Do white men who fetishize sex with blacks ever actually date black men?

I am pretty sure interracial gay couples exist, OP. Whether they "fetishize" someone is difficult to judge however.

I know at least two white guys who love sex with black thugs but only date other white guys.

Is this another Milo thread?

I fetishized dick,the color of it was immaterial to me. That being said,I did in fact try several times to date black men,always color was more important to them than me.

This is an amusing topic, but anecdotally I have seen it to be the case quite often. I know a ton of white guys who mostly bottom that love to get porked by black guys with large dicks. They would absolutely never ever date a black man however. Most of them don't even want to have sex with a black man who identifies as gay. It's DL black guys - the more "thuggish" the better for all of these white bottoms. Most make derogatory comments about blacks in general, which I find to be repulsive and worse than that - hypocritical. That said, the guys that they have sex with would most likely never "date" them either.

Many of the black tops won't date white guys.

There are plenty of gay white men who act as if their asshole and mouth are the gateway to a black man's freedom. They either attract self-loathing gay black men who act as if a white man will save them from themselves, or the DL thug types who are good for nothing but getting a good pounding from. Those type of white guys wouldn't dare bring a black man around in their social circle unless they want to be shunned....

Let's face it, A white man with money and status and good looks usually wouldn't date or marry a black male since they're at the top of the gay dating pool, and probably think that sex with a black man is demanding or equivalent to bestiality.

I've seen overweight or elderly white men who are rejected by those white men and think that a black man should be honored that he showed interest in them...I've seen the same phenomenon with overweight white women who are rejected by white men, but a thirsty, desperate black man is all too willing to take.

There are lots of interracial gay couples out there, many of whom are well adjusted and functional, but I've seen too many fucked up racial and sexual dynamics at play, so I'm very leery when it comes to interracial dating.

I've also seen regular, healthy and happy interracial couples R7. It's not 1963 anymore. Where do you live?

R8 - In America, twat...what fantasy world do you reside in? Just because black folks aren't getting lynched or no longer legally forbidden from pursuing interracial relationships doesn't negate anything I said

R7 nailed it

I have a friend like that, an older upper middle class white power bottom. Loves black dick and getting fucked by huge hung black guys. Talks all the time about how they have the best rhythm for fucking and how the married DL ones are best because they're so hungry to eat ass and fuck.

Always only dates identical white men who are in exactly his same respectable boat socially.

Ah am certain that ah have absolutely no idea what it is you aww speaking of.

This white guy is usually only interested in other white guys. I know a handful of interracial couples. They're happy with each other.

The End

Just to piss off our parents.

R7 - No idea where you live but you need to find another circle of friends and acquaintances.

R13 BS. I doubt "they" would feel comfortable of having a racist around.

OK, I'll bite. I went to schools that were primarily white. I was friendly with several blacks guys in school. But my idea of what I wanted in a date was something that would develop into a long-term relationship, not just sex, and my sheltered little mind couldn't see me having that with a black guy, despite me finding many black men extremely attractive. The first time I went to bed with a black guy (a friend of a friend) he kept showing up at any bar I went to, and finally bought me enough drinks to get me drunk that I took him home with me, but barely remember the sex. I can't imagine we did much, since I was just so drunk. But my 'interracial virginity' was gone, at least. Years later, I met a cute young black guy who worked somewhere I frequented: adorable and flirty, but I thought he was too young. Finally I worked up the nerve to ask him out, and that began a relationship that was the love of my life: lasting about 8 years. He's still my best friend, even though we've been separated at least 25 years. I never fetishized black men. But, to be honest, building a lasting relationship with someone whose point of view about so many issues is vastly different from yours is hard going. I went into the relationship thinking that 'love conquers all', but it's not easy. And I think the same is true with all sorts of 'mixed marriages'. Being with my guy shone a spotlight on me about just how 'white' I really was, and finally realizing my white male privilege was an important lesson, but also a hard one to take in.

Gay interracial couples are on the increase, especially with the Millennials.

Here's a cute couple from the Instagram page at r18. The Millennials, hopefully, are the generation that's moving past racial stereotypes and fetishes.

I have a fetish for gingers but never dated one. I've had sex with some black guys though.

Thanks Obama

I wouldn't know, because I do not fetishize having sex with black men.

Generally speaking, I'm not into them. Sexually or for a relationship. Not into Asian guys either.

Another handsome couple. Sad that diehards like r23 are still in existence.

I don't date blonde white chicks with big tits, does that mean I'm racist against white women? Or sexist?

R25 Nope, that's because you're gay and means you are supposed to like men.

We should ask Shaun T and his husband!

And Mario Cantone and his husband!

You know what, r25? Do what the fuck you like. I hope our country still continues to move forward in regards to race relations, especially us gay men in particular. The sooner the likes of you are dead, the better our country will be.

I've never understood the resolve many gay men have in remaining smug, closed-minded, and preferential.

Forward? The country regarding race relations has taken a backflip off a cliff somewhere in the last eight years R29. You must be kidding.

I'm black and I couldn't care less if a man outside my race found me attractive. That is your right to deny yourself. I personally have been sexually attracted to men of all races. I love big booty, period. That is my right as a black man! Truth of the matter is, if you're hot you will get attention from everybody, even these people who say they aren't attracted to your race, or certain races.

[quote] I'm black and I couldn't care less if a man outside my race found me attractive.

Yeah, that must be what that insecure rant was about.

r7 & r17 thanks for your answers.

Fuck anyone who demonizes any adult for being sexually attracted to another consenting adult or for NOT being attracted to another adult. Who cares if a white man is hot for a black man, a black man only likes other black men, a white man denies a black man because he isn't sexually attracted to him, a black man does the same to a white man, an Asian guy doesn't like either white or black... For fuck's sake grow a pair of balls and get on with your life. Sexual attraction is what it is. I am as white as it gets, a top and honestly not all that attracted to black men. I had one black Adonis who was in to me, was a sexy and intelligent stud, and we were both tops. I tongue fucked his ass into next week and he did the same to me. We jacked off together. We enjoyed each other thoroughly. We didn't ride off into the sunset or run off to get married. BUT, he opened my eyes to my attraction to black guys - whether or not it is often something that I act on, or whether or not I often find black men who I click with. Live and let live. And I agree with the above poster that there are beautiful men of all colors and anyone who isn't in some way turned on by them is full of shit.

No, we're not full of shit. Are you really so narrow minded that you can't understand that each person has their own sexual preferences? Funny that when a straight person is not attracted blacks, no one gives them shit about it, but gays give each other guilt about this all the time.

Fetishizers don't bother me much. Invariably and usually with haste, they'll say or do something off the wall and can then be written off without issue. The truly damaged are the people who don't find their own race attractive, and are slavishly obsessed with "others." But that's ultimately not my problem either. I don't do it. So...meh.

R35 - My words were too harsh - what I meant to say is that is that there has to be at least one man of every race that you have seen online or in person that you wanted sexually in some way. Beauty is beauty - and there are so many hot men out there (of all colors). We all have our preferences, but there is always a ridiculously hot specimen who could change our minds. At least I think? Perhaps I am just too sexual.

R37 - Don't waste your time with strident racist queens like R35. He has his preferences and that is that. You can't guilt people into liking others.

I agree w r37, I guess Im a freak too. I don't understand how you can be gay in our times, but limit yourself to your own race. Its like the sexual equivalent of baby tastes. Or living your whole life without tasting food from another country. Maybe its an age thing too. Most guys here are over the hill, so they didnt experiment as much.

I do think that having the same cultural, ethnic, religious, etc. background does theoretically make for easier long term relationship fodder. But who doesn't want some variety in their life? Learn about another fascinating person. I don't limit this to just race - enjoy (sexually or not at all) friends who are tall and short, fat and thin, young and old, male/female/trans, amputee, dwarf - the list goes on. Kiss a white guy, Kiss a black guy, kiss a Latin guy, kiss an Asian guy, etc. Life is short and we have only one to live. I am not saying that you should be a huge whore at all - forget the sex all together but allow yourself to be emotionally intimate. Just live a little..

I don't think the issue at hand here is babytaste gays living in small towns who've never met a gay PoC - I think we are talking about an outright form of racism with these guys who literally fetishize and seek out BBC "Mandingo thugs" to scratch an itch, and then bad mouth said black guys to their white friends at brunch the next day while still sore from getting a fantastic pounding.

And yes if you have to make an opening statement that you're only "white into white (sorry just my preference)" then you're flat out being racist. At least keep that to yourself and give anyone a chance to be friendly and expand your point of view.

Thanks R34.

I just want to go camping with the Surmar people

What I don't like about interracial couples, gay or straight, is when they seem obsessed with the idea that they are an interracial couple. Insufferable. No one cares if blonds date brunettes or light-skinned blacks date dark-skinned blacks. That's the way it should be with interracial dating.

I guess they're proud of themselves, and crave the attention and acknowledgement R44. A lot of the white females are fat slobs, so this is their moment in the spotlight and their time to show everyone that yes, she is desirable (!) and she is getting dick. The male is to be congratulated for landing a white chick. It's assumed that a lot of black guys like fat white chicks, but I think that's a myth; it's what's available to them. They want the white, but not necessarily the fat. But this is the pool they're swimming in. Everyone wins, the make adorable babies as long as they don't take after the mother and get fat.

As for gay guys? The white guy want the big black dick. BBC. PE-RI-OD. He'll take whatever comes along, for the BBC. The black guy gets someone who he will have a higher chance of living a nice life with. Both will respect each other. The black guy is usually on the upswing in life and wants a person who is on the up too. He's too smart to chance his future on a ghetto queen and steers clear of that type. But basically the pink boy wants the black dick. Whether the BBC guy realizes this or not is unknown.

R7 is right R8 - I live in New York City and surprisingly enough one does not see all that many black men with white men - it probably has a lot to do with the fact that NYC has become too expensive these days.

Still, I ALWAYS make sure I let my glance linger longer when I see an interracial couple passing by on the street or on the subway- straight or gay. I think they like the attention, secretly anyway. More often than not they are tourists I have noticed.

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