Posting it anonymously on an anonymous message forum of most bitchy people would suggest there is some shame about it. Calling it an addiction, and asking "what is wrong with me?"
There isn't a firm rule of right and wrong behaviour and there are cumguzzing cocksuckers who live for it and would never ask "what is wrong with me" because to them, it isn't wrong.
But any shrink or therapist would have a pretty easy time helping you think through your repetitive choices and actions and how they relate to pleasure and discomfort or need. It's so very common, yours.
When I was thirty I used to go to sex clubs in NYC, they were just opening after they had been closed do to AIDS for years. My best friend went to. No we didn't go together. He said he felt that is was twilight zone there - he was outside his daily grind, the stress of the city, his thoughts, etc etc, and inside a very narrow world of almost inevitable "pleasures" and yet a dark cocoon of safety. No time, no nothing but the hunt and the sex. I agreed. And anyway we were both good looking and it was so EASY. It could be fast or slow.
One of the challenges of your generation is you homos and heteros too, have shifted too much to virtual - the hunt goes on endlessly all day long, virtually. The rewards might be love, a boyfriend, or sex, but its a bit addicting, the hunt and it can be anti-social. Such as in your case, no dating, just the hunt and the blowing.
In "old days" a horn dog could just go to the cruisy place at a certain time, turn on the mechanisms of hunt and sucking and fucking, then, finished, walk away and do other activities. It wasn't "all consuming".
You are young enough that you are viable on the market for friends and lovers and if you want to mix things up, you should. But it might be a good idea to let go of the worrisome "must be younger and hot" criteria. But, if you can't manage to do that, at 30 there is hope you could meet a younger guy for dates or romance or love. You do realise that dating men, or guys in a romance or in love or in a couple, HAVE SEX with each other, too.