Tops who refuse to suck dick

Trade tops. Won't kiss, suck, bottom, or rim. Hate them in porn, hate them in real life.

I don't care if a top doesn't suck dick. Kissing is more of a problem.

I have just the opposite problem, OP. Every top I meet insists on sucking my dick, and it's a big turn off. I want a top to be a total 100% top. That doesn't mean just anal.

I will never bottom, but kissing and oral are not an issue if he wants it. I don't "crave" it.

I had a fuckbuddy for years. Older man, hot dominant top daddy with a huge dick. He kept telling me that he had no interest in dick. It was all about getting serviced and about mouth and ass. Fine.

Years later, I've caught up with a couple of his other fuckbuddies. One of them even better endowed than my FB. Turns out my FB was just a crazy size queen. He'd worship cock all the live-long day... provided it was big enough.

(He even let himself get fucked a few times. Wow, that pissed me off.)

I don't quite follow R5's post.

yawn. Boring sex with anyone who identifies only as a top or as a bottom. Why be gay if your sex life is about emulating straight sex?

don't exist for me.

R7, I didn't realize that there was only one way to be gay. Who are you to dictate anyone's sexuality?

Cairo is full of those kind of tops.

So is Chelsea.

I rarely suck. Most bottoms don't like it. But I will if asked.

I'd kiss and rim but won't suck.

How many bottoms like getting sucked? I do. It is essential. If you don't want my dick, you don't get my ass. No exceptions. Who wrote all these new rules? Is it a Post-AIDS overreaction?

I kind of turned into a 'total bottom' with my partner. I'd like a good blowie once in awhile, but he doesn't like going there. And I know at one time he did. Bastard.

I have a micro penis invisible in mounds of fat. That, plus the smell and rashes, well my many alpha daddy tops never give me some lovin' down there. A guy can dream, tho', right?

R16 someone actually wants to fuck you? you must be blackmailing him or something.

Le sigh, R17

Nobody is interested in Mary OP's tinymeat?

I really don't like getting head. In the right mood I can suck on a cock for hours. But as soon as a mouth is on my dick I feel grossed out.

Well I'm a top and I love sucking dick, rimming and kissing. And every guy I've fucked has loved me sucking his dick too. Honestly, sometimes when I read DLers talking about sex it's like a different world.

Lots of dudes don't want anything to do with another dude's penis, but will let you suck them. These strict tips are highly sought and exalted.

R22 On DL, yes, but in my experience not in real life.

R23, you must not frequent Craigist, Adam4Adam, or Jock'd. Or urban men on the Down Low.

If a guy won't suck dick, kiss or rim I doubt he's truly gay.

Probably lying because they're role playing. Many gays are masochists and are aroused by the idea that their partner is straight, doesn't want to touch them, and gives zero fucks if they get off or not.

Troof, R25

I don't understand why any guy wouldn't want someone to touch their dick. That's the point of being a male, your sex organ is your penis.

Like I said previously, these clowns who wince at someone touching their dick are masochists. Go see a psychologist.

Total tops are highly desired

Waiting for the RIMMING IS DISGUSTING AND DANGEROUS troll to turn up any minute now.

Has anyone ever been fucked and gotten their dick sucked at the same time?

Yes. In a threesome.

RIMMING IS DISGUSTING AND DANGEROUS

[quote] If a guy won't suck dick, kiss or rim I doubt he's truly gay.

If a guy does suck dick, I doubt he's truly a top.

r34 Idiot.

Total top here, and I hate sucking dick. It doesn't appeal to me AT ALL, and I don't ever do it. If I don't like it, why must I feel compelled to do it?

I hate vegetables and I'm a nutritional scientist at a major research university.

"I don't suck dick...when you have 10 inches you don't have to"

R38 seems like an attractive offer to me.

I've never understood the whole top/bottom thing. How boring to limit yourself to a tiny narrow limited repertoire.

Frankly, people who have such rigid sex rules tend to be unimaginative, uptight, inflexible and boring in every aspect of life.

Based on what I see from bottoms, there is nothing remotely appealing about doing that. I have never been shamed for saying I've never bottomed, except here.

What are you talking about^?

I'm a bottom but I only fuck guys who suck me and if I blow them then I won't fuck them and don't let them fuck me, but they can kiss me on the lips.

Those are my rules.

Don't like them? I'm sorry, I don't apologize.

R42, the receiving end of anal looks tedious and (sometimes)painful. I am not turned on by the idea of letting anyone top me. I'd say more, but I don't want to offend.

r43 reads like some sort of logic puzzle created during a drinking binge.

I need to draw a diagram to figure out these seemingly contradictory outcomes.

We have been together 15 years. He is a total top. Never gives me oral. Except on birthday.

At least this is one thread that will remain fish-free!

To each his own. If you can't handle it, break the deal.

I feel so sorry for pitiful, abused R46. Who would want to be with someone like his -- what do you call it, his owner? -- for 15 minutes, let alone 15 years. Poor thing.

Tops who refuse to suck dick need to go to Gay Retraining Camp.

Not a fan of sucking dick, but love rimming the bf's hole til nice and wet and open.

Why does anyone get indignant about anyone else's sexual preferences or roles? Obviously, many people are attracted to total tops

R43 I am sending your rules to the LSAT preparers. There is a indeed a logic games section R45. If an aspiring lawyer is able to match you up with the correct partner, Rackover needs to hire him pronto.

The reason we are incredulous about these idiosyncratic gay men that either don't like sucking dick or don't like getting their dick sucked is the fact that being a MAN means you have a PENIS as your SEX organ. Men have a penis, women have a crusty beef taco. I'm a gay man and therefore I enjoy the male body, especially the one thing that differentiates men from women - their dick. And as a man myself, my penis is my sex organ therefore it needs to be stimulated in some way during sex. Coincidentally, I require that my sex partner is a man, therefore he must want for me to touch his penis in return. This is not a top/bottom issue I'm concerned with.

Those men that I mentioned in the first sentence are bizarre and anomalous. Freaks. Get them a straitjacket. More practically, test them for Asperger's.

DL is the only place I see people get upset about this. The large majority of male-male sex throughout history has been segmented between those who only act in one role, active or passive, but not both. Even today, most of the globe engages in male homosexuality in strict active versus passive roles. Even in American personals ads, strict roles are still very popular among men.

R55 If you genuinely don't like getting your dick sucked then fine. I think it's strange but it doesn't effect me, whatever.

But what's weird is people who like getting their dick sucked but don't want their boyfriend/hookup to do it because it would make them 'less of a man' or not a 'total top'. That just seems deeply fucked up to me.

r54 tediously scolds all who are not like him.

Exhausting.

[quote]I really don't like getting head. In the right mood I can suck on a cock for hours. But as soon as a mouth is on my dick I feel grossed out.

* perks up *

What are you doing this weekend?

R58 justify your existence

r59: Preferences need no justification.

I've been fortunate in finding partners who don't consider themselves versatile, either.

R58, we are a match, dude!

Anyone who "refuses" to do anything that is part of the standard repertoire is a bother. Sure, sometimes a scenario-based encounter is okay, but the pose of "too butch" is just silly. And phony. The most masculine, tough and no-bullshit men I've been with have all been open and eager.

But a lot of guys are not great at oral sex - guidance is needed!

Cghjn

I've noticed that most tops won't suck cock unless the cock is big. They're generally size queens when it comes to sucking cock.

[quote]I've never understood the whole top/bottom thing. How boring to limit yourself to a tiny narrow limited repertoire. Frankly, people who have such rigid sex rules tend to be unimaginative, uptight, inflexible and boring in every aspect of life.

What's so difficult to understand? I'm a top because I like penetrating guys but don't like being penetrated. Am I also "boring" because my "tiny narrow limited repertoire" excludes female sex partners? Surely you fuck females too so that you can have the most EXCITING and unbounded repertoire possible!

A lot of gay guys find men who aren't into having their dicks sucked hot because it strongly suggests they're straight. Most gay guys are heavily into straight guys. It has less to do with self-loathing, and more to do with the one trait almost all men share: We all want what we can't have!

We will not smoke any pole less than 8 inches long and 6 inches around on the tape measure!

As long as he is hung, I'm good with that.

A lot of urban and thuggish dudes won't touch a penis while messing with dudes.

Boom

[quote]A lot of urban and thuggish dudes won't touch a penis while messing with dudes.

Must learn that in prison.

Total top here who loves sucking cock. One of my favorite things to do before I plow a guy's hole.

Most bottoms I've been with love it. No complaints so far.

You can't be a true total top and fellate penises

Can u be a total top and eat pussy? How about boypussy?

[quote]You can't be a true total top and fellate penises

Wrong.

Ignore her, R75. It's the Aspie 'dudebro' queen who is obsessed with the concept of "masc".

Total tops eat ass.

Part of being a total top is that you never perform in the passive role. Sucking dick is a passive act, not the active role. It certainly is not the role of the Alpha male. So, while you can arguably call yourself a Top if you suck dick, you cannot be a total top or strict top while doing so. Total tops eat ass because the penetrator is presumed to desire butt and orally devours the butt in preparation for penile penetration.

[quote]Sucking dick is a passive act, not the active role.

Is your experience of oral sex limited to face fucking men who are passed out?

One can only imagine the woeful specimens these "total tops" pull.....and the pitiful fucking that ensues. How sad for them all.

You know we can eat ass AND suck dick, right? It doesn't have to be one or the other.

I'm not saying a guy *has* to love sucking dick in order to be gay, but I will say that I feel sorry for gay guys who don't like sucking dick.

Amen, R82. They have issues. It's like a straight man saying he finds breasts repulsive to touch. Have you ever known a straight man like that? Me neither, because none exist, because why would they?

Why are so many gay men so fucked up? Suck a dick. There's nothing wrong with it.

[quote]Has anyone ever been fucked and gotten their dick sucked at the same time?

Yes, by a tall, flexible and well-endowed top. He really knew how to fuck and gave great head. It was incredible to get both at once. He really got into, too. Fucking HOT.

I will suck dick for the benefit of my partner because I like to be fair, but I only want to eat and fuck ass.

Even when I jerk off, dick doesn't come into the equation, its all about eating, fingering fucking a hot hole.

Whatever, sucking dick doesn't make you gay. Just because you like doing a particular sex act doesnt mean all gay men like it or will ever do it. There is so much diversity among gay and bi men.

In fairness to the haters, r83, it's not that hard to find a straight guy who doesn't like performing oral sex on a woman. I just think it's sad to adopt the limited sexual outlook of the most narrow-minded straight guy (I'm just here to get my dick wet) in the context of being gay. It's like the worst of both worlds.

My top doesn't suck or eat ass. Just plows. Sorry.

My best friend is an strict Alpha Top. He never will suck or get poked. He doesnt ever touch another guy's dick. He says guys love it.

Yeah, lots of guys are damaged and have self-esteem issues. Tops and bottoms, actually.

A lid for every pot!

Is capitalizing Alpha Top mandated by the Datalounge Stylebook?

Is there a difference between an Alpha Top and a Total Top?

[quote]I just think it's sad to adopt the limited sexual outlook of the most narrow-minded straight guy (I'm just here to get my dick wet) in the context of being gay. It's like the worst of both worlds.

Yup.

[quote]My best friend is an strict Alpha Top. He never will suck or get poked. He doesnt ever touch another guy's dick.

Until someone wags a ten incher in his face. Guaranteed he'd take that bait.

A gentleman top will respond to your needs thoughtfully and passionately.

I tried to mix it up by sucking my bottom bf's cock and inviting him to fuck me, which he did, before getting soft.

After that I just gave up and went back to plowing him.

This isn't the fault of Tops. My bottom gave me a weird quizzical look when I tried to suck his dick - like, hey, I'M the sub. Most Bottoms want to submit to their Top and be used by him, so whenever we try to be more attentive to them THEY get annoyed!!

Yeah, there are many total bottoms out there who want a strictly penetrating Top.

And I love giving it to them... from now on unless a bottom asks for stuff like sucking his dick, I'm just gonna pound him and assume that's what he wants. Too much drama whenever they get annoyed after their image of 'total top' is ruined.

Total strict tops are highly sought

A real top does exactly what he wants

The whole dom/sub thing is exhausting after a while, and I say this as a top. Role play is fun, but if you make a 24/7 lifestyle of it you probably have a screw loose. Sometimes the best sex is spontaneous and doesn't follow a rigid script.

I will say, however, that I hate when a bottom rims his top in porn. That's ass-backwards.

Except when it's totally submissive R102.

Bottoms are dick hungry. Tops are not

True Total Tops are not

I'm a 'true top' in that I only penetrate guys. I'm not against sucking a nice dick--I just don't want it in my ass. That's what differentiates tops from bottoms.

What R106 said.

The sheer horror at the deep seated perception of their own "failed" masculinity drives these "total tops" further into deluded cuntiness which merely exemplifies their failure. How sad for them.

And that should be all that separates the two, r106.

Exactly, R106. Well said.

It's a fucking game.

I've been that top... when I am horny and the guy I found on Grindr is 10 years older/10 lbs heavier than the photo he sent but I'm too tired to start back from scratch. -- I just have him blow me or sit on it.

And plenty of bottom types get off on it too, the notion of a "total top"

With someone I care about though, I'm versatile and do everything

R111, just because you are a whorish fraud doesn't mean everyone else is

I piss in their mouths.

Different strokes dude

R112:

Is R111 "a whorish fraud," or a you just a selfish, frightened screamer?

Fgbb

They are hot

Oy vey 😱

Hmmm

Can't you be a big dick top guy who takes pride in destroying a guy's ass, and like to suck his dick too?

It's part of my foreplay ritual. Heavy kissing, mutual BJ's, and commence to plugging his ass away. It's not a deal breaker, but I took the time and effort to learn and acquire great cock sucking skills and I like to practice them to keep my technique sharp.

I'm A-I-K-C,

Yeah bitches, that is me

And I'm telling you, so that you can see

When I fuck an ass, I give the boy the works

I kiss him and I suck him till his booty twerks

Now that don't make me any less of a top

Cause bitches still be begging for my half-chocolate pop

They love it oh so much, they yelling "Please don't stop!"

It's tearing up their asses like a riding crop!

Because when you get some cock from a Scorpio

He's gonna put the M back in K-C-M-O

And now I say goodbye to you Datalounge queens

I'm A-I-K-C..., and you know what that means.

Earrings and caftans, ladies.

Start clutching your pearls ...

The AIKC rap is pretty fucking funny

Wow bro

NOBODY refuses is the sizemeat is decent (at least 8 long and 6 around on the tape measure)

"my half-chocolate pop" FTW!!

Tops who refuse to suck dick do not get their dicks sucked. Not by me, anyway.

7 /10 R121 It was okay. Made me chuckle. Don't quit your day job just yet.

I'll be needing some full time booty on my tour with Drake. Conducting interviews for the "position" if interested contact Mediapolis. Accepting fats, but no fems.

I was listening to Biggie Smalls rap about his dick all morning.

So, of course, somebody on Datalounge would start rapping about his.

Whatchoo talkin' 'bout, R114?

I can respect having no interest.

But "My Favorite Top Lost All Hotness Because He Bottomed or Sucked Dick" Queens are THE WORST.

It' not, "He has more power, because he's versatile."

It's, "He lost all power because only Real Men can top, Bottoming Equals Weak and Degrading Like Me, and I'm a sexist asshole!"

It's just mechanical, people. The sexual position says NOTHING about who has the power, which is who is WANTED more, or who is dominant. Females and bottoms can top, too.

The male and female screws and bolts holding your toilet together need each other equally. They're both equally strong and neither dominates in the toilet.

But the SEXIST way is the only human beings can fit because you get your brains from there!

Bottom-shaming is a product of the straightriarchy and its propaganda arm, the Cult of Jenn-durr, which brainwashes us the lie that equates being penetrated with being female.

Ohhhhh

I was tripping boo R121. I need to upgrade your score to 8 1/2 . It was original and made me give you a shout out. Well done you. You must be at least half chocolate yourself. LOL. Sweet!

Bump

Hmmm

The B's are humming. :-)

Bump

Not all guys enjoy having a dick in their mouths. It's a wide world out there.

Hggff

I'm a top and I never considered a bottom as weaker or necessarily submissive. We're even, we both want to have fun and to get off.

I'm a top who loves sucking dick. I freaking love it; but oddly a lot of people assume that I'm a bottom because I like it. I don't get that.

Tops who refuse to suck dick are the very bottom of the barrel, in terms of guys I want to be with.

They are very desired

Not by me.

R144, so what? They are lacking in dudes trying to get with them

Prove it, r55.

You know nothing, Jon Snow.

r78 is just a bigot and an absolutist moron.

"Alpha Male" refers to the large pack of people who follow your orders, which doesn't apply to 99% of the guys who call themselves "alpha males."

And sexual positions are just mechanics. They say nothing about who has power or control.

Lie to yourself as much as you want. You're still wrong and ignorant.

... and Anonymous in Kansas City's noxious ego ruins another thread. I'm out.

I don't like being sucked, so I like Tops like this. It's actually annoying when they want to suck my (nice) dick.

What is "(nice)" about a dick you won't share, R149?

R150, not everyone is into penises, ya know.

Oral is pretty boring anyway. Ive been with many guys who don't do oral but they love to lick ass.

149 , cut your dick off and become a tranny already.

[quote] It's actually annoying when they want to suck my (nice) dick.

Is there a reason you're anti getting blown? I've been with guys who've said this as well but they never explain why. I freaking love a bj.

Guys who don't like their dick sucked or even touched I always assume are Just too chicken to admit they are shemale...

I used to take it personally when guys wouldn't let me blow them; as if I'm not good or something. One explained that they go soft when getting head.

well i am a total fit white bottom 37 from Canada and if there are any tops out there who like to be rimmed & be sucked and fuck then let me know.. i luv to be rimmed and luv to kiss but not a fan of being sucked...just does not do much for me overall.

Why are DLers shocked that there are many total bottoms out there who don't want another dude to even touch their penises? Don't they see personal ads and dating profiles reflecting this reality?

Not shocked , just why not just chop their penises off and be the women they are inside lol Im a bottom and i love my penis played with because duh !it feels good!

But that's you, son. Not everyone else

I love bottoms who stay hard when getting fucked and I love to suck their hard cock as I fuck their ass.

[quote][R150], not everyone is into penises, ya know.

Oooh. R151 can read the headline.

Any gay man who isn't "into penises, ya know" deserves to fuck trans men.

[quote]Why are DLers shocked that there are many total bottoms out there who don't want another dude to even touch their penises?

Because it is so totally retarded. How can anyone not want his dick sucked? It just doesn't make sense. You think pissing is all your penis is good for, you piece of shit?

R163 is far too emotional about other peoples' sexual preferences. Chill dude

I used to fuck a guy that wouldn't let me suck him or didnt like cumming even, only making me cum and he ghosted me when i told him I had bottomed years before.. Last i heard of him , he's transitioning to a woman now.

A lot of total bottoms think a man contacting or sucking another man's penis is inherently feminine or unmanly. They seek men who are completely dominant and in the active role because They want stereotypically manly guys.

Are you one of them? When's your transition date?

They are sexual retards, not "manly," R166.

I'm not one of them. But I would never suck dick. I love being sucked though, male or female.

[quote]I would never suck dick.

Do you let people know before they let you in their bed?

I won't put a dick in my mouth. You are the bottom, You suck dick you take it like a champ.

Not your dick, R171.

Wow. Some of the judgmental and moronic comments on here.

I just don't like being sucked. What can't you understand about that? some people like chocolate, some people like vanilla. Gee.

And for those telling me to "trans". I'm probably what those of you with limited intelligence would call "an anti- trans deplorable" (actually I am not against trans, I just think they are hijacking the LGB movement and am against transing of minors).

And btw, I stay rock hard when I get fucked and guys love to see see my hard dick cum, so shut the fuck up lame comments.

Exactly

A lot black, Arab, and Latin dudes are total tops who don't suck

Well, then they suck, R175.

Naw, they don't suck at all

After some hot foreplay I blow my bottoms until they shoot. They then become very submissive so I roll them over, slap their butts, mount them and pound hard while pinning them down.

.172 sure ladyboy you hate them because u are one of them !!

Oh wow

Here's a total top:

I find bottoms who want to be sucked to be weird, actually.

Me too

I love the strict segregation of roles between the actives and passives.

Why doesn't Brad Banks get more publicity? He is very hot and masc.

[quote]Tops who refuse to suck dick

Are the worthlessest people...in the world.

Rhmmmm

"Tops who refuse to suck dick" will always find a sucker somewhere.

It's a P.T. Barnum reference.

Agreed, r184.

One thing about tops, if they're willing to eat ass before they fuck me that's hot. And yeah I like getting my cock sucked too.

Not me. I want to satisfy my man and that is what satisfies me. I’m merely a receptacle for a deserving man (if I ever find one.)

Bump

It’s not rare

I've never been with a guy who didn't put it into his mouth.

Even the touch-me-not "straight" guys.

Sometimes they have needed a little encouragement, though.

And I've only been with a few non-kissers, none of them tops. Tops LOVE to kiss when they're going at it.

what about intercrural sex?

R194, then you haven’t been with truly mostly straights or thuggish guys who only situationally mess around with dudes

I mind a top who won't eat ass much more than a top who won't suck dick.

Well that’s a Total Top activity ⬆️

R194 Love to make out when I’m topping a guy, same with oral. Not as much into it before we start then when bottom guy’s cock is hard during fucking that gets me wanting it.