Why has this become such a popular attribute sought among men seeking men?
Guys are seeking "chill" and "laid back" Dudes
by Anonymous | reply 162 | December 7, 2020 4:33 PM |
Hey, if "chill" can be an adjective, anything goes.
by Anonymous | reply 1 | February 4, 2017 8:13 PM |
Define "chill" and "laid back" with human examples
by Anonymous | reply 2 | February 4, 2017 8:16 PM |
A lot of these terms in personals are so subjective as to give readers no guidance on whether they meet the writers' standards.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | February 4, 2017 8:17 PM |
Because too many people who claim to be looking for sex are too anxious about it, and that anxiety is twisted into endless demands for hyper-specific types, specific sex acts, and endless pic verification. The enjoyment disappears. People want friendly, easygoing partners and more-or-less affirming sexual experiences.
"Chill" and "laid back" can also be codewords for masc, since a lot of the anxiety ridden types come across as nelly.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | February 4, 2017 8:18 PM |
But the ads say "not looking for sex or hookups!"
by Anonymous | reply 5 | February 4, 2017 8:19 PM |
Can an effeminate or stereotypical dude be chill and laid back?
by Anonymous | reply 6 | February 4, 2017 8:20 PM |
[quote]Define "chill" and "laid back" with human examples
by Anonymous | reply 7 | February 4, 2017 8:22 PM |
Who dat?
by Anonymous | reply 8 | February 4, 2017 8:24 PM |
Realjock tackled this issue
...to me its someone who doesn't feak out unnecessarily over the little things and knows how to take things in stride. A laidback person to me knows when and how to have a good time while still being able to get the job done when needed, they have a "go with the flow" attitude towards most things. In short...they strike the balance between being professional/mature and being fun, spontaneous and affableicon_biggrin.gif QUOTE REPORT SPAM
by Anonymous | reply 9 | February 4, 2017 8:26 PM |
Well you see, Anglos, WASPs or however you want to call them come across as too uptight and full of themselves and these are not pleasant attributes to have. So somebody who is the opposite will be laid back and relaxed, personable.
by Anonymous | reply 10 | February 4, 2017 8:26 PM |
Chill laidback = no drama queens
by Anonymous | reply 11 | February 4, 2017 8:27 PM |
Another viewpoint: I've always read the term as code. Gay code for "I'm masculine and easy going" when in fact they are not. Or, they have severe internalized homophobia that equates queerness with a certain high-pitched dramatic intensity. It's why I also dislike seeing the term masculine over-used in profiles.
by Anonymous | reply 12 | February 4, 2017 8:28 PM |
[quote]Who dat?
Matthew McConaughey in Dazed and Confused.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | February 4, 2017 8:28 PM |
Matthew 'we should embrace Donald Trump' McConaughey ? Ewwww
by Anonymous | reply 14 | February 4, 2017 8:30 PM |
It sounds like the gay version of the "cool girl" from Gone Girl.
by Anonymous | reply 15 | February 4, 2017 8:30 PM |
McConaughey and Marie Osmond should embrace each other.
by Anonymous | reply 16 | February 4, 2017 8:33 PM |
No fats or femmes or asians
by Anonymous | reply 17 | February 4, 2017 8:34 PM |
Or blacks, you forgot that one R16
by Anonymous | reply 18 | February 4, 2017 8:35 PM |
R18 here, I meant R17
by Anonymous | reply 19 | February 4, 2017 8:35 PM |
R4 FTW
by Anonymous | reply 20 | February 4, 2017 8:36 PM |
Yes to blacks
by Anonymous | reply 21 | February 4, 2017 8:38 PM |
I have seen those terms used on Craigslist in the "roommates" ads during my college years among young guys looking for roommates. I wondered what it was about too and finally figured it out. It's said by millennials, often big pot smokers. They like to party but also be serious about school, work, etc. Millenials, especially ones on the west coast, strive to give an appearance that they hate drama and just want to have a good time all the time. These types are really annoying. 0ften frat boy types or wannabes.
by Anonymous | reply 22 | February 4, 2017 8:38 PM |
It's the opposite of a Type A or upright, high maintenance person
by Anonymous | reply 23 | February 4, 2017 8:46 PM |
Laid back bros are the best
by Anonymous | reply 24 | February 5, 2017 1:24 PM |
Indeed
by Anonymous | reply 25 | February 10, 2017 9:45 PM |
I prefer a shrill harpy
by Anonymous | reply 26 | February 10, 2017 10:42 PM |
It's also big to say "no worries" a lot.
by Anonymous | reply 27 | February 23, 2017 3:56 PM |
It probably means they're hyper sensitive to criticism about any of their personal habits, hygiene or employment status.
by Anonymous | reply 28 | February 23, 2017 4:02 PM |
[quote]I have seen those terms used on Craigslist in the "roommates" ads during my college years among young guys looking for roommates.
It's not even being a pot smoker or anything like that. Some people are just naturally more laid back than others, for better or worse. Someone who is laid back should not live with someone who is more type A, it is guaranteed to cause tons of problems.
by Anonymous | reply 29 | February 23, 2017 4:06 PM |
"chill" and "laid back" are used so often they mean virtually nothing. plus it's stupid sounding.
by Anonymous | reply 30 | February 23, 2017 4:07 PM |
It's meant to convey you are cool, hip
by Anonymous | reply 31 | February 23, 2017 4:09 PM |
masc., chill, laid back, drama-free blah blah blah blah. Just take out your cock already.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | February 23, 2017 4:10 PM |
[quote] Millenials, especially ones on the west coast, strive to give an appearance that they hate drama and just want to have a good time all the time. These types are really annoying. 0ften frat boy types or wannabes.
An excerpt from Chapter 2 of "The Decline and Fall of the American Gay Male."
by Anonymous | reply 33 | February 23, 2017 4:14 PM |
[quote] "chill" and "laid back" are used so often they mean virtually nothing. plus it's stupid sounding.
Dudebro slang is inarticulate and provincial and thus a real turnoff.
[quote] It's meant to convey you are cool, hip
Which are buzzwords that mean "I'm a slave to modern trends even when they make me look like a jackass."
by Anonymous | reply 34 | February 23, 2017 4:15 PM |
But the people often considered hot or desirable think it's cool, so most emulatecit because they want to be among the cool kids too
by Anonymous | reply 35 | February 23, 2017 4:19 PM |
It's code for "won't freak out when he sees I weigh a bit more than I said in my profile"
by Anonymous | reply 36 | February 23, 2017 4:20 PM |
The deeper irony of presenting this question to a group of overmedicated Xanax queens is worth pointing out.
by Anonymous | reply 37 | February 23, 2017 4:25 PM |
That was funny, R15. Good job!
by Anonymous | reply 38 | February 23, 2017 4:38 PM |
I also think that they refer to pot smokers because the usually are chill,and laid back !
by Anonymous | reply 39 | February 23, 2017 5:54 PM |
It's a polite way of saying they don't want femme.
by Anonymous | reply 40 | February 23, 2017 6:10 PM |
Can femme guys be chill?
by Anonymous | reply 41 | February 23, 2017 6:25 PM |
I always though that chill and laid back was code for being a stoner
by Anonymous | reply 42 | February 23, 2017 6:26 PM |
No R41, femme guys are by definition shrieking, histrionic drama queens. They cannot, ever, be chill.
by Anonymous | reply 43 | February 23, 2017 6:27 PM |
I asked a friend about what, "no drama" meant. I work in opera, seriously, so I'm thinking possibly in different terms than others.
My friend replied, "I means don't be like my ex". I'm grateful to have friends like him.
by Anonymous | reply 44 | February 23, 2017 6:30 PM |
As a guy who grew up in the 70s, I would basically translate this as "mellow." That's what you had to be in the 70s, pretty much.
If you're mellow though I don't see why you'd want another mellow guy in your life. I am mellow and pretty masculine (I totally fly under the gaydar) and being with another guy like me would not be very interesting.
by Anonymous | reply 45 | February 23, 2017 6:40 PM |
Chill/laid back means exactly that.
It means if we roll into town at 10pm on a Friday night and there's a big game at the local U he doesn't make you keep driving if the first hotel with a vacancy is a Days Inn with a room with a view of a row of AC compresors.
It means he doesn't throw a screaming shit fit in the airport when our flight is delayed and delayed again due to a blizzard in Chicago.
It means he counts to ten silently and shows patience when your 80 year old mother drives fearfully in a rainstorm because he knows his relatives ain't perfect either.
It means he doesn't go off on you the minute you walk in the door for not responding to his texts .
It means when you ask if he wants Italian or Thai and he says he doesn't care as long as it's edible and soon and you pull in at the first Olive Garden he really is OK with it and doesn't pout if he had a craving for Thai.
It means if he had a craving for Thai he just says so.
It means he's inclined to look on your quirks with amusement and not annoyance.
It means there is an allowance for being an imperfect human with baggage because he recognizes he's no different
by Anonymous | reply 46 | February 23, 2017 6:46 PM |
Well said man
by Anonymous | reply 47 | February 23, 2017 7:18 PM |
Rarely do you see someone write as clearly and intelligently as R46 on DL.
by Anonymous | reply 48 | February 23, 2017 7:20 PM |
Solid, bro.
by Anonymous | reply 49 | February 23, 2017 7:20 PM |
R46 nailed it. Even his writing is Chill.
But riddle me this, why are more e--Fem guys always hyper strung and easily pissed off about the littlest thing that doesn't go their way? Translation = Drama.
by Anonymous | reply 50 | February 23, 2017 7:34 PM |
Most def yo. Mad props to r46.
by Anonymous | reply 51 | February 23, 2017 7:34 PM |
Thank you, gents.
BTW I think men who are, uh, more in touch with their feminine side get a bad rap with this.
I've known men who no one is ever going to confuse with Mad Dog Mattis who were nonetheless very laid back. If women can be laid back, femme guys can be laid back.
Conversely I've known hyper masculine guys (as in Navy SEALS) who were super high strung and every little glitch is a catastrophe and throbbing-forehead-vein, red-faced UNfuckingSAT, BRO.
I think the difference is, as with women, the drama is higher frequency, and I mean that literally, the way a chihuahua yapping for hours is more annoying than a German Shepherd doing exactly the same thing.
by Anonymous | reply 52 | February 23, 2017 8:20 PM |
To me, "chill and laidback" = stoner, lacking any social morals or political convictions, shows up late, does annoying things that s/he expects others to be 'chill' about, sits around a lot doing nothing.
I.E., give me a nervous neurotic horndog any day.
by Anonymous | reply 53 | February 23, 2017 8:52 PM |
This is one of those pure, 100% unadulterated DL threads where the queeniest queens (i.e. R50, R51) try to out queen one another.
by Anonymous | reply 54 | February 23, 2017 9:06 PM |
It's a rejection of flair, camp, extreme snark, flamboyance, and high maintenance
by Anonymous | reply 55 | February 23, 2017 11:25 PM |
Does anyone ever crave a partner/bf/whatever who is high maintenance?
I lived with a straight roommate a few years ago who was very laid back. One of the best roommates I've ever had actually. He dated this girl for a while who was super high maintenance and I felt such pity for him. Not only did he seem miserable, but I always wanted to go in my room or leave the apartment whenever she came over.
Surely a gay male version of this would be even worse. True, she looked flawless at all times, but she was so freaking exhausting. It just didn't seem worth it.
by Anonymous | reply 56 | February 24, 2017 1:11 AM |
Similarly, I dislike "dudes" who always say, "It's all good."
Really, dude? The Holocaust? Genocide? Tornadoes? Corporate prisons? Fox News? "All good?"
by Anonymous | reply 57 | February 24, 2017 1:13 AM |
You're being too literal
by Anonymous | reply 58 | February 24, 2017 1:20 AM |
You say, "It's all good" when you go over to a guy's apartment after chatting with him on Scruff and realize he lives on the top floor of a six story walk up. He answers the door and says, "Sorry about the hike up here," to which you smile and answer, "It's all good."
That's laid back- something that you decidedly are not.
by Anonymous | reply 59 | February 24, 2017 1:33 AM |
R22 is right. On the west coast apparently there is a contest to see who is the most irritatingly "chill". I say this as a type B person. It's adopted by people with poor emotional and communication skills. This way, you don't have to have a personality.
The fakeness of it reminds me of terrible parents who natter on about the sacrifices they make for their kids, as if -saying- you are chill or a good parent means that you are.
"Chill" usually means passive aggressive btw.
by Anonymous | reply 60 | February 24, 2017 1:51 AM |
"'Chill' and 'laid back' can also be codewords for masc, since a lot of the anxiety ridden types come across as nelly."
Apparently said without irony.
by Anonymous | reply 61 | February 24, 2017 2:02 AM |
I avoid dramatic and flamboyant guys who are intense. If a guy is already being messy and difficult before you meet him, you know he is trouble. I also dislike negative people and people who always are saying bad stuff about others
by Anonymous | reply 62 | March 1, 2017 1:52 PM |
R53 has been accused of being high maintenance
by Anonymous | reply 63 | March 1, 2017 2:45 PM |
Well, I'm in my early 40s and Chill/Laid Back always = pot. It was a way of saying you're a stoner, without saying, "Hey, I'm a stoner!"
But it's been so interesting to hear how you young bros have taken it and made it your own. So now "Chill" and "Laid Back" = masculine and straight-acting. Cuz we all know that the screechy, high maintenance femme queens are never chill and laid back. To act "gay" is the opposite of chill and laid back. And who wants to deal with that? Got it.
You always learn so much on DL.
by Anonymous | reply 64 | March 1, 2017 3:04 PM |
They're probably trying to avoid high-maintenance, Energizer-Bunny, jazz-hands queens and don't know how to define that.
by Anonymous | reply 65 | March 1, 2017 3:08 PM |
Dogs attack me because they can spot an alpha. It's in the eyes.
But they are not seeing "chill" and "laid back" My human mask does pretty well, however.
by Anonymous | reply 66 | March 1, 2017 3:40 PM |
I'm an avid pot smoker from a red state where weed is still illegal. I test as ENTP on the Myers-Briggs personality type test. To me being chill and laid back means others can feel relaxed around you and be themselves. It's a sign of a secure individual who doesn't sweat the little stuff, the minor details and just allows life and situations to work themselves out. Someone who isn't contrived, pre-plans and has a tight schedule for all things. Stop, and smell the roses once in a while...and inhale some pot smoke too while you're at it.
by Anonymous | reply 67 | March 1, 2017 4:10 PM |
I don't where y'all live, but here in North Carolina chill and laid back is not associated with drugs. It means someone who is very relaxed and easygoing, low maintenance. It's someone who avoids stress and complications
by Anonymous | reply 68 | March 1, 2017 4:13 PM |
who wants a man whose all wound up for sound? like some damned meth addict! Chill baby, chill. Thats where it's at.
by Anonymous | reply 69 | March 1, 2017 4:14 PM |
I think it can mean all these things - pothead, low-maintenance, masculine (or at least non-feminine), non-dramatic - depending on who is using it.
by Anonymous | reply 70 | March 1, 2017 5:49 PM |
As long as "chillax" is not invoked. I think usage of that should bring the death penalty.
by Anonymous | reply 71 | March 1, 2017 9:40 PM |
Chillax is so 2004
by Anonymous | reply 72 | March 1, 2017 9:46 PM |
It's so vomitworthy no matter what year it's attributed to.
by Anonymous | reply 73 | March 1, 2017 9:53 PM |
Yeah
by Anonymous | reply 74 | March 1, 2017 9:56 PM |
[quote]I think the difference is, as with women, the drama is higher frequency, and I mean that literally, the way a chihuahua yapping for hours is more annoying than a German Shepherd doing exactly the same thing.
More like a Chihuahua vs a Lab. Chihuahua are very high strung, like many queens, Labs are very calm, friendly, relaxed, and strong at the same time. Labs are chill.
by Anonymous | reply 75 | March 1, 2017 10:25 PM |
I like Labs
by Anonymous | reply 76 | March 1, 2017 11:18 PM |
It seems like these days you get so much advanced info on your potential hook-up via social media that meeting face to face means you WILL BE hooking up. There's very little "I don't think this is gonna work, thanks anyways." Chill and laid back dudes are probably ok with whatever happens in that regard.
And a side note, there was a time when BB meant bodybuilder, not bareback.
by Anonymous | reply 77 | March 2, 2017 2:18 AM |
It means SOMEBODY doesn't want to douche!
by Anonymous | reply 78 | March 2, 2017 2:25 AM |
They don't call them "golden recliners" for nothing, R75:
by Anonymous | reply 79 | March 3, 2017 11:02 PM |
Chillax is so awful it's kind of awesome.
"Maxing and relaxing" is another one.
by Anonymous | reply 80 | March 3, 2017 11:03 PM |
Maxing?
by Anonymous | reply 81 | March 3, 2017 11:11 PM |
I have no idea what it's supposed to mean, R81. Maximizing your relaxation? I had a lieutenant who used it constantly, even though he was the least relaxed person I ever knew. Dude was wound up tighter than a Pomeranian on RipIts with an electrode up its ass. He also had spiked hair and said "I work hard and I play hard" and "on the same page" a lot.
by Anonymous | reply 82 | March 3, 2017 11:15 PM |
Uh, it's not a drug term. I hear people use it in the office too
by Anonymous | reply 83 | March 7, 2017 12:17 PM |
R79 Is this the "Golden Recliner" you meant to post?
by Anonymous | reply 84 | March 7, 2017 12:22 PM |
I love them
by Anonymous | reply 85 | March 7, 2017 12:23 PM |
There are effeminate chill dudes out there. They don't get attention because they are laid back and chill. I've even seen some of them hang with masculine and straight guys because they tend to have a similar vibe.
by Anonymous | reply 86 | March 7, 2017 4:51 PM |
"Lowkey" is another popular trending trait being sought
by Anonymous | reply 87 | March 10, 2017 2:29 PM |
"Chillax" was a parody of California speech that never caught on in California, or the USA generally, but did catch on in the UK, where they are more into contractions.
by Anonymous | reply 88 | March 10, 2017 2:41 PM |
Because psycho maniacs have gone out of style? Who would place an ad for a hysterical drama queen?
by Anonymous | reply 89 | March 10, 2017 3:16 PM |
Not tightly wound
by Anonymous | reply 90 | March 19, 2017 6:25 PM |
It also means they party but no Tina or hard drugs.
Weed is okay.
by Anonymous | reply 91 | March 19, 2017 6:35 PM |
Tina???
by Anonymous | reply 92 | March 19, 2017 6:38 PM |
"Chill... laidback" is code for the opposite: "shrill... flamboyant".
by Anonymous | reply 93 | March 19, 2017 6:50 PM |
Part of attractive masculinity is not being uptight or tightly wound. It's attractive to find a laid back, cool dude that has an easygoing demeanor. Never too stressed, not petty, not nasty, just chill.
by Anonymous | reply 94 | May 12, 2017 10:52 AM |
Someone that's not a "fag". You know, just homophobic shit. That's all.
by Anonymous | reply 96 | May 12, 2017 12:09 PM |
yaaawwwnnnnn
You people and your endless sad attempts to categorize. Grow up.
by Anonymous | reply 97 | May 12, 2017 12:47 PM |
If I wanted to deal with an hysterical cunt every day, I'd marry a woman.
by Anonymous | reply 98 | May 12, 2017 1:57 PM |
it means that they smoke dope
by Anonymous | reply 99 | May 12, 2017 1:59 PM |
Chill = Stoner.
by Anonymous | reply 100 | May 12, 2017 2:00 PM |
I like unclockable dudes who never set off anyone's gaydar. Really chill and lowkey
by Anonymous | reply 101 | May 13, 2017 4:17 PM |
Because you gays with a stick up your ass are annoying. Seriously who wants to be with Bert, when you could be with Ernie.
by Anonymous | reply 103 | May 20, 2017 3:51 PM |
Hehe
by Anonymous | reply 104 | May 20, 2017 3:52 PM |
On the female equivalency..preferring Betty over Veronica. Mary Ann over Ginger, Krystal over Alexis.
I describe myself as calm, cool, collected and confident. Folks who are always uptight, tense, complaining and loud, aren't on my list of friends or acquaintances. Even without pot to relax, I'm naturally laid back and low maintenance. If you're tense, tedious and a whiny little shrill...we WON'T be hanging out anytime soon. Now STFU and pass the doobie brah.
by Anonymous | reply 105 | May 20, 2017 4:28 PM |
Anyone over the age of 18 who uses the words dude, bro or any other such garbage should be summarily shot. Douchbaggery is a crime that can not and must not go unpunished.
by Anonymous | reply 106 | May 20, 2017 5:16 PM |
What's wrong with dude? I use it on my scruff profile and don't see it as obnoxious when others use it. I want to know I'm getting with a masculine guy.
by Anonymous | reply 107 | May 20, 2017 6:52 PM |
R106 is the opposite of what guys are seeking.
by Anonymous | reply 108 | May 20, 2017 7:10 PM |
It's about finding authentically masculine dudes
by Anonymous | reply 109 | May 21, 2017 2:18 PM |
107 Blocked.
by Anonymous | reply 110 | May 21, 2017 2:39 PM |
People are looking for guys like this. Chill with abs ANd baseball caps
by Anonymous | reply 111 | June 2, 2017 9:11 PM |
Mmmm
by Anonymous | reply 112 | July 4, 2017 3:22 PM |
[quote]A lot of these terms in personals are so subjective as to give readers no guidance on whether they meet the writers' standards.
I know, the new vagueness in american speech. "It's all good". It's all good what? To eat? When I leave? It begs a question that will go unanswered
by Anonymous | reply 113 | July 4, 2017 3:24 PM |
Yeah
by Anonymous | reply 114 | July 4, 2017 4:58 PM |
Masc4masc
by Anonymous | reply 115 | July 20, 2017 2:00 PM |
[quote]Why has this become such a popular attribute sought among men seeking men?
Because people have become exhausted by drama. The number of gay men who push their drama to a point of borderline hysteria has becoming simply overwhelming and dull. If it's not some screaming queen going on about ridiculous pop culture minutiae, it's some "masc" gym freak pushing their muscle obsession into uncharted territory and making everyone live it with him. "Chill" and "laid back" imply something other than a hysterical obsession with stage managing one's life.
by Anonymous | reply 116 | July 20, 2017 2:33 PM |
"Low key" is the current masculine buzzword in personals and profiles
by Anonymous | reply 117 | August 18, 2017 6:37 PM |
Hmmm
by Anonymous | reply 118 | August 18, 2017 7:14 PM |
IT is part of the quest for the masculine ideal.
by Anonymous | reply 119 | September 20, 2017 11:47 AM |
W&W for R116. It's the opposite of being 'trigger-able', which every 2nd frigging person appears to be these days. It makes one long for when one could say anything, do anything, and few people gave a rats arse. Because everyone was just breezin' by. I think part of the reason for the building stress is greater population in cities and declining living standards: as we all know, real wages haven't increased in decades.
by Anonymous | reply 120 | September 20, 2017 12:16 PM |
BUMp
by Anonymous | reply 121 | December 31, 2017 2:30 AM |
Of course
by Anonymous | reply 122 | December 31, 2017 4:55 AM |
Sexy
by Anonymous | reply 123 | December 31, 2017 1:10 PM |
Although gay men are still treated like shit, it is more "acceptable" to be gay now, so alllllll of the stupid people who would have been hiding in the bushes all of this time about their attractions to men are now all out in the open. There's going to be a lot of chill bae-bae, fam-bro types now who will use out gay men like tools.
by Anonymous | reply 124 | December 31, 2017 1:32 PM |
Who wants to hang around a bitchy, hypercritical male? Not cool
by Anonymous | reply 125 | December 31, 2017 11:49 PM |
Masculinity matters
by Anonymous | reply 126 | January 1, 2018 12:31 PM |
IT’s the attribute Of dudebros
by Anonymous | reply 127 | February 28, 2018 12:06 AM |
Then gay men need to say no, R124. Get some self-respect. That’ll come with future generations if we’re not in Chechnya-like camps in the US.
by Anonymous | reply 128 | February 28, 2018 12:14 AM |
Someone who expects you to put up with their shit without calling them on it.
by Anonymous | reply 129 | February 28, 2018 12:15 AM |
R128, perhaps men seeking men are more attracted to them than to you? What’s wrong with that?
by Anonymous | reply 130 | February 28, 2018 12:19 AM |
Bump
by Anonymous | reply 131 | March 1, 2018 11:25 AM |
No one wants queeny drama
by Anonymous | reply 132 | March 1, 2018 11:27 AM |
I am surprised no-one wants 'high strung, needy, bpd, bipolar welcome qween'...
by Anonymous | reply 133 | March 1, 2018 11:44 AM |
[quote]bipolar welcome qween
A what?
by Anonymous | reply 134 | March 1, 2018 12:00 PM |
Chill and Laid Back are much preferred to over-the-top prancing drama queens.
by Anonymous | reply 135 | March 1, 2018 12:35 PM |
Yeah
by Anonymous | reply 136 | March 1, 2018 6:00 PM |
I prefer guys who don’t post on gay gossip sites.
by Anonymous | reply 137 | March 1, 2018 7:46 PM |
I only vibe with easygoing peeps. If I see someone is high maintenance and demanding, I terminate the relationship
by Anonymous | reply 138 | April 7, 2018 2:57 PM |
It’s a less offensive way to say masc, str8-acting.
by Anonymous | reply 139 | April 7, 2018 3:21 PM |
“lowkey” is the new “chill.”
by Anonymous | reply 140 | April 29, 2018 11:46 PM |
"I only vibe with easygoing peeps. If I see someone is high maintenance and demanding, I terminate the relationship "
Wasn't this the premise of an ongoing comedy sketch on Mad TV?
I believe Dixie Wetsworth was involved.
by Anonymous | reply 141 | April 29, 2018 11:54 PM |
“Lowkey”
by Anonymous | reply 142 | July 7, 2018 4:22 PM |
Lowkey is definitely the big buzzword now
by Anonymous | reply 143 | November 12, 2018 1:34 PM |
It's the buzzwords for bottoms who deceive the world by not revealing their gaping holes until they've already lured the "masc" "lowkey" dude into their lair.
And then they go from looking like an extra at a Maroon 5 concert to a shrieking nellie fuckpig.
by Anonymous | reply 144 | November 12, 2018 1:51 PM |
HELLO FRIENDS-- I DON'T KNOW WHAT THESE TERMS MEAN EITHER LOL....I SIMPLY LOOK FOR A HOT, "TOP". 18-25, MUSCULAR IS BEST. HUNG IS BETTER! BLESS, BILL
by Anonymous | reply 145 | November 12, 2018 1:58 PM |
Two of my Grindr regulars self describe as "lowkey." They are similar in behavior. One is 25, the other 26. They both come in, say hi, and drop trou. One likes to stand; the other sits. Neither moans or groans. Both tell me when they're close to coming. Both thank me for the head, and depart with a "see you next time."
I'm a 55 year old opportunist. I get off sucking dick. I'm married and not looking for anything other than no-strings hook ups. I actively seek out "chill, lowkey" guys.
I think that "chill, lowkey" guys are similarly opportunistic. Whatever presents itself at the right place and time will do. No unrealistic expectations and no long list of what is acceptable and, more important, what is not acceptable. A mouth's a mouth, bro.
by Anonymous | reply 146 | November 12, 2018 2:21 PM |
Dude, don’t tell your business like that
by Anonymous | reply 147 | November 12, 2018 2:27 PM |
What an utter load of crap, R146.
by Anonymous | reply 148 | November 12, 2018 3:15 PM |
R146 I miss blowing guys that could cum standing up.
by Anonymous | reply 149 | November 12, 2018 3:24 PM |
R148, what’s wrong with his post? It seems like everybody involved is polite and there for a good time. A win-win-win lol, for sure.
by Anonymous | reply 150 | November 12, 2018 4:18 PM |
I always wonder how random posts from months back get revived like this. What exactly was someone searching for?
But yes, "chill", "low key" and "laid back" are all synonyms for "masc" which has completely fallen out of favor on the apps. The secondary meaning is "I'm not likely to have a long list of demands to make of you in order to meet, nor will I have a long list of types of people I won't meet. If I'm not into Asians, I simply won't respond, versus telling you I'm not into Asians."
by Anonymous | reply 151 | November 12, 2018 4:24 PM |
“Masculine” is still in over half of profiles
by Anonymous | reply 152 | November 12, 2018 4:49 PM |
R148 Don't hate. It's ugly.
As for "masculine" seekers, I could not care less whether they have "masc4masc" or other stuff in their profile. I am looking for a quick hook up. No more, no less. I pay for Xtra, so I block the trans folks with impunity and guys who prove to be flakes. The "chill, lowkey" guys usually do not have face pics, and I do not care about that either. People who use Grindr or Scruff or any other sex app for anything other than a hook up ruin it for the rest of us, IMO.
by Anonymous | reply 153 | November 12, 2018 5:27 PM |
Well at least you embrace your slutiness, r153
by Anonymous | reply 154 | November 12, 2018 5:55 PM |
[quote] “Masculine” is still in over half of profiles
It takes a while for trends to reach Flyoverstan
by Anonymous | reply 155 | November 12, 2018 5:59 PM |
I am just here to add I identify with that Gone Girl monologue about "the cool girl". It is right on target.
by Anonymous | reply 156 | November 12, 2018 9:23 PM |
Chill, laid back, drama-free, etc are frequently used by dishonest and promiscuous gay men as a way of deflecting blame. For example, imagine dating someone and catching him in lie after lie. Rather than taking responsibility, he blames you for your reaction. “I can’t handle your drama,” “you’re so uptight,” etc.
Chill, laid back to describe oneself = I get to do whatever the fuck I want to and if you react in any way, you’re the problem.
by Anonymous | reply 157 | November 12, 2018 11:52 PM |
Who wants to be with a high strung and bitchy male?
by Anonymous | reply 158 | June 2, 2019 12:20 PM |
[quote] Who wants to be with a high strung and bitchy male?
Someone who wants to establish that he's the TOP in the relationship. Never underestimate self loathing people's need to convince others that they may be degenerate scum, but they are still "all man".
by Anonymous | reply 160 | December 7, 2020 3:02 PM |
But sassy guys are like human chihuahuas. Annoying
by Anonymous | reply 161 | December 7, 2020 3:25 PM |
Well, though vague it's an improvement over "no screaming queens".
by Anonymous | reply 162 | December 7, 2020 4:33 PM |