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"True Tops Don't Suck Cock"

I got told this by a gay guy I chatted up on Grindr after I told him my likes and he told me that "true tops don't suck cock." I was startled to hear this. He's gay and out, so it's not like he's a closet case.

What do you think of this?

by Anonymousreply 92May 2, 2020 11:32 AM

I think it makes him unfuckable.

by Anonymousreply 1June 25, 2017 2:41 AM

True human excrescence (him, not you).

by Anonymousreply 2June 25, 2017 2:41 AM

I do know that a friend who "dated" a cop said that the guy always wanted a blow job through his open zipper while wearing his uniform, and that he was loud and aggressive. The gun holster would be hitting my friend in the head as the guy stood there and writhed, and the cop would work himself to orgasm shouting, "I'M GOING TO BLOW YOUR FUCKING HEAD OFF!!!!!"

My friend loved it. Unfortunately, he's dead now. (Honestly.)

by Anonymousreply 3June 25, 2017 2:43 AM

R2 obviously does not know the definition of "excrescence." Tsk.

by Anonymousreply 4June 25, 2017 2:44 AM

R4 is more excrescence. Tsk.

by Anonymousreply 5June 25, 2017 2:46 AM

Yes it true. I know.

by Anonymousreply 6June 25, 2017 2:47 AM

"True Tops" sound really really boring

by Anonymousreply 7June 25, 2017 2:50 AM

He may have just been fucking with you OP

Or he may be insane.

Latter option is more likely.

There are guys who fetishize the notion of a strong macho masculine "total top" who only wants to be serviced by his little f**got, a role they are happy to play.

I once knew a guy like that. He never wanted me to do anything in return. At first I thought he wasn't into the sex, but he just wanted to blow me or have me fuck him. Never wanted to cum himself. It was kind of a rush at first, being serviced like that, (and he got off on my calling him to come over and blow me and then as soon as I came, kicking him out) but it quickly got old and boring and frankly, creepy.

by Anonymousreply 8June 25, 2017 2:59 AM

I'm a top. I've never bottomed for anyone

I've never intently went after someone just to suck cock but I've sucked the cocks of all the men I fucked

by Anonymousreply 9June 25, 2017 3:02 AM

Then you are not a true top deary. Tops are not cumguzzlers. Once a cocksucker always a bottom......

by Anonymousreply 10June 25, 2017 3:05 AM

R10 I've never bottomed for anyone. Never had dick in my hole

You're truly stupid

by Anonymousreply 11June 25, 2017 3:07 AM

Here you go, OP-- R10 is your example of the "I am disgusting little f*g not worthy of an orgasm, please feed me your masculine juice, O, almost-heterosexual one" freak I was referring to.

by Anonymousreply 12June 25, 2017 3:08 AM

Cock is fun to suck. People who avoid fun things because hetero norms tell them to, suck.

by Anonymousreply 13June 25, 2017 3:11 AM

If you have to justify your topness by labeling yourself a true top you aint much of a top. Get to sucking!!! Hell, str8 dudes suck cock .

by Anonymousreply 14June 25, 2017 3:20 AM

I think he's full of shit.

by Anonymousreply 15June 25, 2017 3:24 AM

[quote]If you have to justify your topness by labeling yourself a true top you aint much of a top. Get to sucking!!! Hell, str8 dudes suck cock .

Ah, the old straight dudes suck cock DL myth.

by Anonymousreply 16June 25, 2017 3:25 AM

"It was the liquor talking."

by Anonymousreply 17June 25, 2017 3:40 AM

R11 You are even stupider than I thought. You have had a cock in your mouth and are in no way a pure top. You are versatile. The moment you took that head into you mouth,sucked it and swallowed its cum you were no longer a top. Pure tops would never blow anyone.

R12 You are so off. My point was something far different. The person in question wasn't a pure top BECAUSE he sucks cocks and swallows cum. It is as simple as that. You are on to some bizarre psychobabble in your post. Stop mixing prozac and mescaline ,that is so passe'.

by Anonymousreply 18June 25, 2017 4:16 AM

WHERE DO I FIND OUT THE REST OF THE GAY "RULES"???

by Anonymousreply 19June 25, 2017 4:23 AM

Love you Bill!

by Anonymousreply 20June 25, 2017 4:33 AM

I'm no prude, but this is a clear example of what too much porn consumption will do to you, unrealistic sex expectations. 40 load weekends, taking FF to your elbow, really extreme stuff videoed taped, making it all look like its ok and normal. Pushing these boundaries is not healthy. Soooooo... obviously real life is not a porno movie but lots of guys forget that.

True tops, how boring, be gay, have fun, fuck suck and be merry.

by Anonymousreply 21June 25, 2017 4:40 AM

I never particularly like sucking cock or having mine sucked-i do it, but prefer intercourse. I naven't had an orgasm from oral in many years-just not my thing.

by Anonymousreply 22June 25, 2017 5:23 AM

Not this again. If you're a top who doesn't like sucking dick, find a bottom who doesn't like getting his dick sucked (and vice versa). If you're a true top who does like sucking dick, find a bottom who likes getting his dick sucked (and vice versa).

Problem solved.

by Anonymousreply 23June 25, 2017 6:18 AM

BILL MAKE YOUR OWN RULESJUST BESAFE!

by Anonymousreply 24June 25, 2017 6:25 AM

OP, this guy sounds like he'll come out as trans soon. Not Caitlyn trans but Laverne Cox trans; as in "two men together is an abomination so I'll become a woman thereby making my love for men acceptable aka heterosexual. See? Me is not an abomination!".

by Anonymousreply 25June 25, 2017 6:36 AM

He belongs in a grease fire. A big one.

by Anonymousreply 26June 25, 2017 7:02 AM

Bill transitioned years ago and his name is now Cheryl! Cheryl is a pure top BTW.

by Anonymousreply 27June 25, 2017 4:52 PM

I agree with this quote.

by Anonymousreply 28July 14, 2017 8:31 PM

As a true top, I often try to tell this to my partners, but it's hard for them to understand what I'm saying with their dick in my mouth.

by Anonymousreply 29July 14, 2017 8:36 PM

Fuck the poster upthread using the term "pure top", which isn't even what they're called (that would be "total tops").

One can be a top and still suck dick. I love to suck a fat cock and then turn the guy around and lick his ass and fuck him. I'm not concerned with "purity" regarding my role as a top, and guys who are, aren't fun. They're boring, nasty, selfish cunts, along the same lines as sociopathic Republicans, lawyers, serial killers, and corporate soulless drones.

I loathe total tops. I hope they all get the incurable gonhorrea.

by Anonymousreply 30July 14, 2017 8:39 PM

[16] Ah the good ol "try gay sex once and you're gay" DL myth. I'd say half the men in London have gone gay at some point, are all of them gay?

by Anonymousreply 31July 14, 2017 8:41 PM

"Who doesn't like a nice bit of cock?"

by Anonymousreply 32July 14, 2017 8:54 PM

Tops who take the passive role in any way aren't "100%" top. That's just a fact. It doesn't matter for anything, it doesn't make them less sexy or anything, but it's a fact.

by Anonymousreply 33July 14, 2017 10:52 PM

In the 90s, Iused to love cock. Now I hate it. I'm disgusted by it. What happened I don't know.

by Anonymousreply 34July 14, 2017 10:59 PM

I didn't know how tightly fastened top and bottom labels were until I came to DL. They're fucking labels. People like a variety of things depending on their moods or sexual partners. I'm a top. I don't bottom. I love sucking cock though... absolutely love it, but it depends on the guy and the cock. I haven't been able to figure it out, but sometimes it's irresistible and other times it's the last thing I want to do.

People are complex creatures. Why shouldn't those complexities exist in sexual expression?

by Anonymousreply 35July 14, 2017 11:17 PM

For a top, you are very perceptive!

by Anonymousreply 36July 14, 2017 11:20 PM

I WANT TO BE A TRUE TOP. I WILL WORK HARD AT IT AND PRACTICE EVERYDAY. WISH ME LUCK GAYS.

by Anonymousreply 37July 14, 2017 11:20 PM

EVERYBODY sucks cock. Period.

by Anonymousreply 38July 14, 2017 11:22 PM

Just don't try to pretend that strictly topping makes you any less gay than the bottoms or versatiles. You're still having sex with guys—that's totally gay, you big pussy!

by Anonymousreply 39July 14, 2017 11:27 PM

R35, I agree. Some people here are LUDICROUSLY stuck on labels.

by Anonymousreply 40July 14, 2017 11:29 PM

[quote]Just don't try to pretend that strictly topping makes you any less gay than the bottoms or versatiles.

As a "total top" I've never felt like I was any less gay because I wasn't bottoming. I don't harbor that delusion, and honestly, I think it's "manlier" to bottom. That shit requires so much physical tolerance and mental fortitude... at least it did when I tried to do it. I respect the guys I top because I think it's really cool what they're able to do. I appreciate them for it.

That's just me though. It's clear my understanding of sex is very different from some of the others in this thread.

[quote]Some people here are LUDICROUSLY stuck on labels.

I wonder if it's a demographic thing.

by Anonymousreply 41July 14, 2017 11:35 PM

In the thread about porn with good kissing, someone (or more than one person) kept posting that total tops don't kiss, so I'm not surprised others would believe this nonsense. Those kind of "total tops" with so many damn "don't"s (or, more likely, "can't"s) sound boring as hell.

by Anonymousreply 42July 15, 2017 12:11 AM

Yes. Labels constrain. And why that poster thought that "tops" are in denial about being gay, I have no idea.

by Anonymousreply 43July 15, 2017 12:23 AM

R25 what an idiot you are. Considering how Laverne has consistantly supported (and been supported by the lgbt family, your dig is incredibly offensive.

by Anonymousreply 44July 15, 2017 1:17 AM

[quote]the lgbt family

You mean the Let's Go Be Trans family?

by Anonymousreply 45July 15, 2017 1:52 AM

How dare someone hold an opinion I do not agree with!!!!!

by Anonymousreply 46July 15, 2017 2:16 AM

Harummph! Daggnabit!

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by Anonymousreply 47July 15, 2017 2:47 AM

Let's stop the trans bashing.

Geesh, let's just stick with the topic of the thread.

I am a good top and a good bottom. I can't imagine not wanting to please my partner. All of the "true top" bullshit is about self-loathing and homophobia.

by Anonymousreply 48July 15, 2017 3:07 AM

NEW STRAIN OF SUPER GONNORHEA IS ANTIBIOIC RESISTANT

by Anonymousreply 49July 15, 2017 3:47 AM

Should be obvious: in their minds a "true top" is like a straight guy that they service.

I know a couple of guys like this.

They only want to blow me.

Don't want to get naked, don't want to have their own orgasm, just happy to come in and blow me.

It's fun once in a blue moon, but not on a regular basis. I guess they get something out of it because they keep coming back. but I'm not sure what.

by Anonymousreply 50July 15, 2017 3:58 AM

[quote]It's fun once in a blue moon, but not on a regular basis. I guess they get something out of it because they keep coming back. but I'm not sure what.

I've met a few guys like that. Two of them actually identified as straight and admittedly loved having sex with women, but every once in a while they get an overwhelming urge to suck cock. I don't judge. Whatever works. Like you said, it's occasionally fun, but I like to get in there too, you know? Suck some cock of my own... kiss... those sorts of things. No recip guys can be tiresome.

by Anonymousreply 51July 15, 2017 4:02 AM

Agree R51

The ones I know are definitely gay.

I'm not into the whole "dom" thing which seems to be what they want. One used to ask me "am I a good little cocksucker" and "thanks for letting me be your suck boy" and it was really creepy so I cut him loose.

by Anonymousreply 52July 15, 2017 4:05 AM

Bump

by Anonymousreply 53November 6, 2018 5:31 PM

Yes they don't

by Anonymousreply 54July 7, 2019 12:17 AM

"True tops" sure do seem like they're lousy in bed.

by Anonymousreply 55July 7, 2019 12:25 AM

Anyone who thinks that tops shouldn't suck dick is a damaged person desperately chasing a hetero-normative fantasy.

by Anonymousreply 56July 7, 2019 12:25 AM

[quote]desperately chasing a hetero-normative fantasy.

The whole business of assigning dominant/submissive personality traits to top/bottom sex positions is regressive and heteronormative.

by Anonymousreply 57July 7, 2019 12:29 AM

R57, I agree, actually, but the top/bottom jargon is so pervasive that it's easy to drift into using it.

by Anonymousreply 58July 7, 2019 12:46 AM

“True tops” who don’t suck = a boring fuck and an inherently selfish person.

by Anonymousreply 59July 7, 2019 1:13 AM

I don't think of being a top, bottom, or verse as having anything to do with oral, only fucking. I love sucking and being sucked. But, I only top when fucking, not because I think it makes me more masculine, but because I have tried to bottom and I just can't. I've tried it several times and I always end up with anal fissures, therefore bottoming just isn't worth it, for me.

by Anonymousreply 60July 7, 2019 2:00 AM

I admit to using these labels as a kind of shorthand but I also know that within each "category" is a wide range of preferences (e.g. some are into BDSM and others aren't) as we've seen even on this short thread.

by Anonymousreply 61July 7, 2019 2:20 AM

I have two friends who are total tops and neither have ever sucked a cock. Both are over 60.

by Anonymousreply 62July 7, 2019 2:30 AM

Like sucking cock and I'm a top. I also like kissing and letting the guy eat out my ass. I guess I'm versatile. I might let a guy fuck me.. It's been a while.

by Anonymousreply 63July 7, 2019 2:34 AM

I'm mostly a top and love cocksucking.

by Anonymousreply 64August 9, 2019 12:52 PM

Sexual retardation has existed for a long time, r62. The millennicunts didn't invent it.

by Anonymousreply 65August 9, 2019 1:11 PM

He's correct

by Anonymousreply 66August 9, 2019 1:15 PM

He is obviously insane. I would not go near him unless he has a big dick.

by Anonymousreply 67August 9, 2019 1:19 PM

So true tops who are straight dont eat chicks out. got it.

by Anonymousreply 68August 9, 2019 1:23 PM

r64 Right there with you!

by Anonymousreply 69August 9, 2019 1:25 PM

I've been with a thousand guys—okay, more than a thousand: I used to have a list—and am either non-anal or a bottom, and I have had exactly one guy refuse to suck my cock, so this "true/total top" thing seems like a myth to me. I would show your guy the door, OP, just as I showed Billy the door when he wouldn't suck my dick. What has the world come to?

by Anonymousreply 70August 10, 2019 9:37 AM

I'm mostly a top and I enjoy cocksucking . I love kissing and getting rimmed. I don't ever eat ass.

by Anonymousreply 71December 21, 2019 1:54 AM

R63 "Versatile"?....bitch you ain't never topped nothin' but a baked potato.

by Anonymousreply 72December 21, 2019 1:58 AM

TOTAL tops don't suck cocks. They fuck and get sucked.

by Anonymousreply 73December 21, 2019 2:08 AM

"True Tops Don't Suck Cock"

Ironically that makes "true tops" suck.

by Anonymousreply 74December 21, 2019 2:17 AM

Who cares?

by Anonymousreply 75December 21, 2019 2:26 AM

Cops suck dick all the time. In uniform.

by Anonymousreply 76December 27, 2019 12:29 AM

R76, video links please!

by Anonymousreply 77December 27, 2019 12:36 AM

R33: How is a top grabbing a guy’s cock, giving it a wank, and then actively performing oral sex “passive”?

Whether it is passive or active depends on how the oral sex is executed. If the blowjob giver is into it, using their throat muscles, tongue, and lips to get the recipient off, then it is active. To the reverse, a passive blowjob giver just opens his mouth and lets the recipient take the control and fuck his mouth to orgasm.

by Anonymousreply 78December 27, 2019 1:05 AM

If you remember in the Sopranos, uncle junior didn't want the fellas to know he ate pussy. They actually called it giving head.

I think there is something there because when I enjoy eating pussy, it is very much like giving head. The clit really is just a little dick. And if your good at it you get rewarded with a flow of juice. Just like the infamous G spot is a lot like a prostate. An erogenous zone.

It makes sense that both sexes would have similar pleasure centers which encourage reproduction.

As for not giving head? I think that is the same as not bottoming. Your missing out on a big part of the sex experience. I prefer the whole menu.

by Anonymousreply 79December 27, 2019 1:27 AM

Anybody who says people can't do natural fun normal sexual things during sex is an asshole and has major issues.

Fuck all that. If you want to have sex, have sex - don't tell people what they're 'not supposed to do' because it doesn't fit into your twisted fantasy world.

I hate these types of deranged gays - and there are more around than I'd like.

by Anonymousreply 80December 27, 2019 1:31 AM

Guys like me to top them cause I have a big dick. But once we get started I'm into everything, Sucking their cocks, eating ass, getting fucked myself. Why limit yourself? Nothing is hotter than a nice flip fuck session where both of you get satisfied.

by Anonymousreply 81December 27, 2019 1:47 AM

I'll up for anything except eating ass. Nasty and dangerous.

by Anonymousreply 82December 27, 2019 2:09 AM

Taking dick in the ass is just as "nasty and dangerous".

And don't @ me, hungry bottoms. Go read a book on human anatomy and then follow that up with CDC disease stats related to anal sex.

by Anonymousreply 83December 27, 2019 2:49 AM

Yes and Princess Andy Chen claimed he never had anything stuck up his ass as well. True top? Not when she is getting a cock shoved up his asshole.

by Anonymousreply 84January 11, 2020 4:36 PM

WHY DO THESE BOTTOMS KEEP FORCING ME TO SUCK COCK?

by Anonymousreply 85January 11, 2020 4:50 PM

No one is a top and no one is a bottom. It’s an action, you top, you bottom.

by Anonymousreply 86January 12, 2020 1:18 AM

I like to do the sucking and then I 'll take care of the fucking after they've reciprocated the sucking; not into ass eating per se, but love having my own ass eaten out. Eating out is such a pleasure.

by Anonymousreply 87January 15, 2020 11:30 PM

So stupid. I've been a 99% top forever and I like to suck dick. Doesn't mean I'm submissive.

by Anonymousreply 88January 15, 2020 11:32 PM

Self hating fags like these ruin the gay community

by Anonymousreply 89January 15, 2020 11:33 PM

Everyone can do everything so tell him to STFU.

by Anonymousreply 90January 16, 2020 7:46 AM

I don't suck big daddy's dick, big daddy sucks mine. 'Cause it's hot.

by Anonymousreply 91January 16, 2020 12:53 PM

Okay

by Anonymousreply 92May 2, 2020 11:32 AM
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