My boyfriend got FAT :(

Dump him ASAP because he deserves someone much better than you.

Amen R1.

R1's favorite meal is four Big Macs washed down with a one-gallon milkshake and a full-sized cheesecake chaser.

Give him an ultimatum OP. Lose the fat or lose me!

OP is like a parakeet who is fascinated by his own image in a mirror.

If it bothers you OP then tell him, chances are it's bothering him as well. If you still love him be an adult about it and talk to him.

So you freely admit, OP that, for you, lust and love are the exact same thing?

Don't you want him to be unfuckable for anyone else? Fat = Fidelity!

One of those trays that makes 1/2" cubes, R7.

R7 well they overlap quite a bit i must admit.

OP hasn't got a clue about what love is. He types 14 with the emoticons and shit. Sad to see so many adult gay men with arrested development.

R8 Nowadays with so many hookup apps even the fatsos can get regular action.

OP talk with him and expose that he has let himself go so much that you don't find him attractive anymore. He might react angrily at first, give him a couple of weeks to see if he sees the sense of your words and starts controlling his food intake, but if he continues munching donuts dump his ass and move on with your life..

[quote]been there myself

As the dumper or the dumped?

OP, how old are you? You type like a brain damaged 16/17 year old.

Without giving ages, I cannot give a good response. If you are both under 35, then dump his fat ass. If you are over 40 then keep him, because getting a little heavier is part of life for most gay men of a certain age.

OP is the reason I don't associate with most gay men in real life. The shallowness transcends age. And, no, I'm not fat. I'm just someone who looks for more than one quality in a partner.

We are both 24, but I am older by a few months (and still have abs). To add insult to injury I have to watch him eat this tempting food and get fat while I stay in shape.

R16 isn't "fat" but just "has a few extra lbs"

You should break up with him so he can find someone who's not an asshole.

Boy are you and all your shiny skinny gay-faced hen-friends gonna have some good laughs about how close you came to being in a loving relationship with some fatty!

R19 actually we are gaybros and dont have gayface.

Gaybros is such a douchy term.

Oh, so you're already an asshole, R20.

R22 we are assholes for not having gayface? wtf :/

I should have added that he can lose weight any time, but you'll always be the same asshole that posted here today.

"Gaybros" (snort!)

No, asshole. You're an asshole for calling yourself a gaybro.

Two years for a gay relationship in your early 20s is an eternity.

Don't waste both of your youths on the same person. You should break up and see other people while you're both young regardless of how many ab packs you have.

Why is someone an asshole for calling themselves a gaybro? Just shorthand to mention that our wrists are broken, to the dude who implied my crew has gayfaces.

aren't broke, that is, Lel

Op, dump him immediately. Only thin, fit and hot people like you deserve to be loved.

OP unless you are gifted with an extraordinary metabolism, eventually as you age you will also grow fat. Everyone's metabolism slows down as they age, so unless you are prepared to increase your exercise routine as you age every year you too will grow fatter. So you can take up the never ending battle to not lose your figure where you will find you need to spend more and more time and effort to maintain your figure or you can join your boyfriend, have a few donuts and enjoy life. It all depends on what matters more to you.

OP is going to get angry and negative responses just because he has dared to have some standards, which insecure couch potato DLers find threatening.

OP just consider this: if he has gone from being fit to becoming a fatso in under 2 years (in his mid 20's!), what do you think he's going to look like in his mid 30's? Get out as fast as you can.

R30 just curious, is your goal a fatty or a hottie as an SO?

R31 It was so nice of you to share such a candid personal photo.

R31 Thanks man, true

I must consult with my Abuela.

SPOILER ALERT! Your boyfriend isn't happy in the relationship and doesn't have the guts to tell you.

He's gaining weight so that you'll dump him and he won't have to be the one to end the relationship.

And that's called passive-aggressive, R36.

I voted to tell him. However, if you don't love him, then no use wasting his time, or yours.

It is our fondest wish OP that you die alone.

R39 Spoiler Alert: everyone dies alone.

Im sure he got fat b/c sex with OP has either gotten shitty or stopped, so he's eating his feelings. OP have you been off your sex game for a bit?

It's a crime called "bait and switch."

Is he actually fat or is he just "gay fat" (i.e. he only shows the hint of a six pac)??

R43 No longer looks good in a bathing suit kind of fat. But true I guess not straight level fat (YET)

OP, you sad, pathetic, superficial and brainless cunt. Love is based on aesthetics? If there's such a thing as karma, you'll end up a burns victim, and the only people touching your ugly arse will be nurses paid to do so.

R45 Karma doesn't exist you fat kunt. I pity your rentbois.

How can he have gone from an 8 pack to being 'fat'? Do you just mean he's lost some muscle definition? No-one cares about that.

OP sounds like a needy bottom.

[quote] I can't say I love him now, but I did love what he used to be.

So in other words you loved him just for his 8-pack.

I'd like to meet and possibly make out with R5.

It's so bizarre to read the angry responses like R45 wishing OP ends up like a burn victim.

It's not about being handsome, it's about being fit. Something which, unless there is some dissability (not the case) is entirely within a person's ability to achieve. With EFFORT. But i guess it's less stressful to not control the food you eat, not hit the gym, and complain on the internet about supperficial and shallow people not wanting to fuck with the fatsos with whom you identify. Nobody owes you sex or love, get real.

Touché, R50.

[quote]it's less stressful to not control the food you eat, not hit the gym, and complain on the internet about supperficial

"Supperficial"? Freudian slip, o boylimic one?

Wondering if the OP has a matching 8-pack or if he's a soft little bottom who expects his tops to work hard at the gym while he does nothing.

Adding R50 to the list of people who deserves to end up a burn victim.

1. The internet being what it is I have no doubt you're exaggerating unless you provide pictures. His 8 pack may be gone because he's comfortable with you and he may be just fine looking and you could be on here calling him fat.

2. If you really want him to lose weight then the simplest thing to do is to offer to work out with him and make fitness a group thing.

Also I bet if he dumped your ass you'd be crying tomorrow about it.

[quote] Also I bet if he dumped your ass you'd be crying tomorrow about it.

Not me, I'd be laughing hysterically and telling OP that what goes around comes around.

I bet the OP hasn't even got a 6 pack. They probably weigh about 150 and think they look good because they carry no fat, when in actual fact they have no muscle definition and just look soft and slight.

Proudly describing yourself as a Gaybro = mincing queen who talks like Melissa Harris-Perry and has glitter on her prolapsed anus.

[quote]SPOILER ALERT! Your boyfriend isn't happy in the relationship and doesn't have the guts to tell you

No, you mean he DOES have the guts - beer gut that is - to tell him. And the double chin too.

Lots of fatties throwin shade...

[quote] unless there is some dissability

Oh, [italic]dear.[/italic]

Fuk, he just got home with a bag full of Burger King...BIG fukin bag...

Is OP Roger Octopus, Eschewing Someone Thickset?

I love how in DL World, people who would never willingly date a fat person love climbing on the cross and laying into OP.

R65 People are reacting to being trolled, not just defensive about fat people.

I love chunky guys, give him to ME

The question that hasn't been asked is crucial - what kind of fat is he?

If he's frat-fat, with an athletic body that doesn't deny itself beer, then that can be really hot.

If he's just doughy, well, I condole you.

I've been in OP's boat and voted he should dump his boyfriend. I started dating a cute guy who was only slightly overweight when we first hooked up. But as the relationship continued he piled on the pounds by eating junk food and smoking pot all the time. I got tired of being the food police and falling for his, "I want to lose weight!" Routine.

Agree; dump him. You'll both be better off in the long run. Sounds like he is eating his feelings and you will be cheating any day now.

He's depressed and food is his friend. If you want to keep him get him into therapy asap

slap his face and call for take out

OK, now that I know your ages I will say you need to break up with him OP. As a few others have mentioned, you are in your twenties - Enjoy yourself - just be advised though, as you go through life, more and more of the available men will absolutely not have an 8-pack, a 6-pack, or even a flat stomach, so don't make that the be-all and end-all.

Good luck.

thanks r15

It's not just about being fat. Do you know all the crap he is now putting in his body? I could seriously understand that you don't want that dick nuttin' with all that extra baggage inside you. He could be passing on all that GMO infested crap into your poop shoot and it could affect your health negatively. When you explain it to him, talk about how seriously bad the food is for his health and you want him around for awhile. Don't mention the fat part... YET.

He could have eaten the food in the restaurant or the car, but no, he brought it home so you could not miss it.

The big bag of BK was the giant loud, "FUCK OFF OP!" that he can't say out loud.

His depression comes from being in a lousy relationship. Please dump him before he starts having major health consequences.

There have been other threads about this but I have observed through personal experience that Millennials (born from 1983 to 2000 are the dates I use) are usually fat and well into obese territory. There are numerous factors involved as to why they are fat, video games, horrible fast food diet, absolutely no exercise. I argue with my buds about it but I will never have sex with a fatty ever because why reward their being disgustingly fat.

R76 actually his personality is the same, pretty upbeat. But its like he feels he doesnt need to stay hot anymore that he has a LTR. :( Even though I keep a hot bod for him.

You confused lust with love. Break up and enjoy an active sex life instead of partnering up. You may eventually meet someone that will make you not care if they put on a little weight. That will be love.

24 is way too young to be feeling settled down in a LTR!

There will be (hopefully) many more decades to settle down in a LTR. You should both be out and enjoying other options.

R80 right now he is enjoying other options...all the value meal options at local fast food joints.

Do you mean fat as in 300 pound fat or fat as in 15 pounds overweight?

Like 40 lbs overweight

OP, can you give us his height and weight before and now as that would really help us in advising you?

This happened to me twice; both times the guys put on about 50-60 pounds. One of them I was deeply in love with and it didn't matter really - we used to joke about it. The other I was fond of but not so attached to and it irritated me more, plus he would not even talk about it, let alone joke, so we finished.

The more fat, the more farts.... enjoy the extras