Bottom shaming

Those filthy bottoms should be ashamed.

Recently a DL top guy referred to manginas as "turd wombs."

It would be helpful to hear from some of the TOPS out there.

I'm a top and I love bottoms. LOVE them. Nothing whatsoever for them to be ashamed about.

Top here. I love and admire bottoms. The ones who can take it for a long time and with enthusiasm get my utmost respect.

[quote]It's absolutely ludacris that a top would be the ones bottom shaming.

Oh DEAR.

The writer at OP's link is too dumb to fuck.

Yes, it's a big problem and it's been greeting out of hand - especially due to the recent proliferation of PBS - (Power Bottom Syndrome).

Here's somebody who might help.

Please. Bottom shaming in the gay community isn't a thing considering the vast majority of gay men ARE bottoms. If there is any shaming going on, it's disgruntled bottoms having to compete with other bottoms for the handful of genuine tops. Supply and demand.

Well total bottoms are notoriously slutty.

Top here. Absolutely no shaming from me. Love to spend hours working and worshipping a bottom's bottom.

Best thing in the world.

Top here as well…I encourage bottoming! Bottoms are God's gift to me, and I thank Him for their existence.

Most of the jokes made about bottoms are from other bottoms.

Troof, R13.

Bottoms rule. There's nothing sexier to me than a man who sincerely likes it up the ass.

Re R8, there was trepidation when I first started to watch the video of this guy, but the lighted candles in the background put me at ease. Then I let him fuck my mind, and it felt WONDERFUL, SUBLIME even.

^ I love lady Miss Psychologist. You know she knows her way around a cock.

[quote]Baby, if I'm the bottom, you're the top.

Can't have one without the other.

What if you don't like anal sex, either way?

^ There are other threads, doll!

Anal has always kind of weirded me out, so guys who really enjoy it kind of do the same.

The only FB commenter.

Eric Collins · MSU, Mankato This is fucking gross. Top, bottom, who cares? Any guy who is a fag is a disgusting piece of shit. How you can prefer the rough, hairy asshole of another man to that of the nice, soft pussy of a woman is beyond me. I mean, how fucked in the head are these butt slammers?

^ 'disgusting piece of shit' describes him perfectly

It's interesting that when I warn a potential hook up that " if they try anything disrespectful....things won't turn out well for them"....they don't try and pull any bullshit. I swear, it would be the last fucking thing they ever do. The fuckers were warned.

The only bottoms that need shaming are of the BB variety.

I agree

The author spelled "ludicrous" like the rapper.

I feel like this term is used all the time now. When did it start gaining popularity? Was it from "Looking"?

Bottoms are the only guys I'd consider dating. When I hear that a guy I'm attracted to is a bottom, I start to fall in love instantly.

What are you paranoidly ranting about R23?

Why is it bottoms seem to end up needing more and often bigger things stuffed inside them as they age?

I only shame my bottoms when they cum too quickly.

Well, some of us go through a phase, R30. But many of us end up (as it were) quite contented with a nice dick.

That phase seems to last a lifetime for a lot of bottoms.

"Why is it bottoms seem to end up needing more and often bigger things stuffed inside them as they age?"

I always wondered about this, too.

If you watch fisting vids, most of the bottom guys seem to be in their thirties and up.

Do their holes loosen up and get sloppy with age or from over use?

Turkey-envy, R33.

R35, the hole is remarkably elastic. It returns to its wonted tightness in time, unless you completely wreck it. Which, yes, some FFers do.

As a top nearly all the derogatory or shaming language I hear about bottoms comes from other bottoms!

^ Competitive juices, R37

Juices is a bad word to use when discussing this particular subject R38...Bleech!

As someone once told me, "Bottoms want to be shamed otherwise they wouldn't be bottoms." Charming, really.

What's really bad is when a full grown man refers to his asshole as his pussy or even worse his man/boy pussy...Instant boner killer!

I like bottoms who let themselves be completely feminized, that includes referring to their asshole as a pussy or cunt. If we must have roles in the bedroom, why not get into it?

[quote] Eric Collins · MSU, Mankato This is fucking gross. Top, bottom, who cares? Any guy who is a fag is a disgusting piece of shit. How you can prefer the rough, hairy asshole of another man to that of the nice, soft pussy of a woman is beyond me. I mean, how fucked in the head are these butt slammers?

How does Miss Collins know what another man's asshole feels like?

I also think it's hot when the guy calls it his pussy. I mean, when the guy is hot.

Topping a nice tight ass gives me my greatest experiences and orgasms. Really pushy power bottoms who won't STFU, and constantly bark commands during the act, are hard-on wilters. In my mind, I'm thinking that I'm not taking care of business and satisfying my bedmate. Too much chatter makes my concentration scatter and interrupts my..... flow.

A little pillow talk to inform me if I'm tapping that booty right is appreciated. The non-verbal cues...moaning, eyes rolled back, provide me with all the inspiration I need to double down and really try to please my bottom. I'd never shame or humiliate them but I will ask them to refrain from the bitchy "drill instructor" routine. Baby, I got this.

R45 is right. The only shame in being a bottom is being a bossy one. You're not in charge. Accept that and gladly welcome your role.

And, for Christ's sake, just suck it up if it hurts. No pain, no gain. Remember, you're doing this for him. It's not about your pleasure: Part of being a bottom is learning to be submissive.

The sooner you accept your role as the bottom/sub, the sooner you'll both be happy. Embrace the idea that your purpose in life (in the bedroom, anyway) is making your man 100% happy. Suck his dick the first thing in the morning and bend over the second he gets home from work, and he'll treasure you like no one else ever has.

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Danger Will Robinson..Danger Will Robinson...

Trigger alert ^R48. Needs a quick dick fix...STAT !

Lol!

😵 EEK !

I read Eric Collins's article comment also. I wish I had a Facebook page so I could explain to him in great detail what guys like about having sex with guys, and offer him an alternative to Mankato cow-and-pig fucking.

I think unnecessary RUDENESS is the real problem on DL right now. There just seems to be so much random anger, people just lash out at others at the slightest provocation, and sometimes not even that.

Hemmorhoids!

SHOPBOTTOM!

My mussy is moistest on Mondays.

There's a bottom in my town who mentions on the hookup sites that his ass is self lubricating. Apparently he has some prostate tissue that is inside his rectum leaking fluid, because in chat he told me the lubrication feels and smells like cum. Although curious, I haven't made the leap into self lubricating ass yet.

I fucked a self-proclaimed self-lubricating bottom once. He wasn't kidding. I was just dry humping his crack as foreplay when all of the sudden his hole just sucked my dick right in. I said, "Am I inside of you?" and he goes, "Yep...I told you so."

Let's hear it for hungry holes! 😋

This thread is highly amusing.

So much psychoANALysis !

No lie, if I was a billionaire I'd be the gay equivalent of Trump. Worse, actually, as I wouldn't marry. Ain't nobody got time for that! I'd have a different bottom every fucking night of the week. Line 'em up and just work on them all. God I'd be such a pig.

Don't know if the question was faux-naif, or dumb, or OP has never been to dl before; of course it is.

Is R46 kidding? Do most of you tops feel that way?

Gross

Bottom sharing . . . . .now that's a problem

I'm sure plenty have bottoms enjoy being shared R65.

That should read...plenty of bottoms...DL really needs to install an edit function.

R63, no I'm not joking. There's nothing worse than a bossy bottom. Learn your "place," so to speak, and I'll make you the happiest guy on earth. But don't call yourself a bottom and then try to run things in the bedroom.

We can be equals in every other part of our relationship but in bed, you're mine.

Yes, R66. There is such a thing as the "pass-around bottom". Not a bad thing.

R58 Diarrhoea?

R46, you don't care about your bottom's pleasure at all? Not even if he says please? You don't eat him out? Massage his prostate just the right way with your cock?

r63..your top will of course still fuck you, but if you talk back too much and mess up the dynamic, you can bet he has another guy on the side who is more than willing to be his bitch in every sense. Happens to women ALL THE TIME

Pass around bottom...all the STIs none of the waiting.lol

Bottoms 🍻 Up !

R71 Of course, you care about the bottom's pleasure. But trust me to know how to make you happy. No demands, no whining.

^ OK then. You had me worried. 🤗

Bottoms that squeal and carry on like over acting porn starlets are obnoxious to.

Baby, if I'm the bottom, you're the top!

Where's that cranky nun with the bell when you need her?

Back in my day, most guys were "versatile" and we were all quite happy.

R80 I was vers in my teens and thought the whole top/bottom dichotomy was silly. I eventually eased into the top role because there were so many bottoms.

R68 = 🙄 Whatever dude.

Some bottoms deserve to be shamed. There are some hungry bottoms who are utterly obsessed with getting fucked. I remember one guy I was hooking up with asked me if I knew any other guys who would want to fuck him. I was like wtf? I've known one acquaintance who seemed to lack any self-respect, this one hung top would treat him like crap, take advantage of him and he would still answer any text from him because he just really wanted to get fucked by him.

I've never seen any equivalent behavior from guys who like to top when get so needy that any self-respect goes out the window.

But obviously this is not at all bottoms, just some of them.

[quote]I also think it's hot when the guy calls it his pussy. I mean, when the guy is hot.

totally, the sluttier the talk about his hole the hotter it is

I'll add that I hate it when guys call it their pussy, or worst their bussy or manpussy. I'm a little surprised to find some here like it, in real life when I've talked about this other guys have always agreed.

Whores of either position are deserving of shaming R83.

Busted a huge nut on Skype last night with a slutty bottom who LOVED showing off his pussy for me. Bottoms are the best!

You should all get AIDS and die

You are a blemish on Gods green earth

R63 : No. Most tops have an actual dick. If your bottom isn't enjoying your dick --> your dick ain't big enough. So there's no "acting".

Die shit die

R80 and his ilk got it right. When did your sex position becomes such a polarizing subject? No one. Top nor bottom ought to be ashamed.

R88 thinks she's the first closeted self-loathing fag to post here. You're a type, queen.

I'm with r80 too. I've never understood the insistence that you be one or the other. I'd rather enjoy and excel at both.

For me it depends on the other guy. I've been an exclusive top, I've been an exclusive bottom. And I've been verse.

There's a big psychological component.

In agreement with R83. The only thing shameworthy about bottoms is when they ask you if you know other tops, or if other tops could join you. Nothing screams undiscerning slut more than lining up future dates before the current one is consummated. Everything else about them is pretty great.

This trend is getting worse.

Bottoms rule.

There is nothing hotter than a sexy guy who likes to get plowed.

My validation cums when the guys I top want another ride and return for some more deep dicking.

I was closeted until my mid 20's and mostly bottomed (somewhat reluctantly) because I was self conscious that my dick wasn't big enough to be an effective too. Silly me.

No, most of my early guy hook-ups were with older guys who didn't give me positive feedback, and were closeted themselves. Bottoming was ALWAYS an uncomfortable experience for me. Big dicks in my skinny tight ass hurt to the point of serious distraction. Can't maintain a boner...most of the time.

Being older, wiser and much more experienced, I have confidence that I'm a thoughtful, appreciative, balls to your walls savage fuck daddy. Seducing closeted men is my viagra, that and deep kissing/foreplay. I'm middle-aged but see no signs of slowing down or changing any time soon. Guys I top have no complaints either. Tops are always in demand. I still get to pick and choose my FB's.

EFFECTIVE TOP^ R98.

Oh, and I am very effective.

But who does the bulk of the bottom shaming? OTHER BOTTOMS!!! Now that's internalized homophobia. I bottom and I can't tell you how many times I got shade for being one because I "look" like a top. Whatever that means.

Then you'd be my type of bottom R100. Masculine and secure enough to bottom and maintain your "butch-ness"

Is why I like seducing closet types. They're macho enough to at least have the option of being closeted. I respect fem dudes but I'm not attracted to them. Only butch bros get this boner.

There is even bottom shaming in sports

Wednesday on a very special ABC After School Special: The Heartbreak of Bottom-Shaming.

Love plowing submissive bottoms. Long and hard all night. But it's hard to respect them afterwards. I mean I would never bring one home to meet my mother.

That top types bottom.

I agree

There's nothing wrong with being a bottom. Unless you hate yourself for it.

Why do they hate themselves?

Because of homophobia and misogyny. Being a bottom has, for the most part, been considered (in generations past) the worst, lowest, most shameful kind of homosexual. Passive. Weak. Effeminate. Repulsive. Disgusting. Perverted. Sick. The opposite of what being a man is all about (cultural indoctrination and socialization). In short, the worst thing in the world a man can be is a homosexual who receives dick up his ass. It is the reason generations of men committed suicide and became alcoholics. And lived shame-filled lives. And hated themselves. WOMEN are the passive receivers in sex, not men. Not "real"men. (again, the social cues). Some of this zeitgeist still hangs on. Homophobia is alive and well.

Throughout most of history and cultures, strict Tops were able to escape the stigma of homosexuality that bottoms could not.

My total-bottom friend says all the shaming is from other bottoms who are in competition.

What about all of this bully shaming, you can’t be a sarcastic asshole without being shamed these days.

Bottom shaming is a bit tongue and cheek. Does anyone actually believe bottoms are any less of men than tops?

Bottom shaming is just an extension of how women are denigrated by men. If you take cock, you must be less powerful (and thus weak) than the person giving you the cock.

Stupid sexual dynamics

What tops don't realize is that bottoms totally control the entire scene. Tops may think they are directing everything but the bottom is.

[quote] My validation cums when the guys I top want another ride and return for some more deep dicking.

and I'm sure you have some bottoms you go back to because you liked the experience together too.

I've been a top and I"ve been a bottom. Both are fun but, when I'm feeling slutty, I inevitably bottom

I've been to paradise, but I've never been to me.

I remember when Alexyss K Tylor's videos first got posted to YouTube and she was talking about "vagina competition" (which was mostly hilarious and absurd - she still had some good points). The first thing I thought of was how bottoms act toward each other.

I think it has more to do with internalized homophobia though - and I hate that term. But this is possibly the one time it applies.

I also think fem guys in general tend to be more catty and bitchy than other males.

The only bottoms that require shaming are the ones that don't associate with gay men unless they're trying to get laid.

[quote]Be proud if you’re a bottom, don’t be afraid to talk about it, let people know.

No. Don't go around making gay men look like fucking morons by speaking publicly about your sex life. PLEASE. Do straight people do this? NO.

Do bottoms do that?

I have made it a top priority to get to the bottom of this once and for all.

R121 sees all! Knows all!

Do bottoms hang out with each other, I mean just as friends? It seems they don't.

Are you claiming they have with total tops as friends?

I'm vers and to me if I'm being honest, well, having just one 100% preference seems strange. You have a dick, how comes you don't want to use it?

It seems they are usually by themselves I rarely see them in groups.

There seem to be far more self-professed bottoms on DL than tops.

"Vers" is frequently a polite way of saying "I prefer to bottom, but I've topped a few guys over the years"

Exactly, but I think that if a guy just bottoms once, people perceive him as more innately a bottom forever. It’s like the “one drop” racial rule. Bottoming once overrides all else

I love men who take it in the ass!

“Which one of you is the wife?”

Men who suck dick also are stigmatized

[quote] I'm vers and to me if I'm being honest, well, having just one 100% preference seems strange.

The Vers Nazi Troll has arrived...

[quote]Exactly, but I think that if a guy just bottoms once, people perceive him as more innately a bottom forever.

I'm guessing this happened to you.

R45- I want you deeply inside me. What a stud.

Even straights do it

Bottoms are the hottest, most beautiful men on the planet. Without them we’d be nothing but a bunch of dumb males with no holes to screw.

And their strength is more manly than ANY “alpha asshole” because they can take a cock without making a fuss about it.

R138 or “user5802569449513” please stop plugging tiktok.

Each sentence gets its own paragraph in that article.

Every single one.

LinkedIn style.

Years ago I figured out I was a TOP because I think about and look at mens ASSES a lot more than I think about their cocks.

Shaming dad

Sleeping Booty

I had a pass around bottom once during an orgy. It was hot but seemed unsanitary as well. MARY!

Stigma

[quote]Men who suck dick also are stigmatized

Not by me. If you're not sucking my dick, you're not getting in my bed, top or bottom. And I'll be sucking your dick. It's just fair.

The only people who shame bottoms are other bottoms.

R9 This! There's so much competitiveness among bottoms. They are like women. Instead of helping each other out, they trash talk and try to put down each other. and btw there's nothing manlier to me than knowing how to take it in the ass. I'm serious.

True

R148 nails it. Bottoms you have all the power, learn to channel it.

Must include

It’s not shaming if you don’t speak to them!

Proud

girleen

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The "alpha tops" in this old thread take themselves way to seriously.

LOL R156.

Two years after this thread started and there are STILL people bottom shaming?

Bottom shaming is extremely low IQ, so of course we see a lot of it here.

Some tops here forgot that they are fags too, just too scared to take it in the ass. Everyone honest will admit that. I do. If they were such studs they will not be fucking guys, damn.

But, what do you think, who is doing more of this bottom shaming, self hating bottoms, or tops with internalized homophobia who are not so sure about their own manhood,

R161, you use the fword. Disgusting

Unless you're willing to take a fist up to the elbow, you're not a true bottom.

Someone needs to tell the author that he's allowed to have more than one sentence in a paragraph.

I thought being shamed was the thing about being a bottom that bottoms love most.

R166 You silly fag!

R161 you’re exhausting.

Some of you girls bottom shamers here forget that butt sex shaming is s thing in the straight world, too. No matter what position you prefere, those people think it's gross that two guys are engaged in this activity .