021 2:45 AM

No such thing.

by Anonymousreply 104October 13, 2021 2:50 AM

Hmmm, I think I need to hit up my married Asian fuckbud in the morning.

by Anonymousreply 105October 13, 2021 3:05 AM

R105, do better

by Anonymousreply 106October 13, 2021 4:21 AM

Why this thread? Just Google "masculine Japanese men" and you will see a ton of good looking, masculine Japanese men. It is not hard to find.

by Anonymousreply 107October 13, 2021 4:57 AM

R10 Mishima died like a man. His reasons to die were fucked yo, but his suicide was manly and courageous.

by Anonymousreply 108October 13, 2021 5:24 AM

I've seen a few masculine asian men so they exist. I've hooked up with a few asian men. Not my cup of tea.

by Anonymousreply 109October 13, 2021 5:38 AM

I love Asian men, especially thuggish ones who hang out with black dudes

by Anonymousreply 110October 13, 2021 11:42 AM
Need more help? Click Here.

Yes indeed, we too use "cookies." Take a look at our privacy/terms or if you just want to see the damn site without all this bureaucratic nonsense, click ACCEPT. Otherwise, you'll just have to find some other site for your pointless bitchery needs.


Become a contributor - post when you want with no ads!